Help as an Aries woman?

Hello 🙂 my first post here but longtime lurker. I'm an Aries sun with a Cancer moon, so at times I am paradoxically 2 opposite things at once. I have a hard shell but deep down I am the biggest baby and hate having any conflict with loved ones. I'm having issues with how I approach men and how I react when they approach me. I am very used to men telling me I am very intimidating. I find myself accidentally turning men away or emasculating them. For instance, one night I met a cute Virgo boy (I'm Virgo rising btw) and I didn't have any cigarettes and he told me "Dont worry about it I got you covered the whole night." I was instantly blown away by the sweetness but I said something like "oh no don't worry I'll find some" but NOT Bc I didn't want to accept his gracious offer but Bc in my mind I'm trying to be sweet back by not inconviencing him. I guess in my mind I was looking for him to fight back even harder? Idk but after that it was ruined. Or like my way of flirting is to tease someone and I guess I'm expecting them to tease back but it just comes off mean? Things like this happen all the time. I try to appear very strong Bc no one wants a weak person but once you get to know me I am quite fragile. How do I deal w this? Any advice from some more mature Aries ladies?

Hiii 👋 welcome ?

@Fragrance is Aries sun/Cancer moon too..

Hmm, I can only say, be yourself!! There will be some men who'll like you as you are :-)

Your reply to virgo seems perfectly normal btw:p

Posted by Littlefoot
Hello 🙂 my first post here but longtime lurker. I'm an Aries sun with a Cancer moon, so at times I am paradoxically 2 opposite things at once. I have a hard shell but deep down I am the biggest baby and hate having any conflict with loved ones. I'm having issues with how I approach men and how I react when they approach me. I am very used to men telling me I am very intimidating. I find myself accidentally turning men away or emasculating them. For instance, one night I met a cute Virgo boy (I'm Virgo rising btw) and I didn't have any cigarettes and he told me "Dont worry about it I got you covered the whole night." I was instantly blown away by the sweetness but I said something like "oh no don't worry I'll find some" but NOT Bc I didn't want to accept his gracious offer but Bc in my mind I'm trying to be sweet back by not inconviencing him. I guess in my mind I was looking for him to fight back even harder? Idk but after that it was ruined. Or like my way of flirting is to tease someone and I guess I'm expecting them to tease back but it just comes off mean? Things like this happen all the time. I try to appear very strong Bc no one wants a weak person but once you get to know me I am quite fragile. How do I deal w this? Any advice from some more mature Aries ladies?

Hey 🙂 I relate to this part ? I've come to understand that we (or anyone having a conflicting nature) should embrace the contradiction. Try not to get caught up in hypothetical scenarios. You won't always be able to act like your true self... it's just how we are. But it's okay to be the way you are. (: I think it'd be helpful to seek methods to get out of our heads... you know, most people won't have any substantial role or impact in our lives, they're just passing through it as we do in theirs. So there's no point in overthinking or worrying we didn't do something right. It just doesn't matter...

Cancer moons like to think "what a wonderful guy. what if he's the one? I should make a good impression..." Nah, quite unlikely and probably we won't ever meet "the one". We might as well be lighthearted in this short life, in which I'm more than certain we'll have greater concerns than this. ?

Basically... try not to worry and do your thang. ? Tease, be awkward, detached, sweet, whatever. Let go of the tension!

Posted by Fragrance

Posted by Littlefoot
Hello 🙂 my first post here but longtime lurker. I'm an Aries sun with a Cancer moon, so at times I am paradoxically 2 opposite things at once. I have a hard shell but deep down I am the biggest baby and hate having any conflict with loved ones. I'm having issues with how I approach men and how I react when they approach me. I am very used to men telling me I am very intimidating. I find myself accidentally turning men away or emasculating them. For instance, one night I met a cute Virgo boy (I'm Virgo rising btw) and I didn't have any cigarettes and he told me "Dont worry about it I got you covered the whole night." I was instantly blown away by the sweetness but I said something like "oh no don't worry I'll find some" but NOT Bc I didn't want to accept his gracious offer but Bc in my mind I'm trying to be sweet back by not inconviencing him. I guess in my mind I was looking for him to fight back even harder? Idk but after that it was ruined. Or like my way of flirting is to tease someone and I guess I'm expecting them to tease back but it just comes off mean? Things like this happen all the time. I try to appear very strong Bc no one wants a weak person but once you get to know me I am quite fragile. How do I deal w this? Any advice from some more mature Aries ladies?

Hey 🙂 I relate to this part ? I've come to understand that we (or anyone having a conflicting nature) should embrace the contradiction. Try not to get caught up in hypothetical scenarios. You won't always be able to act like your true self... it's just how we are. But it's okay to be the way you are. (: I think it'd be helpful to seek methods to get out of our heads... you know, most people won't have any substantial role or impact in our lives, they're just passing through it as we do in theirs. So there's no point in overthinking or worrying we didn't do something right. It just doesn't matter...

