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I didn't mean actually question him..I mean the way you are doing it now...I think he can feel like you are conflicted and confused, due to his intuitive nature. I think the best thing to do is be patient like twodrink said, and trust that you will be together.

Thanks Biosynthesis ! I'm only answering the questions that he asked me, and i'm answering them honestly. But I will continue to be patient like I have been thus far. I still don't think it's fair, but I guess LOVE isn't fair. 😢
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Holy shit, stop it. YOU are the source of the problem. You Leo women do this all the damned time.

You take a situation and ruin it by reading into shit way too much. HE'S not being confusing, YOU are. You decided that there was now something wrong, when in his eyes, things appeared fine.

At first, it seemed as if he was doing something wrong and you were baffled.

But now, as you give more information, you've proven that you're a huge part of this problem. You're being a drama bitch. Aries don't do well with drama. You make shitty, snide little jokes and think all is good because he laughs it off. Sure, you may have been joking about it for awhile, but now that you're exclusive, your shit ass jokes need to stop as it clearly seems to be causing problems.

The thing is with Leos, any time I've listened to them go on about their woes, it soon comes forward that they ended up being the source of all the problems in the relationship. The poor guy is just wondering what the hell is going on. She was always on the look out for something wrong to turn into some dramatic show because something MUST be wrong if there isn't the bored, trailer trash house wife excitement of drama!!!!

Aries. Hate. Drama.

You. Are. Dramatic.

He's probably confused as eff right now because he's wondering what the hell happened to this woman he knew for 3 years. She's flipped a bitch, complicated things, and turned into an emotional nightmare. He's being aloof because he likely does love you, but your behavior has him wondering if he should proceed. He already has a baby mama and kids to worry about in his life. The last thing he needs is his new girlfriend being another nightmare to add to his problems.

You are adding to his problems. Remember that. You are a 44 year old woman. You need to start acting like it.
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Holy shit, stop it. YOU are the source of the problem. You Leo women do this all the damned time.

You take a situation and ruin it by reading into shit way too much. HE'S not being confusing, YOU are. You decided that there was now something wrong, when in his eyes, things appeared fine.

At first, it seemed as if he was doing something wrong and you were baffled.

But now, as you give more information, you've proven that you're a huge part of this problem. You're being a drama bitch. Aries don't do well with drama. You make shitty, snide little jokes and think all is good because he laughs it off. Sure, you may have been joking about it for awhile, but now that you're exclusive, your shit ass jokes need to stop as it clearly seems to be causing problems.

The thing is with Leos, any time I've listened to them go on about their woes, it soon comes forward that they ended up being the source of all the problems in the relationship. The poor guy is just wondering what the hell is going on. She was always on the look out for something wrong to turn into some dramatic show because something MUST be wrong if there isn't the bored, trailer trash house wife excitement of drama!!!!

Aries. Hate. Drama.

You. Are. Dramatic.

He's probably confused as eff right now because he's wondering what the hell happened to this woman he knew for 3 years. She's flipped a bitch, complicated things, and turned into an emotional nightmare. He's being aloof because he likely does love you, but your behavior has him wondering if he should proceed. He already has a baby mama and kids to worry about in his life. The last thing he needs is his new girlfriend being another nightmare to add to his problems.

You are adding to his problems. Remember that. You are a 44 year old woman. You need to start acting like it.

Thanks Rockyroadicecream for your insight , I really appreciate it ! However, I don't believe i'm being dramatic because I don't like drama or anything associated with it. I'm moved more by my 4 Libra placements. I have done everything right with this guy and he's just being selfish and inconsiderate about my feelings. In addition, he never really see how most of his actions affect me, because I don't allow him to see it. The one thing that I can say that I do th
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he never really see how most of his actions affect me, because I don't allow him to see it. The one thing that I can say that I do th
THIS is what causes all the confusion and drama. He will never know how his actions affect you because you never allowed him to see it. Use your Libra bits and be honest with yourself - ask yourself this question.

