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Are Aries More Comfortable as Loner or Social Butterfly
Many Aries individuals enjoy social interactions but also value alone time. They often thrive in independent activities and need periods of solitude to recharge. Balancing social engagement with alone time helps Aries stay energized and true to their nature as both outgoing and introspective.
If I participate, it's because I'm being forced to more than the desire, which desire has nothing to do with it, really, which is why instead of dancing when there is music--I am wishing the whole time I was doing it. I love being the corner - watching everyone interact - social behaviors, etc.
Posted by starlover
My Aries boyfriend is a very solitary guy, doesnt mix well and is kind of hermetic, although he teaches and is very out there with his work. Socially deffo not a mixer though. I always thought there was something introvert with the Aries personality, in some sense
That describes me to a T. I teach, too. I have the personality for the job - just not outside of it. Aries in the first decan, I believe, are much more introverted than those in the second or third.
The Aries I'm involved with also teaches, doesn't otherwise seem very social. Yet, he's very outgoing (in my view) and forthright (sure of himself, I suppose). Very much keeps to himself in general though. AND, very selective with whom he keeps as company. I suppose I'm lucky to be "in" and fortunate to have met those who he is the closest with 🙂
Yep
yes I am a loner by nature...so is my twin and alot of aries i know. I dont like big crowds or anything too sceney.
I am very much a loner. Basically, I don't connect well with people in general. Either I annoy the hell out of them, or the bore the hell outta' me. Either way, being alone is pretty much what I do.
I also notice that the other Aries I know are the same. Definitely gotta' have our space, for whatever reason.
All of you Aries are loners? That's craziness.
In true Aries fashion, I dominate social scenes like I dominate everything else.
I typically find myself in a position where I'm leading conversation, whether it be in a group of 2 or 10.
Of course I like my own space, and I need it for a bit of time everyday. However, I don't think any one, including myself, would consider me a hermit or seclusionist of sorts.
im no hermit but i am a loner. I do most things alone and enjoy it. I do alot on my own because I dont like to wait for people, they slow you up. For instance all of the trips i have traveled with my friends I always have to orchastarte things or we wont go for a long time when we went out I put everything together, the whens whys who's....it gets annoying honestly. I dont want to be the planner or leader of everyone. I find that even if im quiet people still look to me to be a leader. It could be my Aries ascendant too. Aries are independent and that can make one a loner.
I come off as detached/distant because I did not realize more than half the people I met throughout lifetime were/are careless about what they say, do, or portray. Made myself become more independent on my own in younger times and why it is portrayed no one's help is needed because no one was actually there through cold hard times as I was there for them when they needed help.
Recently met a Virgo who is just like me, it feels good to know behind someone's intention is caring enough and doesn't look over the little things that matter the most towards the end. I think you start meeting different people who are just like you when you start to value yourself for who you are.
Posted by starlover
...i am wondering if with some Aries people, its lack of confidence, i know it is with my man 😢
It is, maybe. It's also an inability to let our body's go - a let loose - we are repressed in that fashion and it sucks.
Posted by starlover
...i am wondering if with some Aries people, its lack of confidence, i know it is with my man 😢
Mine is not a lack of confidence. I just don't like that many people, and not that many people like me, and is just about all there is to that.
Mine is not a lack of confidence. I just don't like that many people, and not that many people like me, and is just about all there is to that.
click to expandI feel this way about it as well. I'm pretty confident, I just notice that I don't mesh with groups of people 'just because'. I would rather be home or with a select few that I enjoy instead.
yes im an aries and i can be a loner or i can be in a group but i prefer to be by myself. i have mercury in pisces which makes me very observant and instinctive so in group settings i like to observe everything my surroundings,ppl,their actions motives etc. because thats what helps me figure out who they are because ppl won't off the bat tell you but their actions sure as hell do lol. but also wli tend to be in my own world a lot so by myself i don't feel pressured to speak like in group settings and i can sit and do what i love to do which is listen and observe.
Yes! I definitely feel that way. Though I am extroverted, I have a tendency to feel like I'm held back in social situations from doing what I really want to do. I'd rather be on my own with nothing to stop me from doing whatever I feel like doing, when I feel like doing it.
Posted by starlover
...i am wondering if with some Aries people, its lack of confidence, i know it is with my man 😢Mine is not a lack of confidence. I just don't like that many people, and not that many people like me, and is just about all there is to that.
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Same here with me. I'm indifferent towards 90% of the people I meet, just plain don't like 8% right off the bat, don't trust half of the remaining 2% that I find interesting, and form strong bonds with the final 1% . I've learned the hard way to be selective of my company.
