Vulnerable

I did it. I asked if it were possible he'd ever give me a second chance. ??‍♀️

I've left myself open and vulnerable. I've taken a huge risk and I am freaking out a bit now!

I mean I meant every word but he might feel pressured now.... and it could backfire terribly!

Have I made a huge mistake?

What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

However it turns out, whatever his response may be, you had the courage to put it all out there. At the very least you won't live with regret and 'what-ifs'. Good luck.

Posted by LadyNeptune
However it turns out, whatever his response may be, you had the courage to put it all out there. At the very least you won't live with regret and 'what-ifs'. Good luck.

I have to agree with this.

Posted by MrR78
What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

The story... is long and complicated.

For quite a while I'd been keeping all of these feelings repressed.

We fought not that long ago... things of the past were brought up, I let it slip that my soul mate was an asshole (lol we had this weird way of insulting each other) meaning him!

Anyway he had mentioned at some point that I make him mad, told me that he can only handle me in small doses and couldn't handle hanging out with me for long. It sounded like he hated me, he even said he didnt want to be my friend. but I think it was that he just cant handle his feelings for me. I know it sounds crazy!

After that fight he sets up his house with sentimental items and he approaches me nervously. He tells me I can sleep in his bed (I was staying the night) mind you we hadn't been intimate for 4 years!

the first time I didn't. The second time I did sleep in his bed and one thing led to another.

Afterward he kept his body in contact with mine.

He did that thing where he tickled my palm with his fingers.. affections like that.

I didn't focus on that but it was very sweet I must admit.

Anyway weeks have gone by and he messages me about important things, to do with my family mostly but not trivial things..

I secretly wanted him to be mean again because I could feel all of those feelings resurfacing! And it was starting to scare me. I love this man hard! But i also have a fragile heart when it comes to him.

He just wouldn't be mean to me, instead he has ghosted all of a sudden but he used to do this after we had a battle... because for years that's what it was. We'd fight and argue and then we would be silent for a while (its complicated and long)

But yes, I've put it out there... And honestly he might just ignore it and that will be unsettling in itself.

I do feel relieved that I've put it out there but I am so nervous he will be mean about it because I am so happy when he is kind. It would hit me hard.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
However it turns out, whatever his response may be, you had the courage to put it all out there. At the very least you won't live with regret and 'what-ifs'. Good luck.

I have to agree with this.

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yes I do too. @LadyNeptune you're right! it was a relief to ask... and yes, at the very least I have tried... ☺️??

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Posted by tcta

Posted by LadyNeptune
However it turns out, whatever his response may be, you had the courage to put it all out there. At the very least you won't live with regret and 'what-ifs'. Good luck.

I have to agree with this.

yes I do too. @LadyNeptune you're right! it was a relief to ask... and yes, at the very least I have tried... ☺️??

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you will never have any regrets this way

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Posted by Isabeau90

Posted by tcta

Posted by LadyNeptune
However it turns out, whatever his response may be, you had the courage to put it all out there. At the very least you won't live with regret and 'what-ifs'. Good luck.

I have to agree with this.

yes I do too. @LadyNeptune you're right! it was a relief to ask... and yes, at the very least I have tried... ☺️??

you will never have any regrets this way

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Thank you..

And now that I can think of it in that way it has given me a bit more strength.

I wish you the best ?

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Posted by MrR78
What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

The story... is long and complicated.

For quite a while I'd been keeping all of these feelings repressed.

We fought not that long ago... things of the past were brought up, I let it slip that my soul mate was an asshole (lol we had this weird way of insulting each other) meaning him!

Anyway he had mentioned at some point that I make him mad, told me that he can only handle me in small doses and couldn't handle hanging out with me for long. It sounded like he hated me, he even said he didnt want to be my friend. but I think it was that he just cant handle his feelings for me. I know it sounds crazy!

After that fight he sets up his house with sentimental items and he approaches me nervously. He tells me I can sleep in his bed (I was staying the night) mind you we hadn't been intimate for 4 years!

the first time I didn't. The second time I did sleep in his bed and one thing led to another.

Afterward he kept his body in contact with mine.

He did that thing where he tickled my palm with his fingers.. affections like that.

I didn't focus on that but it was very sweet I must admit.