If you had been upfront with him about how his actions affected you, do you think you would be in this situation now?
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Thanks Rambuctious76 ! I will ask myself that question and lean more toward my Libra side. I will also have a heart to heart talk with him and let him know how everything has been affecting me lately, especially him. I've never been one to create drama or cause confusion. I love peace and harmony.
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Cut the bullshit about what "side" you're choosing to use here as a scapegoat for behaving like an emotionally stunted child.

YOU have caused all the problems here because of YOUR stupid ego. You won't "allow" him to see? What the fuck is that stupid shit about? THIS is the same garbage that guys complain about- women expecting them to be mind readers and just doing things when they have no idea. Guys are effing dense. They don't always know wtf they've done wrong because some cannot see outside their "me" bubble.

Yet you expect things to go smoothly when you give this FALSE appearance of what's really going on. This could be why he initially went off on you. He's sick and tired of your teenage bullshit mind games.

"I won't allow him to see it." WHY? WHY you feel that behaving like this is okay? Why would you think you even deserve someone else's time for behaving like this?

Just your responses alone make ME want to head for the hills and drop your ass, and I'm not even dating you. Considering Aries' short fuse with patience, you're lucky this guy has stuck it out this long. He's trying here, and you aren't doing anything to help it. When I first read this thread, I agreed with the others that he was just being a dick. But the more you've revealed about yourself just by how you've responded and your broken logic in how to handle this, it's become clear that you seem to be a big part of the issue here.

Then there's this-
*Him - So when do you want to talk (in person).
*Me - It doesn't matter to me.


You = "Even though I just said I miss you, I'm showing utter disinterest as to when I will see you." This equates you being a cocktease.

I suggest knocking off this attention whoring "woe is me" bullshit and come to terms with what you're NOT doing to remedy this situation.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Cut the bullshit about what "side" you're choosing to use here as a scapegoat for behaving like an emotionally stunted child.

YOU have caused all the problems here because of YOUR stupid ego. You won't "allow" him to see? What the fuck is that stupid shit about? THIS is the same garbage that guys complain about- women expecting them to be mind readers and just doing things when they have no idea. Guys are effing dense. They don't always know wtf they've done wrong because some cannot see outside their "me" bubble.

Yet you expect things to go smoothly when you give this FALSE appearance of what's really going on. This could be why he initially went off on you. He's sick and tired of your teenage bullshit mind games.

"I won't allow him to see it." WHY? WHY you feel that behaving like this is okay? Why would you think you even deserve someone else's time for behaving like this?

Just your responses alone make ME want to head for the hills and drop your ass, and I'm not even dating you. Considering Aries' short fuse with patience, you're lucky this guy has stuck it out this long. He's trying here, and you aren't doing anything to help it. When I first read this thread, I agreed with the others that he was just being a dick. But the more you've revealed about yourself just by how you've responded and your broken logic in how to handle this, it's become clear that you seem to be a big part of the issue here.

Then there's this-
*Him - So when do you want to talk (in person).
*Me - It doesn't matter to me.


You = "Even though I just said I miss you, I'm showing utter disinterest as to when I will see you." This equates you being a cocktease.

I suggest knocking off this attention whoring "woe is me" bullshit and come to terms with what you're NOT doing to remedy this situation.

Thanks again Rockyroadicecream for your insight. I really appreciate the lashing that you are giving me about what I HAVE DONE WRONG. I guess sometimes it takes others looking in from the outside to see something that apparently I have missed ! I just don't understand why the Aries man is Always right in his action, and everyone else is Always wrong. Explain that. I don't play mind games, NEVER HAVE, NEVER WILL ! He's the one that's playing the mind games, i
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Continued: He's the one that's playing the mind games, ignoring a person for days sometimes weeks, and once I ignore him he make a BIG DEAL OUT OF IT, AND HE CRY LIKE A CHILD ! Hell he's a grown man, I SHOULD NOT HAVE TO TREAT HIM LIKE A CHILD ! Maybe I SHOULD RUN FOR THE HILLS AGAIN....LIKE I HAVE DONE BEFORE, AND HE CAME RUNNING RIGHT AFTER ME , and then he would not LEAVE ME ALONE UNTIL I GAVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE. Stupid me for LOVING HIM !!!
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Posted by Loyal Lioness
I started joking around like I normally do....he got mad (out the blue) and went off on me and I went off on him in the worst way ever
Sounds like your "joke" hit him wrong and here you are invalidating HIS feelings because you think your asshole joke is funny.

