How to properly handle Aries male in FWB relationship?

So I’m a Aries female, my birthday is April 14th. I’m 21 and this would be my first fwb relationship and my first time dealing with a Aries male. He’s a older man, 45 but I don’t know what’s his birthday, but he did tell me he’s an Aries. We met 2 weeks ago at his business that he owned. He aggressively flirted with me, like very aggressive, I’m a Aries but it shocked me hoe bold he was. Rubbing on my thigh, telling me that he wanted me and what he wanted to do to me. Long story short, I haven’t had sex in years and I was very horny and curious so I gave him my number and we agreed that we both wanted a friends with benefits relationship. He texted me all the time for a few days, checking up on me, being sweet, and flirty. Then we finally met up. We had some very passionate sex, it was amazing. He checked up on me the next day to make sure I was okay. Then after that he stopped contacting me but responds if I text first. He will call me to respond to a message and it will be short and he said he would call me back but doesn’t, he’s done that multiple times. He doesn’t initiate contact anymore. When I complained that he always says he’s gonna call or text and doesn’t, He said he’s busy all the time cause he works. And we got into a little argument about it. He sounded irritated with me and said “Ok, you said what you said, it ain’t that serious!” and I apologized and just said I’m just speaking my mind and being honest with him that’s all. He just responded ok. And he said I like to text but he doesn’t.

So my question is since I don’t have experience with Aries men or this type of relationship how to I properly handle it so he can stay interested and want to keep having sex? Does his lack of communication means that he’s not interested anymore? Also if he’s mad at me for complaining how can I make it up? I’m an Aries but I’m just confused, he said that he wants to be FWB but hasn’t contacted me for another meetup, does he want me to contact first?

Posted by Arielle83

He just wants to fuck. He will text you to fuck.

He doesn’t need all the “how was your day?” Bs.

You’re not his gf. Just stick to sex when he calls you.

Don’t tell him your feelings. In fact, don’t have any feelings.

But don’t lie and say you want fwb when really you want more.

I don’t want a relationship. I really do want a fwb relationship. I’ve had the opportunity to have a bf multiple times but that’s not what I wan. I’m just new to it so I thought I did something wrong the night we had sex (I’m also sexually inexperienced) and that was the reason he didn’t contact me like he use to, that’s all. This is new for me but I’m trying to learn.

Posted by Arielle83

He just wants to fuck. He will text you to fuck.

He doesn’t need all the “how was your day?” Bs.

You’re not his gf. Just stick to sex when he calls you.

Don’t tell him your feelings. In fact, don’t have any feelings.

But don’t lie and say you want fwb when really you want more.

I also never texted him asking how his day was at all, he told me to contact him and keep him updated on my job search that’s why I was texting him.

Thanks everyone for your comments, I’m really learning. Sorry if I sound dumb or naive. I’m very inexperienced as you can see.

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And he said I like to text but he doesn’t.

So my question is since I don’t have experience with Aries men or this type of relationship how to I properly handle it so he can stay interested and want to keep having sex? Does his lack of communication means that he’s not interested anymore? Also if he’s mad at me for complaining how can I make it up? I’m an Aries but I’m just confused, he said that he wants to be FWB but hasn’t contacted me for another meetup, does he want me to contact first?

you are acting like he is your bf he isn't he doesn't want to be

he will text you when he is horny

Please have nothing more to do with him.

That is what fwb is....the occasional one night stand. Nothing more.



Don't let yourself be used.

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I know we aren’t boyfriend and girlfriend and it’s just sex. Like I said I’m new to this and learning. I enjoyed the sex we had and I would do it again. I haven’t text him since and will not bother him anymore. I don’t feel used. I will back off and if he wants to do it again I will be fine with that. I now understand and have no problem being fwb.

Posted by nanorobot

He’s a lot older. Diff generation, he’s probably not into texting all the time.

Unless you set clear expectations, you put yourself into this grey area.

