Well, I saw that coming.

So, I've posted about the love of my Aqua here in the past... but I finally let him go. It appeared through photos on social media that he reconnected with his european first love during a visit to see her (he takes them yearly) and then she came stateside (which she hasn't done in many years) and there were many sweet posts she made and when asked, he completely avoided the topic.

He has also avoided any talks of visiting my daughter and I or even having a phone conversation. That isn't usual behavior.

I sent him an email expressing my excitement for him, but also that I was disheartened that he felt like he couldn't share. (Probably related to not wanting to hurt me... we'd had conversations about my feelings for him and he told me he just felt as friends, so I have been on board with that and things had been going well.)

I wished him well and told him I looked forward to hearing about things and hoped we crossed paths later in life..


A couple days later after absolutely no response I removed him from social media (we still have each other's email and phone number and he rarely uses his social media anyway) but I just got tired of him catching up on my life there instead of talking to me.

I'm sad and I miss him but ultimately it didn't seem like he wanted to be 'friends'. We used to share the good and the bad and it just hurt my feelings that he didn't want to talk to me about any of it...

Did I make the right choice?

I think you did.
Sometimes when people say they want to remain friends, they really don't mean it.

Kuddos to you for moving on.

You did the right thing. In a way, this was a no win situation for him. Either he shares and hurts you, or he doesn't share and hurts you. Often it's no one's fault, it's just AWKWARD. Time to work on you, and there are plenty of fish!

Gennie, I agree. It was so unfortunate and I completely understand that he didn't want to hurt me, but at the same time, what is the point of staying friends if you can't share the good and the bad? It makes me sad that he didn't think I'd be able to 'handle' it our 'rise above' it. I've proved to be much stronger than that. But such is life, you never know where life will take you and the universe has this way of bringing us back together.