Why doesn't he call me out on my crap? (Page 2)

Posted by smellycat
Moral of the story : aquas need to spank their women to prevent them from being social outcast 😛.

oooh. I might like that. 😉

Fromw hat I know about my aqua friend is...he has said multiple times that he gets over things and moves pat the situation when it's "solved". Doesn't mean he forgets about it but he moves on to the next important thing.

So if he's doing that, then you should be doing that.

Plus when I act all whacko 75% of the time he attributes that to that being typical me and plus he believes things aren't just that big of a deal unless it puts him over the edge.

So maybe your outburst wasn't that big of an irritation for him.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I probably could call people out on their shit more often, but Id be there till the cows come home.

There is so much I observe on a daily basis I swear sometimes I'm like a walking CCTV camera and I hear people lying about shit, being totally inconsistent in their stories and so on..

each little altercation I have is a little sip of my energy and what for? a petty little battle that I get no satisfaction out of winning that drains and irritates me like a mosquito bite.

But if I hoard all evidence of their shit and then unleash it on them in a spectacular fashion resulting in them fading away as they are out shined by their inadequacy I will at that point know that I have won the war.

Lol, you approach it like a Sag and btw, that's one of my all time favorite movies!

Crap...? What crap? It's the monthly entertainment!

Posted by truecap
I absolutely hate being vulnerable. Its out of my comfort zone.

it kills me sometimes I yearn for it tho

Yes, he's closed the distance and everything is back to normal. Still, though, I don't know if anything will change for the better in the long run. Although, I think I might be a little more shielded now; wondering if what he can provide me will be enough. Only time will tell.

I totally relate to the rinse, cycle, repeat process of trying to explain what you want and need in the relatioship.

I think I know what you mean...dated an Aqua moon for 2 years and that was one of my biggest frustrations.

I was verbal about my feelings...he was not. I wanted to argue, yell, get it out! (And I consider myself to be a relatively cool and calm person!) He didn't do any of that...it made me look like some psycho chick. When/if he did have a beef, he never yelled, he would make his point calmly -- and cut right to the chase.

😢 I miss that...as frustrating as it was I found that to be such a turn on lol.

@truecap

You taught me to not overthink things with an aqua because they typically don't as they tend to just attribute things being "the way they are".

Sure I believe they have some line that they have where they eventually give up on someone but I don't think you are anywhere near there yet.

I think you are doing fine 🙂

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
I think I know what you mean...dated an Aqua moon for 2 years and that was one of my biggest frustrations.

I was verbal about my feelings...he was not. I wanted to argue, yell, get it out! (And I consider myself to be a relatively cool and calm person!) He didn't do any of that...it made me look like some psycho chick. When/if he did have a beef, he never yelled, he would make his point calmly -- and cut right to the chase.

😢 I miss that...as frustrating as it was I found that to be such a turn on lol.

Yup they are exactly like that.

I've looked like a psycho chick and yelled and I do mean YELLED at him about stupid bullshit now that I think about it.

He just sat there looking at me like a doe in head lights. Not saying a word, not giving me any reasons usually and if he did I was so involved in yelling at him I didn't hear him.

And he just took it up the ass and got over it like an hour later lol.

Eventually though he did get tired of it and started being more verbal about my crazyiness and started being blunt about his opinion (Which was harsh but true LOL)

and that also made me realize I really had nothing substantial to blame him about LOL.

Even then, point is he's still around and he still wants me around apparently. He may not shower me with his "entertaining" attention and that's partially becuase he doesn't feel like he needs to

plus part of it may be because we are in the "healing" process.

the good side of the aqua is they teach you how to be a grown up in terms of handling your emotions maturely.

Posted by IAmMystified
@truecap

You taught me to not overthink things with an aqua because they typically don't as they tend to just attribute things being "the way they are".

Sure I believe they have some line that they have where they eventually give up on someone but I don't think you are anywhere near there yet.

