Ladies In Limbo

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by MellowDee on Tuesday, June 13, 2006 and has 36 replies.

Why Finding Single Men Becomes Harder with Age

Many women find it more challenging to meet unattached men as they get older due to busy lifestyles and smaller dating pools. Staying positive and open to new opportunities can improve your chances. Focus on social activities and online dating to expand your options and meet eligible partners.

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

I am 30 and am finding it pretty hard to meet men who are half decent and are also unnattached. Not a big surpise really as most of the good guys will have already been claimed in their early twenties (think of the parking space analogy). If I'm in a negative frame of mind then I'll think that it's nearly impossible to find a partner for myself but then at other more easy going moments I think that I've just gotta chill and if I open my eyes in the right place, moment and direction then I might find him.

But my question is, do any other women , or men, find they have this similar dilemma where they at a juncture where no elligible members of the opposite sex are nearby or even in the distance any more?!

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Primegen: ok I'm having a few probs deciphering the parking space anaology there.

Are you suggesting I try the shady types? Or ones who are a bit left or right of centre? Do you mean like wackos? Sorry am a bit thick 😒

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Yeah I getcha actually! People move in and out of parking spots for all sorts of reasons. No way you can predict how any one spot's gonna be occupied, just gotta roll with it (ie the wheels in your car) and then when you see one free and the space fits, just roll right in!

Hey primegen you got your spot at lunch? My my but you are one fast mover!

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@eliza0012
21 Years5,000+ PostsAquarius

'...Eliza do you really think so?? Hey thanx!...'

ofcourse i seriously mean it...if the pic u have in ur profile is recent then u look 19-twentish in it πŸ™‚ and hey ur more then welcome pretty lady πŸ™‚

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

And what's with those cars that park in *two* spacesβ€” they need to go figure out which side of the line they wanna park at and then park their bumpers there!

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

pisces: I don't feel right with younger men. I was with a LEo guy of 26 and he behaved like an AH. I'd prefer somebody a bit older than myself. It's all psycho han-up stuff tho, if a really nice younger guy came along that looked like the parking spot for me, well then I might just drive right in there so to speak!

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@pisces
20 Years1,000+ PostsGemini

Yeah, MD thats true, someone older with a brain is always better, not much convo out of the younger ones 😒 - But very good to look at πŸ™‚

Mr parking spot (Hee hee) is 3 years younger than me (Hee hee) but he is Aqua wise so yeah.

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@pisces
20 Years1,000+ PostsGemini

You better watch it though. I have a few friends who go for older wome, just for the sex. They think older means kinkier because they are desperate and will do anything

They are right sometimes too!

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

primegen: yeah I know what you mean. Well a guy who would go with me for that reason would be in for a disappointment because I go cold if I sense that there is any hoodwinking going on. I like to get real with someone at that level even if it's not gonna go much further. If some jerk was just there to see how much or what I'd do I'd tll him to get his skinny little arse out of my sight PRONTO or I'd get my wooden spoon out and give him a red ass.

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Oh argh....where shall I start....ok ok....looks wise something that attracts me - that can be a lot of things all very diverse, I tend to like dark eyes, and tall, went thru a big phase of fancying Italian men A LOT (dunno if I'm out of that yet) easy going in personality, is not too gushy gushy sentimental, but is nurturing and has a big bear hug chest to cuddle up to at night, is intelligent and quietly self assured, not by any means a "mouth piece" who talks way too much and actally communicates little, ....oh and has an average to large penis πŸ™‚

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Yeah I know what you mean Primegen. Reading over my list it seems like I'm incredibly choosy. Well I am and I'm not. I mean obviously you've got to be choosy about someone you wanna share your life and intimacy with. But expectation wise I don't I'm too excessive. I do have to feel an attraction to a man for it to spark fromthe beginning tho. Sometimes attractions can ignite after I've known someone for a a while but usually it's first base.

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@MellowDee
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Yeah I agree with that too. My list would be like my dream fantasy man. But realistically I'd have a few basics that we'd have to agree on first of all. Like fidelity, what space we were gonna give eachother ie boundaries, same general interests like food, music, culture........... umm....hey a list's already forming again..........!

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@GEM*TWO
20 Years1,000+ Posts

it can be sort of tough....but that's what relationships are, compromise.....u slowly begin to lose pieces of yourself until u both become a single entity.....i'll stay away from that in the meantime, thank you very much πŸ™‚

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@pisces
20 Years1,000+ PostsGemini

I liked this comment my friend heard (can't remember it properly);

"Do you think love is enough to make a relationship?"
"Yes, but its what people expect love to come with that isn't."

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@GEM*TWO
20 Years1,000+ Posts

*U in a serious mood today?

Getting some profound comments out of u!

-hahahaha......every now and then i'll do that.....maybe i just can't find any stupid pictures to post 😒 .......it forces me to actually think πŸ™‚

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@supramike
20 YearsSagittarius

dont worry i find it hard to find anyone and im 25.. dun o what im gonna be like at 30 haha..

guess age wise.. for a serious relationship 5 years each way i guess... but maybe upto 10 for a bit of fun.. tho i never have a bit of fun haha πŸ™‚

i guess the only thing on my list would be that the woman came after me haha...