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Is Love enough?
Respect. Honestly, fuck love. I've seen people get killed in the name of love. Some do stupid stuff in the name of love. I'd rather have respect.
I have heard men say they love their wives even when they screw around...is that love?
For me, fidelity, honesty and kindness
For me, fidelity, honesty and kindness
Posted by Noni05Posted by MyStarsShineThere's different types of love. I don't think they are lying, it's even possible to love more than 1 person.
I have heard men say they love their wives even when they screw around...is that love?
For me, fidelity, honesty and kindnessclick to expand
....but that wouldn't work for me
I think when you love someone it includes all the things stated above
Love isn't pain and suffering..jealousy, lies, neglect etc those are the things that hurt and cause our suffering, but if your partner treats you like this it isn't really called love is it.
So statements like love hurts don't make sense to me.
Love isn't pain and suffering..jealousy, lies, neglect etc those are the things that hurt and cause our suffering, but if your partner treats you like this it isn't really called love is it.
So statements like love hurts don't make sense to me.
Posted by Mimi24Love is love and there is nothing else.
Few days ago, i was having intense conversations with my aqua bestie concerning relationships, love, friendship and confusing bonds & tensions between people.
She was actually explaining about her own relationship with her boyfriend that he brings for her stability and peace. Even though they dont agree on everything. He wasnt the type of guy she usually dates. He was different and yet she fell for him because he was consisten with her. She usually withdraw when someone is showing mixed signals..
However, she told me there was more than love to make this relationship work, there needs to be substance..love itself isnt enough to be in a relationship with someone.
What other aspects other than love do you think it requires in a relationship to truly make it work.
Posted by Mimi24Love is love and there is nothing else.
Few days ago, i was having intense conversations with my aqua bestie concerning relationships, love, friendship and confusing bonds & tensions between people.
She was actually explaining about her own relationship with her boyfriend that he brings for her stability and peace. Even though they dont agree on everything. He wasnt the type of guy she usually dates. He was different and yet she fell for him because he was consisten with her. She usually withdraw when someone is showing mixed signals..
However, she told me there was more than love to make this relationship work, there needs to be substance..love itself isnt enough to be in a relationship with someone.
What other aspects other than love do you think it requires in a relationship to truly make it work.
I have always heard this, and never thought I would admit it wasn't.
I was with a Sag who was an aspiring artist, I met her doing gigs....and I was always use to the working class type so this was a test to a lot of things. I can honestly say I loved her from day one, and her charm Witt and everything else I fell for was just her way of getting into my heart and mind just so she could find comfort and what I learned had a place to stay.
We had a decent friendship where we'd do everything together, which saved the relationship when it shouldn't have.
She wasn't the charmer I was use to. On top of that she had a mental illness and I sacrificed a lot.
Even to the last days of the relationship I could lol at her with such love. I'd feel a sense of happiness in my heart. But it wasn't enough.
The mental illness took a toll, lack of drive to work or even the lack of wanting to take meds. I truly had to love her to stay with everything going on , but I left, not for the things she couldn't control, but the respect and love I wasn't receiving back.
I was with a Sag who was an aspiring artist, I met her doing gigs....and I was always use to the working class type so this was a test to a lot of things. I can honestly say I loved her from day one, and her charm Witt and everything else I fell for was just her way of getting into my heart and mind just so she could find comfort and what I learned had a place to stay.
We had a decent friendship where we'd do everything together, which saved the relationship when it shouldn't have.
She wasn't the charmer I was use to. On top of that she had a mental illness and I sacrificed a lot.
Even to the last days of the relationship I could lol at her with such love. I'd feel a sense of happiness in my heart. But it wasn't enough.
The mental illness took a toll, lack of drive to work or even the lack of wanting to take meds. I truly had to love her to stay with everything going on , but I left, not for the things she couldn't control, but the respect and love I wasn't receiving back.
Posted by mzmeeRespect!
Respect. Honestly, fuck love. I've seen people get killed in the name of love. Some do stupid stuff in the name of love. I'd rather have respect.
Like there IS love where there is no respect?
Honestly?
It's pretty much where love is...
Love is all above...
Do you really have to ask what love is??!
Posted by Noni05This^, though I'd also add Honesty/Fidelity.
Love itself will never be enough ...
Respect
Loyalty
Attraction
Compromising
Effort
Friendship
Are just a couple things that are a must for me.
If you want a stable, healthy relationship you are going to want the traits listed above. Not everyone feels that way though. Some people are JUST looking for "love" or the FEELING of love. They just want to be close to someone and have that intense connection that all human's crave. For some people the rest is either too much work or too much of a pipe dream.