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We were having our normal conversation and I wanted to see him because I hadn't seen him in probably a week or so, because I work and go to school and he also work crazy hours....he said that he was going to spend time with his kids......and I said as a joke (like I always do) " are you going to see another woman, if so I'm gonna get you."
Have you noticed how every time you tell your side of things, you back it up with something that absolves you of any responsibility and that it makes you instantly innocent? "I said this, but we ALWAYS talk about it, so it's okay for me to say such things." Do you realize that over doing it on your lame shit jokes may be pissing him off at this point. Previously, you were friends. Now you're together and you're beating a dead horse with the "another woman" bit.

....but will never apologize....at least I won't.
This is you fucking things up.

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@ Feby, yes he's definitely use to me giving in and letting him be right when he clearly know he's wrong.
This is also your fault. You have taught this guy a specific dynamic and as someone said, you're changing it. Of course he's going to start acting weird, HE'S wondering what's going on. You combine that with your piss poor outlook on how to handle this, it's going to create issues.

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...even though it's killing me inside because I hate to be mean. 🙂
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Doormat. This is your fault again. Nothing wrong with standing your ground, but how you've handled all of this has been atrocious. I don't blame the dude for wondering wtf is going on.
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@ Peter543 , i'm not sure why, all I know is he has consistently said that he wanted to see the other side (the bad side) of me.
This is Aries speak for "quit being a pussy." We have far more respect for people who stand their ground than those who roll over because they're pansy asses. We may get pissed but you have more respect in the long run.You have proven to be a passive aggressive doormat and he wants you to actually grow a pair.

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"UPDATE" So, my Aries finally called me and we talked, but i'm still so very confused. He stated that he thought I didn't ever want to talk to him again.....WTF was that about ?
...ARE YOU DENSE? You freaking had an argument and gave him the silent treatment (when you usually cave in the past). Of COURSE he's going to say something like this. You need to ban "confuse" from your category. You're too busy reading into shit to see what's really going on.

I really think he is trying to piss me off again.
No, he's not. You're looking for something to be pissed off about. DRAMA. WHORE. "I don't like to be dramatic." Bullshit!
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He know I love him with all my heart, but I really don't understand why he want to control everything single thing in this relationship...so unfair; he want to control when he respond to my texts and calls, he want to control when we see each other and spend time together, just every damn thing and i'm tired of it,
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EL OH FUCKING EL. Didn't YOU just say you were the one always giving him shit for not responding quickly enough for you? You don't like the fact HE doesn't respond when YOU want him to. And now HE'S "controlling?" The only controlling one in regard to texts is you, dearest. Are you reading what you're writing??
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LillyBlossom, I always joke with him about not responding back to me when I call / text or leave some type of message.....I say: "you're gonna make me choke you", he, we always laugh about it and that's just the gist of it....he on the other hand decided to state this particular day that....and he said: "do you think i'm talking to someone else". I said: "no, but since you brought it up, are you", we both laughed about it, and then.....5 minutes later he turned cold and started going off on me, and that's when I went back off on him.
Violent joking and CONSTANTLY making this joke. You can sit there and try to tack on some disclaimer like this is okay, but it's not. It makes you look insecure and crazy as fuck, always "joking" about another woman. He's probably fed up with you always saying this shit and is beginning to wonder if you REALLY think he'd cheat on you. Newsflash, guys who DON'T cheat really get sick of that bullshit fast. They will eventually dump your ass. Stop with the stupid fuck jokes. You're in a relationship now and the last thing he needs is a constant "joke" about other women. It's disrespectful.

You bitch and moan about him not taking your feelings into consideration and all I've seen so far is you constantly adding disclaimers to the things you say and do that cause friction and then are "confused" when he lashes out at some point. His reactions are seen by you as insensitive to YOUR feelings when all you do is make passive jabs at his character.

Aries or not, anyone would be fed up with that shit after awhile.

This entire situation is a cluster fuck from both sides. Since you're the only one here presenting your side of things, you're going to get nitpicked. Both sides have shit to work on and this is the perspective YOU have control over. Expecting us to magically mind read is fucking stupid.