I think you are doing fine 🙂

I'm sure things are fine. I feel like they are. We are as close as always. We have each apologized and made up.

Yes, aquas are the way they are. After 2 1/2 years, I'm just evaluating whether this is what I want. Do I really want to hear I love you once in a blue moon? Do I really want someone that doesn't validate my feelings (any feelings, not just love)? Do I really want a relationship where I'm constantly feeling second to everything else? Whether I am or not, that's how I feel.

He had several opportunities this past week to confirm or reassure me and he has expressed neither, nor anger, nor emotion, nor regret, nor has he told me how my outburst made him feel....I just find this a little strange.

Oh, I think I'm in a mood today.It will pass. lol!

*refers back to the dark thread on the capricorn board*

This is interesting perspective from other people. I never realized how are actions can make a person feel a certain way.

Posted by Aquadeer
This is interesting perspective from other people. I never realized how are actions can make a person feel a certain way.

I appreciate the validation aquadeer. Thanks for noticing.

It sucks when you feel like whatever you're feeling doesn't matter. Whether it's love, hurt, anger, appreciation, the reaction is indifference.

I know it's not indifference, but that's how it feels when someone doesn't comment or confirm or reassure, just 'sorry you felt that way'.

Really, makes the other person begin to re-evaluate the relationship.

Posted by Undine
Crap...? What crap? It's the monthly entertainment!

I'm glad you find it amusing.

This issue has plagued me a lot truecap. Believe me I would change myself if I knew how to turn it off. When I say I hate confrontation I truly mean it. It has broken up several relationships in the past.

Though I don't think it's so much avoiding confrontations, I'm just always finding words... the right words when emotions are high for the sake of not saying the wrong thing.

You know aquasnoz, if I understand you correctly, I find that seems to fit in how I see him. It's like he's afraid of saying the wrong thing because it's going to make it worse, so he chooses to say nothing. Which leaves me feeling unvalidated and misunderstood.

Thanks for explaining that. I really appreciate it.

Posted by truecap
You know aquasnoz, if I understand you correctly, I find that seems to fit in how I see him. It's like he's afraid of saying the wrong thing because it's going to make it worse, so he chooses to say nothing. Which leaves me feeling unvalidated and misunderstood.

Thanks for explaining that. I really appreciate it.

Yep that's how they are. They do nothing becuase in their eyes, they don't want to make it worse or they feel like they've tried or said all they could say.

But I am the same way. When I was upset/disappointed and I dug down deep within my fear of saying what I felt about him letting me down. It took a lot for me to be honest about things when I normally kept my feelings inside for fear of not being understood and even then, he said nothing!

Which made me feel stupid for having emotions, not validated everything you basically said.

I guess that's why Aquas tend to have long lasting effects in our hearts becuase we truly never get closure in some ways.

Maybe it's because caps are direct. We expect other people to be equally as direct and it puzzles me when they're not.

I don't want someone to be afraid of making me upset. I'll still love them when I'm upset and I'll respect they were forthcoming.

Posted by truecap
Maybe it's because caps are direct. We expect other people to be equally as direct and it puzzles me when they're not.

I don't want someone to be afraid of making me upset. I'll still love them when I'm upset and I'll respect they were forthcoming.

Same here. People I do not care for have no impact on my emotions and the fact that someone affected me that much to affect my emotions as well means they matter to me.

I believe in being direct too and solving issues on the spot and talking about it and disucssing it until we come to an understanding and agreement.

I do not like it when some aquas sometimes have a tendency to just give the person "space" to get over things and never discuss it.

That's annoying for me and all that does is let things fester until they explode.

It seems people are asking too much from an Aqua. If a person goes his or her whole life being a certain way that behavior won't change because of love/being in love.

The thing is I'm sure some of you if not all of you have been with a man that validated your feelings but was full of shit because he wasn't being completely sincere, maybe just validating to shut you up or to quickly move on from the subject.

