In love with aqua male friend

I’ve posted about this man before we have been friends for 4 years now. We met by him approaching me and wanting to take me out which never ever happened by the way.

We have stayed friends but because me and him are both introverted it has taken years for us to open up. As of late we have got closer but we are not quite there yet. Cut a long story short in between our friendship we have had different relationships but never ever hooked up or anything he would tell me how he feels about me and I would tell him too but that’s it nothing happens.

I ended up finding out he had a girlfriend which he apparently isn’t with her now. But that doesn’t really change anything because we are genuinely friends and we do talk about normal things and have never kissed or had sex.

But my problem is whenever I mention to him that we are just friends he says that we are more than that it’s not just a normal friendship and that it could be something more in the future but for now we aren’t friends he doesn’t know what it is but he wouldn’t class me as a normal female friend.

So me as a Pisces I start to wonder to myself how come he goes on all these dates with these females, takes them on holiday etc has relationships with them but he’s been friends with me for 4 years has had “feelings” for me but he just won’t pursue me?

Yesterday we spoke on the phone for 3 hours and it was so nice, today he called me whilst I was at work I told him I was goi g to call him back. Called him back he doesn’t bother to answer , I text him he ignored it. I wouldn’t say he’s hot and cold with me but he definitely is keeping me at arms length and I don’t know why. Like you don’t see me as a friend you see me as something more than that but you don’t want to pursue anything with me and if I try to talk about it with him he doesn’t Really open up he just shuts down . Can someone please help from an outsiders perspective on this?

Yesterday he stayed on the phone to me even whilst he was at the gym, like he will be cute with me one day then the next day it’s like he doesn’t even know me and sometimes we will go weeks without speaking. He doesn’t want me out of his life either. I genuinely love him as a friend and I always look out for him as a friend and I’m happy to be just that but he doesn’t want that either

If I were you I wouldn't continue to entertain the question of "Why wouldn't he pursue me?" I think it's simple: It's just not that kind of a friendship. You two may be close friends, more than normal friends, etc but, you're still friends. You know? Probably best friends at the most.

It sounds like he is attracted to you but something is holding him back, possibly his gf or some other love interest. He offered to take you out but never did? That type of flaky behavior is unacceptable for a 4 year friendship and/ or potential lover. What type of friendship do y’all have? Just phone/?text convo?

He keeps you at arms length bc your the Nice girl that makes yourself available when he wants to chat or kill time. Him telling you that you are more than friends, he’s trying to keep you as an option if his main chick(s) fall through.



I would take a page from his book and ignore his calls and not respond to his texts.

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He keeps you at arms length bc your the Nice girl that makes yourself available when he wants to chat or kill time. Him telling you that you are more than friends, he’s trying to keep you as an option if his main chick(s) fall through.

My thoughts exactly reading the op. 👆👆👆

This friendship sounds like a one way street where you are always on standby for him. But when you reach out he’s a ghost.

No more prioritizing someone who won’t make you a priority. Make that your 2020 resolution.

I've had friendships like this but they are their for me like the Hulk.

It's like they think you are the most special unique person they ever met and they don't ever want you to see their darkside. They (and I) wanted the fantasy forever. It may change but if or when it does, the passion is way too much. Then, there's the disappointments only real life can bring.

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It sounds like he is attracted to you but something is holding him back, possibly his gf or some other love interest. He offered to take you out but never did? That type of flaky behavior is unacceptable for a 4 year friendship and/ or potential lover. What type of friendship do y’all have? Just phone/?text convo?

He keeps you at arms length bc your the Nice girl that makes yourself available when he wants to chat or kill time. Him telling you that you are more than friends, he’s trying to keep you as an option if his main chick(s) fall through.



I would take a page from his book and ignore his calls and not respond to his texts.