FWB aren’t meant to be texting all the time. You fuck when it’s convenient, he isn’t your boyfriend or husband

Since you didn’t state your terms, and lashed out at him... balls in his court. Now he is in charge of what to do next.

Next time: be smarter and more prepared - set expectations so this doesn’t happen again.

I completely agree with you, thanks for the advice. We did talk beforehand and set expectations but I did forget to ask more questions on my part, I admit that. He said he wants fwb and I agreed. He also said he wants to be the only person I have sex with, is that normal? And I didn’t know he didn’t like texting but he told me after the argument and now I know. I haven’t bothered him since and that was that was this morning. I’m not gonna bother him anymore.

Posted by nanorobot

He’s a lot older. Diff generation, he’s probably not into texting all the time.

Unless you set clear expectations, you put yourself into this grey area.

FWB aren’t meant to be texting all the time. You fuck when it’s convenient, he isn’t your boyfriend or husband

Since you didn’t state your terms, and lashed out at him... balls in his court. Now he is in charge of what to do next.

Next time: be smarter and more prepared - set expectations so this doesn’t happen again.

I completely agree with you, thanks for the advice. We did talk beforehand and set expectations but I did forget to ask more questions on my part, I admit that. He said he wants fwb and I agreed. He also said he wants to be the only person I have sex with, is that normal? And I didn’t know he didn’t like texting but he told me after the argument and now I know. I haven’t bothered him since and that was that was this morning. I’m not gonna bother him anymore.

Posted by nanorobot

He’s a lot older. Diff generation, he’s probably not into texting all the time.

Unless you set clear expectations, you put yourself into this grey area.

FWB aren’t meant to be texting all the time. You fuck when it’s convenient, he isn’t your boyfriend or husband

Since you didn’t state your terms, and lashed out at him... balls in his court. Now he is in charge of what to do next.

Next time: be smarter and more prepared - set expectations so this doesn’t happen again.

We did discuss expectations before we had sex. He said that he wanted a ongoing FWB which I agreed to. He also said he only wants me to have sex with him and no one else is that normal? He said he wanted me to keep in contact about my job search and that’s why I was texting him, before that I only texted him after he initiated contact. He did let me know that he doesn’t like texting but that was after the little argument. I haven’t bothered him since and won’t bother him, if he wants to do it again I will, if not I’ll be fine.

Posted by poeticseraphim

Honestly he just sounds like he didn't treat you with respect.

I mean the whole over the top flirting and touching etc ...

I liked it, I thought it was sexy, I guess cause I’m a Aries too, i don’t know but I’ve always found that sexy.

Posted by Arielle83

I’d be asking what you’re getting out of this.

You can have sex with whoever you want.

Why focus on him?

My plan has been to have a fwb and to seriously date also. Cause I’m always horny and have a high sex drive but I don’t want to ruin having a serious relationship because I jump onto bed too fast with one of my dates. I want to date and look for someone serious, take my time. And to have the fwb to satisfy my sexual needs until o find a bf. I know I can have anyone else. He’s just been the only guy to catch my attention to be my fwb, the sex was amazing and he’s sexy to me. If it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine. I just can’t have sex with more than one person I feel disgusting if I do it, so I only wanted one fwb while I date.

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Honestly he just sounds like he didn't treat you with respect.

I mean the whole over the top flirting and touching etc ...

I liked it, I thought it was sexy, I guess cause I’m a Aries too, i don’t know but I’ve always found that sexy.

OK

well lots of other guys can give you that

i think this guy will just hurt you or frustrate you ..you deserve more and trying to get guys to do what you want etc ...playing games ..its not a good thing.

You stated your needs plainly etc. He can't meet them or doesn't want to.

If you keep trying to keep him interested ..i think you will be hurt.

