Is he really SHY?

Hello

I met this Aries guy at friends place and he was watching me the whole time it was the first time we ever met. he kept looking at me the whole time and he asked my friend about me. then i tried to be friendly and just opened a friendly conversation with me. later on he kept texting me but being formal. he said that he is a very shy guy.

how can i know if he is into me or not? and what should i do to keep him interested more? i heard that aries like the hard to get girl is that true?

I would probably say the watching you and asking your friends is a bit irrelevant, although it shows a bit of interest I would not read too much into this now. I think now he's texting you then he will be trying to find out more about you, but this definitely isn't where you try and sell yourself, it's a two way street, and for you it should be more about trying to find out about him. What do you like in a guy, ask him questions that indicate you are trying to decide if he is up to your level, and make him qualify himself. Do not try and qualify yourself first. But this is just typical dating advice (not Aries specific).

The shy guy statement could be because he is shy, but I really doubt it because he's texting, I think this is more the game, and you must play and give him some challenge there. (it's a game because it makes it sound like he might really like you enough to talk to you even though he's shy, and also may encourage you to open up, on some level it sounds more like flirting to me). It's not about being "hard to get", but I think you could have said something like "that's a shame because I only like confident guys", and put it back on him.

i appreciate you all for answering.. he told me im a shy guy and i cant wait to know you and i cant wait for to know me.

but everyone keep saying that i should be more (Hard to get) as the Aries man loves a challenge.

is that true?

But the reality is, how shy can he be if he's keeps texting?

And how many woman want a guy to tell them they are shy (and make it sound like she is the first woman he can open up to), most of them. And then the chances of the woman thinking about the guy and wondering if he really is shy? Fairly high. Aries men very rarely lack courage. But like I say, it's more about deciding if you like him, not wondering if he likes you.

Posted by AriesJo
I would probably say the watching you and asking your friends is a bit irrelevant, although it shows a bit of interest I would not read too much into this now. I think now he's texting you then he will be trying to find out more about you, but this definitely isn't where you try and sell yourself, it's a two way street, and for you it should be more about trying to find out about him. What do you like in a guy, ask him questions that indicate you are trying to decide if he is up to your level, and make him qualify himself. Do not try and qualify yourself first. But this is just typical dating advice (not Aries specific).

The shy guy statement could be because he is shy, but I really doubt it because he's texting, I think this is more the game, and you must play and give him some challenge there. (it's a game because it makes it sound like he might really like you enough to talk to you even though he's shy, and also may encourage you to open up, on some level it sounds more like flirting to me). It's not about being "hard to get", but I think you could have said something like "that's a shame because I only like confident guys", and put it back on him.

yeah, this.

Posted by AriesJo
But the reality is, how shy can he be if he's keeps texting?

And how many woman want a guy to tell them they are shy (and make it sound like she is the first woman he can open up to), most of them. And then the chances of the woman thinking about the guy and wondering if he really is shy? Fairly high. Aries men very rarely lack courage. But like I say, it's more about deciding if you like him, not wondering if he likes you.

i can sense from the way he text that he is shy. he did open up little but i feel that there is a wall i should break or i need to break the ice with something its like he is waiting for a sign. but i dont want to push things. should i open up and be myself or should i be more formal till he breaks the ice?

@Libramiss

Thank u for replying



there is a update

we went out yesterday and he was so gentle and we kept talking about life and alot of deep stuff then we kissed and it was really good

at the end of the night he told me: I never lie and i respect you alot but i am not planning to go through a serious relationship.

My respond was: We are new friends and its too early to discuss things like that.



What made him say that? do u think he will NEVER be in a relationship with me?

@Libramiss

i am ok with being friends

i did not hear from him from the day we met. so ill leave things flow i will not ask for anything or try to contact him.

do u have any experiences with aries men?

@Libramiss

He texted me this morning apologizing for being busy. but again we dont talk alot or msg alot. but when we meet. we talk non stop. is that normal?

and how can i make him fall for me? for sure i want to be friends but what if later i got feelings. is there a way to make him fall in love?

@LibraMiss

We went out again and we had fun but still no texts or phone calls! that is so weird like when we are together it is so much fun! but as soon as i leave i get nothing from him. is that normal ?

Posted by aquaLOVE88
@LibraMiss

We went out again and we had fun but still no texts or phone calls! that is so weird like when we are together it is so much fun! but as soon as i leave i get nothing from him. is that normal ?

No it's not normal for anyone but then has anything been established?

And why so eager to get him to fall for you after date two? is it because you enjoy being in control and having the upper hand?

@bkbella86 @Libramiss

He did.

and yes he works alot but manage to text alot. he flirt but in a very stable formal way and he tease alot like he wants to get into my nerves. but other than that i dont know what he wants from me and its too early for me to ask that.

what should i do? im starting to like him and i do want him to call more or go out more

@Libramiss

How can i make up call more? can i just start calling? or that would be a turn off?

@bkbella86 @Libramiss

it is hot and cold now between us.

i want things to be more wild and fun how can i challenge him?

@Libramiss

how can i tease him?

The confident flirt may or may not work. Some Aries are shy for various reasons. I know I used to be extremely shy. I almost never approach anyone really. I stand tall and if they want to talk to me cool. If not .. Good bye. So it really depends on the person. I got better things to do than to waste time with the social games. Can I have your number? Wtf I don't want your number I don't who you are lol. Hell I would probably be more inttested in talking on facebook or something. I hate when people text me, and I don't like talking on the phone.

So it's not an Aries thing per say. I find more people play games and manipulate than I care to give them any attention. Soon as they do that I just stop talking to him. I tell them their deception is offputting. They usually go away after that.

So avoid playing too many games. Aries likes to flirt, and tease. With a little bit of witt you will be good.