Aqua's (not speaking for all Aqua's) but we let our partners express themselves, we don't necessarily have a big problem with what that person is expressing. If I love you then go ahead have your temper tantrum, I still love you.

True you have the issue not him. If you need more then ask for it.

This happened to me a few weeks ago with a friend. He was upset with me because I bought him a gift (not just one, but a few). He went completely off on me and I didn't say anything. I let him say what he had to say and he got more upset because I wouldn't say anything. In my mind, I didn't want to make the situation worse and when he explained to me why it upset him, I completely understood. He was upset because I wouldn't argue back because that's how thing get resolved, according to him. According to me, why spew hateful words to someone you care about. It's a waste of energy, when things can be communicated by speaking instead of arguing.

People have a different views on why they do the things they do. I didn't want to hurt him, I seen my actions hurt him, so why say mean things, when all I want to do is make him happy.

Maybe, he reacted the best way he knew how?

That's just it, Tiki. It is me. Maybe I'm just in a mood today, but I feel like I have asked several times. I think that's the root of the emotional over reaction I had.

I know what you're saying is true. I suppose I'm asking for more than he can give and that's where I am at - deciding if it's enough. If I can accept it and be happy. He's good to me and he's a good, decent man. He puts up with me. I do love him. He is affectionate in his own way and I know he loves me, too. I just suppose I'm not feeling emotionally fulfilled. But, then again, it might be my mood. I may be slipping into the dark side that capricorns fall into occasionally.

Yall have helped a lot in explaining to me the aqua frame of mind. So basically, I should feel relieved he's okay with me expressing myself. I understand now why he doesn't call me out or say things back to me. I should appreciate his calm demeanor and appreciate that he's willing to listen and he doesn't want to upset me. I should understand where he is coming from - and what yall have said helps.

I need to climb out of this hole and be grateful he's sweet and rational. I need to become the fun, energetic girlfriend again.

Okay, recognizing is the first step, right?

Thanks scorp. Good idea.

To clarify, I never apologized for how I felt or for what I felt. I apologized for how I handled it, via the overly emotional outlet of letting those feelings out. I did explain later, calmly, why I felt what I felt. Still don't think he understood.

Maybe we'll get past it with some education and hopefully, we can laugh about it someday.

Posted by truecap
That's just it, Tiki. It is me. Maybe I'm just in a mood today, but I feel like I have asked several times. I think that's the root of the emotional over reaction I had.

I know what you're saying is true. I suppose I'm asking for more than he can give and that's where I am at - deciding if it's enough. If I can accept it and be happy. He's good to me and he's a good, decent man. He puts up with me. I do love him. He is affectionate in his own way and I know he loves me, too. I just suppose I'm not feeling emotionally fulfilled. But, then again, it might be my mood. I may be slipping into the dark side that capricorns fall into occasionally.

It could be any of those things. But I think emotional fulfillment is a grey area. I do believe we all come from a society where a certain way of things happening is what we are used to i.e. the arguing back. If we don't have the other person argue back then things aren't "resolved" but that's just it...is it only unfulfilled because we didn't get the "argue back" even if it means arguing back isn't solving the overall issue.

I love what they said and they are right, aquas do have a logical way of looking at things which are not usually what we're used to.

I hate the fact that they don't really "voice" their opinion but like she said there's usually a solid reason why but I think if we start learning to ask for it (Which again isn't what we're used to) they'd give their opinion.

I do thinkt he times i've asked for an opinion from aqua man i was given it and if he couldn't give it he point blank said "I don't have an opinion right now, I need to think about it for a while."

Posted by truecap
Thanks scorp. Good idea.

To clarify, I never apologized for how I felt or for what I felt. I apologized for how I handled it, via the overly emotional outlet of letting those feelings out. I did explain later, calmly, why I felt what I felt. Still don't think he understood.

Maybe we'll get past it with some education and hopefully, we can laugh about it someday.

He probably understands. I just don't think they express things alot like other people do, but I do believe he gets it.