Posted by desireejb112
yes im an aries and i can be a loner or i can be in a group but i prefer to be by myself. i have mercury in pisces which makes me very observant and instinctive so in group settings i like to observe everything my surroundings,ppl,their actions motives etc. because thats what helps me figure out who they are because ppl won't off the bat tell you but their actions sure as hell do lol. but also wli tend to be in my own world a lot so by myself i don't feel pressured to speak like in group settings and i can sit and do what i love to do which is listen and observe.
Same here as well, down to the Mercury in Pisces.
Posted by starlover
...i am wondering if with some Aries people, its lack of confidence, i know it is with my man 😢It is, maybe. It's also an inability to let our body's go - a let loose - we are repressed in that fashion and it sucks.
That is interesting to read, all that fire and passion and an inability to let go? Can you talk more on this please? 🙂
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It's actually the trait that upsets me on a daily basis. For example, as I think I've mentioned in this post earlier, going to a music show and not dancing even though the music hits me in a way that I damn near almost have to, but I won't. But not 'letting go' is strictly limited to these situations - I'll walk up to a random person, etc. I can't seem to ever lose myself - I'm so headstrong that in these moments turns out to be so terrible a trait to have. I fight against my urges more than I'll ever give in to them.
Posted by starlover
...i am wondering if with some Aries people, its lack of confidence, i know it is with my man 😢Mine is not a lack of confidence. I just don't like that many people, and not that many people like me, and is just about all there is to that.
Same here with me. I'm indifferent towards 90% of the people I meet, just plain don't like 8% right off the bat, don't trust half of the remaining 2% that I find interesting, and form strong bonds with the final 1% . I've learned the hard way to be selective of my company.
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lmao me too!!!
Posted by desireejb112
yes im an aries and i can be a loner or i can be in a group but i prefer to be by myself. i have mercury in pisces which makes me very observant and instinctive so in group settings i like to observe everything my surroundings,ppl,their actions motives etc. because thats what helps me figure out who they are because ppl won't off the bat tell you but their actions sure as hell do lol. but also wli tend to be in my own world a lot so by myself i don't feel pressured to speak like in group settings and i can sit and do what i love to do which is listen and observe.Same here as well, down to the Mercury in Pisces.
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me three!!! merc in pisces here! I think it could be our mercury too...makes us very observant, quiet and somewhat secretive...
**I just don't like that many people, and not that many people like me, and is I'm indifferent towards 90% of the people I meet, just plain don't like 8% right off the bat, don't trust half of the remaining 2% that I find interesting, and form strong bonds with the final 1% . I've learned the hard way to be selective of my company.**
Lord this is me. Permanent side eye to the world.
Definitely. I am a loner about 75% of the time and I'm a first decan Aries. I can be social when in the mood, I'm just not normally in the mood. Lol
Everything depends on the mood and how I am feeling at the moment. At times I can be the life of the party and enertain everybody as I please, but then there are other times in which I choose to be laid back and attempt to chill alone and observe.
Posted by desireejb112
yes im an aries and i can be a loner or i can be in a group but i prefer to be by myself. i have mercury in pisces which makes me very observant and instinctive so in group settings i like to observe everything my surroundings,ppl,their actions motives etc. because thats what helps me figure out who they are because ppl won't off the bat tell you but their actions sure as hell do lol. but also wli tend to be in my own world a lot so by myself i don't feel pressured to speak like in group settings and i can sit and do what i love to do which is listen and observe.Same here as well, down to the Mercury in Pisces.
me three!!! merc in pisces here! I think it could be our mercury too...makes us very observant, quiet and somewhat secretive...
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Make it four... no mercury in pisces, sun/moon/mercury/venus fall in 11th house pisces..
Posted by starlover
Wow guys this is so interesting! My dad was an Aries and i can remember he wouldnt relax socially often and would want to come home after being out for a short time...used to drive my ma crazy! Is it about keeping control i wonder? Not allowing oneself to let go. I am aries rising but totally the opposite, very expressive sexually, dancing etc, talking to people and yet a private side too.....Quite a complex sign isnt it?
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The world demands conformity. Some conform, some find a compromise between being themselves and being what the world expects them to be, and others just say "fuck it" and go their own way and do their own thing, even if it means solitude. What better way is there to be yourself than to be by yourself without anybody impinging upon you? I'd also say that that solitude is a form of rebellion against said demands of conformity. After all, how can you boss and push someone around when they're not around?
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Fellow Aries, do you ever get the sense that you are a better loner than a group person? When it comes to social events do you participate and then retreat to your lone status in a corner somewhere?