Can aries women mind their own business

I need help on this because it is bothering me. I am in a business situation with two other Aries, one being my best friend and the other my "boyfriend". The "Boyfriend" and I have been on the outs for a little over a month because he doesn't feel that it is the right time to be in a relationship given that he is going thru financial troubles at the time. Given that we all need to speak to each other once in a while to deal with business, I kinda delegated that duty to my best friend since I really did not want to speak to him at this time. I needed some space to process what he said and speaking to him no matter what the situation is would not help none. Anyway.....since they are friends also, they sometimes will have personal conversations with each in relation to what is going on with their lives. She would talk to him about her boyfriend, who is a capricorn and he would talk about me, I'm a capricorn. Nothing negative was ever said about me from what she told me but I still needed time to process what was going on so I told her that I didn't want to know what was being said between each other unless it was business related. She was constantly calling me telling me what he said about me and that he loves me, etc. She must have thought that I was playing because the one day she called him for an answer for business and after saying a few things to him, suddenly put the phone in my face. I was driving and I didn't want to appear rude so, I talked to him. I'm not mad at him but I needed some time away from him. Blah, blah, blah. I asked that she not do that to me again because I reiterated what was going on with me and she said she understood and wouldn't do it again. Well, she kept doing things like that to me. She would call me and tell me, yeah, your man called. he said this, he said that. I ignore it. when he called her for business and she shoved the phone in my face after she answered, I had yet another conversation with him and ended nicely. When I hung up, I blew up. I told her that she has no respect for my feelings and I feel that she was out of line for doing what she did, etc. So she takes it upon herself to call him and tell him that she no longer is allowed to call him because I am jealous and upset about it. WTF—? that was not the issue. i was upset at her and she brought him into our business. I felt like she stabbed me in the back and I feel like I have to let go of our friendship of 10 years because I feel sooooooo disrespected.

She feels like that I am ending this friendship over a man when in actuality it is because of her. I am tired of her making assumptions about how I feel when I have numerously explained my feelings to her. Now the worst part is, he won't even speak to me. I texted him about some business related matter and no response. That was 7 hours ago. I have the feeling that he is laying low because he feels that I went crazy over him calling her when I didn't. (that is what she told him besides saying I was jealous and upset). Before anyone else, says it, no they are not messing around together. I know that for a fact. She is so wrapped in her man, there would never be any time for her to do it and I know that he is not attracted to her at all. She is too old for him. She wants us to get back together and felt that she was doing me a favor by talking about relationship with him. Never asked her to. Any advice on how to handle this? I refuse to speak to her at all and who knows, the friendship may be over. Business is business. I can still do business with her and be detached about my feelings for her. All about the money right now. After the text, i just left it alone. But how long should I leave it alone or just walk away and resume as life is normal?

i ask because its seems to happen to me alot and I am surrounded by many aries women, including my mother, friends and other relatives. I am always surrounded by them. Love them to death but sometimes they (the ones that I know)always seem to do that in some form. Your comment wasn't necessary. You want to add any insight why you left that comment? are u an aries too?

"I kinda delegated that duty to my best friend since I really did not want to speak to him at this time. I needed some space to process what he said and speaking to him no matter what the situation is would not help none."


In actuality, you were too chicken shit to deal with your own problems, and so delegated this task to another person ......

"I am tired of her making assumptions about how I feel when I have numerously explained my feelings to her"

According to what you have posted here, you haven't explained your feelings at all ... you've simply ignored them if I'm reading the below quote correctly ..

"so I told her that I didn't want to know what was being said between each other unless it was business related."


So, now you have another women doing your dirty work for you because you lack conviction and courage to face your private life for you and deal with your own man ... this woman senses that you two care about each other and that you're being an ass about it ... meaning, you are refusing to even talk to him .. so, when she attempts to help you .. you turn-coat on her also ...

"I refuse to speak to her at all and who knows, the friendship may be over. Business is business."


If these two Rams had any sense .. they would run for the hills away from you .. people really don't need superficial bitches masquerading as friends who only use them for their own benefit.

"i ask because its seems to happen to me alot"



Not surprised about this in the least .... you'd be hard pressed to find a person who actually respects you, since you use people.

boy oh boy. I must speak a different language. I never delegated duties to her for the specific reason of doing dirty work. Sometimes there are times they can only get in touch with one of us at a time because we work in two different places. I didn't want to speak to him at the time because being the person I am, I needed the space from him so that I wouldn't blur the line between our personal life and business. I don't understand where you feel that I needed to face my personal life when we have business matters to discuss. i don't want to know what is being said about me pertaining to us. I want to keep it strictly business at this point. business and emotions do not mix. I haven't refused to talk to him.I put our relationship on the back burner because HE is the one that is confused. There have been times that we spoke on the phone to discuss business but he is the one that is telling her that he still loves me and wants us to be friends. Plus then he is saying other things to her like his ex still calls him and how I broke his heart in the past.
If you knew one thing about me, you would know that I am not a user. I am very active in my community and work hard to help people overcome barriers in their life so that may become self sufficient. (Venus in Aquarius)The business that we have now is a humanitarian effort on behalf of the minority community. I have been a foster parent in the past and I know that I am a good person. I expect nothing in return. I do not expect materials gains from anything that I do. I just want to live life without drama and everyone being pitted against each other.

People aren't machines, you know.

You started this thread making the suggestion that Aries can't mind their own business ....


...... has it ever dawned on you that perhaps because she considers you her friend, that you are her business?

