Help me understand my Aquaruis friend!

Hey everyone I need help in understanding my friend she has just got married secretly and has only told me the worst part is she hardly knows this guy! Furthermore she is the one supporting him financially too! Surely she can't be that niev!—... She says they are in love and she is willing to do all she can to help him come to England (just like all the suspect stories of love abroad)the thing that's bugging me is not the marriage part it's the secrets and lies.... I suppose what I want to know is are these traits of Aquarius women? Do u like to take up a "project" when it comes to a man? Are u sometimes niev in love? Can insurcurities about having/getting love push a woman to these extreams? I thought I knew her until I saw her in love and a toxic love at that

Thanks for ur input it defo seems that way with her! I will be supportive regardless but it really frustrates me to watch her make these decisions especially as she's not confiding in anyone else.

I think any woman or man for that matter, can be prone to not thinking rationally when it love. How old is your friend? That can play a factor as well. I know I gave a lot in my younger years for the sake of who I was with ( as in the person not the relationship). However support someone? Hell no. Maybe for a few weeks ( if there was a major reason for it) but no way jose, that stuff does not fly with this girl. I was raised to support myself and to work for what I have in my life.

Any female can fall pray to a toxic relationship. same with a man. Sorry to hear about your friend and its good that you want to support her.

Posted by justagirl
I think any woman or man for that matter, can be prone to not thinking rationally when it love. How old is your friend? That can play a factor as well. I know I gave a lot in my younger years for the sake of who I was with ( as in the person not the relationship). However support someone? Hell no. Maybe for a few weeks ( if there was a major reason for it) but no way jose, that stuff does not fly with this girl. I was raised to support myself and to work for what I have in my life.

Any female can fall pray to a toxic relationship. same with a man. Sorry to hear about your friend and its good that you want to support her.

I agree 100% with you that anyone can fall prey to a toxic relationship me myself have had one in the past but it's her willingness to defend her actions considering she was always the one with her head on her shoulders she is very ambitious in her own life but since this man it's all on him and like u said the supporting someone at 28 (she's just turned 28) is out of the question!

You hit it on the nail though maybe this isn't about her being an Aquarius being in a toxic relationship but being in a toxic relationship full stop..... I suppose I need help understanding if there is anyway to communicate this to her without her being all defensive and "she's clued up" to me. Aquarius women in my opinion find it hard to take on advice when they think it's not needed

Hmm, I disagree on the part about advise. I always take in what my friends say and do listen, perhaps because I am older and realize others can see things we usually cannot ourselves. Sometimes however it may be something I do not agree with and not take it, so I can see your point of feeling she thinks it is not needed. Unsolicited advise can be unwelcome especially if the friend doesn't know all the facts. Those I have in my close circle are there because they earned that trust, so I value what they say

If she is head over heels and it's her way or no way. Then you can only let her know you are there for her, you can set out feelers to see if she is even apt to want advise. Don't make her choose between you and her love, you won't win typically until things are over with him. We hate being put in that spot of choosing, it's a lame ass attempt at manipulation, even if a friend thinks it's in my best interest.

I had a longtime friend try to do that with me. She just came over , spewed all this "her opinion" he's bad for you, the wrong guy etc. I agreed with her on points she made but her delivery was poor at best. If she has approached me on a softer level I most likely would have listened to her earlier. The way she came at me was very in your face and this Aqua will retreat (for the sake of friendship) or fight ( argue/rationalize every point). I didn't talk to her for a couple of months after this went down as it was disrespectful to me. not saying use kid gloves, but be careful.

Hopefully some of that helps. its good that you want to help your friend