Aquas females and the feels

When I started with the aqua I’m dating she was all about keeping it casual. We’ve gotten closer over last 9 months.

Basically I’m her best friend and we have sex. That’s how I looked at it. She told me she loved me a few weeks ago. I didn’t know how to take it. As it being “in love” or just that she loves me because I’ve helped her ground herself after four years of just existing.

How are people supposed to figure out how you feel? When we ask you direct questions on feelings you get anxiety. But if we don’t you feel we don’t care.

Case in point. She was like I don’t hug/kiss her enough when we are in public. I’m like you told me you hate that. She was like yeah but you can still do it.

Grrrrrr

she likes you and from my experience and things i read on here i think they expect you to be their bestfriend first so thats a good sign.

Are you ready for the next step?

Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

The inconsistency and aloof behavior is ROUGH..

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Yeah, now I feel bad about all the women that I DATED that I did it to regarding feelings and me dodging future plans. It’s annoying. I was only consistent when it came to physical stuff and sex... all that feels stuff I dodged like the plague.

I swear with this aqua though I don’t know who I’m dealing with from day to day.

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She is selfish...Aqua is a very selfish sign in intimate relationships...they will often do the my way or the highway bit...and trust me when I say only cold hard reality + your genuine vulnerability in expressing your hurt.... is the only thing that will move her to take steps out of fuck up land.

I'd say most people just have a different understanding of relationships than most Aquas.

That being said Aqua women, while being in their younger years can be nothing short of a nightmare to deal with.

I find that Aquas know what a healthy relationship requires they just won't do anything that puts limits on them even if that means doing things that hurt you. Aquas are masters of the "sorry, you feel that way" cop out...yea they said sorry but notice they will not change or do things differently- if they don't feel like it. They will push the boundaries "rebel" as the internet rags like to call it...not own up to their shit......unless you are fully willing to walk away.

Aqua gets it...they do...when its their feelings and comfort on the line lol. If you let em all that intelligence will be used to play coy, play games, and to run roughshod over your feelings if you let em.

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Sorry you feel that way.

*runs and hides in the rushes* sorry it was asking to be said 😛

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she likes you and from my experience and things i read on here i think they expect you to be their bestfriend first so thats a good sign.

Are you ready for the next step?

a typical aqua yeah

lol i want to have sex first LOL

then we shall see.

(just kidding..i really need a connection first ..

then SEX)

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She is selfish...Aqua is a very selfish sign in intimate relationships...they will often do the my way or the highway bit...and trust me when I say only cold hard reality + your genuine vulnerability in expressing your hurt.... is the only thing that will move her to take steps out of fuck up land.

I'd say most people just have a different understanding of relationships than most Aquas.

That being said Aqua women, while being in their younger years can be nothing short of a nightmare to deal with.

I find that Aquas know what a healthy relationship requires they just won't do anything that puts limits on them even if that means doing things that hurt you. Aquas are masters of the "sorry, you feel that way" cop out...yea they said sorry but notice they will not change or do things differently- if they don't feel like it. They will push the boundaries "rebel" as the internet rags like to call it...not own up to their shit......unless you are fully willing to walk away.

Aqua gets it...they do...when its their feelings and comfort on the line lol. If you let em all that intelligence will be used to play coy, play games, and to run roughshod over your feelings if you let em.

sorry you feel that way.

*runs and hides in the rushes* sorry it was asking to be said 😛

It's all good, your taxes just went up though. 😛

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*shrug* I'm exempt so no difference to me.

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She is selfish...Aqua is a very selfish sign in intimate relationships...they will often do the my way or the highway bit...and trust me when I say only cold hard reality + your genuine vulnerability in expressing your hurt.... is the only thing that will move her to take steps out of fuck up land.

I'd say most people just have a different understanding of relationships than most Aquas.

That being said Aqua women, while being in their younger years can be nothing short of a nightmare to deal with.

I find that Aquas know what a healthy relationship requires they just won't do anything that puts limits on them even if that means doing things that hurt you. Aquas are masters of the "sorry, you feel that way" cop out...yea they said sorry but notice they will not change or do things differently- if they don't feel like it. They will push the boundaries "rebel" as the internet rags like to call it...not own up to their shit......unless you are fully willing to walk away.