Yes girl spot on I completely agree with this. I think he has definitely got another love interest and he keeps me around to pass time. Our relationship is a phone call relationship I hardly see him unless we bump in to each other

Posted by CreativeCap

It sounds like he is attracted to you but something is holding him back, possibly his gf or some other love interest. He offered to take you out but never did? That type of flaky behavior is unacceptable for a 4 year friendship and/ or potential lover. What type of friendship do y’all have? Just phone/?text convo?

He keeps you at arms length bc your the Nice girl that makes yourself available when he wants to chat or kill time. Him telling you that you are more than friends, he’s trying to keep you as an option if his main chick(s) fall through.



I would take a page from his book and ignore his calls and not respond to his texts.

Yes girl spot on I completely agree with this. I think he has definitely got another love interest and he keeps me around to pass time. Our relationship is a phone call relationship I hardly see him unless we bump in to each other

@CreativeCap I definitely agree with your post, I’m seeing it that way now. He went on holiday the other day I asked if it was a female and he admitted it was but said she was just a friend lol. Said he’s been celibate for 6 months. I definitely believe he’s still on and off with his ex but he tries to lie and say he doesn’t go back to ex’s. It’s completely fine but in the past when I’ve moved on he’s stopped talking to me because of it. Too many mind games and I always take men’s actions over words but with him it’s like his words and actions are so different and confusing I couldn’t read the signs.

Sometimes he rings me to come and see me but we won’t have sex he just wants to see me, then he admires me and looks at how beautiful I am in his eyes then he ghosts. So yeah my conclusion is i am a potential but he has a love interest and that is it. He loves her. I’m keeping him at arms length again like I did before I’m not going to fall for his games anymore and become unavailable I’m so glad we have never become intimate because that would cause so much more pain and confusion for me. Thank you creativecap.

It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

Are you guys actually friends tho...

just a thought.

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It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

It looks to me like you have never been at the same place.

You or him was in a relationship so you couldn’t be together.

Are you both single now?

He obviously feels for you but doesn’t want to get attached to you jet.

What do you tell him when he tell you how he feels about you?

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Are you guys actually friends tho...

just a thought.

I assumed we was but he is saying we aren’t

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It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

It looks to me like you have never been at the same place.

You or him was in a relationship so you couldn’t be together.

Are you both single now?

He obviously feels for you but doesn’t want to get attached to you jet.

What do you tell him when he tell you how he feels about you?

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We have been at the same place but we don’t meet up. We bump in to each-other because he lives local but we more talk on the phone. I met him one night when I was coming home from getting food. He asked me for my number and that was it from there. We never met up but I couldn’t understand why. I soon found out he was in a relationship, which is why he would never take me out. Soon our relationship became one that was just via text or phone calls. I would see him around but we wouldn’t hang out for long it would be brief. He has come to my house in the past but nothing has happened ever.

My friend told me the same thing that he has feelings but doesn’t want to become attached because whatever is distracting him it would probably conflict with that. For now he’s saying he hasn’t got time for relationships but I know he’s lying now and I know he is with his girlfriend still.

When he tells me how he feels about me I just bring up the fact he has a girlfriend so since then he’s denied having one. Says they have broken up but I think he says that to just make me shut up. I have told him briefly how I feel before without scaring him away but I don’t think he realises that out of all the men I’ve dated he’s the one I’ve always wanted to be with and I would drop everything for. I can’t tell him that it would probably scare him off or pressure him.

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It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

It looks to me like you have never been at the same place.

You or him was in a relationship so you couldn’t be together.

Are you both single now?

He obviously feels for you but doesn’t want to get attached to you jet.

What do you tell him when he tell you how he feels about you?

When he tells me how he feels about me I just bring up the fact he has a girlfriend so since then he’s denied having one. Says they have broken up but I think he says that to just make me shut up. I have told him briefly how I feel before without scaring him away but I don’t think he realises that out of all the men I’ve dated he’s the one I’ve always wanted to be with and I would drop everything for. I can’t tell him that it would probably scare him off or pressure him.

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Have you considered that maybe that’s what he is waiting to hear?

You don’t have anything to loose.

