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My aqua guy always has me wondering whether we are coming or going. Our friendship started a year ago, relationship bloomed 9 months ago. One week he's very attentive and affectionate, gives me an abundance of security in regards to our relationship, he shows very much that he cares. He states things such as we are meant for each other, we have a long future together, will spend our lives together, etc...... the next week he's distant, ignores my texts, I can see he's online steady, but he has no problem disregarding that I've even spoken to him. If I make a comment about us or our future he's silent. A few weeks ago we had our first big blow up and I thought for sure that we were over but as always he came around. I guess this is just me trying to understand the aqua mind further, because he can be all over the place, and it happens so suddenly that it takes me by surprise each time. I'm OK with giving space, I know that's a part of life but hoping there's some standard things I can look for to understand if he's lost interest or just detaching. I know asking him about his distance isn't going to do anything positive, so not going to go that route. When we are good we're amazing... When he's distant, we aren't bad, but my mind juggles the changes and I'm hoping to get understanding so I don't torment myself so much with it. I'm a Libra, if that helps with advice.

Eventually he'll be consistent, once he's comfortable and secure about your relationship.

Try not to get into"analytical mode" right now or it will drive you crazy.

It's nothing you've done (intentionally or otherwise), it's totally him either being busy and wanting his independence (with you there) or he's evaluating things (which nothing can be done to help/change).

This is one of those things you'll need to learn to deal with on your own; like I said, eventually he'll be more consistent. Especially if you go with the flow. It's just the way their gears work, and doesn't ever completely go away. The distance just becomes a little less far and long lasting.

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Eventually he'll be consistent, once he's comfortable and secure about your relationship.

Try not to get into"analytical mode" right now or it will drive you crazy.

It's nothing you've done (intentionally or otherwise), it's totally him either being busy and wanting his independence (with you there) or he's evaluating things (which nothing can be done to help/change).

This is one of those things you'll need to learn to deal with on your own; like I said, eventually he'll be more consistent. Especially if you go with the flow. It's just the way their gears work, and doesn't ever completely go away. The distance just becomes a little less far and long lasting.

If anything, I guess this is a good time for me to acknowledge and accept the hot and cold. Sure makes me second guess myself I know I shouldn't but I think that's a natural thing when someone is somewhat of a Jekyll and Hyde in the relationship department

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Eventually he'll be consistent, once he's comfortable and secure about your relationship.

Try not to get into"analytical mode" right now or it will drive you crazy.

It's nothing you've done (intentionally or otherwise), it's totally him either being busy and wanting his independence (with you there) or he's evaluating things (which nothing can be done to help/change).

This is one of those things you'll need to learn to deal with on your own; like I said, eventually he'll be more consistent. Especially if you go with the flow. It's just the way their gears work, and doesn't ever completely go away. The distance just becomes a little less far and long lasting.

Do they know that they're doing it? Are they (aquas) aware that they shut down and dettach or is it completely oblivious to them? Do they get upset when their partner notices ?

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Eventually he'll be consistent, once he's comfortable and secure about your relationship.

Try not to get into"analytical mode" right now or it will drive you crazy.

It's nothing you've done (intentionally or otherwise), it's totally him either being busy and wanting his independence (with you there) or he's evaluating things (which nothing can be done to help/change).

This is one of those things you'll need to learn to deal with on your own; like I said, eventually he'll be more consistent. Especially if you go with the flow. It's just the way their gears work, and doesn't ever completely go away. The distance just becomes a little less far and long lasting.

Do they know that they're doing it? Are they (aquas) aware that they shut down and dettach or is it completely oblivious to them? Do they get upset when their partner notices ?

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Mine has no clue. He figures if he's told me once how he feels about me that I should take it to the bank and never ask again. Same with "being together"; as long as I'm in his mind/heart, I'm right there with him even if I'm physically somewhere else.

It's just a totally different way of relating. Living in your head instead of your body, I guess.

wow...weird but this is my virgo exactly..

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Eventually he'll be consistent, once he's comfortable and secure about your relationship.

Try not to get into"analytical mode" right now or it will drive you crazy.

It's nothing you've done (intentionally or otherwise), it's totally him either being busy and wanting his independence (with you there) or he's evaluating things (which nothing can be done to help/change).

This is one of those things you'll need to learn to deal with on your own; like I said, eventually he'll be more consistent. Especially if you go with the flow. It's just the way their gears work, and doesn't ever completely go away. The distance just becomes a little less far and long lasting.

Do they know that they're doing it? Are they (aquas) aware that they shut down and dettach or is it completely oblivious to them? Do they get upset when their partner notices ?

Mine has no clue. He figures if he's told me once how he feels about me that I should take it to the bank and never ask again. Same with "being together"; as long as I'm in his mind/heart, I'm right there with him even if I'm physically somewhere else.