IS has a point I wouldn't mind that. You know I would suggest something like that if it was possible and not have it taken the wrong way about Aquas handling emotions lol.

About Aquas not being direct... I think it varies. Sometimes I am on certain matters but I can see clear as day when being direct will cause personality conflicts and if that person mattered to me then I'd think further on how I'd approach it.

Couple that with being distracted by shinies, I forget at times. I've been told my words seem like they are laced with venom when I'm being totally blunt and I'd give no quarter if I had to make a point. Luckily it rarely comes to that but I'd say something's broken to warrant Aqua outburst.

In all honesty, whilst in a relationship, I accept a lot. There's a reason he chose you truecap and though I'm not saying this for all aquas but when I made a decision I view it as a vow and a commitment after extreme observation. Always willing to learn and be better for my partner.

And I'll finish it up by saying... even if I feel like somethings off (10/10 times they are) I would expect the other person to confront me rather than being the mindreader. I usually make sure I make that point clear at the start of anything.

^ So that last point. Agreeing with everyone else that said he probably doesn't find it a big deal because it's not annoying him.

Though if you made it clear it is bothering you then surely he will try and fix it even if he's not vocal about it. I don't always apologise (I probably should) because I don't feel sorry but that doesn't mean the whole situation is dismissed in my mind.

+1 Aquadeer

@IAM

Although I may not respond or react to a persons feelings/outburst etc I'm always present with my partner, my way of validating the other person is to SHOW UP, be there, be right by that persons side, help them by allowing them to see their flaws through my silence without me having to correct verbally which works 99% of the time.

Ironically we are validating the people that we love but in our own unique way. If I'm by your side after all the drama and yelling then I got your back. Self correction comes after I see my partner isn't happy.

If my needs are being met then truly what do I really need to complain about. If my husband needs more he'll verbalize and hint/point to whatever is on his mind and I'll give more naturally. I'm very focused on my partner so I rarely miss his queues.

Women want to discuss and talk and communicate to feel connected and I'm guilty because I don't need to do that to feel connected to someone.

Aquas can be quite content and at peace with the people we choose to be with and we don't need to pick apart nor dissect the ones we love nor complain.

We know people have flaws and have issues and if I choose that person despite it all it's because I'm all the way in and I don't see the point of complaining about habits and flaws that I've already chosen to be content with. It's not my habits, it's not my flaws, if it's not hurting me then I don't have an issue with it.

LOL@dissertation: How I would Like You To Respond to Me When I Get Emotional. Laminate it.

I wish I was kidding--this would actually work. Try to find a few Youtube Videos as well??_

Good luck

+1000 IrresistableScorp

This is so true. I'm not one to react to anger, outburst, emotional displays but if a person can communicate what they need from me from day one then when they're having a meltdown I won't hesitate to validate them in the way they need to be validated.

Aqua's are pretty easy going, we don't need drama to fuel our desire for the other person. I'm guilty of not reacting to other peoples pain but I'm also a very loving giving empathic individual towards my mate, my family and friends. My ultimate goal is to ease a persons distress and pain and I believe words are not needed to do that.

Some people need drama, they need the yelling, constant validation, the over the top emotional displays which is okay, not saying that's wrong but it's definitely not the temperament of an Aqua--NOT speaking for all Aqua's of course but the Aqua's I know are always easy going people.

@tiki33

Thank you for the explanation. It makes sense totally.

But its true alot of us need to share in experiences to feel connected and loved. Not necessarily for insecurity/esteem reasons but we naturally want to bond with the people we adore.

How can we feel bonded and connected with someone (not saying all aquas) who go about their day in some sort of indifferent kind of demeanor and I know they aren't really being indifferent but its the best way I can describe it.

When someone acts like that whether they are aquas or not, I personally feel like we're like two ships in the night.

He probably doesn't want to disrupt a good thing. He is being patient and letting it slide, because he loves you. Not to say that it isn't going into the 'dodged a bullet' report when it is all said and done.