I bet if you started being more conscious of your dipshit behavior, his will likely disappear to. Get your stupid ego under control, quit being so oblivious, and do something to fix it. Being coddled and expecting astrology to solve it all will get you nowhere.
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LillyBlossom, I always joke with him about not responding back to me when I call / text or leave some type of message....He on the other hand decided to state this particular day that....and he said: "do you think i'm talking to someone else". I said: "no, but since you brought it up, are you", we both laughed about it, and then.....5 minutes later he turned cold and started going off on me, and that's when I went back off on him.
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Thanks again Rockyroadicecream for you insight, and trust me I really do appreciate your thoughts on this matter. You have pointed out so many things that I was unaware of, and I will work on those issues. However, if you noticed I will only address this part because this is the only thing that matters to me.....He is the one who ALWAYS START THE JOKING OFF he said: "do you think i'm talking to someone else". I said: "no, but since you brought it up, are you", we both laughed about it, and then.....5 minutes later he turned cold and started going off on me, and that's when I went back off on him .(SORRY I DIDN'T STATE THAT CLEARLY EARLIER IN THIS POST), but this is how it ALWAYS start, HE STARTS IT ! I assume when I don't react the way he want me to he gets mad and turn cold, I will never give entertain a man when he ask me questions about "do you think i'm talking to or seeing someone else",(I COULD CARE LESS ABOUT THAT BUTTER, AND HE KNOW IT) i'll always laugh it off and respond the way that I have. I will never JOKE with him about another man, so he shouldn't start JOKES with me !

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Aries or not, anyone would be fed up with that butter after awhile.

This entire situation is a cluster treetrunk from both sides. Since you're the only one here presenting your side of things, you're going to get nitpicked. Both sides have butter to work on and this is the perspective YOU have control over. Expecting us to magically mind read is treetrunking stupid.

I bet if you started being more conscious of your dipbutter behavior, his will likely disappear to. Get your stupid ego under control, quit being so oblivious, and do something to fix it. Being coddled and expecting astrology to solve it all will get you nowhere.

You're right there is work to be done on both ends and I think both of us need to get our egos under control not just me.
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*UPDATE* So I decided to part ways with my Aries guy. Although, I love him dearly I can't take his behavior anymore; I have followed everyone's positive advice on this feed, but nothing has worked, so I must do what's best for me. My heart is already broken, so please keep that in mind if you decide to comment. I'm not looking for sympathy, I'm just giving a update. Thanks everyone for the advice that you gave, I really did appreciate it.
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Posted by Twodrinkminimum
We react weirdly when we're hurt. If we think you're detaching from us especially...we will turn kind of cold towards the situation as a defense mechanism.

He felt you were never gonna talk to him and then you told him how he hurt you and he apologized.

You need to be a little bit more warmer to him so he knows it's okay to come back around. It might seem backwards but that's the only thing that's going to work. He has his tail between his legs. He needs to know you still want him before he tries to fix it.
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@ Feby, I've tried everything that everyone has suggested on this feed, and still he has basically given me his butt to kiss. He always say how he love and care for me but his actions prove differently. I'm fed up with the ignore him, don't talk to him like he's a child, give him space and he'll come back....I'm just tired of always having to give in to his wants and it's not reciprocated back. I have told him how I feel about his behavior towards me and I said it in a very calm manner, but in the end I get absolutely nothing but I'm sorry and I love you, and then he start the cycle over again. So I give up, I have no more fight in me for this relationship.
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*UPDATE* So I decided to part ways with my Aries guy. Although, I love him dearly I can't take his behavior anymore; I have followed everyone's positive advice on this feed, but nothing has worked, so I must do what's best for me. My heart is already broken, so please keep that in mind if you decide to comment. I'm not looking for sympathy, I'm just giving a update. Thanks everyone for the advice that you gave, I really did appreciate it.
Im sorry lion. Venus is retrograde right now and I think it's causing a lot of issues to be brought to the light to be dealt with. Your emotions are high right now and it might have been a hasty decision. It's generally recommended o wait until the retro passes to make those types of relationship decisions. But I wish you the best and hope you find some clarity in the situation. Break ups are draining and they suck. Chin up.
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Thanks Twodrinkminimum, and I forgot about Venus was retrograded, maybe that's why he all of a sudden told me that his recently divorced ex-wife wanted to get back together with him, while we were out on a date. Who in the treetrunk does that ? That was just so inconsiderate of my feelings, but he still claim that he loves me, and don't want me to be hurt. I'm so done.
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*UPDATE* So I decided to part ways with my Aries guy. Although, I love him dearly I can't take his behavior anymore; I have followed everyone's positive advice on this feed, but nothing has worked, so I must do what's best for me. My heart is already broken, so please keep that in mind if you decide to comment. I'm not looking for sympathy, I'm just giving a update. Thanks everyone for the advice that you gave, I really did appreciate it.
Im sorry lion. Venus is retrograde right now and I think it's causing a lot of issues to be brought to the light to be dealt with. Your emotions are high right now and it might have been a hasty decision. It's generally recommended o wait until the retro passes to make those types of relationship decisions. But I wish you the best and hope you find some clarity in the situation. Break ups are draining and they suck. Chin up.
Great advice......wait awhile ... the rx is over in September. Having said that, i would stay away from him and just see what happens. Sometimes doing nothing is the best option