It's just a totally different way of relating. Living in your head instead of your body, I guess.

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Starting to think mine is the same way. Actions speak loud to me, silence speaks even louder.

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wow...weird but this is my virgo exactly..

Mine's Virgo rising so that may influence him a bit. We're older so rising starts to manifest in our personalities more.

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Eventually he'll be consistent, once he's comfortable and secure about your relationship.

Try not to get into"analytical mode" right now or it will drive you crazy.

It's nothing you've done (intentionally or otherwise), it's totally him either being busy and wanting his independence (with you there) or he's evaluating things (which nothing can be done to help/change).

This is one of those things you'll need to learn to deal with on your own; like I said, eventually he'll be more consistent. Especially if you go with the flow. It's just the way their gears work, and doesn't ever completely go away. The distance just becomes a little less far and long lasting.

Do they know that they're doing it? Are they (aquas) aware that they shut down and dettach or is it completely oblivious to them? Do they get upset when their partner notices ?

Mine has no clue. He figures if he's told me once how he feels about me that I should take it to the bank and never ask again. Same with "being together"; as long as I'm in his mind/heart, I'm right there with him even if I'm physically somewhere else.

It's just a totally different way of relating. Living in your head instead of your body, I guess.

Starting to think mine is the same way. Actions speak loud to me, silence speaks even louder.

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lol love this

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wow...weird but this is my virgo exactly..

Mine's Virgo rising so that may influence him a bit. We're older so rising starts to manifest in our personalities more.

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ah yes, makes more sense! 😄

There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

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There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

Definitely feels like 2 realities that interchange spontaneously

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There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

Definitely feels like 2 realities that interchange spontaneously

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Being aware of that and being actually able TO DO that, will take you to where you desire. A difficult task. Consider it.

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There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

Definitely feels like 2 realities that interchange spontaneously

Being aware of that and being actually able TO DO that, will take you to where you desire. A difficult task. Consider it.

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My life as it stands is a busy one, so it works in my favor being with someone else who also has a strong sense of independence and doesn't require my time consistently. The part I seem to be struggling with is that when the distance is in place the emotions seem to dwindle as well. There's a vast difference between space and distance. Communication is essential to attaining knowledge as to where one stands. Silence is a form of communication that can be perceived in many different ways. So here i am, on this forum haha wish there was a way I could communicate to him that it's OK to drift off and do your thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean I should feel disregarded in the process

He gives you all the possible signs. They mean what they say. Not trusting their their words and actions can make them flee. Why the insecurity? Time space is vital, because feelings for Aquarians are overwhelming and he did not nailed it yet. Make him feel secure about yourself, be there for him, do not play with him if you truly believe in this connection. They are long runners. Do not let him down.

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He gives you all the possible signs. They mean what they say. Not trusting their their words and actions can make them flee. Why the insecurity? Time space is vital, because feelings for Aquarians are overwhelming and he did not nailed it yet. Make him feel secure about yourself, be there for him, do not play with him if you truly believe in this connection. They are long runners. Do not let him down.

You're right. Not sure why the insecurity, personal problem I guess lol knowing that someone is deliberately Ignoring that I've spoken is where it seems to stem from.

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There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

Definitely feels like 2 realities that interchange spontaneously

Being aware of that and being actually able TO DO that, will take you to where you desire. A difficult task. Consider it.

My life as it stands is a busy one, so it works in my favor being with someone else who also has a strong sense of independence and doesn't require my time consistently. The part I seem to be struggling with is that when the distance is in place the emotions seem to dwindle as well. There's a vast difference between space and distance. Communication is essential to attaining knowledge as to where one stands. Silence is a form of communication that can be perceived in many different ways. So here i am, on this forum haha wish there was a way I could communicate to him that it's OK to drift off and do your thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean I should feel disregarded in the process

Communication is essential, but do you only talk to him about him or do you communicate what you want and what you plan to do make the most of it?

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When we communicate it's about everything. Him, me, us, life, now, the future, our past, random stuff.... Everything

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There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

Definitely feels like 2 realities that interchange spontaneously

Being aware of that and being actually able TO DO that, will take you to where you desire. A difficult task. Consider it.

My life as it stands is a busy one, so it works in my favor being with someone else who also has a strong sense of independence and doesn't require my time consistently. The part I seem to be struggling with is that when the distance is in place the emotions seem to dwindle as well. There's a vast difference between space and distance. Communication is essential to attaining knowledge as to where one stands. Silence is a form of communication that can be perceived in many different ways. So here i am, on this forum haha wish there was a way I could communicate to him that it's OK to drift off and do your thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean I should feel disregarded in the process

Communication is essential, but do you only talk to him about him or do you communicate what you want and what you plan to do make the most of it?

