Keep 'Em Keen, Treat Them Mean

Shit sorry guys



As said in my last thread, I have given the Aries the slow fade which has finally come to a head...

(Texting Convo Below)

Me- Yeah idk, but anyway I can't do this texting thing, it's just not my thing so good luck with everything!

Him- Okay (my name) (he usually calls me by a pet name--yes he has given me a pet name)

if that's how you feel I completely understand. I hope you have a great rest of the summer and I wish you nothing but the best.

Me- Thank you ( his name)

Him- Don't mention it. Let me know if you have a change of heart. (He used some weird smiley emoji)

Me- Hahaha babe I will not be crawling back to you. I told you what I wanted, you let me know if you can ever deliver on that (okay hand emoji). (LOL I was and am so over his wishy washy butter)

Him- Crawling!? Why are you making this sound so dramatic. You were not dramatic at all when we hung out. Correct me if I'm wrong but the only thing you told me was that you wanted to talk on the phone, is this what this is all about?

Me- Lmao, I think I have always been this expressive via text ( I have). I was a communications major afterall. There are no hard feelings on my part

Him- I know but you still haven't answered my question, what did you clarify as to what you wanted besides what I mentioned above?

Me- I told you I wasn't interested in maintaining a texting relationship and if that is what you wanted we should of stayed online or maybe exchanged fb pages. *smirky emoji* (yes I'm being an ass but you Aries boys deserve it)

Me- This could of all been so simple. I just wanted to hang out and do something fun.

Him- Last time I checked I asked you not once, but twice to hang out. The first one was "lost in translation" and the other time you had plans already. I am obviously down to hang out.

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Why did you hide?

It's back up, sorry my computer is acting wonky so the message got messed up.

Posted by tiziani
Neither of you sound that keen. Sounds like two-way contempt.

Trust me I was interested but I am indifferent now. It doesn't take someone two weeks to determine if they want to see someone again. But I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, I tried to take the advice on here and take it easy, stop rushing things, let him move at his pace.

But I don't know any man that waits two weeks to ask to see a girl again. Which is why I did the slow fade, now he is wondering why I am pulling the plug.

My aries female friend does this bullshit. She is full on, wants to hang out all the time, and then disappears and becomes super wishy washy and flakey. When you treat her in a similar fashion then BOOM she wants to be all back in your life again.

I guess it is my sun sign but I take that stuff personally. You can't use people for your own personal entertainment. Talk to them, see them, make an effort when you want to and toss them aside when you don't.

Amazing how you think you have the upper hand lol.

You sound like the bickering old couple without the love or familiarity or the "couple" part.

If he's a douchebag, he'll game you on your need to come across high and mighty...will play along with you til he considers whether it's worth it to put up with it to get sex.

Just games from here on out.

Posted by tiziani
full of enough generic relationships where robots wish each other nothing but the best.

Now we are jaded about Virgo-Virgo matches?

I'm not trying to sound mean but you really are demanding a lot from someone you just met. How about go with the flow, stop asking so much and you will receive.

Instead of waiting on him go date other people, he is not your man and at this rate will never be.

I can't understand why women don't see this concept. What have you given up? What have you lost? If nothing...start gaining other things and they don't have to come from him.

Stop seeming so needy

That whole convo didn't actually accomplish anything but an exercise in pettiness on both sides.

You're not making a statement/point with it or showing him the error of his ways. Especially with an Aries man.

Just walk away and don't let it drain you more.

Posted by AriesLovesMe
I'm not trying to sound mean but you really are demanding a lot from someone you just met. How about go with the flow, stop asking so much and you will receive.

Instead of waiting on him go date other people, he is not your man and at this rate will never be.

I can't understand why women don't see this concept. What have you given up? What have you lost? If nothing...start gaining other things and they don't have to come from him.

Stop seeming so needy

It's not neediness, I just think this is how women get sucked into textingships, I think that's pointless. What's the point? You can just stay online if that is all you want.