In reality love is not about drama, intensity, passion, and romance. In fact these are all separate and uniquely different concepts that are often identified with love. So no, if you want a long lasting emotionally stable relationship, you're going to want a foundation that's more than just about love. Love alone simply isn't enough.
Posted by SMC
I think when you love someone it includes all the things stated above
Love isn't pain and suffering..jealousy, lies, neglect etc those are the things that hurt and cause our suffering, but if your partner treats you like this it isn't really called love is it.
So statements like love hurts don't make sense to me.
Ok for those who never loved but want speak!
What if you love somebody who doesn't love you?
Posted by GemitatiI think you answered your own question. A situation where you love someone, but they don't love you back, simply isn't enough. You can't have a healthy relationship with that person. This is also the type of dynamic that is common in abusive and obsessive relationships. It can be argued that the lack of love on one side creates an obsession that morphs that same love into an addiction.Posted by SMC
I think when you love someone it includes all the things stated above
Love isn't pain and suffering..jealousy, lies, neglect etc those are the things that hurt and cause our suffering, but if your partner treats you like this it isn't really called love is it.
So statements like love hurts don't make sense to me.
Ok for those who never loved but want speak!
What if you love somebody who doesn't love you?
click to expand
Would you argue that a one-sided love is enough? If so, why?
Posted by SMCYou are right, but i guess you expressed yourself in a wrong way ^^
I think when you love someone it includes all the things stated above
Love isn't pain and suffering..jealousy, lies, neglect etc those are the things that hurt and cause our suffering, but if your partner treats you like this it isn't really called love is it.
So statements like love hurts don't make sense to me.
Love includes all the things above...but love is also pain and suffering.
For example...the fear of loosing the ones you Love..be it a parent..your child..your partner..your freind...that is most def pain and suffering. (or even gemitati example above)
Realising that love is also pain and suffering is what will make us do everything we can..so that the ones we love, will never get to feel it...and tbh..it's only when we "suffer" and feel "pain" that we realise what's really going on...humans...we are a strange animal xD
And if the Connection is right..this "things" (our actions) just comes off naturaly...with absolutly no effort or second guess...we just know how to allways behave on the best "interest" of both (be it saying a yes or a no)...i guess that's what they call Real Love.
"Love is at its best on darker times..just like a candle that shines the brighter where there is only darkness."
"Love is a trap, when it appears we only see it's lights, not it's shadows."
"Real love doesn't meet you at your best, it meets you in a mess."
So i guess we are all talking about the same..but expressing ourselfs in the wrong way...
As for gemitati..i got to handle to you..imo, you were right in all you said...
There is absolutly no Love without Respect...
As for the OP...i think you trying to ask for Passion, maybe ? 🙂
As for me..bed...now..lol
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by Noni05This^, though I'd also add Honesty/Fidelity.
Love itself will never be enough ...
Respect
Loyalty
Attraction
Compromising
Effort
Friendship
Totally agree... n good sex and understanding
Are just a couple things that are a must for me.
If you want a stable, healthy relationship you are going to want the traits listed above. Not everyone feels that way though. Some people are JUST looking for "love" or the FEELING of love. They just want to be close to someone and have that intense connection that all human's crave. For some people the rest is either too much work or too much of a pipe dream.
In reality love is not about drama, intensity, passion, and romance. In fact these are all separate and uniquely different concepts that are often identified with love. So no, if you want a long lasting emotionally stable relationship, you're going to want a foundation that's more than just about love. Love alone simply isn't enough.click to expand
Honesty
Respect
Fidelity
Mutual understanding
Compromise
Emotional Stability
Passion
Someone that feels like home
Love is unexplainable and all encompassing, all the above for me is part of love.
Respect
Fidelity
Mutual understanding
Compromise
Emotional Stability
Passion
Someone that feels like home
Love is unexplainable and all encompassing, all the above for me is part of love.
Posted by ChuckcemPosted by GemitatiI think you answered your own question. A situation where you love someone, but they don't love you back, simply isn't enough. You can't have a healthy relationship with that person. This is also the type of dynamic that is common in abusive and obsessive relationships. It can be argued that the lack of love on one side creates an obsession that morphs that same love into an addiction.Posted by SMC
I think when you love someone it includes all the things stated above
Love isn't pain and suffering..jealousy, lies, neglect etc those are the things that hurt and cause our suffering, but if your partner treats you like this it isn't really called love is it.
So statements like love hurts don't make sense to me.
Ok for those who never loved but want speak!
What if you love somebody who doesn't love you?