When we communicate it's about everything. Him, me, us, life, now, the future, our past, random stuff.... Everything

Fair play. Definitely don't settle for distance when he could be pushing himself more but, at the same time, growing pains are very normal.

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What do you mean by growing pains lol

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There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

Definitely feels like 2 realities that interchange spontaneously

Being aware of that and being actually able TO DO that, will take you to where you desire. A difficult task. Consider it.

My life as it stands is a busy one, so it works in my favor being with someone else who also has a strong sense of independence and doesn't require my time consistently. The part I seem to be struggling with is that when the distance is in place the emotions seem to dwindle as well. There's a vast difference between space and distance. Communication is essential to attaining knowledge as to where one stands. Silence is a form of communication that can be perceived in many different ways. So here i am, on this forum haha wish there was a way I could communicate to him that it's OK to drift off and do your thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean I should feel disregarded in the process

Communication is essential, but do you only talk to him about him or do you communicate what you want and what you plan to do make the most of it?

When we communicate it's about everything. Him, me, us, life, now, the future, our past, random stuff.... Everything

Fair play. Definitely don't settle for distance when he could be pushing himself more but, at the same time, growing pains are very normal.

What do you mean by growing pains lol

Pretty much what sultrykitty said about finding a rhythm at first.

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This is where I wonder if I should just ask him why he shuts me off sometimes is the way to go. Only I can answer that though

Aquarians are very good communicators, but low keys. Facts speak for them.

If he still holds off, he has his reasons. Be patient.

Mine does the same thing and we've been together for almost 2yrs. It's still very frustrating for me as if it's the first time he's done it lol I'm Gemini sun and Libra moon

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Mine does the same thing and we've been together for almost 2yrs. It's still very frustrating for me as if it's the first time he's done it lol I'm Gemini sun and Libra moon

Do you call him on it, or just wait for it to pass lol

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Mine does the same thing and we've been together for almost 2yrs. It's still very frustrating for me as if it's the first time he's done it lol I'm Gemini sun and Libra moon

Do you call him on it, or just wait for it to pass lol

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There's been times when I have called him on it, but I'm not the greatest when it comes to voicing my feelings. So, I either shut down and ignore him even after he contacts me, or I snap on him for what I perceive as ignoring me. At one point , I even accused him of seeing another woman. Like, I said...it seriously frustrates me and has me questioning our relationship every time he does this. It's like exactly as you described. When we are good and the communication is good I don't question a thing. But, when he gets quiet my mind goes hyperactive smh lol

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Mine does the same thing and we've been together for almost 2yrs. It's still very frustrating for me as if it's the first time he's done it lol I'm Gemini sun and Libra moon

Do you call him on it, or just wait for it to pass lol

There's been times when I have called him on it, but I'm not the greatest when it comes to voicing my feelings. So, I either shut down and ignore him even after he contacts me, or I snap on him for what I perceive as ignoring me. At one point , I even accused him of seeing another woman. Like, I said...it seriously frustrates me and has me questioning our relationship every time he does this. It's like exactly as you described. When we are good and the communication is good I don't question a thing. But, when he gets quiet my mind goes hyperactive smh lol

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Hahaha we sound alike. My mind wanders into bad thoughts sometimes and I have to tell myself to settle down and drop it hahaha... I try to not act on impulse and blame him for the illaborate things I think up, because I don't think that's fair to him, and I know I'm not being logical, but I'm not perfect... Shit happens lol

i think if all the females dating Aqua write a book about their hot n cold, people will prob think we are writing about the same man.... hehe.... we talked for almost 2 hours last night n part of the conversation was about ^^^ exactly 🙂

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There is always a whole universe going on on their minds. Most of the times, I feel like spending time in two parallel universes. His and mine. My mind bounces back and forth, being connected to two minds, all the time. To his, listening to him, and to the real world, trying to connect him to it. I am the bridge. But it's worth it. Every single minute.

Definitely feels like 2 realities that interchange spontaneously

Being aware of that and being actually able TO DO that, will take you to where you desire. A difficult task. Consider it.

My life as it stands is a busy one, so it works in my favor being with someone else who also has a strong sense of independence and doesn't require my time consistently. The part I seem to be struggling with is that when the distance is in place the emotions seem to dwindle as well. There's a vast difference between space and distance. Communication is essential to attaining knowledge as to where one stands. Silence is a form of communication that can be perceived in many different ways. So here i am, on this forum haha wish there was a way I could communicate to him that it's OK to drift off and do your thing, but it doesn't necessarily mean I should feel disregarded in the process

Communication is essential, but do you only talk to him about him or do you communicate what you want and what you plan to do make the most of it?

