Lovingly Confused, Libra/Scorp Cusp Sun, Merc, Mars, Cancer Moon, Sag Venus
It's "hey I think I'm hanging with Wilson today." Meaning Wilson from the movie Cast Away hehe. He was saying how he gets extremely irritable when he doesn't have enough alone time but he can also be very needy (Libra moon). But we both agreed that were bad about voicing what we need space so we came up with a code phrase.
Yeah, Aquas don't really like to say "no", so instead of that they prefer to go blank, which terribly annoys people. It's a shame actually that they do this, but when you know them well, you can see the signs. When my Aqua is not excited about some initiative of mine, he says "I don't know". This is our code Me telling him it's fine if we don't do that is the code to make him not feel bad for turning me down. Also, sometimes it takes him a while to say "yes", so I never pressure him on something. I only present him with a variety of possible choices and he picks the ones he is in the mood to actually do. Also, when he needs his time, I only ask about when to expect him to show up again and he gives me a timeframe, even though before he was not doing it and it was quite messy for me (in terms of organizing my own time). This helps me do my stuff as well and prevents me to reach for him before that, because I am also annoyed if someone disturbs me when I am "idle". He understood in time that it is important for both of us not to keep the other one "head in the fog", as we say in our country, so we both work around each other and respect the partner's needs.
There are introvert people that NEED that time! And we don't talk about love either! I need the same time alone time in my work environment. It helps me concentrate more, be more efficient and more assertive when it is really required. I cannot work in noisy environments and when someone is constantly buzzing in my ear with small talk that is not related to work Besides, nobody begs. If you need to beg, you are not compatible. Even though one of the two always gives more than he receives. I wouldn't bother to stay in such a relationship if my expectations are not met. But not taking into account how the other person feels is purely self-centered, so a huge red-flag for me.
No code needed. By now i get the feel and just give it to him. If I get short reply . Or a reply that doesn't seem like he's really focusing on the conversation is a sign I leave him be.... it's good to ask a quick question. How is it all going ? Light and simple... i also have a code. I call it a * disappearing sundays .* he always laugh... Monday night I will message n b like so did u enjoy ur dissapearing Sunday? ^ he says he always does ... prob appreciate me giving him space so he comes back stronger... if I feel like there's too much space I just touch base here and there... light and fun. Or express my feelings in a non demanding way if needed .. he will always try to accomodate my needs ... communication is key with Aqua... !! I feel they become very consistence once they know u for a period of time and will try hard to accomodate those that they care about... space is ok with me now as I need it desperately too.. we say we miss each other quiet a bit so that keeps things secure . Exciting and fun...