If he’s serious he will step up and be with you. If he’s not it will scare him off and then you can finally live your life.

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It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

It looks to me like you have never been at the same place.

You or him was in a relationship so you couldn’t be together.

Are you both single now?

He obviously feels for you but doesn’t want to get attached to you jet.

What do you tell him when he tell you how he feels about you?

When he tells me how he feels about me I just bring up the fact he has a girlfriend so since then he’s denied having one. Says they have broken up but I think he says that to just make me shut up. I have told him briefly how I feel before without scaring him away but I don’t think he realises that out of all the men I’ve dated he’s the one I’ve always wanted to be with and I would drop everything for. I can’t tell him that it would probably scare him off or pressure him.

Have you considered that maybe that’s what he is waiting to hear?

You don’t have anything to loose.

If he’s serious he will step up and be with you. If he’s not it will scare him off and then you can finally live your life.

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Most definitely, but I think because I used to always be afraid of putting my feelings down on the line and being rejected i would refrain from it.

For now I’m just going to carry on with my life, I’ve been dating and minding my own business and I’m going to keep to that. Whatever I say he lies to me anyway. He still says he is single but I know that’s a lie. I’m going back to leaving his girlfriend and him to it. I’m not stopping what I’m doing for him.

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It sounds like you are both confused whether this is a friendship or something more.. And nobody is making a decision. Friendships between men and women can get confusing, especially if one or both gets feelings. Maybe it's time to ask yourself if your definition of friendship differs from his. Because it seems like you are looking at him as a potential partner too and so you respond to him in that way.

Also I feel it's better if you decide for yourself where this friendship starts and ends for you. Because now it seems that you let it depend on how he acts. Maybe you will feel better if you get clear what it is you expect from this friendship. He seems vague when you talk about the future too. I think if he really wanted you, he would have made his move by now. Maybe it's good to be unavailable for a while and see how he responds.

Yeah you are right, I act based on however he acts with me. We’ve become a lot more closer recently im not sure why but even he pointed out how he loves how close we’ve become. But at this point it doesn’t matter what he says because I’m still here in the same position as 4 years ago.

Yeah I agree if he really wanted to be with me he would have made his move. He did say that as well he said if he wanted to have just sex with me he would have done that, or if he really likes a girl he would have pursued. So I know in my heart he is still with his lady. And I don’t want them to end it either

Thank you @classyaquarius 😊

Hi hunnie! Remember me?? Still the aqua... these boys. I finally am just about 100% over mine because I’m dating someone so much better. But the annoying thing is, I still have occasional contact with the aqua. They don’t go away completely. And then he tries to get me to cheat! But will never offer anything serious.... I just realize we want different things in life and that’s why we cannot be together. I limit the friendship tho. Cuz it’s hard to not care completely and I’d rather focus on the guy who is better for me. I don’t know if this helps you any!!

I'm sorry you are going through this it's brutal. My Aquarius male friend made it known very strongly that he was interested. There was no wavering, second-guessing or mystery. I'm sorry honey but it's so glaringly obvious that he doesn't have "those" types of feelings for you. I think being friends with someone you are in love with is very difficult, many of us choose not to put ourselves through that torment. I hope you are not letting eligible suitors go by because you are secretly holding out for your 'friend'. I am an Aquarius moon, Mars in Aquarius and I can be friends with someone for years and never cross the line. But when I want to cross the line I am not wishy-washy, I am consistent with them direct, forth coming and persistent. He's not interested in you romantically honey, the quicker you accept this the quicker you can move on in your life.

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Hi hunnie! Remember me?? Still the aqua... these boys. I finally am just about 100% over mine because I’m dating someone so much better. But the annoying thing is, I still have occasional contact with the aqua. They don’t go away completely. And then he tries to get me to cheat! But will never offer anything serious.... I just realize we want different things in life and that’s why we cannot be together. I limit the friendship tho. Cuz it’s hard to not care completely and I’d rather focus on the guy who is better for me. I don’t know if this helps you any!!