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Communication is everything to a relationship I believe.. and I think, connecting deeply to him and be consistence and be there for him and show him love, will alllw a deeper connection which will soon answer why he dissapears.... understanding it from his point of view helped me, then I wonder why did I overlyse a million different things when none of those things were true at all... I am learning to shut my mind up when we are not physically together now otherwise it drives me mad also , and focus on other things... I think that's what they do, they are so busy focusing on what's infront of them, people, work, busy life, their life, that they sometime forget, there's someone missing them on the other side and we also exist... haha.. just my two cents...

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i think if all the females dating Aqua write a book about their hot n cold, people will prob think we are writing about the same man.... hehe.... we talked for almost 2 hours last night n part of the conversation was about ^^^ exactly 🙂

And what did he say?

and when he's with me he gives me all of him, which I'm sure Is the same as your man, they live in the moment .... so when they are not there, they focus on whatever is infront of them also... and giving that something their all too.... I cud b wrong though

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i think if all the females dating Aqua write a book about their hot n cold, people will prob think we are writing about the same man.... hehe.... we talked for almost 2 hours last night n part of the conversation was about ^^^ exactly 🙂

And what did he say?

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There were a lot of laughs haha, basically he says when I say I analyse things - to him it's over analyse, and when I say I over analyse, he says , oh my f god ohhhhhhhhh over analyse... lol... he says this is me and I can't really change that.. we also had a conversation about texting each other and people and not responding etc.. just in general , n he says * when people don't respond or reply, we need to accept that they are just busy etc, if we create negative thoughts and start to over analyse things it will give us anxiety and really bad feelings about our selfs, so just accept it * he said he used to care when that happened to him but not anymore... he says, most of the times he's simply just extremely busy.. n I said I didn't wanna seem needy and when I message him that's massive for me because I don't chase men!!! N he laughed out loud saying * babe if u think what u r doing is needy then u r doing amazingly great ** haha. Me texting him 3 times a day n not hearing a respond in my eyes are needy and the scenario goes crazy , n he says it's totally fine, he says, to a man, a woman will come across as needy if she is really really really needy.. so what I'm doing is no where near it.. so that made me feel a lot better.... I'm considering just not doing texting at all n just give each other a call is a much better way of communication!!!! Texting sucks when it comes to Aqua lol....

The other night I deleted WhatsApp for 1 day coz I was hurt n tired of being ignored !! Then I finally installed coz I wanted to tell him some good news, n he messaged me saying he is missing his sexy lady lots... so again , it was allllll in my head and my own fear projecting on to that relationship and damn I need to learn to start shutting them up.... this is my case though thought I will share coz It might help ? N good luck I'm sure he means what he says. Can't wait for the wedding hehehe just think of the future with him and feel secure in that !! Start picking on wedding dresses and all you know. . Lol jokes

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i think if all the females dating Aqua write a book about their hot n cold, people will prob think we are writing about the same man.... hehe.... we talked for almost 2 hours last night n part of the conversation was about ^^^ exactly 🙂

And what did he say?

There were a lot of laughs haha, basically he says when I say I analyse things - to him it's over analyse, and when I say I over analyse, he says , oh my f god ohhhhhhhhh over analyse... lol... he says this is me and I can't really change that.. we also had a conversation about texting each other and people and not responding etc.. just in general , n he says * when people don't respond or reply, we need to accept that they are just busy etc, if we create negative thoughts and start to over analyse things it will give us anxiety and really bad feelings about our selfs, so just accept it * he said he used to care when that happened to him but not anymore... he says, most of the times he's simply just extremely busy.. n I said I didn't wanna seem needy and when I message him that's massive for me because I don't chase men!!! N he laughed out loud saying * babe if u think what u r doing is needy then u r doing amazingly great ** haha. Me texting him 3 times a day n not hearing a respond in my eyes are needy and the scenario goes crazy , n he says it's totally fine, he says, to a man, a woman will come across as needy if she is really really really needy.. so what I'm doing is no where near it.. so that made me feel a lot better.... I'm considering just not doing texting at all n just give each other a call is a much better way of communication!!!! Texting sucks when it comes to Aqua lol....

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I can't imagine trying to text Mr Aqua (well, I can't because he refuses to get a cell phone, lol). But we don't even talk on the phone during the day, unless it's something important.

Yes, mine used to tell me I over-analyzed everything and to him, I did. It used to piss him off, now he laughs and makes fun of me when I do it. It definitely takes the edge off and I realize I'm being petty.

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i think if all the females dating Aqua write a book about their hot n cold, people will prob think we are writing about the same man.... hehe.... we talked for almost 2 hours last night n part of the conversation was about ^^^ exactly 🙂

And what did he say?