Would you argue that a one-sided love is enough? If so, why?click to expand
Real love is supposed to be unconditional. Like the way you love Your children... neither is gursntee whether or not your kids will love you the same way though as a role of a parent we are meant to love them regardless and continue to give everything to them just to see them happy and have a good life. I never knew real unconditional love untill I am a mother.. I start to understand the concept of real love because of it.. if one is loving another going in it to always wonder what they will get back, they r doomed for failure... love is supposed to be giving freely... this concept is for human if all kind..be it friendships, family or love relationships... though self love needs to come first, once we learn how to fill up our own tanks and truly make us happy by our selfs only then can we learn to give love unconditionally to others.... ofcoz of the relationship is abusivf or that person is unhealthy for you emotionally, and you choose to stay loving them.. that's not love.., that's lust and the ego wanting to win.... and that's not loving yourself first at all..... I think a lot of relationships that stay together even though it's unhealthy isn't because they still love each other, I truly think ego plays a big part in it.... and real love has no place for ego... it simplys doesn't... it should come purely from the heart and soul.... and once we learn to listen to it, ego shuts up and everything runs smoothly ... n that's where true love originates
the question should be "how much love is enough?"
when there is not enough love, other things would become deal breakers (e.g. money and social status)
when there is not enough love, other things would become deal breakers (e.g. money and social status)
Yea love isn't enough, unfortunately .. trust, communication & respect are more important.. then love can fit somewhere in there eventually .. I know ppl that love their significant other but don't trust them or can't communicate for shit .. I loved one of my exes so so much .. in the end, he just couldn't be trusted & our communication went down hill .. I still have love for him but we're not together cuz I won't go back to him , I'll never trust him .. to me, no trust, no relationship .. oh u can add good sex & a nice friendship as well
I always say, "you can't be all flash and no substance".
Relationships rely on practicality. When you're hungry, you're not going to eat love or when you need to use a washroom, you aren't going to shit on love.
Both parties need to pull their weight financially and emotionally to build a relationship. Both parties should be complementary to one another so the relationship is mutually beneficial.
They say half your relationship troubles are money related. So both parties should pull their financial resources together to build a life. You need stable jobs to build a home and everything that goes into a home. The rest is being emotionally present throughout.
Relationships rely on practicality. When you're hungry, you're not going to eat love or when you need to use a washroom, you aren't going to shit on love.
Both parties need to pull their weight financially and emotionally to build a relationship. Both parties should be complementary to one another so the relationship is mutually beneficial.
They say half your relationship troubles are money related. So both parties should pull their financial resources together to build a life. You need stable jobs to build a home and everything that goes into a home. The rest is being emotionally present throughout.
Posted by aquarius09Def
I always say, "you can't be all flash and no substance".
Relationships rely on practicality. When you're hungry, you're not going to eat love or when you need to use a washroom, you aren't going to shit on love.
Both parties need to pull their weight financially and emotionally to build a relationship. Both parties should be complementary to one another so the relationship is mutually beneficial.
They say half your relationship troubles are money related. So both parties should pull their financial resources together to build a life. You need stable jobs to build a home and everything that goes into a home. The rest is being emotionally present throughout.
Love
And all the other things that are integral to surving in our world: money, an income for more money, health, intelligence/good education, a good family...
And all the other things that are integral to surving in our world: money, an income for more money, health, intelligence/good education, a good family...
Posted by GemitatiPosted by mzmeeRespect!
Respect. Honestly, fuck love. I've seen people get killed in the name of love. Some do stupid stuff in the name of love. I'd rather have respect.
Like there IS love where there is no respect?
Honestly?
It's pretty much where love is...
Love is all above...
Do you really have to ask what love is??!click to expand
You can respect someone you don't love and you can love someone and the person you love can feel like you don't respect them.
Love is a strong affection.
Respect is admiration.
There's a difference
Posted by IamTheRamExpressing myself in the wrong way...I think I'm expressing myself in my way and how I feel about it.Posted by SMCYou are right, but i guess you expressed yourself in a wrong way ^^
I think when you love someone it includes all the things stated above
Love isn't pain and suffering..jealousy, lies, neglect etc those are the things that hurt and cause our suffering, but if your partner treats you like this it isn't really called love is it.
So statements like love hurts don't make sense to me.
Love includes all the things above...but love is also pain and suffering.