Anyway weeks have gone by and he messages me about important things, to do with my family mostly but not trivial things..

I secretly wanted him to be mean again because I could feel all of those feelings resurfacing! And it was starting to scare me. I love this man hard! But i also have a fragile heart when it comes to him.

He just wouldn't be mean to me, instead he has ghosted all of a sudden but he used to do this after we had a battle... because for years that's what it was. We'd fight and argue and then we would be silent for a while (its complicated and long)

But yes, I've put it out there... And honestly he might just ignore it and that will be unsettling in itself.

I do feel relieved that I've put it out there but I am so nervous he will be mean about it because I am so happy when he is kind. It would hit me hard.

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Ok - Whats his sun and moon sign and what are yours.

From personal experience I understand what its like to love someone hard to the point that it messed with me emotionally too. I even sent my ex an email pouring my heart out which she ignored. She ghosted me for nearly a year and we work together so sit 10 feet away from each other. This is what I have learnt from my experience.

It seems that when emotions are involved and they are very strong and cant be controlled, is when confusion begins because you start to second guess things and analyse them in your own way. No relationship can survive without communication, and it seems that maybe you guys communicate via gestures and emotions rather than words.

As for putting yourself out there, and someone who has done that in the past, you will feel a vast ray of emotions which will be overwhelming. However, as you have started on your path you are now setting your reality instead of living in uncertainty the universe does have a way of making you see things in a different perspective. Its up to you how you handle that emotionally.

You have set yourself up in such a way that you will benefit either way - if you manage to resolve your differences then you will be the person you want. If you don't then you will grow and realise things and make changes, which will result in you attracting someone you truly deserve in the future.

When you look back you will smile and be happy that you went through the experience as it will make you a better person - if you allow it to.

Posted by MrR78

Posted by Isabeau90

Posted by MrR78
What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

The story... is long and complicated.

For quite a while I'd been keeping all of these feelings repressed.

We fought not that long ago... things of the past were brought up, I let it slip that my soul mate was an asshole (lol we had this weird way of insulting each other) meaning him!

Anyway he had mentioned at some point that I make him mad, told me that he can only handle me in small doses and couldn't handle hanging out with me for long. It sounded like he hated me, he even said he didnt want to be my friend. but I think it was that he just cant handle his feelings for me. I know it sounds crazy!

After that fight he sets up his house with sentimental items and he approaches me nervously. He tells me I can sleep in his bed (I was staying the night) mind you we hadn't been intimate for 4 years!

the first time I didn't. The second time I did sleep in his bed and one thing led to another.

Afterward he kept his body in contact with mine.

He did that thing where he tickled my palm with his fingers.. affections like that.

I didn't focus on that but it was very sweet I must admit.

Anyway weeks have gone by and he messages me about important things, to do with my family mostly but not trivial things..

I secretly wanted him to be mean again because I could feel all of those feelings resurfacing! And it was starting to scare me. I love this man hard! But i also have a fragile heart when it comes to him.

He just wouldn't be mean to me, instead he has ghosted all of a sudden but he used to do this after we had a battle... because for years that's what it was. We'd fight and argue and then we would be silent for a while (its complicated and long)

But yes, I've put it out there... And honestly he might just ignore it and that will be unsettling in itself.

I do feel relieved that I've put it out there but I am so nervous he will be mean about it because I am so happy when he is kind. It would hit me hard.

Ok - Whats his sun and moon sign and what are yours.

From personal experience I understand what its like to love someone hard to the point that it messed with me emotionally too. I even sent my ex an email pouring my heart out which she ignored. She ghosted me for nearly a year and we work together so sit 10 feet away from each other. This is what I have learnt from my experience.

It seems that when emotions are involved and they are very strong and cant be controlled, is when confusion begins because you start to second guess things and analyse them in your own way. No relationship can survive without communication, and it seems that maybe you guys communicate via gestures and emotions rather than words.

As for putting yourself out there, and someone who has done that in the past, you will feel a vast ray of emotions which will be overwhelming. However, as you have started on your path you are now setting your reality instead of living in uncertainty the universe does have a way of making you see things in a different perspective. Its up to you how you handle that emotionally.

You have set yourself up in such a way that you will benefit either way - if you manage to resolve your differences then you will be the person you want. If you don't then you will grow and realise things and make changes, which will result in you attracting someone you truly deserve in the future.