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I’m just new to all of this and was confused and needed advice, and I appreciate all of the advice. I was frustrated at first but now I understand and I’m fine with it now that I know what to expect from him. I just had thought I did something wrong the night we had sex, cause I’m very inexperienced and I didn’t want to disappoint him or anyone I have sex with, I was nervous. So that’s why I thought he didn’t want to talk, he said that that’s not it at all. I’m fine with us not keeping in contact if it’s just for sex. If he wouldn’t told me that beforehand I would’ve been fine but now that I know I’m good. I just want a fwb on the side while I seriously date. I’m always horny and I also wanted to gain sexual experience and practice, I really enjoyed the sex, it was my first tine having intense orgasms for intercourses. But if he don’t want to do it again I’ll be okay too.

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Posted by Arielle83

I’d be asking what you’re getting out of this.

You can have sex with whoever you want.

Why focus on him?

My plan has been to have a fwb and to seriously date also. Cause I’m always horny and have a high sex drive but I don’t want to ruin having a serious relationship because I jump onto bed too fast with one of my dates. I want to date and look for someone serious, take my time. And to have the fwb to satisfy my sexual needs until o find a bf. I know I can have anyone else. He’s just been the only guy to catch my attention to be my fwb, the sex was amazing and he’s sexy to me. If it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine. I just can’t have sex with more than one person I feel disgusting if I do it, so I only wanted one fwb while I date.

As long as you’re honest with people, it shouldn’t be hard.

But the fwb, is usually not a stranger. It’s usually someone you know, and have no romantic feelings for, but are available for nsa sex.

There’s no need to continue a fwb, with a stranger, after a hook up. They can just find a new one.

If you think having sex with more than one person at a time is disgusting to you, because you worry about your reputation, it would be wise not to just pick up with the first guy that says yes.

It’s your vagina and you should learn how to properly screen who should go near it. You don’t know what a 45 yr old man, hanging at a bar, has on his dick.

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We didn’t meet at a bar, he is the owner of the salon where I get my hair done. He also wasn’t the first person to say yes to a fwb with me. I’ve been offered plenty of times but I was trying to maintain being abstinent but I recently changed my mind. The reason I didn’t choose a friend that I know is cause I am emotionally attached to my friends and I didn’t want to develop strong feelings and ruin the friendship. Also I did screen him, I made him get tested for STDs and STIs, we did it together before we had sex, that’s all I wanted to know. So I’ve just told me he wants to continue with us having sex, is that a bad idea?

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Posted by Arielle83

I’d be asking what you’re getting out of this.

You can have sex with whoever you want.

Why focus on him?

My plan has been to have a fwb and to seriously date also. Cause I’m always horny and have a high sex drive but I don’t want to ruin having a serious relationship because I jump onto bed too fast with one of my dates. I want to date and look for someone serious, take my time. And to have the fwb to satisfy my sexual needs until o find a bf. I know I can have anyone else. He’s just been the only guy to catch my attention to be my fwb, the sex was amazing and he’s sexy to me. If it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine. I just can’t have sex with more than one person I feel disgusting if I do it, so I only wanted one fwb while I date.

There’s no need to continue a fwb, with a stranger, after a hook up. They can just find a new one.



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Its probably why he chose a person he didn't know.

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He just told me a couple of mins ago that he wants to continue us having sex, as long as I’m not having sex with anyone else. I chose him and not a friend of mine cause I have strong emotional connections with all of my guy fiends, I always care strongly for all of my fiends and I was scared of ruining our friendships.

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I’d be asking what you’re getting out of this.

You can have sex with whoever you want.

Why focus on him?

My plan has been to have a fwb and to seriously date also. Cause I’m always horny and have a high sex drive but I don’t want to ruin having a serious relationship because I jump onto bed too fast with one of my dates. I want to date and look for someone serious, take my time. And to have the fwb to satisfy my sexual needs until o find a bf. I know I can have anyone else. He’s just been the only guy to catch my attention to be my fwb, the sex was amazing and he’s sexy to me. If it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine. I just can’t have sex with more than one person I feel disgusting if I do it, so I only wanted one fwb while I date.