There were a lot of laughs haha, basically he says when I say I analyse things - to him it's over analyse, and when I say I over analyse, he says , oh my f god ohhhhhhhhh over analyse... lol... he says this is me and I can't really change that.. we also had a conversation about texting each other and people and not responding etc.. just in general , n he says * when people don't respond or reply, we need to accept that they are just busy etc, if we create negative thoughts and start to over analyse things it will give us anxiety and really bad feelings about our selfs, so just accept it * he said he used to care when that happened to him but not anymore... he says, most of the times he's simply just extremely busy.. n I said I didn't wanna seem needy and when I message him that's massive for me because I don't chase men!!! N he laughed out loud saying * babe if u think what u r doing is needy then u r doing amazingly great ** haha. Me texting him 3 times a day n not hearing a respond in my eyes are needy and the scenario goes crazy , n he says it's totally fine, he says, to a man, a woman will come across as needy if she is really really really needy.. so what I'm doing is no where near it.. so that made me feel a lot better.... I'm considering just not doing texting at all n just give each other a call is a much better way of communication!!!! Texting sucks when it comes to Aqua lol....

I can't imagine trying to text Mr Aqua (well, I can't because he refuses to get a cell phone, lol). But we don't even talk on the phone during the day, unless it's something important.

Yes, mine used to tell me I over-analyzed everything and to him, I did. It used to piss him off, now he laughs and makes fun of me when I do it. It definitely takes the edge off and I realize I'm being petty.

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Oh wow no cell phone?? Yeah you know these days I find texting to be misinterpreted !! Apart from sending photos and all , I think I will go with the calling. I used to hate talking on the phone untill I met him though, coz with him I can talk for hours on end... till 3 am lol.. time just flew.. he tells me it's a woman thing to over analyse lol..... yeah and that's exactly how I feel now, all those time wasted on analysing things, he gave me a lecture last night and I totally learnt something new in life haha.. !! Though u r the expert one with an Aqua for 10 years hehe ... I'm a baby compared to u!

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i think if all the females dating Aqua write a book about their hot n cold, people will prob think we are writing about the same man.... hehe.... we talked for almost 2 hours last night n part of the conversation was about ^^^ exactly 🙂

And what did he say?

There were a lot of laughs haha, basically he says when I say I analyse things - to him it's over analyse, and when I say I over analyse, he says , oh my f god ohhhhhhhhh over analyse... lol... he says this is me and I can't really change that.. we also had a conversation about texting each other and people and not responding etc.. just in general , n he says * when people don't respond or reply, we need to accept that they are just busy etc, if we create negative thoughts and start to over analyse things it will give us anxiety and really bad feelings about our selfs, so just accept it * he said he used to care when that happened to him but not anymore... he says, most of the times he's simply just extremely busy.. n I said I didn't wanna seem needy and when I message him that's massive for me because I don't chase men!!! N he laughed out loud saying * babe if u think what u r doing is needy then u r doing amazingly great ** haha. Me texting him 3 times a day n not hearing a respond in my eyes are needy and the scenario goes crazy , n he says it's totally fine, he says, to a man, a woman will come across as needy if she is really really really needy.. so what I'm doing is no where near it.. so that made me feel a lot better.... I'm considering just not doing texting at all n just give each other a call is a much better way of communication!!!! Texting sucks when it comes to Aqua lol....

I can't imagine trying to text Mr Aqua (well, I can't because he refuses to get a cell phone, lol). But we don't even talk on the phone during the day, unless it's something important.

Yes, mine used to tell me I over-analyzed everything and to him, I did. It used to piss him off, now he laughs and makes fun of me when I do it. It definitely takes the edge off and I realize I'm being petty.

Oh wow no cell phone?? Yeah you know these days I find texting to be misinterpreted !! Apart from sending photos and all , I think I will go with the calling. I used to hate talking on the phone untill I met him though, coz with him I can talk for hours on end... till 3 am lol.. time just flew.. he tells me it's a woman thing to over analyse lol..... yeah and that's exactly how I feel now, all those time wasted on analysing things, he gave me a lecture last night and I totally learnt something new in life haha.. !! Though u r the expert one with an Aqua for 10 years hehe ... I'm a baby compared to u!

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i think if all the females dating Aqua write a book about their hot n cold, people will prob think we are writing about the same man.... hehe.... we talked for almost 2 hours last night n part of the conversation was about ^^^ exactly 🙂

And what did he say?

There were a lot of laughs haha, basically he says when I say I analyse things - to him it's over analyse, and when I say I over analyse, he says , oh my f god ohhhhhhhhh over analyse... lol... he says this is me and I can't really change that.. we also had a conversation about texting each other and people and not responding etc.. just in general , n he says * when people don't respond or reply, we need to accept that they are just busy etc, if we create negative thoughts and start to over analyse things it will give us anxiety and really bad feelings about our selfs, so just accept it * he said he used to care when that happened to him but not anymore... he says, most of the times he's simply just extremely busy.. n I said I didn't wanna seem needy and when I message him that's massive for me because I don't chase men!!! N he laughed out loud saying * babe if u think what u r doing is needy then u r doing amazingly great ** haha. Me texting him 3 times a day n not hearing a respond in my eyes are needy and the scenario goes crazy , n he says it's totally fine, he says, to a man, a woman will come across as needy if she is really really really needy.. so what I'm doing is no where near it.. so that made me feel a lot better.... I'm considering just not doing texting at all n just give each other a call is a much better way of communication!!!! Texting sucks when it comes to Aqua lol....