When you look back you will smile and be happy that you went through the experience as it will make you a better person - if you allow it to.

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I agree with what you're saying regarding growth.

I do often look back at my previous experiences and smile. Some people come into your life and you learn from them, you learn from what you endure..

My Sun is Cancer and my Moon is Gemini... funny enough the way i feel for him never changes though. I can see myself years down the track feeling the same way about him but in the past I've let go of 'loves' very easily. Generally within a month or two but him.. it just doesn't leave me... hasn't left me.

His Sun is Aquarius and his moon is Taurus. So generally we're not compatible.. and our communications is not the best. But i always have this 'sense' that his feelings are quite similar to mine.

I have always been able to kind of predict what he would do next.. and i just knew that he would want this before I saw him again.

I would tell my family and my friends that it would happen, I just know it and they'd just look at me like I was delusional! ... but see, now it did happen!

But I do not know what he will do now... and it bothers me that I can't sense it out.

And he has not responded to me yet. He has been quiet since we discussed him meeting myself and my family for my father and brothers anniversary (they passed away 2 years ago within a couple of weeks of each other). He did not say yes, he would be there and he did not say no, he wouldn't be there. But he asked when we will all be meeting together, where we would be meeting.. he was considering coming to be there with us.

He grew to like my brother when he was alive and he respected my father, even though we were not together. He friended my family but kept me in the dark.

My brother even used to walk away from his partner when they would talk on the phone.. and no one would tell me what they spoke about.

Posted by Isabeau90
I did it. I asked if it were possible he'd ever give me a second chance. ??‍♀️

I've left myself open and vulnerable. I've taken a huge risk and I am freaking out a bit now!

I mean I meant every word but he might feel pressured now.... and it could backfire terribly!

Have I made a huge mistake?

^^^this the "I'm an Aqua I don't like drama!" starter pack.

Grow a pair! If he says yes go for it, if he says no there's plenty of fish in the sea.

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Posted by Isabeau90
I did it. I asked if it were possible he'd ever give me a second chance. ??‍♀️

I've left myself open and vulnerable. I've taken a huge risk and I am freaking out a bit now!

I mean I meant every word but he might feel pressured now.... and it could backfire terribly!

Have I made a huge mistake?

^^^this the "I'm an Aqua I don't like drama!" starter pack.

Grow a pair! If he says yes go for it, if he says no there's plenty of fish in the sea.

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Haha obviously I took a chance!

Sometimes generally speaking people just need a push in the right direction. You don't know what is going through his mind, but you have your intentions clear, so good on you for taking that chance.

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Posted by MrR78
What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

The story... is long and complicated.

For quite a while I'd been keeping all of these feelings repressed.

We fought not that long ago... things of the past were brought up, I let it slip that my soul mate was an asshole (lol we had this weird way of insulting each other) meaning him!

Anyway he had mentioned at some point that I make him mad, told me that he can only handle me in small doses and couldn't handle hanging out with me for long. It sounded like he hated me, he even said he didnt want to be my friend. but I think it was that he just cant handle his feelings for me. I know it sounds crazy!

After that fight he sets up his house with sentimental items and he approaches me nervously. He tells me I can sleep in his bed (I was staying the night) mind you we hadn't been intimate for 4 years!

the first time I didn't. The second time I did sleep in his bed and one thing led to another.

Afterward he kept his body in contact with mine.

He did that thing where he tickled my palm with his fingers.. affections like that.

I didn't focus on that but it was very sweet I must admit.

Anyway weeks have gone by and he messages me about important things, to do with my family mostly but not trivial things..

I secretly wanted him to be mean again because I could feel all of those feelings resurfacing! And it was starting to scare me. I love this man hard! But i also have a fragile heart when it comes to him.

He just wouldn't be mean to me, instead he has ghosted all of a sudden but he used to do this after we had a battle... because for years that's what it was. We'd fight and argue and then we would be silent for a while (its complicated and long)

But yes, I've put it out there... And honestly he might just ignore it and that will be unsettling in itself.

I do feel relieved that I've put it out there but I am so nervous he will be mean about it because I am so happy when he is kind. It would hit me hard.

Ok - Whats his sun and moon sign and what are yours.

