Seeing Aquarius ex 2 Years Later..?

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Hello everyone. So, I joined this forum group wondering if an Aquarius ex would come back after he broke up with me in November. I no longer care whether he will or will not, as I realized he did not value me as much as I deserve to be valued. But something else happened.

I have another Aquarius ex bf, we started dating in July of 2013 and we broke up in Feb of 2017. From what I know, he started dating a girl a week after I started dating whom I had wrote about before, and he broke up with her a few days before my guy broke up with me (not only is that a weird coincidence, but she has the same name as me!!). So this Aqua ex an I reconnected to apologize to each other for what we put each other through before. He was really bad in drugs, I was really bad in drinking. We are both sober now. We went for coffee this past Sunday, and it was fantastic. It was like we never had time apart. We caught up with everything we went through the past 2 years apart, and apologized. Coffee turned into lunch. We spent about 4 hours together.

Anyway, we had a good relationship until the substances turned it toxic. I was his first love. I can tell by "the look" that he is still in love with me. It was pretty intense, but then the look would suddenly break away and light conversation would be added to distract it like "so how is your cat?" I am just wondering where to go from here. We hugged each other when we saw each other. But at the end he asked for a hug, and we did and he said "good luck with your sobriety and your goals" and I have not heard from him since, which is OK I know it has not been long. He did say he hopes to be friends. I also said "we should do this again" he said "really? you think? ok" but I am wondering if anything else could come of it, or if he might avoid me? I texted him a few hours after and I just said "Thank you for today, it was really cool seeing you. I hope to see you again soon if you are up for it" and he did not reply.

Any advice? Any insight on what he may be thinking?

Also, he is the one who initiated we go out for lunch, and he asked about 4 times what else I had planned for the day.

I feel like his feelings scared him and he did not expect to feel what he felt upon seeing me after 2 years. But I am hoping to hear from him again
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Posted by ACsquarepluto

Be patient and good to him. Whoever initiates contact next, he'll keep in touch on his time if he's considering being with you again. It's probably good you told him you're interested in that. If things stay platonic for a while, you can ask him if he would consider a relationship with you possible and he'll tell you the truth.


Thank you! I am hoping he’ll initiate as I think it best to give space. I at least hope for something platonic, but I did keep the door open. If nothing soon, I’ll at the very least wish him a happy birthday. I just think he’s terrified as he didn’t even text back “it was nice to see you too.” No matter what happens, I know it’s not personal
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Posted by pisceswoman123

Well you did make it clear that you would like to see him again so is up to him now.

The “ good luck “ sounds quite final to me, and that he said really? Instead of something more positive together with the non response from your text, it doesn’t look like he is very interested.

Time will tell. Wish you luck!


Yes, my thoughts too 😩 I was kind of taken aback but if he is still the same guy I know, he is just deliberating everything. I just think everything went too well for it to just be like “ok cool see you again in 2 years” you know? Either way, I think it has more to do with him than me. Just focusing on himself and staying off the drugs. I’m just hoping he’ll contact me this Sunday to watch the football game or something. I’m thinking it’s not that he’s not interested, he’s just scared but maybe that’s just something to “help me sleep better at night”
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Posted by pisceswoman123

Well you did make it clear that you would like to see him again so is up to him now.

The “ good luck “ sounds quite final to me, and that he said really? Instead of something more positive together with the non response from your text, it doesn’t look like he is very interested.

Time will tell. Wish you luck!


Yes, my thoughts too 😩 I was kind of taken aback but if he is still the same guy I know, he is just deliberating everything. I just think everything went too well for it to just be like “ok cool see you again in 2 years” you know? Either way, I think it has more to do with him than me. Just focusing on himself and staying off the drugs. I’m just hoping he’ll contact me this Sunday to watch the football game or something. I’m thinking it’s not that he’s not interested, he’s just scared but maybe that’s just something to “help me sleep better at night”
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My advice would be just to wait and see. Don’t push the situation. He knows exactly where you stand. He may just need time to figure things out.
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Posted by libralady924

Posted by pisceswoman123

Well you did make it clear that you would like to see him again so is up to him now.

The “ good luck “ sounds quite final to me, and that he said really? Instead of something more positive together with the non response from your text, it doesn’t look like he is very interested.

Time will tell. Wish you luck!


Yes, my thoughts too 😩 I was kind of taken aback but if he is still the same guy I know, he is just deliberating everything. I just think everything went too well for it to just be like “ok cool see you again in 2 years” you know? Either way, I think it has more to do with him than me. Just focusing on himself and staying off the drugs. I’m just hoping he’ll contact me this Sunday to watch the football game or something. I’m thinking it’s not that he’s not interested, he’s just scared but maybe that’s just something to “help me sleep better at night”

My advice would be just to wait and see. Don’t push the situation. He knows exactly where you stand. He may just need time to figure things out.
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Yes I will def not be saying anything again. If nothing by this weekend I will deliberate just wishing him happy bday, which is on the 25th. Idk if I should? I feel like it’s friendly and not “pressure”? My friends say not to, but I feel like if we’re on “good terms” now it’d be petty not to, mostly because I know how much he loves birthdays
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Bit late to the party but I sound like your aqua guy lmao. There's always something about that first love, you know they tend to remind you of the good things since it's hard to get that same experience again.

The thing is in my own experience given the similarities I just didn't want to fall back into a relationship right away but I also have this odd view which is to never go back to something that's ended, not to say I won't reassure my own feelings with lunch.

What I found was that yeah I do still love her but it's purely just familiarity. As an aquarius when i form a strong bond with someone it isn't so easy to break it even if terrible things happened between us towards the end of our relationship.

Ever seen that movie Sunshine of the eternal mind? Not as poetic obviously but similar to that.

It's not all gloom though that was just one of the many things I thought about and I cycle through quite a few of them. Cautious would be the word and you know what they say treat us like a friend and you'll probably get to places.
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Posted by aquasnoz

Bit late to the party but I sound like your aqua guy lmao. There's always something about that first love, you know they tend to remind you of the good things since it's hard to get that same experience again.

The thing is in my own experience given the similarities I just didn't want to fall back into a relationship right away but I also have this odd view which is to never go back to something that's ended, not to say I won't reassure my own feelings with lunch.

What I found was that yeah I do still love her but it's purely just familiarity. As an aquarius when i form a strong bond with someone it isn't so easy to break it even if terrible things happened between us towards the end of our relationship.

Ever seen that movie Sunshine of the eternal mind? Not as poetic obviously but similar to that.

It's not all gloom though that was just one of the many things I thought about and I cycle through quite a few of them. Cautious would be the word and you know what they say treat us like a friend and you'll probably get to places.


I appreciate the reply! It won’t go anywhere. He stated he wants nothing to do with anything 🤷🏼‍♀️ Oh well
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I decided fuck it though 🤷🏼‍♀️ We buried the hatchet. And fuck the other ex, he’s too damaged. Other than that, I got a fucking job and not just any job! But manager in the department I’ve been working in for a few years! I have more important things to think of. I haven’t had a job since about a week before I was dumped in November. Things are finally looking up. I’m not having nightmares anymore and my sleep pattern is more normal