Maybe that seems too dramatic, but from my experience that is how you Aries need it handed to you, direct and loud, otherwise things will easily settle into something you do not want.

Posted by ImTheRam
Aries man are not good at all with words when it comes to this things...we really aren't...pressuring us with this "things" its like...

Exactly.

Aries Men KNOW they aren't into long drawn text messages and generally have a hate relationship with words and explanations.

This is exactly why I'm saying he isn't into her.

Those I dated never bothered with messages, they were calling me or knocking my door down. My Aries ex sent me 3 text messages at the beginning of our relationship followed up by a "Fuck this shit". Then he proceeded with never sending one again throughout the 3 years of our partnership.

If this guy has time to type all these messages down, he'd have time to press the one "call" button. He doesn't so...there you go.

At best his interest is.....lukewarm. Who wants lukewarm? Might as well call it acquaintanceship then.

She comes across as lecturing someone who is lukewarm...when did that ever turn into hot for anyone?

Posted by Damnata
Amazing how you think you have the upper hand lol.

You sound like the bickering old couple without the love or familiarity or the "couple" part.

If he's a douchebag, he'll game you on your need to come across high and mighty...will play along with you til he considers whether it's worth it to put up with it to get sex.

Just games from here on out.

No Damnata no. I just like to give my threads interesting titles. But I have noticed when I'm sweet, meek and go with the flow, what usually happens is the guy ghost OR I get caught up in something that I did not necessarily want.

But the meaner I am, the more alert he becomes. I have simply never experienced this before. I don't necessarily think I have him in the palm of my hands. I truly do not understand Aries men and all the Aries men I have met act like this (even my Aries male coworker told me to treat him like this).

Posted by ImTheRam
All the long(ish) relation that i had in my life...all of them...started on the same way....fwb.

After sometime....me: "are we dating?" she: "i guess?..." me:"ok ^^".

Yeah but see I realized I just can't do that. I don't have faith that it would work out in my favor.

Posted by ImTheRam
Nop...i am sorry to say...but you still like him 🙂

(you can say you don't..and that i don't know you...but... ^^)

And he does have something for you...i think you are doing way...way to much drama....

If an Aries (or any man for what it matters) had no interest in you...he woldn't reply in that way....

Why the drama?....Aries jump the boat and swim to the nearest rock when they start smelling drama....

Chill woman ! ^^

Yup I do. BUT I have entered a place now where I am totally okay if we don't become anything, talk anymore. Which is why I came with guns blazing, why I have ignored him for the past few days because what's the fucking point, it will either happen or it won't.

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Posted by ImTheRam
Aries man are not good at all with words when it comes to this things...we really aren't...pressuring us with this "things" its like...

Exactly.

Aries Men KNOW they aren't into long drawn text messages and generally have a hate relationship with words and explanations.

This is exactly why I'm saying he isn't into her.

Those I dated never bothered with messages, they were calling me or knocking my door down. My Aries ex sent me 3 text messages at the beginning of our relationship followed up by a "Fuck this shit". Then he proceeded with never sending one again throughout the 3 years of our partnership.

If this guy has time to type all these messages down, he'd have time to press the one "call" button. He doesn't so...there you go.

At best his interest is.....lukewarm. Who wants lukewarm? Might as well call it acquaintanceship then.

She comes across as lecturing someone who is lukewarm...when did that ever turn into hot for anyone?

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Sweetie, he asked me why I disappeared on him.

I told him.

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Posted by ImTheRam
Aries man are not good at all with words when it comes to this things...we really aren't...pressuring us with this "things" its like...

Exactly.

Aries Men KNOW they aren't into long drawn text messages and generally have a hate relationship with words and explanations.

This is exactly why I'm saying he isn't into her.

Those I dated never bothered with messages, they were calling me or knocking my door down. My Aries ex sent me 3 text messages at the beginning of our relationship followed up by a "Fuck this shit". Then he proceeded with never sending one again throughout the 3 years of our partnership.

If this guy has time to type all these messages down, he'd have time to press the one "call" button. He doesn't so...there you go.

