If you encountered danger...

If you encountered a potentially dangerous situation, resolved it and lived another day to talk about it, what kind of reactions would you expect (or like) from people you shared your experience with?

Would you rather have kuddos for resolving it? Ego boost.
Would you want someone to express their horror in what could have happened? Worry.
Would you rather people express they are relieved you are okay? Relief.
Would you rather people ask more questions about the experience? Interest.
Other?

What reaction would you be most comfortable with?

This is a random question, nothing happened to base this question on. It triggered from a dream I had (watching too many action movies, I think). I'm just curious from an aqua perspective what types of reaction do you favor and what reactions would turn you off so you wouldn't want to share future expereiences with someone? My gut tells me you'd rather not hear the usual responses.

The dream involved someone with a dangerous job and had been in a dangerous situation, but got irritated by the run of the mill responses they got from friends and relatives and the character in the dream reminded me of the aquarius personality.

First off I don't know how willing I would even be to bring it up... just because it sounds like something to boast about.

BUT

If I did I'm not sure I would have ironed out responses I would be expecting (this again would involve me bringing the subject up to boast or get a desired reaction which is a form of manipulation). Anyhow all that aside for me I think the only thing that would de-sway me from sharing it in the future would be if people were to downplay it like it wasn't that dangerous or that it was no big deal, the same has happened to them.

But that's just a guess I'm not really sure because a lot factors could play into this.

I suppose I'd expect a laugh from it all 😛

Kinda like what nacho said, the only way I'd bring it up is if I share it or someone who was there with me shared it and yeah it's happened but I always laugh it off or deliver the story like a joke.

Okay, what if it's not to boast or to manipulate. What if it was more like sharing with just one person "honey, this happened..." rather than a group "hey yall guess what?!".

Would that make a difference, too?

DJ you are welcome to answer. I'd like a man's opinion.

My bf has a dangerous job, what if something happened out there and he told me about it. I'd want to react in a way that didn't turn him off because I'd always want to know what happened, even though it will make me worry more. The dream has me paranoid that something could happen.

Oh if that's the case I'd probably be like

HOLY SHIT YOU'LL NEVER BELIEVE WHAT JUST HAPPENED I ALMOST DIED 😱

so *shrugs* maybe a I'd expect a hug or have them in awe but still probably a laugh!

Posted by truecap
DJ you are welcome to answer. I'd like a man's opinion.

My bf has a dangerous job, what if something happened out there and he told me about it. I'd want to react in a way that didn't turn him off because I'd always want to know what happened, even though it will make me worry more. The dream has me paranoid that something could happen.

Oh gosh... that hits home for me. My cap girl worries a lot too. And I have contemplated not telling her things because I don't want to worry her and stress her out. I mean she can do that to herself easy enough with no help from me at all lol!

I think... your natural reaction to worry is gonna be best. LoL no way your gonna be able to keep that under raps for long. It hasn't stopped me yet from being forthright with her about anything... But it has caused me to hesitate saying anything initially. I have no idea if that will develop into me withholding things just to ease her mind in the future though... I think it won't because I like to be very straight up about everything but I can't predict the future. If there is anything I've learned in my short-lived life it's that I should never say I'll never do something lol... I've eaten those words more than once in my life ^.^
Maybe quite a few hahaha

I think it's probably best to let him know that you would rather know even if worried by it than not knowing at all. And when he does tell you anything IF he tells you anything show that your happy he told rather then withheld it from you to ease your mind.

That's the best advice I can think of. DJ buck's answer is good too. You don't want him thinking your worried because you think he's incompetent or what have you.

He already knows I worry and that it's in my makeup. I've told him I do because I care about him and that I hope it feels good to know someone cares and worries about him.

Hopefully, nothing will ever happen. He knows he has a dangerous job. That was something he let me know from the get go.

NYAA, don't stop telling her things because you don't want her to worry. It's a cap trait to worry. If she doesn't worry about that, she'll just worry about something else. Us caps worry about everything from getting to work without wrecking to doomsday to whether the grocery store will be out of the one thing we need. We're used to it and it makes us better planners. It will ease her mind to know that you're honest with her about things and you trust her enough to share. She's realistic and knows that most of her worries will never become reality. Just feel flattered she cares enough to worry about you - there are a LOT of people we could care less about and if you're one of those we worry about, then consider it a good thing.

Posted by feby16aqua
I know you are looking for a male perspective, but I can say that I am all about the glory 😛

Like as in being proud you knew what to do to keep yourself safe?

Thanks Truecap
I'll keep that in mind!
🙂

I would go with both the relief and interest answers, first the relief, then the questions: who? What? When? Where? Why? Can be answered. In fact I would love to answer them and share my dangerous situation with someone who has interest.

What does your bf do? Wrestle alligators?

Be modest! And realise you only human and theres nothing else anyone can do that havent been done before and that everyday is the same like (same shit different day or same day different shit) before but its up to people to change the way they perceive such things like make the most of every fucking day coz you never know when time will run out.

Get on with life and make the most out of it. Its up to you to be happy as happiness is a choice many do not realise they actually have.

Pretty much run of the mill bullshit that people keep messing/missing with

Yeh like I care, I do not care, there said it now, feel better? Oh no, shall you want something else to help I can say and make it right for you people?

What is it you want from me? You want it sweet or you want it sour?

WHAT?

Also me thinks you think waaay too much about what may be and not what actually is go concentrate on you own life and make the best for yourselves

Oh theres no such thing as danger only perceived danger Oh and theres threats many threats, definately

Buut as with most things in and around life you take them on the chin just like everything else, more like take it in you stride and get on with what it is you doing and concentrate on that be the best with that what it is you wish to do or be.

Thats pretty much all anyone can ever do in life.

And last but not least, just make the most of it