(((hugs)))
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Thanks Starlover for the hugs....I really need them. However, I'm done I have to gather my feelings and move forward with my life. My Aries basically told while we were on a date that his recently divorced ex-wife want to get back together with him, and I assume that's what he's going to do, so that leaves me out in the cold, but he still claims he love and care for me and he don't want me to be mad with him. Who in the treetrunk does that ? I'm like REALLY !!!
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@ Feby, I've tried everything that everyone has suggested on this feed, and still he has basically given me his butt to kiss. He always say how he love and care for me but his actions prove differently. I'm fed up with the ignore him, don't talk to him like he's a child, give him space and he'll come back....I'm just tired of always having to give in to his wants and it's not reciprocated back. I have told him how I feel about his behavior towards me and I said it in a very calm manner, but in the end I get absolutely nothing but I'm sorry and I love you, and then he start the cycle over again. So I give up, I have no more fight in me for this relationship.
he says he's sorry and he loves you. I believe he does mean it. He's not going to change though. I have read about so many women either thinking they will change a man or waking up and realizing who they are really with. Men don't usually change. I had to come face to face with that myself.

Maybe you just want more. There is nothing wrong with wanting more. He becomes complacent. The fighting and drama sadly spark his fire to chase all over again. Tis life. Maybe give it some more time and thought here.
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Thanks Feby ! I'm done trying. He told me last night while we were on a date, that his recently divorced ex-wife told him that she wanted to get back together with him and I just assume that he's going to be with her, so that leaves me out. However, he continues to tell me that he love and care for me deeply and he don't want me to be mad with him. REALLY ! Who does that kind of butter ? I just can't take it anymore. I knew I wasn't crazy while he was picking all kinds of arguments with me and I was ignoring him until he made me go there, so he could ignore me. I'M SO HURT !!!
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You assumed. Yet another problem you're creating with your psychosis.

It's all his fault and none of it is yours.

Boo hoo you're the sole victim in this story.

It's shitty that he did what he did, but you're not so innocent either. The overall situation reeked of incompatibility. SOMEONE had to call it quits because this is just a classic case of two people not working out.

You've called it quits, now let's see if you let it stay that way.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
You assumed. Yet another problem you're creating with your psychosis.

It's all his fault and none of it is yours.

Boo hoo you're the sole victim in this story.

It's shitty that he did what he did, but you're not so innocent either. The overall situation reeked of incompatibility. SOMEONE had to call it quits because this is just a classic case of two people not working out.

You've called it quits, now let's see if you let it stay that way.

Rockyroadicecream the only part of your comment that I will address is you referring to me suffering from psychosis, and with that being said; the only person that is suffering from psychosis is you, yes you, with your miserable azz . As far as he's concerned, he has called me repeatedly today, and like I stated before this Aries man is very messed up, so that's why I gave him the boot. I know my worth and I don't have to settle. So you can keep please keep your miserable comments off of this thread. You must be one lonely Aries ! lol