There’s no need to continue a fwb, with a stranger, after a hook up. They can just find a new one.



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Its probably why he chose a person he didn't know.

He just told me a couple of mins ago that he wants to continue us having sex, as long as I’m not having sex with anyone else. I chose him and not a friend of mine cause I have strong emotional connections with all of my guy fiends, I always care strongly for all of my fiends and I was scared of ruining our friendships.

I think it will only work for you if he has no power over you..i mean if you are not afraid to lose whatever this is

if you want to win ...you have to be ok with losing..

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You’re right. After all this advice I sat back and realized all this paranoid really stemmed from me being ashamed about my lack of sexual experience. I’ve been made fun of by guys my age in the past for not being sexually skilled. I was so scared of being embarrassed or being so terrible At it, and his age and experience made me even more nervous. He was very polite and accommodating through the whole thing, and trying to teach me things and giving me tips. So I just need to stop being paranoid and accept that I’m still learning sexually and it’s ok.

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Posted by Arielle83

I’d be asking what you’re getting out of this.

You can have sex with whoever you want.

Why focus on him?

My plan has been to have a fwb and to seriously date also. Cause I’m always horny and have a high sex drive but I don’t want to ruin having a serious relationship because I jump onto bed too fast with one of my dates. I want to date and look for someone serious, take my time. And to have the fwb to satisfy my sexual needs until o find a bf. I know I can have anyone else. He’s just been the only guy to catch my attention to be my fwb, the sex was amazing and he’s sexy to me. If it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine. I just can’t have sex with more than one person I feel disgusting if I do it, so I only wanted one fwb while I date.

Sounds you have abandonment issues and other issues. Who wants to date somebody who has a fwb on the side? Only someone with zero self respect.

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Ive never been abandoned before, I’ve came from a happy family. I would stop the fwb when I get into a serious relationship. I wanted a fwb while I date because I don’t want to jump into bed quickly with a potential bf because I’m horny all the time. I want to take it slow with my dating.

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I’d be asking what you’re getting out of this.

You can have sex with whoever you want.

Why focus on him?

My plan has been to have a fwb and to seriously date also. Cause I’m always horny and have a high sex drive but I don’t want to ruin having a serious relationship because I jump onto bed too fast with one of my dates. I want to date and look for someone serious, take my time. And to have the fwb to satisfy my sexual needs until o find a bf. I know I can have anyone else. He’s just been the only guy to catch my attention to be my fwb, the sex was amazing and he’s sexy to me. If it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine. I just can’t have sex with more than one person I feel disgusting if I do it, so I only wanted one fwb while I date.

As long as you’re honest with people, it shouldn’t be hard.

But the fwb, is usually not a stranger. It’s usually someone you know, and have no romantic feelings for, but are available for nsa sex.

There’s no need to continue a fwb, with a stranger, after a hook up. They can just find a new one.

If you think having sex with more than one person at a time is disgusting to you, because you worry about your reputation, it would be wise not to just pick up with the first guy that says yes.

It’s your vagina and you should learn how to properly screen who should go near it. You don’t know what a 45 yr old man, hanging at a bar, has on his dick.

We didn’t meet at a bar, he is the owner of the salon where I get my hair done. He also wasn’t the first person to say yes to a fwb with me. I’ve been offered plenty of times but I was trying to maintain being abstinent but I recently changed my mind. The reason I didn’t choose a friend that I know is cause I am emotionally attached to my friends and I didn’t want to develop strong feelings and ruin the friendship. Also I did screen him, I made him get tested for STDs and STIs, we did it together before we had sex, that’s all I wanted to know. So I’ve just told me he wants to continue with us having sex, is that a bad idea?

Why would it be a bad idea?

You seam like you know exactly what you want and he is giving it to you.

Text him when you are horny and want to have sex and he will do the same.

Otherwise don’t contact him or get upset if he is busy.