If you have cap "crap" then perhaps you should call yourself out on it privately and fix it? ...and you know what, he still does not have to notice it or acknowledge it. You let go of silly, silly is gone and the good times roll. Right?

Don't put a lighting rod out there. If you have a gentle concern bring it up...gently, he should respond in like, gently, and don't nag billy goat. In other words don't get confrontational if you don't want to have a confrontation. We hate that, and will avoid it, but are FULLY capable of laying it all out there. Not pretty.

Posted by AquaMermaid
@TrueCap you understand Aquarians better than anyone here. I applaud you for your patience. If I were a guy, I would never let go of you. Aquarians are silent observers.Even if you think he hasn't noticed,I can assure you he sees everything. We are NOT the ones to verbalise our emotions, reason being we see emotions as display of vulnerability or weakness. He doesn't pick on you for your mistakes because he is grateful for your love and understanding. If I start calling out on people's crap I'll have no one around.Aquarians, atleast myself hate confrontations with passion. We don't thrive on drama.If I love someone truly, I overlook their flaws. I am brutal when I am pushed to react. The words do a lot of harm. I will hold back if I care for that person. It's sad people want Aquarians to react just to know if they have emotions. We most certainly do but we have pride as well. We won't act like a clown just to prove we have feelings. Aquarius is an intellectual sign. We use head more than heart. We plan career advancement,personality development,financial security etc. Aquarian mind is always busy and mental equilibrium is very important. Drama and tantrums just throws it off balance. And when an intellectual sign's mind is disturbed we go silent and retreat to the cave. The clue is not to push and be aggressive. Be a partner, let him know you're going to be there in every adventure he wants to take. Don't insult his silence,appreciate his unconditional devotion. He won't use words to assure you instead he'll prove it in actions. I am with a Scorpio and he has learned to read my mind,my heart and my silence over two and half years of togetherness. He never left patience and that's why I surrendered to him eventually. It takes years to break down the walls Aquarians create and once it breaks down,you'll see the world that most people aren't even aware exists.

And what is that world like.

Man what a thread lol

Posted by AquaMermaid
@ IAM Only for partners, a world where there is no holding back emotions,ecstasy,passion and intensity.

That's heaven right there.

Gosh i wish i could see what aqua man is like when he lets his guard down. 🙂

Deepest I've gotten out of him was a shouting match and him freaking out when he thought something bad happened to me. I still get told about that story to this day and I still don't believe it because I can't even imagine him pacing around, asking everyone i knew if they've heard from me etc.

I have always been told despite the many romantic things I do for a partner...that I am "unromantic" ....that they don't feel they are getting what they need.

OKAY

What do you want? I'd do anything for you just tell me...

WTF is so hard about doing that?
I am a very perceptive person with people but it doesn't make me a mind reader.

Women always find something to question. Okay then ask me to do it.

IS is right... I won't lie it is easy for us at times to imagine everything is absolutely rosey because we are doing everything you supposedly want... so we might neglect to pay attention to a personal cue because we are busy accomplishing "something" w/e the hell it is.

Just CALL US OUT ON IT

You see the one thing that baffles the hell out of me is... Do you not realize you have a LOYAL partner, who HAS YOUR BACK, looks past your faults when you act RIDICULOUS, does just about ANYTHING you ask...

I mean do you want a passionate year that will fizzle or a loyal and caring partner is not quite as emotive.

I mean we're looking past stuff we see in you...
Can't you give us a break in that regard?

Sorry I'm just a tad frustrated

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I have always been told despite the many romantic things I do for a partner...that I am "unromantic" ....that they don't feel they are getting what they need.

OKAY

What do you want? I'd do anything for you just tell me...

WTF is so hard about doing that?
I am a very perceptive person with people but it doesn't make me a mind reader.

Women always find something to question. Okay then ask me to do it.

