I'm not sure what to think about my aries man

So, me and my aries have been together 6 years in October . It wasn't until this past October that we actually moved in together. It was a huge adjustment for us both. Mine for living single almost 10 years and him for never having a "gf" much less living with one. We seemed to be making it work though. He had become close to my kids and even told his mother that he may be a grandpa from my son's daughter.

Anyway, my son come home for 10 days before deployment. The last few days he was here my guy disappeared. When he got home he was wasted and it was late so I went to bed. Next thing I know he is standing over me trying to argue. I just tried to ignore him. Suddenly he is packing his things, yelling at men calling me names.

I told him when he moved in that my door wasn't going to be a revolving door. So when he left I continued on with my life as I would have if he hadn't left. I did not try to stop him. I did not contact him except the last day my son was home to go to dinner with us. My kids did not know anything at the time. It's been 5 weeks. Last week he sends me a text, "I miss you" I didn't respond. As of today he has asked several times to come by and said he misses me.

I'm so confused. What do I do? Do I reciprocate? Is he wanting to try again or just being curious? Last nite he asked me if I was seeing someon .

He left me, so why is he doing this?

Where has he been living for the last 5 weeks? In his car?

Have you always been together over 6 years? Or off and on? Hes never done this shyt before?

Youre response of doing nothing is surprising to me. On one hand you have kids that need your attention on the other hand this is a man youve spent 6 years of your life with. You have to.be in love right?

Uhhh....what she said^^^

You think he's jealous of your son?

I feel there is a back story...

I absolutely do love him. He has been staying with his best friend. But I am a grown woman and I don't have time for these back and forth games. Our relationship was not all fun and games. No relationship is. Or at least not that I've seen. My kids are all on their own. My so was home visiting before he deploys. I don't know if my guy is jealous.

As far as I knew when I went to work things were fine. We had a great visit with my son. I came home to his being gone and didn't return until two days later.

I just wanna know why he suddenly misses me, wants to see me, you contact me. He left in an angry rage.

Aries lady, I am not likely to respond. Upon moving in together we agreed that it would not be a back and forth thing. Apparently he was unhappy, but it's the way he chose to exit, now suddenly trying to contact me.

There is no one else for me right now. I have to get passed our relationship before I can move on. I do not know why he started the argument. I have alot of unanswered questions.

Why ask if I'm seeing someone else?

I don't trust it. 5 weeks missing? How do you know he was really at his "best friend's"?

The fact that he started an argument then disappeared speaks volumes.

I need that best friend....5 weeks??

Idk OP. Its just odd that you guys would have the need to state that it wont be a back n forth thing. Unless there was already smoke. Where there's smoke there's fire.

Anyways. You can respond. Thats your boyfriend. Once you decide what you want, let him know. I wouldn't. A man has one time to disrespect me and im done.

Just an odd story.

UNLESS he has a mars in cancer. then you have my sympathy

He totally seeing another women. The guilt trip is super real.

And that's my point aries lady. He disappeared for two days before starting this argument. Well, his argument. Lol. I didn't feed into it. I feel like he knew what he was doing from the beginning when he decided to disappear first. Then he comes home thinking that im going to give him an argument thus giving him "reason to leave" bc I'm the psycho one. I didn't argue tho. I was getting things ready for a cook out with my son and some friends of ours. The last thing on my mind was wasting my last day with my son on arguing with his drunk ass.

Dmv and bella, I could care less where he is staying. He left not and in my book now that means we are done. He could be with someone else. I don't care. So really, I'm not sure why where he has been or who he is with is an issue. It's not for me.

The issue I have here, is why keep trying to contact me now?

What is the reason he keeps trying to get my attention now? That's the question. Genuine curiosity, does he have this illusion now that we can work it out, who cares if I'm seeing someone else.... HE LEFT! Why ask?

The grass is greener on the otherside for him.

I thought once an aries is done that's it. I assumed he was done when he left. I give him what he wanted. I let him go.

Helpful advice wanted. Bc even if i did entertain the thought of a reconciliation, I wouldn't rehash this. If I chose to go back we can't live in the past. Doesn't work that way.1111

BECAUSE HE MISSES YOU. Aries have tempers. Figure why he was mad. Tell him it can't ever happen again and he needs to figure out how to process his feelings better

Thank you boxcar! That's all I wanted. An aries opinion on it.

Posted by Gypsylyfe
Thank you boxcar! That's all I wanted. An aries opinion on it.

Not an Aries but have it in my chart.. Also my sister is. They seem to cool down fast and not hold grudges.

OP, I think you hurt his ego somehow - but only they know how

what is his moon sign? if scorpio, then its a hurt ego - your indifference is feeding his control-need issue

and yes, maybe there was a crush or somebody else and now he realised the grass is not always greener on the other side

I think your indifference will make him miss you more and more

I think if we look at it generally, all guys do this. Dogs always find their way home. Whatever or whoever he went to, he decided infact he missed "home" aka you.

Men are literally like this no matter what sign they are, if you let them back in that's when they think they can walk all over you and disrespect you. Good on you for being a grown woman and just getting on with your life whilst he carries on like a little child! He doesn't need or deserve your attention

@ Pandora, unfortunately I don't want him to miss me. He obviously left for a reason and it needs to stay that way. I've even told him I'm seeing someone else in hopes that would make him give up. I'm not bc I haven't fully mourned our relationship, nor figured a good answer out in my head why this even happened out of nowhere. In our whole relationship he has never told me he missed me until he text it a few weeks ago. I don't miss him now. I have deleted him from social media as well as his friends. I can't change my number bc my number is the only one my grandparents know and the military has it incase something g happens to my son during his deployment.

I've tried to disappear with not going to our local stores, gas stations, or hangouts. I just can't change my number. His calls are blocked but I can't block the messages. I've ask him kindly to stop contacting me. Even though he knows all about my grandparents and my son, I have explained it to him again. 😢 I just want him to move on. I DO NOT WANT A FUTURE WITH HIM.....

Thank you Estelle.