Aries girlfriend, are we done or should I keep trying?

I'm a Taurus man and my girlfriend loves traveling. Recently she went to a trip for a month and for the first half of it we were okay. In the middle she started comparing me with her frds bf and said I should do better and I got pissed. Days went on and we got arguments over arguments, she promised to come back to celebrate her birthday together, but suddenly she decided to stay for an extra week and lie to me about it. I figured it out and we had a huge fight where I said we should take a break. A week was passed with no contact and I called her and she said we have already broken up, she said she had no feelings towards me anymore, but I can tell she still does, as she admits that what I say is sweet and I'm cute when I feel jealous. She's always the kind who said she wanted to remain her ex as friends.

However she still doesn't talk to me by herself, but whenever I talk to her she still responds. I try to talk to her about our relationship stuff but it seems she doesn't want to talk about it.

Trying to smooth out the mood I invited her to a rugby game where my buddy had free tickets and we started chatting again. At one point she invited me out for a drink, but I already had a trip planned. We started chatting again, but then when I ask her does she want to go to the rugby game, she asked me if it would be okay to bring a guy as well.

Now I feel like an idiot being played. Has she really gotten over me, or she's just testing me out? I can't really tell because she never truly tells me her feelings until later.

Shes very disrespectful and rude. She doesnt care about your feelings and shes taking advantage. I would drop her.

Honestly, I have the ability to get over someone fast the moment I lose respect for them. If I lose respect for them, I am almost repulsed and I prefer to simply not deal with them anymore. I would never put someone I love in a position to feel hurt, but I can definitely pinch where it hurts. If I am thoughtless, it's because the person's best interest is not my concern anymore.

If I were you, I would simply leave her be.

Thanks for the response guys.

I know logically I should just leave her be, but I'm just trying to grasp what exactly is she thinking. If someone could help me or on that part....cause I am quite stubborn towards relationships...

Posted by Nelson86
Thanks for the response guys.

I know logically I should just leave her be, but I'm just trying to grasp what exactly is she thinking. If someone could help me or on that part....cause I am quite stubborn towards relationships...

You probably give her the nice guy vibes and shes loving how much effort you're more than likely putting in to win her. It's boosts her ego. If she doesn't want you, I don't know why it seems shes trying to make you jealous and what not. That's weird. I can't really explain this behavior.

I think she's manipulative and gets off on your lust for her. She wants to see how far you'll go and how much you'll put up with. Don't become her plan B.

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Posted by Nelson86
Thanks for the response guys.

I know logically I should just leave her be, but I'm just trying to grasp what exactly is she thinking. If someone could help me or on that part....cause I am quite stubborn towards relationships...

You probably give her the nice guy vibes and shes loving how much effort you're more than likely putting in to win her. It's boosts her ego. If she doesn't want you, I don't know why it seems shes trying to make you jealous and what not. That's weird. I can't really explain this behavior.

I think she's manipulative and gets off on your lust for her. She wants to see how far you'll go and how much you'll put up with. Don't become her plan B.

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Yea, knowing her she is quite manipulative. We did all this through the digital media while I would prefer to have a face to face conversation with her as well.

I know myself well enough so I know I need to be like a bull and get hurt as badly as I can, then I will heal. Of course we Taurus are always hopeful in the way we look at breakups that we don't want.

I really just wanna have a conversation before we say goodbye and all, and she's refusing to do so....I'm really so confused

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Posted by Nelson86
Thanks for the response guys.

I know logically I should just leave her be, but I'm just trying to grasp what exactly is she thinking. If someone could help me or on that part....cause I am quite stubborn towards relationships...

You probably give her the nice guy vibes and shes loving how much effort you're more than likely putting in to win her. It's boosts her ego. If she doesn't want you, I don't know why it seems shes trying to make you jealous and what not. That's weird. I can't really explain this behavior.

I think she's manipulative and gets off on your lust for her. She wants to see how far you'll go and how much you'll put up with. Don't become her plan B.

Yea, knowing her she is quite manipulative. We did all this through the digital media while I would prefer to have a face to face conversation with her as well.

I know myself well enough so I know I need to be like a bull and get hurt as badly as I can, then I will heal. Of course we Taurus are always hopeful in the way we look at breakups that we don't want.