IS is right... I won't lie it is easy for us at times to imagine everything is absolutely rosey because we are doing everything you supposedly want... so we might neglect to pay attention to a personal cue because we are busy accomplishing "something" w/e the hell it is.

Just CALL US OUT ON IT

You see the one thing that baffles the hell out of me is... Do you not realize you have a LOYAL partner, who HAS YOUR BACK, looks past your faults when you act RIDICULOUS, does just about ANYTHING you ask...

I mean do you want a passionate year that will fizzle or a loyal and caring partner is not quite as emotive.

I mean we're looking past stuff we see in you...
Can't you give us a break in that regard?

Sorry I'm just a tad frustrated

+1 million

Especially the part about busy accomplishing something we neglect to pay attention to a personal cue.

Aqua's are loyal, I can take a secret to the grave, always have my partners and friends back and can look over faults just because I love you that person so much.

Not sure what people need sometimes, give them everything and it's still not good enough.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I have always been told despite the many romantic things I do for a partner...that I am "unromantic" ....that they don't feel they are getting what they need.

OKAY

What do you want? I'd do anything for you just tell me...

WTF is so hard about doing that?
I am a very perceptive person with people but it doesn't make me a mind reader.

Women always find something to question. Okay then ask me to do it.

IS is right... I won't lie it is easy for us at times to imagine everything is absolutely rosey because we are doing everything you supposedly want... so we might neglect to pay attention to a personal cue because we are busy accomplishing "something" w/e the hell it is.

Just CALL US OUT ON IT

You see the one thing that baffles the hell out of me is... Do you not realize you have a LOYAL partner, who HAS YOUR BACK, looks past your faults when you act RIDICULOUS, does just about ANYTHING you ask...

I mean do you want a passionate year that will fizzle or a loyal and caring partner is not quite as emotive.

I mean we're looking past stuff we see in you...
Can't you give us a break in that regard?

Sorry I'm just a tad frustrated

Truth ^

I just can't relate to some of you all. Loving someone for me, doesn't = overlooking faults. I am very vocal about the things I don't like. I don't yell or scream, though. I just matter of fact state that I don't like a, b & c. I guess love doesn't really make me give the person I'm in love with, special treatment. I'm the same way with friends & family. If they do something I don't like, I will speak up. I also expect them to call me out on my crap, as well. No special favours.

Just trying to get where you all are coming from, when you say you overlook things when in love...what sort of things are we talking about here?

Personally, I have low tolerance for A LOT of things. Can't imagine letting stuff I'm not okay with, just roll off my back. Plus I have very high standards when it comes to love, so overlooking stuff just wouldn't work for me. I strive for the perfect partner lol & don't mind leaving someone I'm in love with if they don't meet most of my ideals. Or if they constantly rub me the wrong way. I do not EVER look the other way. Love alone is nothing as far as I'm concerned.

Wow. I'm overwhelmed by the comments. I appreciate yall's honesty and openness. I appreciate your support and encouragement - more than yall know. Some of your comments actually brought me to tears because they feel so heartfelt.

I think I really needed some encouragement and I do see what you're saying and it helps me to see that I am important to him because he is tolerant of me (a lesson I need to mirror obviously) and he is kind to me and supportive and he's there. Just there for me when I need him.

You guys have no idea how much this thread has helped me climb up out of this hole I was falling into (capricorn hazard) and has opened my eyes a lot and has given me more to appreciate in him.

Thank you all so much!! I feel a lot better and have a new perspective. I wouldn't have that if yall hadn't been there for me, so thank you. Each and every one of you.

Posted by WaterCup
I just can't relate to some of you all. Loving someone for me, doesn't = overlooking faults. I am very vocal about the things I don't like. I don't yell or scream, though. I just matter of fact state that I don't like a, b & c. I guess love doesn't really make me give the person I'm in love with, special treatment. I'm the same way with friends & family. If they do something I don't like, I will speak up. I also expect them to call me out on my crap, as well. No special favours.