I can't imagine trying to text Mr Aqua (well, I can't because he refuses to get a cell phone, lol). But we don't even talk on the phone during the day, unless it's something important.

Yes, mine used to tell me I over-analyzed everything and to him, I did. It used to piss him off, now he laughs and makes fun of me when I do it. It definitely takes the edge off and I realize I'm being petty.

Oh wow no cell phone?? Yeah you know these days I find texting to be misinterpreted !! Apart from sending photos and all , I think I will go with the calling. I used to hate talking on the phone untill I met him though, coz with him I can talk for hours on end... till 3 am lol.. time just flew.. he tells me it's a woman thing to over analyse lol..... yeah and that's exactly how I feel now, all those time wasted on analysing things, he gave me a lecture last night and I totally learnt something new in life haha.. !! Though u r the expert one with an Aqua for 10 years hehe ... I'm a baby compared to u!

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Does he know he is in a relationship with you? When you say the relationship bloomed has he literally said we are in a monogamous union and it's me and you. It sounds like he has other chicks. Aquarius moon here and I am fixated on the Taurus I want; I don't come and go, and get hot and cold. Not with this one, but it did take some time like everyone is saying. But sometimes women are in a very different relationship than men. So what did he say about exclusivity and being monogamous; because his actions are saying something else very loudly.

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Does he know he is in a relationship with you? When you say the relationship bloomed has he literally said we are in a monogamous union and it's me and you. It sounds like he has other chicks. Aquarius moon here and I am fixated on the Taurus I want; I don't come and go, and get hot and cold. Not with this one, but it did take some time like everyone is saying. But sometimes women are in a very different relationship than men. So what did he say about exclusivity and being monogamous; because his actions are saying something else very loudly.

He's stated loud and clear that it's just him and I. Stated there's no other women.

Posted by Goodtimes
Does he know he is in a relationship with you? When you say the relationship bloomed has he literally said we are in a monogamous union and it's me and you. It sounds like he has other chicks. Aquarius moon here and I am fixated on the Taurus I want; I don't come and go, and get hot and cold. Not with this one, but it did take some time like everyone is saying. But sometimes women are in a very different relationship than men. So what did he say about exclusivity and being monogamous; because his actions are saying something else very loudly.

What's your sun sign?

My aqua guy always has me wondering whether we are coming or going...(When a man is into you, he makes sure that under no uncertain circumstances are you confused about his level of commitment. There is no coming and going.... )

Our friendship started a year ago, relationship bloomed 9 months ago (You still have a friendship; with benefits)

...the next week he's distant, ignores my texts, I can see he's online steady, but he has no problem disregarding that I've even spoken to him. (This is the week when he is with his other woman; when it's your turn he's into you, when it's her turn he's into her.)

He states things such as we are meant for each other, we have a long future together, will spend our lives together, etc.. (We know women want to hear these things, it keeps you hanging on and tolerating abusive behavior like being ignored)

I'm OK with giving space, I know that's a part of life but hoping there's some standard things I can look for to understand if he's lost interest or just detaching. (Okay, this is the scoop... you are not the 'one" for this man. If you were, by now.. a year later you will be wearing a ring.)

Men don't let the woman we are madly in love with be on the market too long; we will buy a ring, move you into our home, after a year.... NOT TALK ABOUT IT. Look at our behavior not our words!

And you know, deep inside you already know he isn't that into you. You wouldn't be on this board asking something only your heart knows. You already know the answer in your heart...listen to it.

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My aqua guy always has me wondering whether we are coming or going...(When a man is into you, he makes sure that under no uncertain circumstances are you confused about his level of commitment. There is no coming and going.... )

Our friendship started a year ago, relationship bloomed 9 months ago (You still have a friendship; with benefits)

...the next week he's distant, ignores my texts, I can see he's online steady, but he has no problem disregarding that I've even spoken to him. (This is the week when he is with his other woman; when it's your turn he's into you, when it's her turn he's into her.)

He states things such as we are meant for each other, we have a long future together, will spend our lives together, etc.. (We know women want to hear these things, it keeps you hanging on and tolerating abusive behavior like being ignored)

I'm OK with giving space, I know that's a part of life but hoping there's some standard things I can look for to understand if he's lost interest or just detaching. (Okay, this is the scoop... you are not the 'one" for this man. If you were, by now.. a year later you will be wearing a ring.)

Men don't let the woman we are madly in love with be on the market too long; we will buy a ring, move you into our home, after a year.... NOT TALK ABOUT IT. Look at our behavior not our words!