At best his interest is.....lukewarm. Who wants lukewarm? Might as well call it acquaintanceship then.

She comes across as lecturing someone who is lukewarm...when did that ever turn into hot for anyone?

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And I do totally agree with the knocking the door down sentiment.

Posted by ImTheRam
But i woldn't say for her to give up !! hihih ^^

Well you are like...the only Ram man on this forum at this point? Ofc out of solidarity you wouldn't say he's not into her. You do know he's not really putting forth much effort though. That and them Aries rosy glasses of "everything can be solved, I am a believer in love" aww.

I'm especially drastic with Aries men cuz I have Aries Moon/Mars so it's an energy I get. It's either all in or....walking around the edges of a pool while never jumping in. Let's get real, she wouldn't have had time to have this all conversation play out since he would be all up in her business.

Girl: Baby I feel...

Aries Man: *pounce*

She would not have a doubt about him, texts, emails, calls, pigeons with messages aside...if he was into her.

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Posted by AriesLovesMe
I'm not trying to sound mean but you really are demanding a lot from someone you just met. How about go with the flow, stop asking so much and you will receive.

Instead of waiting on him go date other people, he is not your man and at this rate will never be.

I can't understand why women don't see this concept. What have you given up? What have you lost? If nothing...start gaining other things and they don't have to come from him.

Stop seeming so needy

It's not neediness, I just think this is how women get sucked into textingships, I think that's pointless. What's the point? You can just stay online if that is all you want.

Maybe that seems too dramatic, but from my experience that is how you Aries need it handed to you, direct and loud, otherwise things will easily settle into something you do not want.

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So call him if you don't like it. Or at least ask if you can call him but some people don't look at petty things like that as a big deal.

I don't care if a guy calls, texts, whatever. When I see him we have more to talk about. I'd rather do all my talking face to face then over the phone.

Half the time I'm busy and don't even want to talk.

Call him yourself.

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Posted by AriesLovesMe
I'm not trying to sound mean but you really are demanding a lot from someone you just met. How about go with the flow, stop asking so much and you will receive.

Instead of waiting on him go date other people, he is not your man and at this rate will never be.

I can't understand why women don't see this concept. What have you given up? What have you lost? If nothing...start gaining other things and they don't have to come from him.

Stop seeming so needy

It's not neediness, I just think this is how women get sucked into textingships, I think that's pointless. What's the point? You can just stay online if that is all you want.

Maybe that seems too dramatic, but from my experience that is how you Aries need it handed to you, direct and loud, otherwise things will easily settle into something you do not want.

So call him if you don't like it. Or at least ask if you can call him but some people don't look at petty things like that as a big deal.

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I did do just that. He told me he would love to. But has dodged it each time, so I took it as him not interested which is why I told him I didn't think we were going to be a match.

I think you all literally refuse to believe me when I said I tried to handle it in a fair manner. I just can't help but feel the runaround even though he continues to swear he likes me and would "love to hang with me" but I seem too busy.

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Posted by ImTheRam
Nop...i am sorry to say...but you still like him 🙂

(you can say you don't..and that i don't know you...but... ^^)

And he does have something for you...i think you are doing way...way to much drama....

If an Aries (or any man for what it matters) had no interest in you...he woldn't reply in that way....

Why the drama?....Aries jump the boat and swim to the nearest rock when they start smelling drama....

Chill woman ! ^^

Yup I do. BUT I have entered a place now where I am totally okay if we don't become anything, talk anymore. Which is why I came with guns blazing, why I have ignored him for the past few days because what's the fucking point, it will either happen or it won't.

Just...

hmmm

You need a validation from words?...well you really picked one of the worst signs on the zodiac for these type of things...

Go hang out with him like he said ! Go have a good time...who knows what will happen?

If you want this to happen....don't pressure him...i told you this so many times...

But if you are also ok with not being with him...well...you aren't....because you know you like him lool

Chill woman !!!! Take it easy ^^

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Hahaha yes Ram I do like him. I am not denying that, but I am not pressuring him.