From personal experience I understand what its like to love someone hard to the point that it messed with me emotionally too. I even sent my ex an email pouring my heart out which she ignored. She ghosted me for nearly a year and we work together so sit 10 feet away from each other. This is what I have learnt from my experience.

It seems that when emotions are involved and they are very strong and cant be controlled, is when confusion begins because you start to second guess things and analyse them in your own way. No relationship can survive without communication, and it seems that maybe you guys communicate via gestures and emotions rather than words.

As for putting yourself out there, and someone who has done that in the past, you will feel a vast ray of emotions which will be overwhelming. However, as you have started on your path you are now setting your reality instead of living in uncertainty the universe does have a way of making you see things in a different perspective. Its up to you how you handle that emotionally.

You have set yourself up in such a way that you will benefit either way - if you manage to resolve your differences then you will be the person you want. If you don't then you will grow and realise things and make changes, which will result in you attracting someone you truly deserve in the future.

When you look back you will smile and be happy that you went through the experience as it will make you a better person - if you allow it to.

I agree with what you're saying regarding growth.

I do often look back at my previous experiences and smile. Some people come into your life and you learn from them, you learn from what you endure..

My Sun is Cancer and my Moon is Gemini... funny enough the way i feel for him never changes though. I can see myself years down the track feeling the same way about him but in the past I've let go of 'loves' very easily. Generally within a month or two but him.. it just doesn't leave me... hasn't left me.

His Sun is Aquarius and his moon is Taurus. So generally we're not compatible.. and our communications is not the best. But i always have this 'sense' that his feelings are quite similar to mine.

I have always been able to kind of predict what he would do next.. and i just knew that he would want this before I saw him again.

I would tell my family and my friends that it would happen, I just know it and they'd just look at me like I was delusional! ... but see, now it did happen!

But I do not know what he will do now... and it bothers me that I can't sense it out.

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I'm going through a similar thing with a Scorp Sun Gem Moon and I'm Aqua Sun Cap Moon. I attract a lot of Gem Moons, but me and this person has the dynamic as you guys. All we do is argue and make up. Yesterday he made me so mad I actually shed a tear and I'm no crier! He truly upset me and I told him I'd never give him the opportunity to do that again. I think a part of my feelings for him died yesterday. He kept texting and calling and I wouldn't respond.



In your situation spending time with family is serious. And maybe you made him so upset or did something in the past that a piece of his feelings died for you. Maybe he's deciding if he wants to give a second chance to you, hence him not answering. Maybe he doesn't want to respond until he can gather his words correctly OR he doesn't know how to respond. There's a lot of maybes, but you don't get the definitives until you speak with him.

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Posted by MrR78

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Posted by MrR78
What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

The story... is long and complicated.

For quite a while I'd been keeping all of these feelings repressed.

We fought not that long ago... things of the past were brought up, I let it slip that my soul mate was an asshole (lol we had this weird way of insulting each other) meaning him!

Anyway he had mentioned at some point that I make him mad, told me that he can only handle me in small doses and couldn't handle hanging out with me for long. It sounded like he hated me, he even said he didnt want to be my friend. but I think it was that he just cant handle his feelings for me. I know it sounds crazy!

After that fight he sets up his house with sentimental items and he approaches me nervously. He tells me I can sleep in his bed (I was staying the night) mind you we hadn't been intimate for 4 years!

the first time I didn't. The second time I did sleep in his bed and one thing led to another.

Afterward he kept his body in contact with mine.

He did that thing where he tickled my palm with his fingers.. affections like that.

I didn't focus on that but it was very sweet I must admit.

Anyway weeks have gone by and he messages me about important things, to do with my family mostly but not trivial things..

I secretly wanted him to be mean again because I could feel all of those feelings resurfacing! And it was starting to scare me. I love this man hard! But i also have a fragile heart when it comes to him.

He just wouldn't be mean to me, instead he has ghosted all of a sudden but he used to do this after we had a battle... because for years that's what it was. We'd fight and argue and then we would be silent for a while (its complicated and long)

But yes, I've put it out there... And honestly he might just ignore it and that will be unsettling in itself.

I do feel relieved that I've put it out there but I am so nervous he will be mean about it because I am so happy when he is kind. It would hit me hard.