And you know, deep inside you already know he isn't that into you. You wouldn't be on this board asking something only your heart knows. You already know the answer in your heart...listen to it.

What is your sun sign—

^ kind of has a point, my Aqua never dissapeared on me like that. He would respond to my texts or calls instantly when he can.. though, this guy is an Aqua and majority of the stories r the same... they do dissapear and appear.. n I think you r being a bit harsh on her.. that's why I keep asking u if u r an Aqua or just share Aqua moon ?

Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by Goodtimes
Does he know he is in a relationship with you? When you say the relationship bloomed has he literally said we are in a monogamous union and it's me and you. It sounds like he has other chicks. Aquarius moon here and I am fixated on the Taurus I want; I don't come and go, and get hot and cold. Not with this one, but it did take some time like everyone is saying. But sometimes women are in a very different relationship than men. So what did he say about exclusivity and being monogamous; because his actions are saying something else very loudly.

What's your sun sign?

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Libra sun, Aquarius moon and three other planets in Aquarius. You women see things very differently than men. I was the biggest player in L.A, until I met the woman of my dreams. In less than nine months I gave her a ring, got two additional jobs, and moved her into my home. Men move worlds for the woman they truly see forever with. I would never let my lady feel as if I am ignoring her, NEVER! Side pieces yes, cuz I don't care about their feelings... but not my lady.

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Does he know he is in a relationship with you? When you say the relationship bloomed has he literally said we are in a monogamous union and it's me and you. It sounds like he has other chicks. Aquarius moon here and I am fixated on the Taurus I want; I don't come and go, and get hot and cold. Not with this one, but it did take some time like everyone is saying. But sometimes women are in a very different relationship than men. So what did he say about exclusivity and being monogamous; because his actions are saying something else very loudly.

What's your sun sign?

Libra sun, Aquarius moon and three other planets in Aquarius. You women see things very differently than men. I was the biggest player in L.A, until I met the woman of my dreams. In less than nine months I gave her a ring, got two additional jobs, and moved her into my home. Men move worlds for the woman they truly see forever with. I would never let my lady feel as if I am ignoring her, NEVER! Side pieces yes, cuz I don't care about their feelings... but not my lady.

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Yeah I get you ! But you r still not an Aqua sun so you can't give those harsh words. I do see your point n have read books and understand those stories of men. But Aqua men do move slowly. Have u read other people's stories on here? Some take 2 to 10 years!! With Aqua friends and relationship go hand in hand, they need both qualities in a partner... though I do agree about men do not want his lady feeling ignored !! I will totally cut my loses of my man doesn't reply my text for a few days. Stuff that. Though, maybe he hasn't got another woman! You can't assume he is doing what u did when u were a player .. lol.. 2 different people here.

Posted by saweetz1988
^ kind of has a point, my Aqua never dissapeared on me like that. He would respond to my texts or calls instantly when he can.. though, this guy is an Aqua and majority of the stories r the same... they do dissapear and appear.. n I think you r being a bit harsh on her.. that's why I keep asking u if u r an Aqua or just share Aqua moon ?

You are the OP under a different account...

You can pull together all the astrology signs with all their flaws, and yet a man in love is a man in love. A man in love has certain characteristics irrespective of his sign.

First no matter what sign the man is, when a man loves a woman deeply, she knows so deeply she doesn't have to question it. Even if he has weird traits associated with his sign.

Two, you are not a man,

Three; I am an astrologer and a psychic at California psychics and have given over 4000 readers, and I guarantee you, this man is not into you. You want to use astrology to justify or give credence to his blatant indifference of you. But you already know in your heart, that he is not into you. If not, then you are not too bright.

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Posted by saweetz1988
^ kind of has a point, my Aqua never dissapeared on me like that. He would respond to my texts or calls instantly when he can.. though, this guy is an Aqua and majority of the stories r the same... they do dissapear and appear.. n I think you r being a bit harsh on her.. that's why I keep asking u if u r an Aqua or just share Aqua moon ?

You are the OP under a different account...

You can pull together all the astrology signs with all their flaws, and yet a man in love is a man in love. A man in love has certain characteristics irrespective of his sign.

First no matter what sign the man is, when a man loves a woman deeply, she knows so deeply she doesn't have to question it. Even if he has weird traits associated with his sign.

Two, you are not a man,

Three; I am an astrologer and a psychic at California psychics and have given over 4000 readers, and I guarantee you, this man is not into you. You want to use astrology to justify or give credence to his blatant indifference of you. But you already know in your heart, that he is not into you. If not, then you are not too bright.

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My dear fellow Libra man, you cannot interpret someone else's behavior through your own perspective. The only thing I agree with you is that her Aquarian does not love her deeply yet, but they develop feelings in time, not have them burst out from the beginning, as it happens to us, Librans. So, there is no point in playing this particular card with her.

