getting rid of an unwanted aries man

hi i need some advice, i am trying to end things with an aries, well i already ended it a while ago, but he refuses to believe that its over, and refuses to believe that i don't want him. this is one of the worst cases of aries, all the negative traits of aries are multiplied in this man. he is egotistical, selfish, abusive, aggressive, and basically has always gotten what he wants, and refuses to allow me to be an exception. his ego is so big that he insists that i am still in love with him and just trying to deny how i feel for him, and thinks that if he can't have me, no one can.
my question is, how can one best go about getting this person out of their life?

what works with you aries men to make you give up? i know you thrive on challenge, and i know that's what he sees this as, a challange, and he will do whatever it takes to break me down. what makes you give up, what turns you off, what makes you lose interest and lose the passion for the goal?
please help, he has ruined my life. the situation is such that i cannot avoid him altogether, but i need him to stop persuing me. what would make him leave me alone and move on?

All aries men are not like this. I suggest depending on how serious of a problem it is, tell him that you want to be left alone, and if he still insists on making contact, I would suggest seeking a restraining order against him. I would tell him that what he is doing is stalking and tell him that if he comes around your place, you'll call the cops. Stalking is not an aries trait by the way, and if that's what he's doing then he's got a deeper psychological problem.

gemma,

If you can find a person who is willing to go along with a plan . . .

Have this other person (man) and you be madly in love (pretend). Passionate kisses, talk about him all the time, make sure he's around when you tell your girlfriends that you've found your soulmate . . and don't back down from it.

One thing that ARies won't tolerate is for their lover to have another . . it has to be them and them only.

I know it's not nice, nor, honorable to play head games with a person . . but, in this case, since he won't listen to reason . . survival outwieghs in this case. If your life is being ruined . . then you do what you have to do.

It's one thing if he sees you single and his ego is big . . he's probably thinking that your still loving him because there isn't another. If there is another and you make him believe that this is your destiny . . he might back off.

I don't know, just a thought.

Additionally, in regard to your statement that you can't avoid him entirely. If this is because you work with him then you are wrong about that. You don't have to put up with harrassment at work. There are laws against this. Tell your supervisor that you are being harrassed by him and he'll be fired in no time. No one should have to put up with this and if its a work situation, the law is on your side. Talk to your supervisor about the situation.

I agree Gemma - this is not an Aries trait but a trait of someone with deep issues that you cannot help him with.

I don't know all the details of your situation but I would be open and honest and tell him that you no longer desire to be in a relationship with him. There will be no more contact and you expect him to respect your wishes or you will take further action. The most important part of this for you is....mean what you say and say what you mean.

This is honoring yourself with integrity. You deserve better!

If you express your wishes to a man and he disrespects them.....RED FLAG!!! enuf said.

I wish you the best Gemma

"please help, he has ruined my life"

Could the reverse be possibly true ?