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im going crazy here... why me?? why dont people just leave me alone— My X scorpio still writes to me and gets me all emotional... hes evil....then this Virguy wants me to give him a chance... then this crazy aries guy's not leaving me alone.. bugging me to death....

heck... im tired of them all.... i need a break and yet i cant be harsh and tell them all to just LEAVE ME ALONE 😢😢

Do you need help or attention?

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attention— meeee— i get enuff attention... i DONT want any...😢😢😢

GL

what should i do— honestly its not fun.... im tired and fed up.. im sick of them all....

and thats hard primegen coz how can i just ignore him— its harsh....

if he's 'evil'...

when i say hes evil i didnt literally mean hes evil.. what i meant to say was that he kindda makes u feel sorry for him and heck i do and he reminds me all the fun things we did together u know......

but ya ur right i gotta think of ME....thanx for ur advice GL.. it makes sense.. it sure is easy said then done .........



Hows ur baby—?

It's not harsh or hard. I ignore people all the time.

primegen its really easy for me to do it too..have done it quite alot in the past but when it comes to certain people its hard... but ya ur right... im going to ignore his emails and block him... so far its been hard but i can surely do it and heck i HAVE to do it.....

Just tell them what you are telling us.

u want me to tell them im fed up of them— NO WAY....i cant do that...its not that they are bad men....its just that i dont want to be committed coz heck its a pain....

u guys are awesome.... thanx for ur advice... i really appreciate it... guess i have to make up my mind and be honest with them.....

I think the "just go ahead and ignore, but don't say why" thing is a cowardly bitch move.

its not... sometimes its useless expalaining coz mn comeup with the coolest BS and its a waste of time... in this case its different coz i kinda of respect all these men and they are cool and so i cant be harsh, i mean i DONT want to be harsh coz they are sweet....

heck i hate my pices venus 😢...today when this aries insisted i go with him for lunch i said NO but when he persisted (coz he knows im free in the afternoon) i just couldnt say NO 😢😢😢.....

i sound sooo pathetic.....

Have you told them?

that i dont want to be committed— Heck yes.. they know ... but still they just dont get it... they just want to be friends but they are DEMANDING friends 😢

and i dont send mixed signals... i make it plain when i dont want to take it further....heck they dont get it....

Brandon

Easily said than done. You can't treat everyone same way. I know it sounds weird, but I have experienced that. Some people are too stupid to understand the answer "no" and you don't want to rude them for small "no". Yet at the end it ends up bugging you and you feel sorry for not saying "no", but at the moment of saying this "no" you can't, you don't have enough info to act percisely which from time to time can bother.

There is no way to use your system 100% . It's just unrealistic.

You can't alwas say what on your mind. Some people are too stupid to respect your boundaries.

Easily said than done. You can't treat everyone same way.

yes haffo.... a pisces can surely understand 🙂

Everyone loves percise answers and demands it. But nobody loves how this percise answer is acquired. I find it stupid, but this is how world is built.

"yes haffo.... a pisces can surely understand"

Yea it's too complex thing to be put in simple rule. It simply does not work.

ya ur soooo right haffo... it aint easy but i have to make a decision or else i'll drive myself insane....

The answer is within you Eliza. If you sure about him, then tell him to fuck off as Brandon said.

If you unsure about him, then you'll have to play delaying game until you find percise answer.

Sorry, I don't think there is an easy way for that.

The answer is within you Eliza.

ur right...

Sorry, I don't think there is an easy way for that.

ya there isnt one and thats why i wanted ur advice....but it sure has been helpful....i'll just take it easy and stay friends but i hate it when i cant be there for my friends 😢.... awwwww i better shhhhhhhhh......


thanx for all ur help buddies.....

Things are better seen for you than to me. I can't make a decision according to the information you have put in your posts. I'm sure you'll sort them out...in time.

I'm sure you'll sort them out...in time.

thanx for ur support cutie.....i sure will.. i always have 🙂

I don't belive Brandon does even half of what he said.