Ok - Whats his sun and moon sign and what are yours.

From personal experience I understand what its like to love someone hard to the point that it messed with me emotionally too. I even sent my ex an email pouring my heart out which she ignored. She ghosted me for nearly a year and we work together so sit 10 feet away from each other. This is what I have learnt from my experience.

It seems that when emotions are involved and they are very strong and cant be controlled, is when confusion begins because you start to second guess things and analyse them in your own way. No relationship can survive without communication, and it seems that maybe you guys communicate via gestures and emotions rather than words.

As for putting yourself out there, and someone who has done that in the past, you will feel a vast ray of emotions which will be overwhelming. However, as you have started on your path you are now setting your reality instead of living in uncertainty the universe does have a way of making you see things in a different perspective. Its up to you how you handle that emotionally.

You have set yourself up in such a way that you will benefit either way - if you manage to resolve your differences then you will be the person you want. If you don't then you will grow and realise things and make changes, which will result in you attracting someone you truly deserve in the future.

When you look back you will smile and be happy that you went through the experience as it will make you a better person - if you allow it to.

I agree with what you're saying regarding growth.

I do often look back at my previous experiences and smile. Some people come into your life and you learn from them, you learn from what you endure..

My Sun is Cancer and my Moon is Gemini... funny enough the way i feel for him never changes though. I can see myself years down the track feeling the same way about him but in the past I've let go of 'loves' very easily. Generally within a month or two but him.. it just doesn't leave me... hasn't left me.

His Sun is Aquarius and his moon is Taurus. So generally we're not compatible.. and our communications is not the best. But i always have this 'sense' that his feelings are quite similar to mine.

I have always been able to kind of predict what he would do next.. and i just knew that he would want this before I saw him again.

I would tell my family and my friends that it would happen, I just know it and they'd just look at me like I was delusional! ... but see, now it did happen!

But I do not know what he will do now... and it bothers me that I can't sense it out.

I'm going through a similar thing with a Scorp Sun Gem Moon and I'm Aqua Sun Cap Moon. I attract a lot of Gem Moons, but me and this person has the dynamic as you guys. All we do is argue and make up. Yesterday he made me so mad I actually shed a tear and I'm no crier! He truly upset me and I told him I'd never give him the opportunity to do that again. I think a part of my feelings for him died yesterday. He kept texting and calling and I wouldn't respond.



In your situation spending time with family is serious. And maybe you made him so upset or did something in the past that a piece of his feelings died for you. Maybe he's deciding if he wants to give a second chance to you, hence him not answering. Maybe he doesn't want to respond until he can gather his words correctly OR he doesn't know how to respond. There's a lot of maybes, but you don't get the definitives until you speak with him.

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Are you psychic? ...

Provoking a direct speech won't help. They feel pressured. Let him process his feelings. He will speak up when he is ready.

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Provoking a direct speech won't help. They feel pressured. Let him process his feelings. He will speak up when he is ready.

Thank you xx

I've realised that... and I agree with it.

He is still silent but I have a feeling he will let me know soon.

I think he is a bit confused right now.

Do not expect him to express something directly. You might never get your answer on plain sight. Watch his actions. Continue to be his friend. They move slowly. They process everything mentally. They care deep within, but rarely express it. This doesn't mean they are not there for you.

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Do not expect him to express something directly. You might never get your answer on plain sight. Watch his actions. Continue to be his friend. They move slowly. They process everything mentally. They care deep within, but rarely express it. This doesn't mean they are not there for you.

He NEVER expresses directly! ?

I'm prepared for him to take his time though... I'm hoping he'll start speaking to me again soon though.. He hasn't been nasty so it's a wonderful sign. He might not want to push me away by saying the wrong thing now that he knows I still feel for him and want him to give me another chance.. xx

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What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

The story... is long and complicated.

For quite a while I'd been keeping all of these feelings repressed.

We fought not that long ago... things of the past were brought up, I let it slip that my soul mate was an asshole (lol we had this weird way of insulting each other) meaning him!

Anyway he had mentioned at some point that I make him mad, told me that he can only handle me in small doses and couldn't handle hanging out with me for long. It sounded like he hated me, he even said he didnt want to be my friend. but I think it was that he just cant handle his feelings for me. I know it sounds crazy!