I am simply speaking up for myself and telling him I am not interested in this situation. Of course I want him to step his game up but I know I can't force it or make it happen, so yes, I am in true content if this backfires and he backs off.

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Posted by ImTheRam
But i woldn't say for her to give up !! hihih ^^

Well you are like...the only Ram man on this forum at this point? Ofc out of solidarity you wouldn't say he's not into her. You do know he's not really putting forth much effort though. That and them Aries rosy glasses of "everything can be solved, I am a believer in love" aww.

I'm especially drastic with Aries men cuz I have Aries Moon/Mars so it's an energy I get. It's either all in or....walking around the edges of a pool while never jumping in. Let's get real, she wouldn't have had time to have this all conversation play out since he would be all up in her business.

Girl: Baby I feel...

Aries Man: *pounce*

She would not have a doubt about him, texts, emails, calls, pigeons with messages aside...if he was into her.

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Okay well then you should understand where I came from and my bluntness. I am an Aries moon and Aries Mercury.

He is an Aries Sun, Aries Moon, Aries Merc. so yeahhh being sweet and passive does not work with him. In fact I do not believe it works for women at all, I've done that (I am a Pisces afterall) and everytime I just keep my mouth shut and go with the flow, before I know it things are too late and I'm stuck with something I didn't want because I did not speak up for myself.

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Posted by AriesLovesMe
I'm not trying to sound mean but you really are demanding a lot from someone you just met. How about go with the flow, stop asking so much and you will receive.

Instead of waiting on him go date other people, he is not your man and at this rate will never be.

I can't understand why women don't see this concept. What have you given up? What have you lost? If nothing...start gaining other things and they don't have to come from him.

Stop seeming so needy

It's not neediness, I just think this is how women get sucked into textingships, I think that's pointless. What's the point? You can just stay online if that is all you want.

Maybe that seems too dramatic, but from my experience that is how you Aries need it handed to you, direct and loud, otherwise things will easily settle into something you do not want.

So call him if you don't like it. Or at least ask if you can call him but some people don't look at petty things like that as a big deal.

I did do just that. He told me he would love to. But has dodged it each time, so I took it as him not interested which is why I told him I didn't think we were going to be a match.

I think you all literally refuse to believe me when I said I tried to handle it in a fair manner. I just can't help but feel the runaround even though he continues to swear he likes me and would "love to hang with me" but I seem too busy.

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Date other people just that simple. If he's not giving you the attention you like go elsewhere. No need explaining he could care less.

Posted by tiziani
At first I would have said you were hard work. You treated him with contempt. But now it's a two way street. I don't think it's all down to you. Sure you contributed to it but you'd hope to meet men who get over it and don't hold grudges. This is just wagons circling. And it's a lot of grief for two people who barely know one another.

I don't think I have. I am generally not one to treat people in that way and I certainly wouldn't do that to him because he's gorgeous, I'm quite sure he can be with any woman he wants, so why would I treat him like I think I am too good for him?

I asked him in the first time if he had any interest in meeting me again because it was all text no action. Now I've told him why I have grown distant. That's not being difficult. That's being honest.

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Posted by AriesLovesMe
I'm not trying to sound mean but you really are demanding a lot from someone you just met. How about go with the flow, stop asking so much and you will receive.

Instead of waiting on him go date other people, he is not your man and at this rate will never be.

I can't understand why women don't see this concept. What have you given up? What have you lost? If nothing...start gaining other things and they don't have to come from him.

Stop seeming so needy

It's not neediness, I just think this is how women get sucked into textingships, I think that's pointless. What's the point? You can just stay online if that is all you want.

Maybe that seems too dramatic, but from my experience that is how you Aries need it handed to you, direct and loud, otherwise things will easily settle into something you do not want.

I agree and you did awesome.

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Thank you love 🙂

You have always remained in my corner. This is all new territory for me but I am seriously tired of being taken for a ride by these guys who like to be hot and cold. I had one guy tell me once that he didn't know that it was an issue just texting all the time, and that he was waiting for me because most girls like to take the lead these days...