Have fun 😉

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I will definitely do that, lesson learned. Haven’t bothered him since then and don’t plan on to. Hopefully I didn’t push him away. The sex was amazing and intense, he was teaching me a lot. How can I show my maturity after how I bothered him?

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I’d be asking what you’re getting out of this.

You can have sex with whoever you want.

Why focus on him?

My plan has been to have a fwb and to seriously date also. Cause I’m always horny and have a high sex drive but I don’t want to ruin having a serious relationship because I jump onto bed too fast with one of my dates. I want to date and look for someone serious, take my time. And to have the fwb to satisfy my sexual needs until o find a bf. I know I can have anyone else. He’s just been the only guy to catch my attention to be my fwb, the sex was amazing and he’s sexy to me. If it doesn’t work out I’ll be fine. I just can’t have sex with more than one person I feel disgusting if I do it, so I only wanted one fwb while I date.

As long as you’re honest with people, it shouldn’t be hard.

But the fwb, is usually not a stranger. It’s usually someone you know, and have no romantic feelings for, but are available for nsa sex.

There’s no need to continue a fwb, with a stranger, after a hook up. They can just find a new one.

If you think having sex with more than one person at a time is disgusting to you, because you worry about your reputation, it would be wise not to just pick up with the first guy that says yes.

It’s your vagina and you should learn how to properly screen who should go near it. You don’t know what a 45 yr old man, hanging at a bar, has on his dick.

We didn’t meet at a bar, he is the owner of the salon where I get my hair done. He also wasn’t the first person to say yes to a fwb with me. I’ve been offered plenty of times but I was trying to maintain being abstinent but I recently changed my mind. The reason I didn’t choose a friend that I know is cause I am emotionally attached to my friends and I didn’t want to develop strong feelings and ruin the friendship. Also I did screen him, I made him get tested for STDs and STIs, we did it together before we had sex, that’s all I wanted to know. So I’ve just told me he wants to continue with us having sex, is that a bad idea?

Why would it be a bad idea?

You seam like you know exactly what you want and he is giving it to you.

Text him when you are horny and want to have sex and he will do the same.

Otherwise don’t contact him or get upset if he is busy.

Have fun 😉

I will definitely do that, lesson learned. Haven’t bothered him since then and don’t plan on to. Hopefully I didn’t push him away. The sex was amazing and intense, he was teaching me a lot. How can I show my maturity after how I bothered him?

You don’t have to show or do anything. The less you do the better. Just keep it really light.

Remember that he should consider himself extremely lucky to have you 😉

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Thanks for the advice. This is so new to me, can’t ask my friends for advice because if they know it’s a older man they automatically think it’s disgusting. I’m just disappointed in myself cause I’m always mature and nonchalant and I didn’t want to seem clingy or overbearing. During my time of the month I can get feisty for no reason but I backed off since.The sex had my legs shaking so hopefully it happens again lol

Posted by Timon

Aries men like the chase. It has become boring for him now. Now you're just a girl nagging on him.

And as for the keeping a fwb because you don't want to ruin things with the guy you're dating. I'm pretty sure the guy would find it worse if you're sleeping with another man than instead of him lol.

I’m just going on dates but haven’t found anyone yet to be serious with, no luck so far. If I did, I would stop the fwb and have sex with that guy. I just don’t want to have sex on the first date because of how horny I be, I want to take it slow when I find the right guy. And I only bagged him once yesterday, but I apologized and stopped, hopefully I haven’t ruined everything, I haven’t bothered him since and won’t again.

You keep saying you're looking for a boyfriend because you're horny all the time and a FWB will do until you find one. Well this is somewhat backwards. You obviously are not cut out for a FWB relationship because of the way you are acting over this Aries guy who is a FWB. Why don't you stop the FWB thing and concentrate on finding a real bf to meet your sexual needs? You were quick to have sex with this Aries so why not a guy who actually wants a relationship with you? Aries men like the chase. Anything that comes easy to them is not of much value. They don't like to be chased but to do the chasing and win a prize. Anything too easy is not a prize to them. Your emotions are already too involved after one sex session. You are not a good candidate for a FWB relationship, especially with an Aries man.

