Update & a thank you

Hello all. I haven't been around much. Been busy with work and other life stuff but I wanted to update all of you with my Aqua situation. For those that don't know or don't remember, he is a male friend I've had for a while that I'm in some weird faux emotional friendship with. Never was sure what it was but all I know is there's comfortableness, care and emotions between us but for whatever reason we don't admit any of it to each other, him especially. It's like that unspoken "thing" that we're both afraid of talking about.

I spent a long time resentful of him for various reasons and it created awkwardness that has no reason to be there as we naturally drift towards each other. But it was either the advice all of you gave (truecap especially among others) or it was something on his end but things are 95% healed. All that's remaining is me getting a control on my inner demons.

These past few months he's been incredibly communicative. He's been showing his appreciation and is beating around the bush less and has been more and more direct with how he feels/thinks and he is bringing me into his life more and more.

Other than that, I think we will be at a good place in time. While I still adore him, there's less sad days. All that's left is for him to stop assuming I prefer his Aqua friend (who I just platonically chit chat with now and then). But it's not like I can be direct about it because he won't admit that it bothers him. So whatever advice you can give on that is greatly appreciated.

I can't say go away aqua friend lol. That's just rude. Plus my aqua friend has no say in it. He's not my bf nor will he admit he cares about me lol

So until he cAn grow some balls I'm not gonna change who I talk to.

Funny. You asked for advice. Got some excellent advice. And blatantly decided to go against it.

Why did you even ask?

Anyway, glad things have improved. That's good to hear.

@true cap I initially tried talking to him about it, i've gotten mad at him for it and then i gave him space and did my own thing (which he didn't like) and then eventually I just initiated mostly everything and that made him initiative on his end and boom here we are.

I followed everyone's advice and tried everyone's suggestion at least once lol. How did I go against everyone's advice?

But thank you,things are gradually better. Right now all that's left is me mostly working on what's left of my insecurities/jealous etc.

Posted by IAmMystified
How did I go against everyone's advice?

You mentioned in this thread you know he didn't like you talking to the other guy, but won't admit it.

Mindofaquarius said to stop talking to the other guy because it made him uncomfortable.

You flat out said you're not going to change who you talk to.

You are going to do what you want to do, so I was curious why you asked for more advice.

@true

Ohhhhhhhhh I get it. I was asking for opinion in terms of how aquas are very social with everyone (including women) and they expect people to be okay with it.

But when I talk to his friend (and his friend talks to me) he gets all weird about it. Not directly but his behavior/mood changes or it becomes some sort of subtle contest. But he shouldn't be getting weird about it if they expect people to understand that THEY talk to everyone.


That's all I was asking about, more of the rationale. But I shouldn't have to stop talking to anyone especially if HE can't even muster up the courage to talk to me about it when he believes in people being direct with him.

Double standard LOL.