I was like wtf...you cannot be serious.

Posted by tiziani
Put it this way: from what you shared of your texr messages last time, your tone came off to me as if you hold him in contempt.

I remember he asked you out somewhere and you told him the way he asked you out made you feel like it wasn't good enough. In my book, that's called hard work.

I'm not privy to anything other than the texts you shared though.

Tiz I truly respect all that you give on this forum and if that is how it came across that is totally fair. I can't control what you interpret, but I NEVER said "it wasn't good enough."

I most definitely said "I feel like you aren't interested in me, I had to ask you to hang out before you initiated anything." I was very vulnerable and honest with him.

" Crawling!? Why are you making this sound so dramatic. You were not dramatic at all when we hung out. Correct me if I'm wrong but the only thing you told me was that you wanted to talk on the phone, is this what this is all about?"

He has a perfect point, quite logical too.

As I said in your previous thread, you are an idiot. An idiot who feels entitled for some reason.

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Everything is so complicated. ?

What the hell is this stupid ass thread really about?

All I'm picking up on is the OP is a high maintenance hoe, stupid, and immature.

"Look at me, I'm so great" only works if you truly are so great. Not some piss poor illusion or a mantra you have to tell yourself to boost your equally piss poor self esteem.

I'm so tired of this entitlement generation. They're fucking jokes of human beings, gawd.

You made a mistake. A mistake a lot of women make which is to believe you are entitled to respect. Don't be hard on yourself so long as you learn from this mistake. Don't forget to grow into a mature person you have to make mistakes and learn from them.

Learn from this. Learn that respect is earned not demanded or taken (for anyone). I understand your dilemma when being nice you can get stepped all over like a doormat. I've been there. But that sounds like a boundary problem. You need to set up boundaries and stick to them. And there are ways to communicate it without sounding entitled or like a bitch. Just realize men are humans with emotions too. So you can't just talk to them like they're a piece of trash. You also need to realize not everyone is worth your time and it has nothing to do with you so long as you stay humble and kind. So you can politely tell these guys when they've been disrespectful. And the key is to remember (especially for a first offense) it's not always intentional. But if you've communicated it to them more than once and they continue to do it than that is when you just need to cut your loss.

You are better than that. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Don't let the actions of others change that or else you are no better than they are. Good luck love. I wish you the best.

Posted by Arielle83
If you don't want to text why don't u just call him?

I don't get the pettiness.

I wish you'd read.

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Posted by Dastard
I'm not surprised that you're squandering your chances to find a date like the idiot you are.

The reason you play hard to get is because you overestimate your value.

You truly believe that you deserve better than this man but judging from how you treated him that couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, he deserves better than you.

You're lucky that he even seemed somewhat interested at the beginning. You could have taken advantage of that and been more persistent in showing interest...

But noooooo, you had to make this person prove himself worthy of you and bend over backwards just to satisfy your delusional ego and skewed sense of worth.

You slowly killed his interest in you with your prissy behavior and diva antics, and now you're here bitching and crying for being neglected by him.

Here are the consequences of your idiocy and narcissism. You've made your bed, now lie in it.

Oh my God HAHAHA you are either the troll of all trolls or just the most hateful negative person I've encountered on this website. Probably both. You're life really must suck/you're just an extremely miserable person to have to constantly be spreading so much negativity and hatred! What other benefit would someone of your character find in putting others down constantly other than to feel better about their horrible selves. I truly am sorry for you having such an angry hate filled spirit and I hope you receive some therapy of some sort ASAP!! LOL Some people take this not being able to see a person face-to-face stuff way out of hand! Check yourself bud! Or the universe will 😉

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Dastard is just pissed because I refuse to sing their praises (P Angel) lol, I am actually flattered by their effort to grab my attention.

No worries love. No hard feelings here 🙂

Posted by rockyroadicecream
What the hell is this stupid ass thread really about?

All I'm picking up on is the OP is a high maintenance hoe, stupid, and immature.