Aqua gets it...they do...when its their feelings and comfort on the line lol. If you let em all that intelligence will be used to play coy, play games, and to run roughshod over your feelings if you let em.

sorry you feel that way.

*runs and hides in the rushes* sorry it was asking to be said 😛

It's all good, your taxes just went up though. 😛

*shrug* I'm exempt so no difference to me.

Riiiight, you are clergy I forget... I really need to work on changing that law but the chamber of swamp monsters can be so unruly.

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RAWR

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I will also say that the Aquas I know once they had someone come at them with the real...no histrionics, no nonsense just the truth laid out bare...and then as others have said...give them the space to decide whether to commit or walk...they usually decide to commit if you have been a real and positive effect in their life.

Aquas are meant to be wild...you just have to teach them that while you love them for that zany independent streak and totally want them to have it...their freedom cannot and will not come at your expense.

Well said homie.

read Linda Goodman's Aquarius woman lol

there are SOME things that ring true.

The safest way to enter into romance with an Aquarian female is to remember she's as paradoxical in love as she is in everything else. That way, you won't be expecting Priscilla Alden and get Pocahontas.

This girl has all the faithfulness of the fixed signs when die's in love, but she also has the detachment and lack of emotion of the air element. It's possible to have a happy relationship with the Uranus woman if you leave her free to pursue her myriad interests and circulate among her friends. Never try to tie her to the stove or the bedpost. Ask the man who's tried. She can suddenly decide to study ballet, meditate in the mountains or join the Peace Corps. Remember the story of the princess with the long, golden hair who lived high in a tower? That's the Aquarius fe­male. Cutting off her flowing tresses won't change her any more than it did in the fairy tale. She dreams different dreams than you or I. She hears a distant drummer-and follows a star most of us have never seen.

She belongs to everyone, and yet to no one. Her love can be tender and inspired, but there will always be a vaguely elusive quality about it, like a half-remembered song. You can hum the melody, but the lyrics keep slipping away. The Aquarian girl's demand for freedom is insistent, but her allegiance to anyone who can accept romance with­in such limits is boundless. Here's something you'll like:

She won't be terribly interested in your bank book (unless Cancer or Capricorn or Taurus is on her ascendant). Money is never the prime consideration of the typical Aquarian woman. She won't care if you're not the richest man in town, but she'll expect you to be respected in some way for your intellectual achievements. Dr. Christian Bamard and his heart transplants or Wemher von Braun and his rockets interest her far more than J. Paul Getty and his billions.

oh dear...I have Capricorn and Taurus.. Woops, i like $ $ $ haha 😆

and i'm a 4th houser. holy crap. too bad. LOL

but i have pisces/12th and truly the money isn't really important either. I'm really paradoxical

:/

She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

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She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

I might be wrong but isn't that the Aqua lady that most likely had some rape or sexual abuse experience?

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Yea. She said it doesn’t effect her with me because she loves me and wants to please me, especially now.

I think it does affect her because she’s gotten less active over the time and sex is too personal.

She told me last night she’s probably be more involved if we didn’t live together. Right now due to living together we are kind of stuck together and she’s probably too comfortable.

No we don’t sit on top of each other. We don’t really cross path much during week. I’m working two jobs. She’s working a job and going to school full time. She’s home and I’m not home during week. I’m off on weekends she’s working. Since August we don’t really spend as much time together. We make time to hit gym together when possible.

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No we don’t sit on top of each other. We don’t really cross path much during week. I’m working two jobs. She’s working a job and going to school full time. She’s home and I’m not home during week. I’m off on weekends she’s working. Since August we don’t really spend as much time together. We make time to hit gym together when possible.

Okay, but if you both are available you spend the time together and it is only disrupted by other activities?

The point is: does she space and time to relax on her own in order to figure out what the fuck she is doing?

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Hell no she doesn’t. She complains about being bored and tries to find friends to hang out with. She’s not comfortable being alone.

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Let’s be real tho, her inconsistency is part of the reason you’ve stuck around. If you could predict her every move you’d have gotten bored and moved on long before this.

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She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

69 is your friend. That way you both give, and both get.

Also adjust your expectations. Sex always is fire and a million x’s per week at the beginning. It goes down the longer your together and even more down if you live together.

Instead of only focusing on what you need from her (mouth parties) find out what she needs from you. Compromise. Give and take.