Just trying to get where you all are coming from, when you say you overlook things when in love...what sort of things are we talking about here?

Personally, I have low tolerance for A LOT of things. Can't imagine letting stuff I'm not okay with, just roll off my back. Plus I have very high standards when it comes to love, so overlooking stuff just wouldn't work for me. I strive for the perfect partner lol & don't mind leaving someone I'm in love with if they don't meet most of my ideals. Or if they constantly rub me the wrong way. I do not EVER look the other way. Love alone is nothing as far as I'm concerned.

Where is are your mercury and venus watercup? Do you think maybe that's what makes you different from the others?

I'm more used to people like you and that's why it took me for a loop when I realized he never complained or brought up anything I did that bothered him.

Posted by truecap

Posted by WaterCup
I just can't relate to some of you all. Loving someone for me, doesn't = overlooking faults. I am very vocal about the things I don't like. I don't yell or scream, though. I just matter of fact state that I don't like a, b & c. I guess love doesn't really make me give the person I'm in love with, special treatment. I'm the same way with friends & family. If they do something I don't like, I will speak up. I also expect them to call me out on my crap, as well. No special favours.

Just trying to get where you all are coming from, when you say you overlook things when in love...what sort of things are we talking about here?

Personally, I have low tolerance for A LOT of things. Can't imagine letting stuff I'm not okay with, just roll off my back. Plus I have very high standards when it comes to love, so overlooking stuff just wouldn't work for me. I strive for the perfect partner lol & don't mind leaving someone I'm in love with if they don't meet most of my ideals. Or if they constantly rub me the wrong way. I do not EVER look the other way. Love alone is nothing as far as I'm concerned.

Where is are your mercury and venus watercup? Do you think maybe that's what makes you different from the others?

I'm more used to people like you and that's why it took me for a loop when I realized he never complained or brought up anything I did that bothered him.

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My mercury is in Capricorn & venus in Sagittarius. Plus I have a stellium in the 8th & 9th house, so I'm very straight forward. I also think that's where the difference lies.

Oh, I have a mercury in capricorn too. Pretty straight forward and to the point, yet kind. It sees the big picture and doesn't put up with a lot of crap of any kind. Can be blunt and harsh when it's called for, but it is honest. That's how I am anyway.

Yeah, I think it's your mercury.

Posted by truecap
Oh, I have a mercury in capricorn too. Pretty straight forward and to the point, yet kind. It sees the big picture and doesn't put up with a lot of crap of any kind. Can be blunt and harsh when it's called for, but it is honest. That's how I am anyway.

Yeah, I think it's your mercury.

I'm the same way too. Don't ask me if you look fat in anything because if I think you are, I'll tell ya. LOL!

My aqua cousin once stopped talking to me because apparently I was "rude" to her then boyfriend. All I did was being honest. He invited me to his 21st birthday party, infront of her & I said "no". He asked "why" & I replied that I don't like him & thought he was smooth. A liar. Turned out I was right. He was lying to her all along.

So whatever. I don't care when people take offence when I'm being upfront. Their issue & not mine. Do you know how hard it is to pretend everything is just fine when in reality it isnt? VERY. So I just speak my mind, take it or leave it. My whole family, boyfriends & friends know that about me. I've never been dumped because of it either. Men love me 😛

@Watercup

I'm the same way. If someone asks me for my opinion i'll give it. I've made alot of enemies that way and they were the one asking for my opinion! LOL.

@trucap I'm glad you feel better. I guess its just your aqua bf isn't one to make a big deal about every "fall off the wagon" kind of situation. It's like you said, will you ever get used to that and that semi emptiness feeling not reacting gives us. The other side of that is, maybe we feel empty because reactions even getting yelled at back is what we are used to whether its the right reaction or not.

I don't like being yelled at but in some weird funky way, at least I know their opinion and it helps me understand them more. If i get no reaction I feel out of sorts.

But like I said I'm glad you feel better.