"Look at me, I'm so great" only works if you truly are so great. Not some piss poor illusion or a mantra you have to tell yourself to boost your equally piss poor self esteem.

I'm so tired of this entitlement generation. They're fucking jokes of human beings, gawd.

No entitlement love, I simply wanted more than a texting relationship. I initiated calling, I even invited the guy to go rock climbing with me. When those tries on my part fell through I backed off and took it as he was uninterested.

He since asked me why I grew distant and my reply is what you read above.

You call me immature yet your choice of words and overly aggressive attitude over someone and something that truly should not offend you this much and your ability to jump to conclusions shows your immaturity.

Carry on.

Posted by Libra82
I don't understand. Did you call him but he didn't answer? Why don't you communicate via phone than texts?

I think he likes you otherwise he wouldn't even bothered replying the way he did. From an aries point of view I can see him thinking "whatta hell went wrong here? Why is she suddenly so pissed and serious?" 😛

Not saying that you're wrong for knowing what you want in any way just that aries men are quite spontaneus and they don't get that serious and emotional especially in the beginning. So its more a question of compability.

All the best. 🙂

I did try calling him. I also invited him out, I know Aries men are spontaneous but this guy says he is, in fact he likes to brag about how simple and direct he is. However his actions do not line up with his words, so when he asked me why I was being all distant I told him.

I'm not here to be anyone's texting buddy. Anyway he has since asked me out and apologized, told me he celebrates Ramadan so he is on fast all day so coffee dates, ice cream, dinner, lunch dates are all pretty hard as of now, and I work weekends.

Whatever though at this point I consider him too flakey so it is just a loss cause. We simply do not align and that is okay.

Posted by xtina
You made a mistake. A mistake a lot of women make which is to believe you are entitled to respect. Don't be hard on yourself so long as you learn from this mistake. Don't forget to grow into a mature person you have to make mistakes and learn from them.

Learn from this. Learn that respect is earned not demanded or taken (for anyone). I understand your dilemma when being nice you can get stepped all over like a doormat. I've been there. But that sounds like a boundary problem. You need to set up boundaries and stick to them. And there are ways to communicate it without sounding entitled or like a bitch. Just realize men are humans with emotions too. So you can't just talk to them like they're a piece of trash. You also need to realize not everyone is worth your time and it has nothing to do with you so long as you stay humble and kind. So you can politely tell these guys when they've been disrespectful. And the key is to remember (especially for a first offense) it's not always intentional. But if you've communicated it to them more than once and they continue to do it than that is when you just need to cut your loss.

You are better than that. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Don't let the actions of others change that or else you are no better than they are. Good luck love. I wish you the best.

I am going to mull over what you wrote today. I do not think I was unkind, he's very sarcastic and obnoxious in person. I can get the dry sense of humor but if you dont it can come off like he is an asshole, my point is, I match his tone and how he speaks. Maybe that isnt good but the guy is an ARRIES SUN, MOON AND MERC. I think he needs the most blunt form of communication.

But still, I think there is value in your advice and always something for me to learn so thank you.

Im no ram but ive dealt with a few. I think OP is good to go with being a semi jerk with him. I was told by a few rams that i was too nice for any aries man.

They do love.bitches

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Posted by Arielle83
If you don't want to text why don't u just call him?

I don't get the pettiness.

I wish you'd read.

Wow petty again.

Sorry I don't have time to invest in your drama.

Unlike you, I get a text, I call.

I get why he doesn't try that hard though.

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Nothing I wrote was petty, I already addressed what you failed to read.

You however are being petty with petty, snide remarks.

Of course this is your MO though, you do this to basically every thread you visit. I am not surprised.

Posted by DMV
Im no ram but ive dealt with a few. I think OP is good to go with being a semi jerk with him. I was told by a few rams that i was too nice for any aries man.

They do love.bitches

Exactly. I have had my heart broken and been straight played by an Aries before because I went with the flow. Yeah I road down his stream of smooth sailing until he found me no longer intriguing and kicked me off the boat.

