Aries man lost interest ?

I'm Virgo woman and he's Aries. We've been talking/facetiming for almost two months. He used to pursued me a lot and talked so much about our future together. He went back to my country about a month ago and texts and calls slowed down ever since. It's also because internet connection back home isn't very good. We're planning to see each other in a month and half.

He used to asked me a lot when if I already bought the ticket yet. I was waiting on a job offer so I haven't bought it yet. But last week, I asked him what his schedule is like in September and he said he's free the whole month if I was coming. So I told him I will be buying ticket next week. He hasn't asked me if I already bought it and what day I will be coming until now.

He disappear every now and then too. I just don't chase him or initiate contacts if he disappear. I give him space. So last week, he texted me and said he was sick. So I assumed he wanted my attention and I showed him that I cared a lot about him.He was really flirty, call me love and give me kisses ect...

It was 4 days ago. He said he will call me soon. I haven't heard from him ever since. But I saw his facebook status update saying he was thinking if he should go out on Firday night. I saw some flirty comment with a girl too but I heard she's in a relationship and lives in another country.

my question is do I keep ignoring until he comes back? We didn't have a fight or anything last time we spoke. So I'm not sure what to think. Did he lose interest in me? And also I don't know what to do with September plan.

Posted by virgo85
I'm Virgo woman and he's Aries. We've been talking/facetiming for almost two months. He used to pursued me a lot and talked so much about our future together. He went back to my country about a month ago and texts and calls slowed down ever since. It's also because internet connection back home isn't very good. We're planning to see each other in a month and half.

He used to asked me a lot when if I already bought the ticket yet. I was waiting on a job offer so I haven't bought it yet. But last week, I asked him what his schedule is like in September and he said he's free the whole month if I was coming. So I told him I will be buying ticket next week. He hasn't asked me if I already bought it and what day I will be coming until now.

He disappear every now and then too. I just don't chase him or initiate contacts if he disappear. I give him space. So last week, he texted me and said he was sick. So I assumed he wanted my attention and I showed him that I cared a lot about him.He was really flirty, call me love and give me kisses ect...

It was 4 days ago. He said he will call me soon. I haven't heard from him ever since. But I saw his facebook status update saying he was thinking if he should go out on Firday night. I saw some flirty comment with a girl too but I heard she's in a relationship and lives in another country.

my question is do I keep ignoring until he comes back? We didn't have a fight or anything last time we spoke. So I'm not sure what to think. Did he lose interest in me? And also I don't know what to do with September plan.

Yes. I kind of did play hard to get. May be I overdid it. I was scared of losing him. Last time I talked to him, he was very flirty and was being very sweet. I showered him with attention too because he was sick. What should I do to get him chase me again?

Posted by virgo85

Posted by virgo85
I'm Virgo woman and he's Aries. We've been talking/facetiming for almost two months. He used to pursued me a lot and talked so much about our future together. He went back to my country about a month ago and texts and calls slowed down ever since. It's also because internet connection back home isn't very good. We're planning to see each other in a month and half.

He used to asked me a lot when if I already bought the ticket yet. I was waiting on a job offer so I haven't bought it yet. But last week, I asked him what his schedule is like in September and he said he's free the whole month if I was coming. So I told him I will be buying ticket next week. He hasn't asked me if I already bought it and what day I will be coming until now.

He disappear every now and then too. I just don't chase him or initiate contacts if he disappear. I give him space. So last week, he texted me and said he was sick. So I assumed he wanted my attention and I showed him that I cared a lot about him.He was really flirty, call me love and give me kisses ect...

It was 4 days ago. He said he will call me soon. I haven't heard from him ever since. But I saw his facebook status update saying he was thinking if he should go out on Firday night. I saw some flirty comment with a girl too but I heard she's in a relationship and lives in another country.

my question is do I keep ignoring until he comes back? We didn't have a fight or anything last time we spoke. So I'm not sure what to think. Did he lose interest in me? And also I don't know what to do with September plan.

Yes. I kind of did play hard to get. May be I overdid it. I was scared of losing him. Last time I talked to him, he was very flirty and was being very sweet. I showered him with attention too because he was sick. What should I do to get him chase me again?

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so I should initiate contact this time? I'm just scared of losing him. I like him a lot. I don't want to lose him by chasing him. but if it's what it takes to get his attention back. I will do it.

Posted by Curiousram
Initiate contact but don't chase him you'll scare him away just keep a balance

I sent him a message on viber yesterday asking how he is doing. He wasn't online since yesterday there. He came online on Facebook but not on viber. I don't know what to think. Is he mad at me or not just interested anymore?

Virgo chick..don't panic if he doesn't respond immediately or within the next days. Aries peeps always have a conquest somewhere..some personal crussade that needs attending. Times like that, he'll have a one track mind.

Be sweet, be reassuring,..nothing wrong is going on. He even seems eager to see you. Buy the ticket and message him a "I'll be there on X day at Y hour. Come pick me up from the airport? 😛"

Don't overanalyze. Giving space is good, giving him a cold shoulder isn't good.

He may have felt like he was being pushy (which Aries can be) and thought he'd soften up on you some.
I agree with Damnata, just tell him when you'll be there. He will probably be relieved that you volunteered the info without having to ask for it.

thanks for you answer guys. I told him yesterday, I will be coming back on September for sure. I was hoping he would ask me what days. He just replied "Awesome"! That's it. He was online the whole morning, but didn't say anything. Did I just get dumped?