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You keep saying you're looking for a boyfriend because you're horny all the time and a FWB will do until you find one. Well this is somewhat backwards. You obviously are not cut out for a FWB relationship because of the way you are acting over this Aries guy who is a FWB. Why don't you stop the FWB thing and concentrate on finding a real bf to meet your sexual needs? You were quick to have sex with this Aries so why not a guy who actually wants a relationship with you? Aries men like the chase. Anything that comes easy to them is not of much value. They don't like to be chased but to do the chasing and win a prize. Anything too easy is not a prize to them. Your emotions are already too involved after one sex session. You are not a good candidate for a FWB relationship, especially with an Aries man.

My emotions are not involved in the way you think. I overreacted a bit, not drastically cause I thought I did something wrong the night we had sex. My insecurity from being sexually inexperienced got in the way, I thought that’s why he wasn’t contacting me. But I realized it wasn’t a big deal. I only bothered him once about communication and apologized and haven’t bothered him since, and I’m fine with not hearing from him. I’m fine with not having a boyfriend, I know I’m not ready for commitment from past experience. That’s why I’m not in a rush. I just enjoyed the sex we had and learning. If it doesn’t happen again I’ll be fine, if it does I’ll be fine also.

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You keep saying you're looking for a boyfriend because you're horny all the time and a FWB will do until you find one. Well this is somewhat backwards. You obviously are not cut out for a FWB relationship because of the way you are acting over this Aries guy who is a FWB. Why don't you stop the FWB thing and concentrate on finding a real bf to meet your sexual needs? You were quick to have sex with this Aries so why not a guy who actually wants a relationship with you? Aries men like the chase. Anything that comes easy to them is not of much value. They don't like to be chased but to do the chasing and win a prize. Anything too easy is not a prize to them. Your emotions are already too involved after one sex session. You are not a good candidate for a FWB relationship, especially with an Aries man.

Also after having sex that night with him, I was able to think clearly when going on a date. When I get date, I’m looking for something serious, beforehand I was do horny all the time I was thinking about only sex and not getting to know the guy. I don’t want the relationship to start of with me having sex too fast. I want to take it slow and get to know them. I’m learning, never dealt with a Aries male before. I’m starting to see that he likes me to initiate meeting up for sex first.

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You keep saying you're looking for a boyfriend because you're horny all the time and a FWB will do until you find one. Well this is somewhat backwards. You obviously are not cut out for a FWB relationship because of the way you are acting over this Aries guy who is a FWB. Why don't you stop the FWB thing and concentrate on finding a real bf to meet your sexual needs? You were quick to have sex with this Aries so why not a guy who actually wants a relationship with you? Aries men like the chase. Anything that comes easy to them is not of much value. They don't like to be chased but to do the chasing and win a prize. Anything too easy is not a prize to them. Your emotions are already too involved after one sex session. You are not a good candidate for a FWB relationship, especially with an Aries man.

Clinginess and desperation, as well as weak judgement are the ultimate turn offs for Aries men.

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Like I said before I haven’t bothered him since and I’m not going to. Lesson learned, this is a new experience for me and I’m learning. I apologized and not gonna let it happen again.

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You keep saying you're looking for a boyfriend because you're horny all the time and a FWB will do until you find one. Well this is somewhat backwards. You obviously are not cut out for a FWB relationship because of the way you are acting over this Aries guy who is a FWB. Why don't you stop the FWB thing and concentrate on finding a real bf to meet your sexual needs? You were quick to have sex with this Aries so why not a guy who actually wants a relationship with you? Aries men like the chase. Anything that comes easy to them is not of much value. They don't like to be chased but to do the chasing and win a prize. Anything too easy is not a prize to them. Your emotions are already too involved after one sex session. You are not a good candidate for a FWB relationship, especially with an Aries man.