Cancer moons like to think "what a wonderful guy. what if he's the one? I should make a good impression..." Nah, quite unlikely and probably we won't ever meet "the one". We might as well be lighthearted in this short life, in which I'm more than certain we'll have greater concerns than this. ?

Basically... try not to worry and do your thang. ? Tease, be awkward, detached, sweet, whatever. Let go of the tension!

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YES! This would be a good advice for everyone who can relate - even if they don't have above placements (this does apply to a wide range of individuals - even the ones from DXP / if not especially : )!

While trying to bond with someone (to form a connection) - it's always best to be yourself - as much as possible (it can take some time to unfold - all your layers / or maybe that's your nature... more shy/defensive/protected - till you get familiar with someone : ). At least then - you'll know from start - if you're appreciated for who you are or not. It's great even if you're not accepted... you'll avoid a lot of unnecessary drama that way. ?

It's also worth to be added, that: on a private level (one on one) - you won't act the same with everyone. It's a matter of chemistry (how we mix with other people - and what comes out from that mix / kinda like mixing two chemicals where each has different proprieties on its own). Different people = different chemistry (different possibilities : ).

WELCOME!

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Posted by Littlefoot
Hello 🙂 my first post here but longtime lurker. I'm an Aries sun with a Cancer moon, so at times I am paradoxically 2 opposite things at once. I have a hard shell but deep down I am the biggest baby and hate having any conflict with loved ones. I'm having issues with how I approach men and how I react when they approach me. I am very used to men telling me I am very intimidating. I find myself accidentally turning men away or emasculating them. For instance, one night I met a cute Virgo boy (I'm Virgo rising btw) and I didn't have any cigarettes and he told me "Dont worry about it I got you covered the whole night." I was instantly blown away by the sweetness but I said something like "oh no don't worry I'll find some" but NOT Bc I didn't want to accept his gracious offer but Bc in my mind I'm trying to be sweet back by not inconviencing him. I guess in my mind I was looking for him to fight back even harder? Idk but after that it was ruined. Or like my way of flirting is to tease someone and I guess I'm expecting them to tease back but it just comes off mean? Things like this happen all the time. I try to appear very strong Bc no one wants a weak person but once you get to know me I am quite fragile. How do I deal w this? Any advice from some more mature Aries ladies?

where is your mars, that is how you approach things and even more important since you are aries.

Virgo really likes to be helpful to people and can be very supportive and giving. They like to feel needed or useful and when you accept that side of them it helps them feel complete. The Virgo boy's offer of cigarettes for the whole night was his way of demonstrating his interest in you (he said he had you covered the whole night 😉 ) so by you telling him you would find some somewhere else he probably took that as you aren't interested. Keep studying your star signs !

Posted by Littlefoot
Hello 🙂 my first post here but longtime lurker. I'm an Aries sun with a Cancer moon, so at times I am paradoxically 2 opposite things at once. I have a hard shell but deep down I am the biggest baby and hate having any conflict with loved ones. I'm having issues with how I approach men and how I react when they approach me. I am very used to men telling me I am very intimidating. I find myself accidentally turning men away or emasculating them. For instance, one night I met a cute Virgo boy (I'm Virgo rising btw) and I didn't have any cigarettes and he told me "Dont worry about it I got you covered the whole night." I was instantly blown away by the sweetness but I said something like "oh no don't worry I'll find some" but NOT Bc I didn't want to accept his gracious offer but Bc in my mind I'm trying to be sweet back by not inconviencing him. I guess in my mind I was looking for him to fight back even harder? Idk but after that it was ruined. Or like my way of flirting is to tease someone and I guess I'm expecting them to tease back but it just comes off mean? Things like this happen all the time. I try to appear very strong Bc no one wants a weak person but once you get to know me I am quite fragile. How do I deal w this? Any advice from some more mature Aries ladies?

everything you have said i have go through a one at point or another. the vigo boy missed understood you. it can happen a lot. its ok to want a guy who tries hard to get your attention. all of us are soft on the inside no matter that sign. we all have different ways of protecting our soft bellies. men have even softer bellies lol dont tell them that though. i so understand the teasing part. its like a battle or like one of my aries said the hunt. lol i use to start things with guys to get a feel for them. some how a battle of wit can tell you a lot about a person. i more you talk with guys the better you will get. there was a guy i dated when i was young, the more fought him and ran from him the he wanted me. and i liked it a lot. but that didnt work with ever guy. i went through like 20 some guys before i found my husband. i wish i had better stuff to tell you. most important thing is be true to yourself so you do find the right guy that works well with the real you. and remember everyone you see is fragile inside just like you. ok

Libra Sun with Cancer asc, so feels like same phenomenon coming from a different angle that OP describes. I say smart-ass things as a joke, which cause a bit of offense taken seriously. On the other hand, often I can't tell if the other person is joking.