What is going on...?

I'm an aquarius woman & met an aqua guy at work over a year ago. We weren't super into each other at first but we started to flirt a little & eventually exchanged numbers & things escalated from there... So we were seeing each other secretly at this point. At a work party he was flirting with someone else so I asked her in private if she liked him. She ended up telling him that I said something and he completely cut me off... I thought about it every day for an entire year. It was so painful & I thought for sure that was it. I finally started to get over him or at least stop thinking about him everyday. I know he still checked into what I was up to because he watched my snapchat story over the year that he wasn't talking to me. He then messaged me out of no where on SC and I was like wtf really? When I'm finally getting over you, right? We talked here and there & eventually hung out - he kept trying to have sex right away but I got angry and asked him why he cut me off like that? I don't think I did anything wrong. You shouldn't start showing someone emotions and giving them ideas that you like them but the second someone that's flirting with you finds out - that's it I was completely the wrong-doer in the situation.

So he explained why which was the situation at work and he talked about it hurt him that I talked about our private thing with a coworker.. So we ended up having sex that night even though deep down I'm so hurt I didn't want to but at the same time I don't want to go through the sleepless nights again. I don't want to lose him again 😢 I noticed he unfriended me on Snapchat & wasn't texting me so I messaged him if I upset him again or something & that I was really sorry if I did...

He responded with: Just busy. Sorry.

I said "I get it - I don't want to look like an idiot trying to talk to someone who has no interest in talking to me!" Like just tell me if you don't want to see me anymore so that I can once again work on healing myself - it's so immature. It's been about a week since that text and he hasn't said anything at all.

I hate this and some days just wish that I would have never even gotten involved with him. I have never been so caught up with a guy - I'm usually chased (not trying to toot my own horn but I just never put in that much effort with other guys because I'm usually uninterested in them!)

I just want to know what he might be thinking at this point? Why did he even get back in contact? Just for sex? I guess I'm a stupid girl for thinking he wanted anything more 😢

Posted by aquadancer
So we were seeing each other secretly at this point. At a work party he was flirting with someone else so I asked her in private if she liked him. She ended up telling him that I said something and he completely cut me off...

So he explained why which was the situation at work and he talked about it hurt him that I talked about our private thing with a coworker.. So we ended up having sex that night

It wasn't ever an issue of oversharing your "private thing with a coworker". That's the reason he gave you and it worked like a charm, down your panties came.

No, the real reason he cut you off was because you were cock blocking his game. You agreed to date him in secret. You were not exclusive. So opening your mouth to someone else he was trying to kick it too is clearly overstepping and grounds for ghosting.