HELP!

Hey guys I'm new and I hope everyone is good.
I'm an aqua and hubby is scorpio. I heard this is not an ideal match, but anyhoo
Been married almost 4 years now to what seems the most incredible man who has a way with the ladies. I can say that now because just this past Saturday I found a woman's number in our laundry. I called her and I got the dissapointment of my life. She wouldn't say much but it was all the info I needed. Meanwhile, hubby wakes up and the phone is ringing off the hook, I don't answer cause Saturday morning is usually telemarketer hell in our house. He picks up and begans to speak to someone, then he gave me a look. The look didn't give me a clue. I began to suspect something cause hubby was speaking english. He never speaks english with his friends or family. I pick up the phone and this chick is on the other end. I'm livid, I hear him saying that my daughter isn't his (which is true)
People, I love my hubby, I also love myself. Deep in my heart, I beleive that he's never slept around while we were married. He admitted to talking and going out with this woman. He said he called her once from home, thats how she got our home number cause I called her from a cell. This has happened before where women have called the cell never the house. I have asked him to leave because I feel I don't have a choice. I can't be a doormat. He has begged and pleaded for forgiveness. He actually thinks I'm overreacting and blames me. He is now in the progress of finding a place to stay. I feel so bad cause his family lives overseas and he really doesn't have close friends to stay with. What say you guys? Am I wrong?

Welcome aglue!

"I can't be a doormat" what makes you feel that you are a "doormat" here? The way he is choosing to be? Just asking...you know, we each here can give you all kinds of advice but, it is you sweetie that must decide what to do. What is going to bring peace to your soul? Maybe you need to take some time if you haven't already and mull over choices and the consequences...go with your heart. "Am I wrong?" how can you be wrong when you make a decision that is right for you? It's your call and a difficult one at that....I know because I too have been down that road.

You really do know what to do....you do. Trust yourself. BTW, he will be fine..right now he may play on your "feeling bad" and trying to make you feel quility. Another thing....it really does not matter what he thinks...do YOU think you are overreacting? do you think you are to blame? or do you feel justified in your actions? Usually when someone blames another person it is because they are not taking responsibility for their own actions.

My best to you - keep us posted...
Freebird

Thanks Freebird,
I don't really think I'm wrong, I think I'm doing whats right. I just love him and wish he understood my position. I gotta do what I gotta. Its a tough call, but this is the only way I can feel like I did something about the situation and the only way to make him understand that this type of behavior will not be tolerated. And if while gone he decides not to come back well then it just wasn't meant to be.

Yeah, I understand about the wishing he understood your position sure would be easier huh? What is most important is that you know you are doing what is right for YOU - the rest will fall into place and all will be well.

You seem to have a good sense of what you are doing...and what you know. Sometimes it is just plain difficult to get through.

well wishes!

Hi sweetie: I feel bad for your situation, for your husband to put you in that position. Let me tell you that I am a Scorpio, with Scorp rising as well and nobody knows Scorps better than me........scorps are way to sneeky, cagy and smart to ever get caught cheating UNLESS THEY WANT TO. why do you think that he called her from your house? He wanted her to have the number so she would call call your house. why was the number in the Laundry? so you would find it. and why did he want to get caught? so that it would be you that kicked him out, not him leaving. that way he doesnt have to feel guilty. He is manipulating you. that's what scorps do best. and CONTROL. And now you think it's all your fault and feel guilty b/c that is how he MANIPUlATED the situation. LET THE BUM GO. you deserve better.

Yeah Destiny he called her about a month ago. I've checked all my phone bills. He has a habit of balling up his socks and tossing them in the laundry. He can tell people I kicked him out, I know it was for a legit reason. But the bum won't go!