After that fight he sets up his house with sentimental items and he approaches me nervously. He tells me I can sleep in his bed (I was staying the night) mind you we hadn't been intimate for 4 years!

the first time I didn't. The second time I did sleep in his bed and one thing led to another.

Afterward he kept his body in contact with mine.

He did that thing where he tickled my palm with his fingers.. affections like that.

I didn't focus on that but it was very sweet I must admit.

Anyway weeks have gone by and he messages me about important things, to do with my family mostly but not trivial things..

I secretly wanted him to be mean again because I could feel all of those feelings resurfacing! And it was starting to scare me. I love this man hard! But i also have a fragile heart when it comes to him.

He just wouldn't be mean to me, instead he has ghosted all of a sudden but he used to do this after we had a battle... because for years that's what it was. We'd fight and argue and then we would be silent for a while (its complicated and long)

But yes, I've put it out there... And honestly he might just ignore it and that will be unsettling in itself.

I do feel relieved that I've put it out there but I am so nervous he will be mean about it because I am so happy when he is kind. It would hit me hard.

Ok - Whats his sun and moon sign and what are yours.

From personal experience I understand what its like to love someone hard to the point that it messed with me emotionally too. I even sent my ex an email pouring my heart out which she ignored. She ghosted me for nearly a year and we work together so sit 10 feet away from each other. This is what I have learnt from my experience.

It seems that when emotions are involved and they are very strong and cant be controlled, is when confusion begins because you start to second guess things and analyse them in your own way. No relationship can survive without communication, and it seems that maybe you guys communicate via gestures and emotions rather than words.

As for putting yourself out there, and someone who has done that in the past, you will feel a vast ray of emotions which will be overwhelming. However, as you have started on your path you are now setting your reality instead of living in uncertainty the universe does have a way of making you see things in a different perspective. Its up to you how you handle that emotionally.

You have set yourself up in such a way that you will benefit either way - if you manage to resolve your differences then you will be the person you want. If you don't then you will grow and realise things and make changes, which will result in you attracting someone you truly deserve in the future.

When you look back you will smile and be happy that you went through the experience as it will make you a better person - if you allow it to.

I agree with what you're saying regarding growth.

I do often look back at my previous experiences and smile. Some people come into your life and you learn from them, you learn from what you endure..

My Sun is Cancer and my Moon is Gemini... funny enough the way i feel for him never changes though. I can see myself years down the track feeling the same way about him but in the past I've let go of 'loves' very easily. Generally within a month or two but him.. it just doesn't leave me... hasn't left me.

His Sun is Aquarius and his moon is Taurus. So generally we're not compatible.. and our communications is not the best. But i always have this 'sense' that his feelings are quite similar to mine.

I have always been able to kind of predict what he would do next.. and i just knew that he would want this before I saw him again.

I would tell my family and my friends that it would happen, I just know it and they'd just look at me like I was delusional! ... but see, now it did happen!

But I do not know what he will do now... and it bothers me that I can't sense it out.

I'm going through a similar thing with a Scorp Sun Gem Moon and I'm Aqua Sun Cap Moon. I attract a lot of Gem Moons, but me and this person has the dynamic as you guys. All we do is argue and make up. Yesterday he made me so mad I actually shed a tear and I'm no crier! He truly upset me and I told him I'd never give him the opportunity to do that again. I think a part of my feelings for him died yesterday. He kept texting and calling and I wouldn't respond.



In your situation spending time with family is serious. And maybe you made him so upset or did something in the past that a piece of his feelings died for you. Maybe he's deciding if he wants to give a second chance to you, hence him not answering. Maybe he doesn't want to respond until he can gather his words correctly OR he doesn't know how to respond. There's a lot of maybes, but you don't get the definitives until you speak with him.

Are you psychic? ...

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What?! No... I wish! Then I could help myself out ?! But it could be him and I are Aqua Sun, Cap Venus.... depending on our mercury signs as well we may think and communicate in similar ways.

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What's the actual story? Fair play to you for asking for a second chance and putting yourself out there. Not many women would do that

The story... is long and complicated.

For quite a while I'd been keeping all of these feelings repressed.

We fought not that long ago... things of the past were brought up, I let it slip that my soul mate was an asshole (lol we had this weird way of insulting each other) meaning him!