If I came into this forum saying "you guys I have been texting an aries man for a month now and would like to see him," you all would have told me how I fucked up and should not have been so passive, asked him to hang out, be more hard to get, etc.

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Posted by tiziani
Neither of you sound that keen. Sounds like two-way contempt.

Yes....like playing cat/mouse with each other?

Like what exactly are they arguing about? Texting?

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We aren't arguing, he asked why the change of heart I told him.

Posted by Finbuff
Aries are like that....even the women, hot/cold. I think the majority of people have said some variation of "go with the flow". It sounds like he wanted to hang out, but you weren't happy with his sense of urgency to do it sooner. That's how Aries are, but when they are with you, you get the full-on intensity. Try it out.

I dont get a sense of urgency from him at all. I have gone out on 3 dates with one guy and 2 dates with 2 other guys in the last month of meeting this Aries...we have only hung out once, I asked him after the 2nd week of texting if he wanted to see each other again or if he just planned to keep this a texting relationship.

He said he wanted to see me. He has however evaded each chance,and now that I told him I will move on he NOW wants to see me...

I get their hot and cold game, my best friend is like that and I honestly hate it. When I stopped asking to hang out with her or see her she is suddenly full on, in my face, ringing me up wanting to see me.

Dastard why are you here love, I told you you are blocked? Why so desperate to be heard and seen?

Not hard to want, yet he has asked me on a date. I take it no one wants you in their life since you are coming this hard for attention online. Carry on. Create another account so I can block that too.

Love ya P

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Posted by malloryor

Posted by Finbuff
Aries are like that....even the women, hot/cold. I think the majority of people have said some variation of "go with the flow". It sounds like he wanted to hang out, but you weren't happy with his sense of urgency to do it sooner. That's how Aries are, but when they are with you, you get the full-on intensity. Try it out.

I dont get a sense of urgency from him at all. I have gone out on 3 dates with one guy and 2 dates with 2 other guys in the last month of meeting this Aries...we have only hung out once, I asked him after the 2nd week of texting if he wanted to see each other again or if he just planned to keep this a texting relationship.

He said he wanted to see me. He has however evaded each chance,and now that I told him I will move on he NOW wants to see me...

I get their hot and cold game, my best friend is like that and I honestly hate it. When I stopped asking to hang out with her or see her she is suddenly full on, in my face, ringing me up wanting to see me.

This is typical - they want to know they have you, AND they enjoy the challenge of the chase. Plus they don't like being the one doing the "discarding", so it turns into an ego trip. You may be right to be cautious with this one, you could be playing with fire and not know the pot is on the burner. There may be some attempt to "get even" in the dumping game. Been there, done that. Obviously you know the nuances because only you are in the situation and know the person.

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Yes, I agree. I really dont want to do the cat and mouse game, I since I liked him I kept choosing his word over my instinct.

And that's stupid. I know myself better than I know him so why am I placing value on his words when they do not align with his actions?

Posted by Vixen2
Leo rising...

This guy is pretty on point with his assessment of leo moon/ rising people

But with anything...you have to be flexible. That Leo bit is fixed and won't work out all that great sometimes in relationships

I will have to watch later, I am at work.

Posted by Vixen2
Leo rising...

This guy is pretty on point with his assessment of leo moon/ rising people

But with anything...you have to be flexible. That Leo bit is fixed and won't work out all that great sometimes in relationships

Yeah, I am an Aries Moon...he makes no mention of Leo Rising people, unless your ascendant is one in the same with your moon sign, this does not really apply to me.

Posted by Finbuff
I think I understand your situation better now, and if you have the willpower to let it go and move on, you could be saving yourself a lot of trouble down the road. The risk you take is not knowing "what could have been" of course. I know in one of my Aries relationships I would have been better off resisting the temptation to keep trying, as opposed to trying to 'play the game' better than her. Tough to put into words, but some of the things you've said have now brought it all back. Follow your female intuition - it's usually better than the opposite sex.

