Why has he become distant?

Aqua guy had a massive crush on me for a year. Very young, never had a girlfriend (I'm a lot older and divorced, but look very young - he knows my real age). At first I ignored him but he was always around, listening, laughing at my jokes, gazing into my eyes, etc. Yet when I spoke to him he would get so scared and nervous...it took months for us just to have a conversation. He is incredibly shy, even with people he sees every day - very withdrawn and introverted (Scorpio Moon). He would always make contact with me, though, sometimes just with a deep look.

Eventually we started chatting and texting and we would text every few days for a couple of hours - he was always online in the evening, waiting to chat. We were really bonding. A week ago he was talking enthusiastically about hiking, which we both like, so I suggested he join me on my next hike. He said yes please, I should just tell him when I was going. And just like that, he suddenly got very distant. Wasn't online to chat. Wasn't different to me in person, still smiled, laughed, etc. But the 'stalking' stopped. Last night I texted him because he started his first job and he said it went okay, he's just nervous they expect too much from him. After five minutes, he went silent. I said, "Hey, listen, if it's too weird we'll stop chatting, I really don't want to force a friendship if it feels weird." He said, "No, please don't worry, I love chatting, it's just that I forgot to text back, I was reading something and my mind is all over the place..." Previously, he was quite attentive on text, with occasional lapses. My guess is that he's freaking out because shit got real and he's just not ready?

I haven't chased him - on the contrary, it took a year for me to respond to his shy advances. I reckon I should just give him lots and lots of space. But what I want to know is - why the distance? I'm Scorpio with Gemini Moon and Sagittarius Rising, so I understand the need for space and I haven't bombarded him with texts, etc.

Posted by MaggieJean
Aqua guy had a massive crush on me for a year. Very young, never had a girlfriend (I'm a lot older and divorced, but look very young - he knows my real age). At first I ignored him but he was always around, listening, laughing at my jokes, gazing into my eyes, etc. Yet when I spoke to him he would get so scared and nervous...it took months for us just to have a conversation. He is incredibly shy, even with people he sees every day - very withdrawn and introverted (Scorpio Moon). He would always make contact with me, though, sometimes just with a deep look.

Eventually we started chatting and texting and we would text every few days for a couple of hours - he was always online in the evening, waiting to chat. We were really bonding. A week ago he was talking enthusiastically about hiking, which we both like, so I suggested he join me on my next hike. He said yes please, I should just tell him when I was going. And just like that, he suddenly got very distant. Wasn't online to chat. Wasn't different to me in person, still smiled, laughed, etc. But the 'stalking' stopped. Last night I texted him because he started his first job and he said it went okay, he's just nervous they expect too much from him. After five minutes, he went silent. I said, "Hey, listen, if it's too weird we'll stop chatting, I really don't want to force a friendship if it feels weird." He said, "No, please don't worry, I love chatting, it's just that I forgot to text back, I was reading something and my mind is all over the place..." Previously, he was quite attentive on text, with occasional lapses. My guess is that he's freaking out because shit got real and he's just not ready?

I haven't chased him - on the contrary, it took a year for me to respond to his shy advances. I reckon I should just give him lots and lots of space. But what I want to know is - why the distance? I'm Scorpio with Gemini Moon and Sagittarius Rising, so I understand the need for space and I haven't bombarded him with texts, etc.

yeah he sounds like he got scared of falling for you at this point. i guess some men are just afraid. your intuition was right.

I'm an Aqua with Scorpio moon, is he friends with your son? He may not want to be too serious in case it would jeopardise his friendship.

you just need to get used to our courtship, he's liked you for a really long time so that means you've been in his head which means when you have sex with him he's scared you might become a stranger to him because like you said he's concerned shit might get real.

If I were you I would focus more on the times that he txt you than the 5 minuites hiatus, or just everything in general when it comes to your Aqua just focus on the stuff he does than the stuff he doesn't and I promise you the good shit will flow because we like to deliver on our own terms and not when someone is demanding, this could be an obstacle for two fixed signs, I notice it very much amongst fixed signs, I know I'm like that with Leo's, Taurus and Scorpio. My boyfriend is libra with Gemini moon and a lot of Scorpio placements, I like libran flexibility to make relationships work, perhaps you need to show that you can provide a stable relationship if that's what you want.

Oh boy... Aquas get vibes or sense things and they go with that. He must've sensed something that was off (for him-- quirky bunch) and that's it. It's as simple as that.