If she didn't .. then it would mean she didn't "care" about you. But, rather than have any kind of fondness for her caring about you and making you a part of her business to care for .. you would forsake a friendship of 10 years ... because you are confused.

"I don't understand where you feel that I needed to face my personal life when we have business matters to discuss."

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"I really did not want to speak to him at this time."

"speaking to him no matter what the situation is would not help none."

"I told her that I didn't want to know what was being said between each other unless it was business related."

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Now that you've pushed her away, also and have nobody to use to talk to your boyfriend for you, you say ...

"Now the worst part is, he won't even speak to me."


... yet, you didn't want to talk to him, remember? that's why you put her up to it for you, so you wouldn't have to face your own issue.


If the worst part is him not talking to you ... then why did you stop talking to him?


you are a very, very confused girl.

lol... not just confused. worse. It was always about money and self importance. Accept it and try to work out your own problems.

while I am grateful that she considers me to be her friend, when one says that the relationship has run its course and their is no getting it back, i think that my words should be taken seriously. I never asked her to put herself in the position to speak to my "boyfriend" for me. I have the ability to do that myself as I am very forthcoming with what needs to be said. I have expressed to her many times that it is not in my interest to hear about the details of their private conversation. I feel that should have been respected and not have her run back and tell him that I am jealous that they are friends and I am acting crazy about it. I stopped talking to him about our relationship, never about the business and vice versa. I am a person that can handle my own problems and come to terms with it and don't feel that I have the need for another person to interject when it comes to my personal issues. You are really being judgemental about what I wrote when i only told half the story. I was looking for an unbiased opinion of whether anybody else had this kind of problem with other aries women. Might I just say that she has done the same kind of thing to other people and these other people are not speaking to her either. She has alienated herself from her friends and family because of coming between other people's business.

lol, good luck with that ..

...... has it ever dawned on you that perhaps because she considers you her friend, that you are her business?

This pretty much sums it up. I think that we aries women sometimes care too much though. I am guilty of that. I have a Cap Man in my life and often he seems to me like he doesn't care at all...i think that's where a lot of the problems between caps and aries arise; how we express ourselves

i guess what really took the cake was when she called him and told him that she would no longer speak to him because I was jealous and upset. that was not even necessary because the source of the argument was between her and me. That's how it should have stayed. plus that is not what I was saying or feeling. I appreciate her caring for me, i really really do.I know that she was looking out for my best interests but that part was just so unnecessary.

Seriously, cappy .. you created this yourself by not speaking to him yourself about the relationship. Now, you are feeling pissed off and betrayed ... but, really, if you had taken care of the business of your own relationship in the first place and TALKED to the man YOURSELF, then none of this would have happened.

You can't just go about life ignoring what you choose and then expect somebody else to take care of it for you to suit you.

You talk about being self-sufficient and self-reliable ... but, your non-actions in this case suggest otherwise.

There's no point in being pissed-off at her, for she can do only do or say what is within her own interpretation according to her own perspective as being right ... if you want something done right by you, then you HAVE to be this confident and reliant person and do it yourself.

Instead of being pissed-off or upset ... stand up to the plate and fix the goddam problem like you were suppose to do in the first place.

Good Luck and I hope you find your balls 🙂🙂

I don't know where u get your interpretation where we did not discuss our relationship to begin with. My "boyfriend" and I both discussed what to do with the relationship at great lengths. I am the one that chose to shut that door because of the emotional roller coaster ride.He knows that because I told him so. All this was done after the fact, almost a month after we discussed what was going on. Your powers of observation are way off....no one is saying anything about him. It is about what she said to him. She made a once calm situation into drama, something he and I like to stay clear of. Now with me trying to defuse the situation, its a no go because he won't speak to me because of what she has said to him. So now I'll leave it alone. I am the one left standing here trying to clean up a mess that I did not create. Which is what I have been trying to do. What more needs to be said about the relationship when he and I know what is going on? she knew that.

I wish that I was able to get out the business with her. Unfortunately, I am trying to keep a professional perspective on this matter. I would never be the one to leave the business because I was the one that brought her into it.I was initially running the project by myself until I asked her to come into to help me. My "Aries" boyfriend and I can get along just fine with the business because we are working on two different parts of the project but she is the one that is my "partner" where we make all the decisions to together. It will be interesting to see how all this plays out. I am going to stay professional and to do things in the best interest of the business. She has been known to cause ripples with the other partners and they deal with her on the strength of me wanting her on my team.

I so agree with your comment about people needing drama in their lives. I hate drama and just want my life to be quiet and problem free. There is too much going on in the world to worrying about petty nuances. Can I tell you her life is soooo miserable and full of drama at this time? I guess it is true that misery loves company. I'd rather walk away before that happens. I refuse to be miserable.

This side of her just came out. I would never have brought her into this if I thought that i was going to go through this with her. She has some quirks in her personality but would've never thought something like this would have manifested because of it.

can't sell my share because it is me that they want to work with. Believe in me when I say, I kept telling her to keep it business. I would feel like I had less integrity if I pushed her out of it. for some odd reason, she believed that I didn't mean what I said. whatever I said to her didn't have any validity because it didn't support her motive. what else is there to do? My tact went out the window when this happened for the third time. You live and learn.

my ex and I have cleared the air. he says he loves me and wants me to be his wife but I told him that I needed some time. He says that he wants things to be perfect for us but his money is not right. (Aries man thing, i suppose?).I have to know that this is what he really wants at this time and I think six weeks is not a lot of time to figure out where he wants to be with me. Maybe I am wrong but we'll find out. Keep you posted.