Hey girl, yeah of course I remember you how are you doing? 💕

Yeah I completely am over mine I’ve even dated but he’s always been there! Infact I’ve met a new guy he’s a cancer and he’s coming over to my house Monday night so I’ve definitely moved on but it just bugs me how he is consistently in and out of my life.

It has helped me though because it’s coming from you and I know we went through the same thing. Pray for me on my date with my cancer, I hope it works out between me and this new cancer guy he’s so handsome 😍

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Hi hunnie! Remember me?? Still the aqua... these boys. I finally am just about 100% over mine because I’m dating someone so much better. But the annoying thing is, I still have occasional contact with the aqua. They don’t go away completely. And then he tries to get me to cheat! But will never offer anything serious.... I just realize we want different things in life and that’s why we cannot be together. I limit the friendship tho. Cuz it’s hard to not care completely and I’d rather focus on the guy who is better for me. I don’t know if this helps you any!!

Hey girl, yeah of course I remember you how are you doing? 💕

Yeah I completely am over mine I’ve even dated but he’s always been there! Infact I’ve met a new guy he’s a cancer and he’s coming over to my house Monday night so I’ve definitely moved on but it just bugs me how he is consistently in and out of my life.

It has helped me though because it’s coming from you and I know we went through the same thing. Pray for me on my date with my cancer, I hope it works out between me and this new cancer guy he’s so handsome 😍

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Seeeee once you meet a really handsome and good guy, u will forget about the old! I’m dating a Pisces right now. Definitely think the cancer/Pisces dynamic is very magical, very in sync, and comfortable!! Hope it works out!!!

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@CreativeCap I definitely agree with your post, I’m seeing it that way now. He went on holiday the other day I asked if it was a female and he admitted it was but said she was just a friend lol. Said he’s been celibate for 6 months. I definitely believe he’s still on and off with his ex but he tries to lie and say he doesn’t go back to ex’s. It’s completely fine but in the past when I’ve moved on he’s stopped talking to me because of it. Too many mind games and I always take men’s actions over words but with him it’s like his words and actions are so different and confusing I couldn’t read the signs.

Sometimes he rings me to come and see me but we won’t have sex he just wants to see me, then he admires me and looks at how beautiful I am in his eyes then he ghosts. So yeah my conclusion is i am a potential but he has a love interest and that is it. He loves her. I’m keeping him at arms length again like I did before I’m not going to fall for his games anymore and become unavailable I’m so glad we have never become intimate because that would cause so much more pain and confusion for me. Thank you creativecap.

You are young and beautiful. Even at your age, 4 years is a long time to stay on the sideline, patiently waiting for a guy to make a move.



When I exchange numbers with a guy, if he does not ask me out after 2-3 phone or text conversations, I block him or just ignore his messages. You can make the first move but leave it at that. Let him make the following moves so you can gauge his interest. There are guys out there that will waste your time stringing you along. They like to keep women on the side for an ego boost, hook ups, phone/ text buddy etc.

I am dating an aqua right now. We are not exclusive, but I know by his actions that he is genuinely interested. when they really want you, they communicate more consistently and always follow up when they ask you out. This is true for any man.

Ok he’s not a friend. He’s an opportunist who steps out on his relationship. Idk why you would find that lovable.

Leave him to his relationship and cut off all contact. If you run into him and he presses the issue just bring up his gf again.

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Hi hunnie! Remember me?? Still the aqua... these boys. I finally am just about 100% over mine because I’m dating someone so much better. But the annoying thing is, I still have occasional contact with the aqua. They don’t go away completely. And then he tries to get me to cheat! But will never offer anything serious.... I just realize we want different things in life and that’s why we cannot be together. I limit the friendship tho. Cuz it’s hard to not care completely and I’d rather focus on the guy who is better for me. I don’t know if this helps you any!!