I even cried yesterday, I like him way too much than I should.

If he's making you sad instead of happy, maybe you should reconsider.

Posted by truecap
If he's making you sad instead of happy, maybe you should reconsider.

I want to know what changed since he last said he couldn't wait to see me. I'm going to ask if he comes talk to me this time. Waiting is the only option I guess.

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Posted by virgo85
thanks for you answer guys. I told him yesterday, I will be coming back on September for sure. I was hoping he would ask me what days. He just replied "Awesome"! That's it. He was online the whole morning, but didn't say anything. Did I just get dumped?

I even cried yesterday, I like him way too much than I should.

its quite funny how i was in the exact opposite situation as you, when i was pursuing a virgo guy he gave me the cold shoulder and the only time he communicated efficiently was when id say this is "over" then he would type bucket loads of how much he cares about me ect ect yet he was cold and replied late 24/7.

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I always reply late too... I did play hard to get until you told me not to. I thought Aries like the chase, so I played games with him. He did the same back to me. But I don't know what happened now. May be he lost interest in me. I don't know

Posted by champranger
I remember reading a comment from an Aries guy here about Aries male ...

something along the lines of ... straightforward communication but throw a plate at him every now and then to keep him on his toes ...

I tried my best to open up to him. My sister who is my best friend told me I run when I meet a guy I like and she thinks it causes more problem. When I'm sense something isn't right, I run. May be this guy won't ever come back. If he does, I will ask him straight why he is all being weird about me going back. Do they come back eventually though?

Posted by virgo85
He just replied "Awesome"! That's it.

Are you kidding me? How in the hell did you read that as him dumping you?

Listen, men aren't women. He's not going to go "Oh you'll be here on August 3rd. That's exactly the day I dreamed of, birds will be singing, racoons will be fucking and you..my heart goes pitter patter for you my love".

Come on. He's going to go "Awesome!" then check back with you about when you'll arrive exactly.

One more thing..Aries cannot deal with insecurity in their partner. Their own is well masked and in need of reassurance from time to time when the clouds gather over their valleys and their fur gets all tangled.

You cannot be insecure however. They get addicted to people who have a zest for life, not a "omg he said only one word, is he really into me?". They also are spot on about vibes with people.

Chillax before you blow this shit out of proportion, virgo style .

+ Aries have no time for subtlety, they usually say what they mean

Awesome = Awesome

You're not dealing with water sign double entendres here.

It's Aries silence that should worry you, not their words.

Posted by Damnata
One more thing..Aries cannot deal with insecurity in their partner. Their own is well masked and in need of reassurance from time to time when the clouds gather over their valleys and their fur gets all tangled.

You cannot be insecure however. They get addicted to people who have a zest for life, not a "omg he said only one word, is he really into me?". They also are spot on about vibes with people.

Chillax before you blow this shit out of proportion, virgo style .

now your comment makes me feel better. I overanalize everything. It's a Virgo thing. lol The thing is though. Ever since I told him that, it's be 2 or 3 days, he hasn't contacted me. I initiated text that time, so I'm not doing it again. May be I already blew it.

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Posted by Damnata
One more thing..Aries cannot deal with insecurity in their partner. Their own is well masked and in need of reassurance from time to time when the clouds gather over their valleys and their fur gets all tangled.

You cannot be insecure however. They get addicted to people who have a zest for life, not a "omg he said only one word, is he really into me?". They also are spot on about vibes with people.

Chillax before you blow this shit out of proportion, virgo style .

now your comment makes me feel better. I overanalize everything. It's a Virgo thing. lol The thing is though. Ever since I told him that, it's be 2 or 3 days, he hasn't contacted me. I initiated text that time, so I'm not doing it again. May be I already blew it.

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Calm down. If you blew it, there's nothing you can do. If you didn't..there's still nothing you can do. You did put yourself out there.

Now occupy yourself with solving other people's issues and don't think about what's going on with the Aries. Everything will be revealed in time..it's just the Virgo mindset that always nags at us to do something, to do an action, any action. Do nothing.

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Posted by virgo85

Posted by Damnata
One more thing..Aries cannot deal with insecurity in their partner. Their own is well masked and in need of reassurance from time to time when the clouds gather over their valleys and their fur gets all tangled.

You cannot be insecure however. They get addicted to people who have a zest for life, not a "omg he said only one word, is he really into me?". They also are spot on about vibes with people.

Chillax before you blow this shit out of proportion, virgo style .

now your comment makes me feel better. I overanalize everything. It's a Virgo thing. lol The thing is though. Ever since I told him that, it's be 2 or 3 days, he hasn't contacted me. I initiated text that time, so I'm not doing it again. May be I already blew it.

Calm down. If you blew it, there's nothing you can do. If you didn't..there's still nothing you can do. You did put yourself out there.

Now occupy yourself with solving other people's issues and don't think about what's going on with the Aries. Everything will be revealed in time..it's just the Virgo mindset that always nags at us to do something, to do an action, any action. Do nothing.

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hahaha you're right. I'm keeping myself occupied. I've working out and going out a lot lately. And I'm also helping my friends with their relationship issues. lol.... helping people always makes me feel better.