I really just wanna have a conversation before we say goodbye and all, and she's refusing to do so....I'm really so confused

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You seem to have hope in this relationship. You're just going to be trying until she drops you. Or, you'll become her ''cuck''.

Yea, tough words but probably all true.

It's in my nature to have hope but I guess I should just drop her eh? It's only been a week, all this happened, so it takes time I guess

That's very disrespectful. I agree with everyone above.

Do not entertain anyone who tries to make you jealous and says 'its cute' and is not serious with you.

Posted by SuperMercurial
Like I usually say, don't break up with someone if you want to be with them. She was expressing things she didn't like about your relationship. Although it was done in a very hurtful way, breaking up with someone is more hurtful. It shows that you aren't loyal. Aries will lose respect for boyfriends who do that.

In this case, from what you read, is it over or not?

Posted by SuperMercurial
Like I usually say, don't break up with someone if you want to be with them. She was expressing things she didn't like about your relationship. Although it was done in a very hurtful way, breaking up with someone is more hurtful. It shows that you aren't loyal. Aries will lose respect for boyfriends who do that.

It's funny that you talk about respect,if she would respect him she wouldn't lie 2 him,she lied to him,she manipulated him she told him she has no feelings for him and a person should keep fighting?thats bullbutter, One person can only do so much,people need to walk from relationships like this,it's stupid to be in relationship like this,person has no self respect,everyone deserves a person who will appreciate him as he is and support him,believe in him,trust him and respect him,and that aries woman sounds like bad influence on him,aries woman are straight forward,she said she doesn't feel anything for him and thats the truth,aries woman dont lie about butter like that,now she has a new boyfriend and when this guy invites her she asks can she bring a guy with her?she has no respect for him,she has no feelings for him anymore,she's over him,people who would stay in this kind of relationship are self destructive or stupid,you can work things out as long as they are hard,but when she finds another guy thats it rly ,she made a choise,and be greatful for this , you're lucky she's a bad person,you're taurus you should know that when you fall for someone you can't see how the person is,because you're falling,it's magical but at the same time you can't see reality,and when you start falling and hit the ground with your feet you either love a person or you realise he's a bad person like you do now,don't try to hang on to this,try to move on,greatness and good people await in life when you move forwards,not when you look backwards 😉 goodluck!
I like Aries myself,but this one seems reaal bad one.

I do wanna know what Supermercurial has said but it seems he's hidden it.

If possible please tell private message me.

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Posted by SuperMercurial
Like I usually say, don't break up with someone if you want to be with them. She was expressing things she didn't like about your relationship. Although it was done in a very hurtful way, breaking up with someone is more hurtful. It shows that you aren't loyal. Aries will lose respect for boyfriends who do that.

It's funny that you talk about respect,if she would respect him she wouldn't lie 2 him,she lied to him,she manipulated him she told him she has no feelings for him and a person should keep fighting?thats bullbutter, One person can only do so much,people need to walk from relationships like this,it's stupid to be in relationship like this,person has no self respect,everyone deserves a person who will appreciate him as he is and support him,believe in him,trust him and respect him,and that aries woman sounds like bad influence on him,aries woman are straight forward,she said she doesn't feel anything for him and thats the truth,aries woman dont lie about butter like that,now she has a new boyfriend and when this guy invites her she asks can she bring a guy with her?she has no respect for him,she has no feelings for him anymore,she's over him,people who would stay in this kind of relationship are self destructive or stupid,you can work things out as long as they are hard,but when she finds another guy thats it rly ,she made a choise,and be greatful for this , you're lucky she's a bad person,you're taurus you should know that when you fall for someone you can't see how the person is,because you're falling,it's magical but at the same time you can't see reality,and when you start falling and hit the ground with your feet you either love a person or you realise he's a bad person like you do now,don't try to hang on to this,try to move on,greatness and good people await in life when you move forwards,not when you look backwards 😉 goodluck!
I like Aries myself,but this one seems reaal bad one.

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Thanks buddy, I spoke with my frds too, and one girl said that it's probably more of obssession than love. And it struck me. The hurtful feelings diminished a bit.