My emotions are not involved in the way you think. I overreacted a bit, not drastically cause I thought I did something wrong the night we had sex. My insecurity from being sexually inexperienced got in the way, I thought that’s why he wasn’t contacting me. But I realized it wasn’t a big deal. I only bothered him once about communication and apologized and haven’t bothered him since, and I’m fine with not hearing from him. I’m fine with not having a boyfriend, I know I’m not ready for commitment from past experience. That’s why I’m not in a rush. I just enjoyed the sex we had and learning. If it doesn’t happen again I’ll be fine, if it does I’ll be fine also.

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I agree to not worry about being sexually inexperienced. Most men will not mind that no matter what their age and want to teach you. If you want to be a FWB then contact him and make it clear you want sex. If he's busy at that time and can't do it then don't get upset. When he calls you for sex do it if you want, if not a good time don't be upset that you had to cancel. If you aren't ready for a boyfriend or commitment this should not be a problem for you.

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Op you need to change your message settings.

I did, I didn’t know it was set to that.

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You keep saying you're looking for a boyfriend because you're horny all the time and a FWB will do until you find one. Well this is somewhat backwards. You obviously are not cut out for a FWB relationship because of the way you are acting over this Aries guy who is a FWB. Why don't you stop the FWB thing and concentrate on finding a real bf to meet your sexual needs? You were quick to have sex with this Aries so why not a guy who actually wants a relationship with you? Aries men like the chase. Anything that comes easy to them is not of much value. They don't like to be chased but to do the chasing and win a prize. Anything too easy is not a prize to them. Your emotions are already too involved after one sex session. You are not a good candidate for a FWB relationship, especially with an Aries man.

Clinginess and desperation, as well as weak judgement are the ultimate turn offs for Aries men.

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Weakness, in general, is my ultimate turn off. Be it on any person, on any type of rship.

I really can't stand it, and i am very, very harsh when i see it. I just can't cope with it.

Weakness is the ultimate sign that you lost faith in yourself, on who you are, and if you can't even deal with yourself, how in hell are you going to deal with "me" ?

As for you OP, i don't see you as weak or anything like that, just young. I actually think it was quite brave from you to open up.

See things for what they are, nothing more. And in the end, you will see that you will grow stronger and wiser.

Posted by Sassysailorscout

You begged him for sex ?

That's kinda hott...

If you play into properly ... sexting ... your desire to have him is so strong and you need him right away or else you might have to find someone else fulfill your sexual needs .... pics alway help

Something like that.

Your young you already are the prize.

And inexperienced even better. No other men .. score !!!!!

Know your power own it.

Have a great experience and then tell him you have to go immediately after. Get hott and go out with friends.

but honestly get someone your own age.... like how boring old men are. 😒

Thanks for the advice. I’m working on not worrying about how inexperienced I am and just focus on my strengths. Oddly I’ve always been a shy Aries when it comes to sex or relationships but my confidence has gotten better and I will continue working on it. I haven’t been bothering him or anything since this post, I’m just letting things be. Also I know I will be judged for this but I’ve always had a thing for older men and wanted to try it out, he actually isn’t boring and the sex had my legs constantly shaking so I loved it.

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You keep saying you're looking for a boyfriend because you're horny all the time and a FWB will do until you find one. Well this is somewhat backwards. You obviously are not cut out for a FWB relationship because of the way you are acting over this Aries guy who is a FWB. Why don't you stop the FWB thing and concentrate on finding a real bf to meet your sexual needs? You were quick to have sex with this Aries so why not a guy who actually wants a relationship with you? Aries men like the chase. Anything that comes easy to them is not of much value. They don't like to be chased but to do the chasing and win a prize. Anything too easy is not a prize to them. Your emotions are already too involved after one sex session. You are not a good candidate for a FWB relationship, especially with an Aries man.

