Aries Men Advice .but aries women can chime in2 :)

Im a libra woman whom met and of coarse fell for an Aries a lil over 9 months ago, its been on and off and im just at my last straw with him, like hes going thru somethings and ive been nothing but supportive, encouraging, etc. And yet he just takes me for granted, icant count the number of times ive wanted to just walk away but cant seem too, one minute we're good and i mean GOOD but when its bad, its unexplainable, never met someone i could love and hate at the same time, so i guess wanna know what could i do to for one fix this hot/cold relationship and just have him commit fully...

How it usually goes with this pairing- amazing when good, horrible when bad.

How is he not committing fully?

Posted by champranger

Posted by poeticlibra1007
Im a libra woman whom met and of coarse fell for an Aries a lil over 9 months ago, its been on and off and im just at my last straw with him, like hes going thru somethings and ive been nothing but supportive, encouraging, etc. And yet he just takes me for granted, icant count the number of times ive wanted to just walk away but cant seem too, one minute we're good and i mean GOOD but when its bad, its unexplainable, never met someone i could love and hate at the same time, so i guess wanna know what could i do to for one fix this hot/cold relationship and just have him commit fully...

Does he know that you feel that he's taking you for granted?

PS - You might want to delete your duplicate threads by flagging them. 🙂

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This has been my experience with both male and female Libras. You have problems with something, but don't have the balls to speak up about it- at least not until it's too late and you've developed resentment from being a weenie and keeping it in.

If you tell an Aries what's up, chances are we're willing to accommodate you if it's reasonable. I have less respect for people who can't speak up than those who actually do. You cannot cry foul or victim if you aren't saying what's bothering you, you know?

Posted by champranger

Posted by poeticlibra1007
Im a libra woman whom met and of coarse fell for an Aries a lil over 9 months ago, its been on and off and im just at my last straw with him, like hes going thru somethings and ive been nothing but supportive, encouraging, etc. And yet he just takes me for granted, icant count the number of times ive wanted to just walk away but cant seem too, one minute we're good and i mean GOOD but when its bad, its unexplainable, never met someone i could love and hate at the same time, so i guess wanna know what could i do to for one fix this hot/cold relationship and just have him commit fully...

Does he know that you feel that he's taking you for granted?

PS - You might want to delete your duplicate threads by flagging them. 🙂

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Thanks for that lol sorry im still kindof getting used to posting here, but yes i have told him this plenty of times im not ya typical libra meaning with my venus in scorpio believe when i say if i feel like addressing something he'll know about it lol but its like, and ive notice this, like he seems to only wanna win in any situation rather than understanding and resolving it, i admit i can be hell to deal with at times i know this ive accepted our differences but for him its like he "trying" to mold me into what suits him and im not having its either love me for me or lose me, smh hope that made sense

Posted by rockyroadicecream
How it usually goes with this pairing- amazing when good, horrible when bad.

How is he not committing fully?

Meaning it seems hes holding back just a little, and umm for the record with your statement as far as libras not speaking up and being weak blah blah, apparently there seems to be different types meaning im not one of the weak ones if i have a problem with something know that its gonna be addressed regardless how one feels about it, i believe in holding anything back good or bad cause i feel u never know unless you try or speak up, again thats just my opinion as u have yours.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
How it usually goes with this pairing- amazing when good, horrible when bad.

How is he not committing fully?

*not holding anything back

So like whats the question... I am Aries sun...

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So pm- What kind of person do you consider is a true friend for you? What will it take for you to commit fully?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So pm- What kind of person do you consider is a true friend for you? What will it take for you to commit fully?

MMMMM good question... If I feel it from them... I normally can see if they are simple minded... it is not all about them... They will have to bring a good convo to the table and depth... If you are not interesting in anyway that we can agree on then it would be hard to be someones friend... I hate to say it that is my dam Piscesmoon talking.