Hey girl, yeah of course I remember you how are you doing? 💕

Yeah I completely am over mine I’ve even dated but he’s always been there! Infact I’ve met a new guy he’s a cancer and he’s coming over to my house Monday night so I’ve definitely moved on but it just bugs me how he is consistently in and out of my life.

It has helped me though because it’s coming from you and I know we went through the same thing. Pray for me on my date with my cancer, I hope it works out between me and this new cancer guy he’s so handsome 😍

Seeeee once you meet a really handsome and good guy, u will forget about the old! I’m dating a Pisces right now. Definitely think the cancer/Pisces dynamic is very magical, very in sync, and comfortable!! Hope it works out!!!

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Girl private message me your number so I can text you!

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@CreativeCap I definitely agree with your post, I’m seeing it that way now. He went on holiday the other day I asked if it was a female and he admitted it was but said she was just a friend lol. Said he’s been celibate for 6 months. I definitely believe he’s still on and off with his ex but he tries to lie and say he doesn’t go back to ex’s. It’s completely fine but in the past when I’ve moved on he’s stopped talking to me because of it. Too many mind games and I always take men’s actions over words but with him it’s like his words and actions are so different and confusing I couldn’t read the signs.

Sometimes he rings me to come and see me but we won’t have sex he just wants to see me, then he admires me and looks at how beautiful I am in his eyes then he ghosts. So yeah my conclusion is i am a potential but he has a love interest and that is it. He loves her. I’m keeping him at arms length again like I did before I’m not going to fall for his games anymore and become unavailable I’m so glad we have never become intimate because that would cause so much more pain and confusion for me. Thank you creativecap.

You are young and beautiful. Even at your age, 4 years is a long time to stay on the sideline, patiently waiting for a guy to make a move.



When I exchange numbers with a guy, if he does not ask me out after 2-3 phone or text conversations, I block him or just ignore his messages. You can make the first move but leave it at that. Let him make the following moves so you can gauge his interest. There are guys out there that will waste your time stringing you along. They like to keep women on the side for an ego boost, hook ups, phone/ text buddy etc.

I am dating an aqua right now. We are not exclusive, but I know by his actions that he is genuinely interested. when they really want you, they communicate more consistently and always follow up when they ask you out. This is true for any man.

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Thanks boo! I know it seems like I’ve probably been waiting around or hung up on him for the whole of my time knowing him but it’s been total opposite sometimes we don’t speak for months on end and I forget him then he pops up again like a stranger lol. I’m genuinely happy in my life and I don’t expect anything but when he does things to draw me in and then let me go again it’s confusing. I will definitely take every advice from you and others on this post and I’m thankful. I feel much better now I know where I stand! Thank you

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Ok he’s not a friend. He’s an opportunist who steps out on his relationship. Idk why you would find that lovable.

Leave him to his relationship and cut off all contact. If you run into him and he presses the issue just bring up his gf again.

Yes you’re very right. He’s an opportunist definitely. Thank you though ☺️

Posted by venuslibra

I'm sorry you are going through this it's brutal. My Aquarius male friend made it known very strongly that he was interested. There was no wavering, second-guessing or mystery. I'm sorry honey but it's so glaringly obvious that he doesn't have "those" types of feelings for you. I think being friends with someone you are in love with is very difficult, many of us choose not to put ourselves through that torment. I hope you are not letting eligible suitors go by because you are secretly holding out for your 'friend'. I am an Aquarius moon, Mars in Aquarius and I can be friends with someone for years and never cross the line. But when I want to cross the line I am not wishy-washy, I am consistent with them direct, forth coming and persistent. He's not interested in you romantically honey, the quicker you accept this the quicker you can move on in your life.

I definitely agree with you, I always go by men’s actions although his has been on and off. I do believe the times he’s been vulnerable with me has been genuine though because I do not benefit him in any way for him to ever lie to me but I definitely believe he’s still with his girlfriend and he’s lying like he isn’t. Either way it isn’t my business I just was confused about the episode yesterday however now I’m over it. New year new start I’m not bringing old baggage with me this year it’s time to leave it all behind 😌

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It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

I've been there with an aquarius, im a pisces too.