BS is part of our life. Deal with it.

People are stupid, deal with that.

And yes, you can't use this system with everyone Brandon. Maybe between other Virgos, but not even with Taurus or Capricorn. 90% of people would pass near you and you'll never know who they are and why they did leave. Sorry, that system does not work my way, and I don't think it every would.

Brandon

I see your system as carelessness. If you allow people to pass by like that, you are inefficient.

Let me explain you this way;

If you know what the matter could be, and simply BS at the person like that, they'll leave you and you'll never know what the actual problem was. Our world is not at that level, because most people are stupid.

Haffo we think alike....

"Guys see "being nice" sometimes as a sign that you're interested and they keep persisting, so that's not gonna give you results."

Maybe for this situation you're right. But at 90% of situation you don't know the truth. Even though you don't like doing something you do it once and stop doing it twise. This is the best method to not damage your relations with people. Being "No" from beginning is stupid way and inefficient.

"haffo, if you keep ppl around when you're not interested in them, that's being cold-hearted and it's a waste of time therefore it's "inefficience","

Interests are very changable things. Today you might be not interested, but tomorrow...And how could you be sure about a person right away? Maybe you don't know him/her well and simply pass them away. 50% of situaitons are like this. You don't find anything interesting in that person at the beginning, but after a while you find very interesting things about them and want to improve your relations with them.

Now, if you BS them at the beggining, then you lose your potential chance, and you are inefficient.

Nobody walks on the streets with a list of their interests. Most people don't know what are their interests.

Are you sure you can take all these variables...into simple rule?

Carelessness....

"why would I wanna do once smth I don't like doing? According to you it's better to preserve the relations with other ppl even though you're leading them on, when they could be better off being with smb else who wants to be with them too?"

Because you can't know a person in a very short time during which these kind of problems occur at the most.

You don't find anything interesting in that person at the beginning, but after a while you find very interesting things about them and want to improve your relations with them.


true.. so true....

When they are your friends, such things occur lesser. But not % 100 does not occur.

With people whom you don't know, almost 50% of situaionts goes that way.

well, one is my ex.....the other i've known him for a month now.. and the aries just met him this saturday....

i mean u guys arent geting me.....guess coz i suck at expressing my self...So just let go.....i'll handle it MY way.....

"guess coz i suck at expressing my self."

One interesting thing that I found in these situations is not being unable to express yourself, but rather not knowing whats going on. Aka, the truth.

but rather not knowing whats going on. Aka, the truth.

hahahaha... o haffo.. o haffo... u rock my man 🙂

"My X scorpio still writes to me and gets me all emotional... hes evil....then this Virguy wants me to give him a chance... then this crazy aries guy's not leaving me alone.. bugging me to death...."

From what you typed above, it sounds like the only decent one is the Virgo. Your ex is your ex for a reason. Sure, when you talk to him, the good times from your past are dug up. But there are apparently bad times from the past that caused the break up. If he's pulling the pity party crap on you, have him find another doormat to dump that on. Emails are far better to ignore than phone calls. If he's emailing you, do what Prime is suggesting and set up an email filter that sends his emails automatically to the delete box. If he calls you, as childish as this sounds, just screen your calls for a while and he'll eventually get the hint.

grrr, i hate it when i think there's only one page of comments and there turns out to be 4! lol

thanx for the advice HP74.... its much appreciated cutie 🙂

i deleted all my X's emails although i was tempted not to.. but i gotta move on... Virguy is sweet but we're world's apart and i guess i'll breakup with him this weekend ( although theres nothing to break coz we never were in a relationship but he tells everyone im his GF so gotta officially break it off 😛😛....

now the Aries... i think im keeping him 🙂.. why coz hes chill and fun and doesnt take things soooo hard... i need a man whose pretty chill like me at the moment... so aries will be a good choice ... hanging out with him is super fun....