If possible though, I still wanna know what she's thinking. Does she really have a new bf? Does she really have no feelings for me? I thought Aries are straight forward, if so just tell me you have a new boyfriend and I would move on. Why not?

And honestly, I thought Aries are face to face people, why not tell me in my face, but instead avoid meeting up?

@Nelson86 she told you she has no feelings for you and she asked is she could come with a guy,thats kind of straight forward,but not a nice way,a disrespectful way,don't even bother with these questions anymore,she said she has no feelings and she's showing it with her actions,she has a guy and has no respect for you,why would you even want to know everything,you already do,it might be to hard to digest for you that she moved on so fast and changed you for another,better sooner than later,you dont need girl like that in life,you need a woman,goodluck with new relationships,now heal and move forward.

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I do wanna know what Supermercurial has said but it seems he's hidden it.

If possible please tell private message me.

Did you enable your PMs?

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Okay, I just did

March 22 and May 21

How old are you two?
Aries women get mad fairly quickly if they get hurt by someone they love - so it may be something you said or did to trigger this reaction from her. On the bright side, we do not keep grudges for a long time, so if you give her some time and stop pestering her for answers, she may just come to you when the anger has subsided and try to work it out (that is if she truly cares about you and sees sense in a reconciliation).

On the other hand, what you said about breaking up in the spur of the moment is most immature - sorry for being blunt here. Even if she does return, you have by now planted a seed of doubt in her mind about the feasibility of this relationship. Now she sort of knows that this relationship can end for real any time as she's got a guy ready to jump off the wagon whenever things get rough. That's a huge turn off for an Aries woman. I would say you're lucky if she returns.

It's so funny how you guys immediately start tearing the Aries apart yet don't realize he is the one who broke up with her. The fact that she wasn't crying and begging for your return is what's really hurting. And in that case you aw the manipulative one who only said that shit to get a reaction not because you really wanted to end it. I'd be done with your ass too. now yoi wanna come here for sympathy. How the f is it disrespect to tell someone you moved on after YOU dumped them?!?

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Posted by Gooober
Shes very disrespectful and rude. She doesnt care about your feelings and shes taking advantage. I would drop her.

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You're a Taurus. You're bound to find a real woman who will be head over heels for you and will hold you down. Don't settle for a child like her.

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Tf does this even mean girl? So she isn't a real woman cuz he broke up with her and she moved on?! I don't care what the reason is cuz he could be lying for all we know as she isn't here to tell her version of it. But what we do know is that he did in fact break up with her per his words.

And him being a Taurus means shit! He's a man before anything.

Yall always expose your biases in your responses, don't try to hide just be real.

Posted by bkbella86
It's so funny how you guys immediately start tearing the Aries apart yet don't realize he is the one who broke up with her. The fact that she wasn't crying and begging for your return is what's really hurting. And in that case you aw the manipulative one who only said that shit to get a reaction not because you really wanted to end it. I'd be done with your ass too. now yoi wanna come here for sympathy. How the f is it disrespect to tell someone you moved on after YOU dumped them?!?

Totally agree 🙂

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Posted by bkbella86
It's so funny how you guys immediately start tearing the Aries apart yet don't realize he is the one who broke up with her. The fact that she wasn't crying and begging for your return is what's really hurting. And in that case you aw the manipulative one who only said that shit to get a reaction not because you really wanted to end it. I'd be done with your ass too. now yoi wanna come here for sympathy. How the f is it disrespect to tell someone you moved on after YOU dumped them?!?

Totally agree 🙂

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Thanks girl 🙂

I'm okay with that, but I called her and she said she felt sweet and was purposely teasing me and once I get jealous she said I was cute.

She still keeps calling me every day or so asking me for food recommendations and bars to hang out with. Plus the whole bringing another guy to the rugby game....

I'm just confused what all these mean....

I never set out to ask for sympathy, I came here and asked one question, are we done or should I keep trying... Is it for real or is it just her usual angry ignoring technique?

Thanks guys... I finally accepted the hard truth. She does have someone else.

It sucks but it's letting me get over it now.

I still don't understand how she dare finds me and ask for tips to hang out with her new bf, but whatever.

It's so disrespectful that I couldn't take it anymore.