Anyway he had mentioned at some point that I make him mad, told me that he can only handle me in small doses and couldn't handle hanging out with me for long. It sounded like he hated me, he even said he didnt want to be my friend. but I think it was that he just cant handle his feelings for me. I know it sounds crazy!

After that fight he sets up his house with sentimental items and he approaches me nervously. He tells me I can sleep in his bed (I was staying the night) mind you we hadn't been intimate for 4 years!

the first time I didn't. The second time I did sleep in his bed and one thing led to another.

Afterward he kept his body in contact with mine.

He did that thing where he tickled my palm with his fingers.. affections like that.

I didn't focus on that but it was very sweet I must admit.

Anyway weeks have gone by and he messages me about important things, to do with my family mostly but not trivial things..

I secretly wanted him to be mean again because I could feel all of those feelings resurfacing! And it was starting to scare me. I love this man hard! But i also have a fragile heart when it comes to him.

He just wouldn't be mean to me, instead he has ghosted all of a sudden but he used to do this after we had a battle... because for years that's what it was. We'd fight and argue and then we would be silent for a while (its complicated and long)

But yes, I've put it out there... And honestly he might just ignore it and that will be unsettling in itself.

I do feel relieved that I've put it out there but I am so nervous he will be mean about it because I am so happy when he is kind. It would hit me hard.

Ok - Whats his sun and moon sign and what are yours.

From personal experience I understand what its like to love someone hard to the point that it messed with me emotionally too. I even sent my ex an email pouring my heart out which she ignored. She ghosted me for nearly a year and we work together so sit 10 feet away from each other. This is what I have learnt from my experience.

It seems that when emotions are involved and they are very strong and cant be controlled, is when confusion begins because you start to second guess things and analyse them in your own way. No relationship can survive without communication, and it seems that maybe you guys communicate via gestures and emotions rather than words.

As for putting yourself out there, and someone who has done that in the past, you will feel a vast ray of emotions which will be overwhelming. However, as you have started on your path you are now setting your reality instead of living in uncertainty the universe does have a way of making you see things in a different perspective. Its up to you how you handle that emotionally.

You have set yourself up in such a way that you will benefit either way - if you manage to resolve your differences then you will be the person you want. If you don't then you will grow and realise things and make changes, which will result in you attracting someone you truly deserve in the future.

When you look back you will smile and be happy that you went through the experience as it will make you a better person - if you allow it to.

I agree with what you're saying regarding growth.

I do often look back at my previous experiences and smile. Some people come into your life and you learn from them, you learn from what you endure..

My Sun is Cancer and my Moon is Gemini... funny enough the way i feel for him never changes though. I can see myself years down the track feeling the same way about him but in the past I've let go of 'loves' very easily. Generally within a month or two but him.. it just doesn't leave me... hasn't left me.

His Sun is Aquarius and his moon is Taurus. So generally we're not compatible.. and our communications is not the best. But i always have this 'sense' that his feelings are quite similar to mine.

I have always been able to kind of predict what he would do next.. and i just knew that he would want this before I saw him again.

I would tell my family and my friends that it would happen, I just know it and they'd just look at me like I was delusional! ... but see, now it did happen!

But I do not know what he will do now... and it bothers me that I can't sense it out.

I'm going through a similar thing with a Scorp Sun Gem Moon and I'm Aqua Sun Cap Moon. I attract a lot of Gem Moons, but me and this person has the dynamic as you guys. All we do is argue and make up. Yesterday he made me so mad I actually shed a tear and I'm no crier! He truly upset me and I told him I'd never give him the opportunity to do that again. I think a part of my feelings for him died yesterday. He kept texting and calling and I wouldn't respond.



In your situation spending time with family is serious. And maybe you made him so upset or did something in the past that a piece of his feelings died for you. Maybe he's deciding if he wants to give a second chance to you, hence him not answering. Maybe he doesn't want to respond until he can gather his words correctly OR he doesn't know how to respond. There's a lot of maybes, but you don't get the definitives until you speak with him.

Are you psychic? ...

What?! No... I wish! Then I could help myself out ?! But it could be him and I are Aqua Sun, Cap Venus.... depending on our mercury signs as well we may think and communicate in similar ways.

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Haha! because I was like..... how does she get it so well— ??