Yeah I made a few threads on here about this particular situation so I guess the background story is lost on many people, not to mention I can be long winded (see copy of text) lol so it’s understandable why many people don’t get that I did try calling him, that I did ask him if he would be open to talking on the phone, I didn’t bitch at him for the sake of bitching and that I did try to take things as they came but no one can seriously tell me that it is appropriate to just text someone for almost a month. I just got the feeling, get the feeling that I was being played here hence why I backed off and ever since he’s been wanting answers. To me that is classic Aries behavior, they want you when you start pulling away. He’s also very into himself, thinks he’s gorgeous (which he is) and knows it, so I think he just expects me to buy into every word he feeds me, but it shouldn’t be this hard. I literally just wanted to hang out and do something other than text, not get the guy to buy me a house or a car, or fancy clothes. I think he’s hesitant to hang out with me though because I told him I was not comfortable having sex with someone until I knew them and could trust him. So I think his motivation to see me has waned (even though he denies it).

Posted by ImTheRam

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Posted by ImTheRam
All the long(ish) relation that i had in my life...all of them...started on the same way....fwb.

After sometime....me: "are we dating?" she: "i guess?..." me:"ok ^^".

What's your mars sign?

So for you sex leads to a relationship?

Think about it...

Why wold i want to be in a rship with a woman that denys sex on purpose just because she is thinking 2 or 3 steps ahead of what she should at that moment?

Why wold she deny me *on purpose* the thing that i like the most in a rship because she *feels* like she needs to in order to achieve a certain goal?

Isn't that Insecurity? or maybe Selfishness?

Maybe she was *burned* on past relations, and thats why she wold act like that...but in my book this reads...*run*.... why wold i start a relation that before it even started it already had some drama and paranoia on the mix?

Where is the Passion of the moment? And in the end...Isn't it all just about the moment tbh? The fuck i know what i will do tomorrow...

It's just the way i see it..(while still sleepy lol)

Mars in Scorpio btw ^^

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Yesssss this. Agree. Must be my Mars Scorp but who the fuck cares..if I'm feeling it and wanna have sex on date 1 or 2 and they judge for it and don't want to still date then ok I will move on too...but never had that happen either...have had good relationships start from sex that happened quickly. Non issue.

Posted by malloryor
Shit sorry guys



As said in my last thread, I have given the Aries the slow fade which has finally come to a head...

(Texting Convo Below)

Me- Yeah idk, but anyway I can't do this texting thing, it's just not my thing so good luck with everything!

Him- Okay (my name) (he usually calls me by a pet name--yes he has given me a pet name)

if that's how you feel I completely understand. I hope you have a great rest of the summer and I wish you nothing but the best.

Me- Thank you ( his name)

Him- Don't mention it. Let me know if you have a change of heart. (He used some weird smiley emoji)

Me- Hahaha babe I will not be crawling back to you. I told you what I wanted, you let me know if you can ever deliver on that (okay hand emoji). (LOL I was and am so over his wishy washy butter)

Him- Crawling!? Why are you making this sound so dramatic. You were not dramatic at all when we hung out. Correct me if I'm wrong but the only thing you told me was that you wanted to talk on the phone, is this what this is all about?

Me- Lmao, I think I have always been this expressive via text ( I have). I was a communications major afterall. There are no hard feelings on my part

Him- I know but you still haven't answered my question, what did you clarify as to what you wanted besides what I mentioned above?

Me- I told you I wasn't interested in maintaining a texting relationship and if that is what you wanted we should of stayed online or maybe exchanged fb pages. *smirky emoji* (yes I'm being an ass but you Aries boys deserve it)

Me- This could of all been so simple. I just wanted to hang out and do something fun.

Him- Last time I checked I asked you not once, but twice to hang out. The first one was "lost in translation" and the other time you had plans already. I am obviously down to hang out.

Good for you for putting your foot down! Although..at the end he did say he was down to Hang out..at that point what did you say? Should have said great, when and where...lets do this! And then get back to light and fun that the relationship could be