Us, Libras, do indeed as you say. Fall hard and want to marry our SOs yesterday, if possible. I would moderate my opinions in relationship problems, while having to deal with some myself, if I were you 🙂

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Posted by saweetz1988
^ kind of has a point, my Aqua never dissapeared on me like that. He would respond to my texts or calls instantly when he can.. though, this guy is an Aqua and majority of the stories r the same... they do dissapear and appear.. n I think you r being a bit harsh on her.. that's why I keep asking u if u r an Aqua or just share Aqua moon ?

You are the OP under a different account...

You can pull together all the astrology signs with all their flaws, and yet a man in love is a man in love. A man in love has certain characteristics irrespective of his sign.

First no matter what sign the man is, when a man loves a woman deeply, she knows so deeply she doesn't have to question it. Even if he has weird traits associated with his sign.

Two, you are not a man,

Three; I am an astrologer and a psychic at California psychics and have given over 4000 readers, and I guarantee you, this man is not into you. You want to use astrology to justify or give credence to his blatant indifference of you. But you already know in your heart, that he is not into you. If not, then you are not too bright.

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IMAo I am certainty not the op .

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Does he know he is in a relationship with you? When you say the relationship bloomed has he literally said we are in a monogamous union and it's me and you. It sounds like he has other chicks. Aquarius moon here and I am fixated on the Taurus I want; I don't come and go, and get hot and cold. Not with this one, but it did take some time like everyone is saying. But sometimes women are in a very different relationship than men. So what did he say about exclusivity and being monogamous; because his actions are saying something else very loudly.

What's your sun sign?

Libra sun, Aquarius moon and three other planets in Aquarius. You women see things very differently than men. I was the biggest player in L.A, until I met the woman of my dreams. In less than nine months I gave her a ring, got two additional jobs, and moved her into my home. Men move worlds for the woman they truly see forever with. I would never let my lady feel as if I am ignoring her, NEVER! Side pieces yes, cuz I don't care about their feelings... but not my lady.

Yeah I get you ! But you r still not an Aqua sun so you can't give those harsh words. I do see your point n have read books and understand those stories of men. But Aqua men do move slowly. Have u read other people's stories on here? Some take 2 to 10 years!! With Aqua friends and relationship go hand in hand, they need both qualities in a partner... though I do agree about men do not want his lady feeling ignored !! I will totally cut my loses of my man doesn't reply my text for a few days. Stuff that. Though, maybe he hasn't got another woman! You can't assume he is doing what u did when u were a player .. lol.. 2 different people here.

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You are not a man, and you sound very very naïve. Don't tell me how to behave or moderate my posts, next time don't post on a public forum. But I tell you what, if he really loved you, you would know so deeply that you wouldn't have to ask a bunch of strangers.

So this is my prediction; Within the next 90 days he will grow more and more distant. You will see him and talk to him less and less. If you are still offering sex he will be around more as a friend but he will come and have sex with you. I see him moving in the direction of a water sign and an earth sign. There are currently two other women in his life. He has judged this relationship; I doubt you will be hearing things like he wants to spend forever with you within the next 3 weeks. He will start acting like a complete dick, and distancing himself daily, feeling guilty because he feels sorry for you. He wants you to be in his life as his friend forever. But each day you will feel the demise of this fling until by July 30, it's completely a friendship for him and a relationship to you.

He does not see you as a girlfriend he sees you as a friend with whom he is very sexually attracted. He does not see you as his woman at all.

HE is very very clear that you are not the one. Within the next 30 days you will see this strongly

By the end of July this connection will be practically over unless you continue to supply... So I am done with this thread. My prediction will speak for itself. Whether you agree or not, whatever your response is... my prediction will speak for itself.. peace...

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wow...weird but this is my virgo exactly..

Mine's Virgo rising so that may influence him a bit. We're older so rising starts to manifest in our personalities more.

Ohh my, so does that mean that me and my libra man will be more alike as we get older because we're both Taurus moons?

We are already alike enough in the weirdest ways.

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Do you have the same rising? That's the one that for the first half of your life really just gives a first impression, but doesn't really represent who you are in reality.. It starts to show in your actual personality as you age. Or so I've read. 🙂

Wow he treats you bad girl...I've never seen this of side of the Aquarius it could be because I have alot of Gemini in my chart - I was the one continuously asking for space. I found him to be a little on the clingy side to be honest.

The Aquariuses I dated seem to move really fast too fast it appears that they knew what they wanted immediately!

My Aquarius gave me a ring within 13 months of meeting and got us a place within six months of us dating he paid all of the expenses I'm just shocked that an aquarius is treating you like this.

I don't think he's in love with you quite frankly it sounds like he hasn't met the love of his life yet because regardless of what he said to you his behavior is not backing it up.