If I was an true Aries through and through... I would need someone I could dominate... and not have them question if I think I am right. Mostly Gem's...

I can't say I am into that though...


I am a very different Aries Sun... most would say that may not be true because it sounds bad... but they are often full of energy and need to be heard more then anything. I personal think it is hard hearing every thing they say though... because they talk fast often...

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Posted by poeticlibra1007

Posted by rockyroadicecream
How it usually goes with this pairing- amazing when good, horrible when bad.

How is he not committing fully?

Meaning it seems hes holding back just a little, and umm for the record with your statement as far as libras not speaking up and being weak blah blah, apparently there seems to be different types meaning im not one of the weak ones if i have a problem with something know that its gonna be addressed regardless how one feels about it, i believe in holding anything back good or bad cause i feel u never know unless you try or speak up, again thats just my opinion as u have yours.

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They all say that.

"Just my opinion as you have yours." = "What you're saying is bs." = "This is the passive way to say that I think what you're saying is bs."

How do you think he's "holding back a little?"

Wow... Aries in general are going though a stressful time... alot work by speaking... sales or are really driving... Mercury retro is not easy for them... nor is Neptune conj Mars... In Pisces.

I will agree though you need to tell him how it is... like in a respectful way... and there should be some change...

If not have him kick rocks...

Just remember mercury retro... till the 11... could be miss communication... lets face airs some times don't like confrontation... or even risk of it..

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Posted by tiziani
Generally it's my experience if you're the 'love me or lose me' type any guy is going to be wary of that, and if anything it gives this guy more reasons to be competitive rather than listening to what it is you're really saying.

Valid point, but im not understanding hows my "love me or lose me " way differ from his, how he says "its all or nothing baby"

Posted by piscesmoon2
Wow... Aries in general are going though a stressful time... alot work by speaking... sales or are really driving... Mercury retro is not easy for them... nor is Neptune conj Mars... In Pisces.

I will agree though you need to tell him how it is... like in a respectful way... and there should be some change...

If not have him kick rocks...

Just remember mercury retro... till the 11... could be miss communication... lets face airs some times don't like confrontation... or even risk of it..

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Thanks for the insight_??_

Posted by tiziani

Posted by poeticlibra1007

Posted by tiziani
Generally it's my experience if you're the 'love me or lose me' type any guy is going to be wary of that, and if anything it gives this guy more reasons to be competitive rather than listening to what it is you're really saying.

Valid point, but im not understanding hows my "love me or lose me " way differ from his, how he says "its all or nothing baby"

Well I didn't say it was all you that cooked this together, I'm sure it takes two to tango. Just pointing out the natural consequences of the signals you say you put out there.

This dynamic seems like false competition.at first it seems like it fuels sexual attraction but over a long enough time it hollows both people out and voids them of trust.

Not surprising for Opposite Suns, might I add.

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You're right i was just sayin, but in all i believe im just going to let this one go after seeing that this will not end well, i see we both differ in many areas so before i get hurt or he ill just walk away on a good note

Posted by feby
How do you feel he takes you for granted?

Cause when i address something a issue rather its like my opnion doesnt matter like he feel he can say and still do whatever cause he "knows" if he part ways he could come back a month later and everything would be good, but im tired of that i feel like i should be able to come at him and we resolve it with one of us flipping out etc.

You're showing what you're like by not answering questions asked.

You say that you're about speaking up, but I asked a question and you downright avoided answering it.

What makes you think he's "holding back?"

Posted by rockyroadicecream
You're showing what you're like by not answering questions asked.

You say that you're about speaking up, but I asked a question and you downright avoided answering it.

What makes you think he's "holding back?"

With all due respect i didnt not answer your question because unlike everyone else you were coming off as rude, but since you asked and it must be relevent for you to go through this i say hes holding back because whenever i give my all its like he pushes than pulls, and its just really annoying because i feel im putting my emotions out there without any hesitation but for him its that hot and cold mess which is yet again why we're off again