Clinginess and desperation, as well as weak judgement are the ultimate turn offs for Aries men.

Weakness, in general, is my ultimate turn off. Be it on any person, on any type of rship.

I really can't stand it, and i am very, very harsh when i see it. I just can't cope with it.

Weakness is the ultimate sign that you lost faith in yourself, on who you are, and if you can't even deal with yourself, how in hell are you going to deal with "me" ?

As for you OP, i don't see you as weak or anything like that, just young. I actually think it was quite brave from you to open up.

See things for what they are, nothing more. And in the end, you will see that you will grow stronger and wiser.

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You are completely right, I totally agree with you. I’m an Aries but have always been shy when it comes to sex and relationships. But I will work on my confidence and improve. I haven’t bothered him since this post, and just going right the flow. And if I get very horny, I’ll contact him and let him know, if it happens, it happens, if it doesn’t I’ll move on, I’m not gonna stress about it or let insecurity get in the way.

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Aries men like the chase. It has become boring for him now. Now you're just a girl nagging on him.

And as for the keeping a fwb because you don't want to ruin things with the guy you're dating. I'm pretty sure the guy would find it worse if you're sleeping with another man than instead of him lol.

I’m just going on dates but haven’t found anyone yet to be serious with, no luck so far. If I did, I would stop the fwb and have sex with that guy. I just don’t want to have sex on the first date because of how horny I be, I want to take it slow when I find the right guy. And I only bagged him once yesterday, but I apologized and stopped, hopefully I haven’t ruined everything, I haven’t bothered him since and won’t again.

You say you don't want to have sex on first date...then don't or are you saying you have no self control?

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I’m saying that I had became so sexually frustrated after years of abstinence that I had a very strong desire to have sex on the first date that clouded my judgment. Masturbating wasn’t satisfying me anymore and I wanted my needs met by someone experienced and to learn about sex and what I liked.

If your horny rub one out before the date. You don’t need a messy fwb to relieve some tension.

You'll be fine OP. Hey, if your thing is older men the field is wide open for you. There are plenty of older men out there who would love to take the Aries place so go for them.

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If your horny rub one out before the date. You don’t need a messy fwb to relieve some tension.

I have done that, like I have said before. Masturbating had stopped satisfying me. I would still crave sex. And the fwb hasn’t been messy. I complained about his communication once but since then I haven’t bothered him since. This is new for me but I have learned my lesson and I’m fine now.

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Aries men like the chase. It has become boring for him now. Now you're just a girl nagging on him.

And as for the keeping a fwb because you don't want to ruin things with the guy you're dating. I'm pretty sure the guy would find it worse if you're sleeping with another man than instead of him lol.

I’m just going on dates but haven’t found anyone yet to be serious with, no luck so far. If I did, I would stop the fwb and have sex with that guy. I just don’t want to have sex on the first date because of how horny I be, I want to take it slow when I find the right guy. And I only bagged him once yesterday, but I apologized and stopped, hopefully I haven’t ruined everything, I haven’t bothered him since and won’t again.

You say you don't want to have sex on first date...then don't or are you saying you have no self control?

I’m saying that I had became so sexually frustrated after years of abstinence that I had a very strong desire to have sex on the first date that clouded my judgment. Masturbating wasn’t satisfying me anymore and I wanted my needs met by someone experienced and to learn about sex and what I liked.

Tbh I don't think it seems like a very good fwb relationship. It's not fwb it seems more like a one night stand. You apologized but I don't see why you had to in the first place. You have nothing to be sorry to him about. If he isn't interested in meeting up with you then see it as his loss and find someone that is instead.

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I was upset that he wasn’t communicating much. But after talking to others I’ve realized that with fwb steady communication isn’t a thing it required for a casual situation. He contacted me yesterday and he does want to continue having sex and he also wants to meet in person and talk so we both have a better understanding of one another.