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She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

That has nothing to do with her being an Aqua and 100% about her not enjoying giving oral.

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She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

That has nothing to do with her being an Aqua and 100% about her not enjoying giving oral.

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yup! ;p

a woman has to ENJOY it.

a man knows if his woman enjoys it. he can see it when he pleasures her...or if she's faking it. lol

even porn stars, for example, some of them you can see they fake it lol i have NO clue i dont watch porn but that's what i was told LOL

Check. She says she normally doesn’t enjoy it, but she likes doing it to me.

Sounds like I need to find one that really enjoys it.

Is there a secret to finding someone that really likes to do it?

Booty sex is like something that I just accidentally find out. Mouth parties I just figured was a norm

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Let’s be real tho, her inconsistency is part of the reason you’ve stuck around. If you could predict her every move you’d have gotten bored and moved on long before this.

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I agree. But it’s also the reason I’m hesitant on being anything more... that and the rare occasion mouth hugs.

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Let’s be real tho, her inconsistency is part of the reason you’ve stuck around. If you could predict her every move you’d have gotten bored and moved on long before this.

I agree. But it’s also the reason I’m hesitant on being anything more... that and the rare occasion mouth hugs.

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Yeah but on the flip side you can’t expect someone to give you their all if your not fully committed yourself.

What ever happened with your studio city move? Prices scared you off

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Let’s be real tho, her inconsistency is part of the reason you’ve stuck around. If you could predict her every move you’d have gotten bored and moved on long before this.

I agree. But it’s also the reason I’m hesitant on being anything more... that and the rare occasion mouth hugs.

Yeah but on the flip side you can’t expect someone to give you their all if your not fully committed yourself.

What ever happened with your studio city move? Prices scared you off

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No I had some big financial things pop up... I’m slowly getting them resolved. I’m going to start looking for jobs in a few months over there.

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Well damn lol

I don’t think it’s like that though i think she just wanted to take it slow and see what happens. Seems pretty natural to me. If you don’t like the inconsistency then voice it and see if you can work it out.

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She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

I might be wrong but isn't that the Aqua lady that most likely had some rape or sexual abuse experience?

Yea. She said it doesn’t effect her with me because she loves me and wants to please me, especially now.

I think it does affect her because she’s gotten less active over the time and sex is too personal.

She told me last night she’s probably be more involved if we didn’t live together. Right now due to living together we are kind of stuck together and she’s probably too comfortable.

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Yea you guys are basically together already, living together, having sex, going out. Sounds like a relationship to me lol just without the title ...

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Let’s be real tho, her inconsistency is part of the reason you’ve stuck around. If you could predict her every move you’d have gotten bored and moved on long before this.

I agree. But it’s also the reason I’m hesitant on being anything more... that and the rare occasion mouth hugs.

Yeah but on the flip side you can’t expect someone to give you their all if your not fully committed yourself.

What ever happened with your studio city move? Prices scared you off

No I had some big financial things pop up... I’m slowly getting them resolved. I’m going to start looking for jobs in a few months over there.

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So that’s another reason not to commit if your planning to move away. Does the aqua know your planning on moving?

If you know CAD I’m looking to hire 😂

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Let’s be real tho, her inconsistency is part of the reason you’ve stuck around. If you could predict her every move you’d have gotten bored and moved on long before this.

I agree. But it’s also the reason I’m hesitant on being anything more... that and the rare occasion mouth hugs.

Yeah but on the flip side you can’t expect someone to give you their all if your not fully committed yourself.

What ever happened with your studio city move? Prices scared you off

No I had some big financial things pop up... I’m slowly getting them resolved. I’m going to start looking for jobs in a few months over there.

So that’s another reason not to commit if your planning to move away. Does the aqua know your planning on moving?

If you know CAD I’m looking to hire 😂

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She knows. She’s even willing to come. Ultimately she wants to get to Portland anyway... I haven’t done cad work outside of basic/advanced Visio in years. I mainly do process/flow documents outside of my normal business management duties.

I’m an aqua sun & Venus. She definitely likes at the moment. So you’re doing something right. Don’t comment on her aloofness she won’t understand, I know this because when I get called out on it it’s the most annoying thing ever. The trick is to give her space while still letting her know you aren’t going anyway. I’ve said things like that to someone and later when I start warming up to them I’m all for it. So I get it😂 sounds like she’s trying her best.