For example...the fear of loosing the ones you Love..be it a parent..your child..your partner..your freind...that is most def pain and suffering. (or even gemitati example above)
Realising that love is also pain and suffering is what will make us do everything we can..so that the ones we love, will never get to feel it...and tbh..it's only when we "suffer" and feel "pain" that we realise what's really going on...humans...we are a strange animal xD
And if the Connection is right..this "things" (our actions) just comes off naturaly...with absolutly no effort or second guess...we just know how to allways behave on the best "interest" of both (be it saying a yes or a no)...i guess that's what they call Real Love.
"Love is at its best on darker times..just like a candle that shines the brighter where there is only darkness."
"Love is a trap, when it appears we only see it's lights, not it's shadows."
"Real love doesn't meet you at your best, it meets you in a mess."
So i guess we are all talking about the same..but expressing ourselfs in the wrong way...
As for gemitati..i got to handle to you..imo, you were right in all you said...
There is absolutly no Love without Respect...
As for the OP...i think you trying to ask for Passion, maybe ? 🙂
As for me..bed...now..lolclick to expand
So for me it's not up for discussion, I just wanted to say what my feelings were^^
I understand relationships that involve love from two parties or one means there will be suffering, but what I meant to say is that if that is the case those feelings come from others emotions outside of loving.
There can be hardship in a relationship but they come from insecurities and emotions that aren't from a loving place. And I think everyone experiences love differently, so this was mine 🙂
Love in itself is not suffering (to me)
As for all the semi-dark quotes about love above, yeah not for me
Concistance is part of love... not just the feelings... it is easy to say people feel love but does not mean it is real.
True love is proven day after day... people doing things to support one another beyond their own selfish ends.
The problem is people are attracted to energy types... does not mean it is love it means it has the potential for love. Yet it is strong enough to feel like something someone may have never felt or not to often.
This is why people normally date or have a favorate energy type... sign and so on.
Piscesmoon
True love is proven day after day... people doing things to support one another beyond their own selfish ends.
The problem is people are attracted to energy types... does not mean it is love it means it has the potential for love. Yet it is strong enough to feel like something someone may have never felt or not to often.
This is why people normally date or have a favorate energy type... sign and so on.
Piscesmoon
Consistency is VERY important. Reliability. Rock. It is so much-to me anyway.
Posted by LibraLovesHimIt does not seem like many woman value that these day. Seems like they want bad boys still trying to get there life together... who say they are in love but if they where they would have together. That concistance is what is need as well for self love. Until then we are all subject to our primal urges.
Consistency is VERY important. Reliability. Rock. It is so much-to me anyway.
It is interesting how much woman complain about the way men talk... and are yet they choose to be with the men they are...
I am happy you found a man... that you make strong just by being who you are... normally Aries don't ask for much. Venus is also in Aries so love is around or should be coming into our lives or some of us. Advise don't play games... if you want to keep him.
Piscesmoon
Posted by piscesmoon2I understand. No games here. I can say I was a bit of a game player throughout my life and had to learn the hard way before meeting him, I know this was a lesson preparing me for now. I won't risk losing him. I'm alot more selfless now than i've ever been. He makes me want to be a better person and the same goes for him with me.Posted by LibraLovesHimIt does not seem like many woman value that these day. Seems like they want bad boys still trying to get there life together... who say they are in love but if they where they would have together. That concistance is what is need as well for self love. Until then we are all subject to our primal urges.
Consistency is VERY important. Reliability. Rock. It is so much-to me anyway.
It is interesting how much woman complain about the way men talk... and are yet they choose to be with the men they are...
I am happy you found a man... that you make strong just by being who you are... normally Aries don't ask for much. Venus is also in Aries so love is around or should be coming into our lives or some of us. Advise don't play games... if you want to keep him.
Piscesmoon
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Well in relationships I think love is the umbrella that all positive attributes fall under. Respect, stability, chemistry, communication etc are all facets of love but they constantly grow as your relationship is nurtured.
For me stability is a huge factor for me, I have 2% earth in my chart and I really need someone grounded to hold my hand so I don't fly off the face of the earth......I'm not sure what an earth sign would get out of me though lol
For me stability is a huge factor for me, I have 2% earth in my chart and I really need someone grounded to hold my hand so I don't fly off the face of the earth......I'm not sure what an earth sign would get out of me though lol
For me the list goes.
Love
Respect
Understanding
Communication
Compromise
Being a team.
If you don't have all of those, then complications will arise.
Love
Respect
Understanding
Communication
Compromise
Being a team.
If you don't have all of those, then complications will arise.
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She was actually explaining about her own relationship with her boyfriend that he brings for her stability and peace. Even though they dont agree on everything. He wasnt the type of guy she usually dates. He was different and yet she fell for him because he was consisten with her. She usually withdraw when someone is showing mixed signals..
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