You could keep him as a friend. You'll need tons of emotional maturity for this and us pisces have tons of it. You can do it mate, I'm in this process too and it's going well.

Keep your chin up!

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It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

I've been there with an aquarius, im a pisces too.

You could keep him as a friend. You'll need tons of emotional maturity for this and us pisces have tons of it. You can do it mate, I'm in this process too and it's going well.

Keep your chin up!

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Yeah I’m keeping him as a friend well trying to but he says we can’t be friends so 🤷🏽‍♀️

you can do better

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It’s so strange how he plays in to my world like I’m already a dreamer but he doesn’t exactly help with what he does. We can stop speaking for a while and then when he hits me up again it’s like he tells me how beautiful I am, how he feels about me, how I make him feel what he wants from us telling me all these things I’ve been dreaming of in my head. Making effort and time for me then he’s just gone again.

Told me for the first time the other day that who knows where me and him could be in the future when I told him my desire to be married (I wasn’t concluding that to be me and him but it was a general conversation because he knows I’ve been dating)

I tell him about my current relationships and everything. Before he used to stop speaking to me if I went on a small date but now it’s like he knows I’ve been single for so long I’m not going anywhere.

Yeah I’m definitely a side chick.

I've been there with an aquarius, im a pisces too.

You could keep him as a friend. You'll need tons of emotional maturity for this and us pisces have tons of it. You can do it mate, I'm in this process too and it's going well.

Keep your chin up!

Yeah I’m keeping him as a friend well trying to but he says we can’t be friends so 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Give him space, lots. He'll contact you. When that happens, be nice to him, aquarius nice not pisces nice, that's friendly but detached.

I must admit that I'm really surprised at most of the comments overlooking the fact that this guy lies and says one thing then does another.

So he's a shady friend but is proving that he'll be even worse bf.

I really would run from this one. I'm genuinely happy you haven't gotten intimate with him or anything.

You have nothing to lose here by cutting him loose(r).

I don't see what you have to truly gain from this friendship of yours as it seems as though you're the only open and honest one in your relationship.

That's a major red flag.

Run girl ruuuuuun

🥰 Lots of hugs from France

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Posted by LalasReturn

I must admit that I'm really surprised at most of the comments overlooking the fact that this guy lies and says one thing then does another.

So he's a shady friend but is proving that he'll be even worse bf.

I really would run from this one. I'm genuinely happy you haven't gotten intimate with him or anything.

You have nothing to lose here by cutting him loose(r).

I don't see what you have to truly gain from this friendship of yours as it seems as though you're the only open and honest one in your relationship.

That's a major red flag.

Run girl ruuuuuun

🥰 Lots of hugs from France

OP you should either run ...or hurt him.

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If she tries to hurt him she'll end up hurting herself.

She should just run.

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Posted by LalasReturn

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Posted by LalasReturn

I must admit that I'm really surprised at most of the comments overlooking the fact that this guy lies and says one thing then does another.

So he's a shady friend but is proving that he'll be even worse bf.

I really would run from this one. I'm genuinely happy you haven't gotten intimate with him or anything.

You have nothing to lose here by cutting him loose(r).

I don't see what you have to truly gain from this friendship of yours as it seems as though you're the only open and honest one in your relationship.

That's a major red flag.

Run girl ruuuuuun

🥰 Lots of hugs from France

OP you should either run ...or hurt him.

If she tries to hurt him she'll end up hurting herself.

She should just run.

Nope not if she knows how to hurt him....hurt what /who he loves. Embarrass him in front of people he respects.

I don't mean sleep with him etc don't give him any

Honestly he sounds like he needs to be humiliated.

Or get him to take her on holiday and pay and don't sleep with him 😛

sorry!

Im fucked up i can own that!

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Haha I meant that she'd be wasting her energy.

It hurts the guy more to just ghost.

Rather than show you care enough to build up a master plan to get revenge.