Male Aries and their mothers.

This one Aries guy told me that he does believe the saying is true, in which "we tend to like people who resemble our mothers". He basically said he was attracted me because I had similiar personality traits of his mother (she is a Leo)...
I sometimes make fun of him, calling him a "momma's boy"...

Aries don't do teasing and embarrassment gracefully .. I take it this is a "past" man. Want to send the Ram packing? Make fun of him .. that should do the trick.


Personally, I would find it endearing .. I love my mother too.

"Want to send the Ram packing? Make fun of him .. that should do the trick"

100 % true.

I'll ditto that P-Angel and GA...

When someone does make fun of us...we don't leave because our feelings are hurt (they are a bit) but, it is your "character" that would have me leave - or rather lack of 😉...not too sure about the other Aries though.

See .. I keep saying that Aries and Pisces are a perfect match and here it comes into play .. Pisces WANT to be the mother, take care of every need for our man.

If a man told us that he loved us because it reminded him of his mother .. we'd be forever lost within his heart.

🙂

had to stop in a comment...

I love my mom cuz my mom loves me. two way street but she does it way better. I have to learn a lot.

I think we reference our "mothers" when choosing a permanent partner. no so much her unique characteristics but for the general feeling of emotional,spiritual security that only a woman/female/mother can do for a man/male.

We Aries are the "infants" of Life. Its only natural to yearn for someone to be there when we fall.

It also helps that you are physically attracted as well.

Then there's is nothing to do with our Mothers.....🙂

Then the Fire takes over....better stop there.

Malama O Ke Kai

Iorana

wohh...slow down jammin gemini.

Not sure you understood what I was trying to say.

No need to maintain or any extra effort in the physical world.
I am Aries. I can manage.

But when we finally do fall, emotionally, mentally, which isn't often, its nice to know you have someone that can be gentle & listen and take care of us.

We are at our most vulnerable when we need to open up and let it all flow out.

anyways. no need for doormats. my mom was never a doormat. no time for doormats.

aloha

I don't judge people based on how close they resemble my mom, just on how much of an asshole they are.

good comments...
and the teasing was just playful...

If a man ever told me I reminded him of his mother I would be out the door in a heartbeat

But yet when a man reminds me of my Daddy I fall completely....what's with that?

Maybe because my dad was a God in my eyes and any man that can compete is a potental semi-god. LOL!

Yea same here juwanapla! When a guy reminds me of my father, for some reason I'm drawn to him...

lol, ok ...

So doormat only applies to women who resemble mothers, yet, to want a man who reminds of father .. isn't?

lol

GF, you missed my meaning, but, I'm not surprised ..

There's a difference between being a slave and desiring to nurture.

lol

"I cannot take care of every need of my man! I am not a doormat,& to me that is a
door mat when a woman does that for her Man!"

There's also a difference between the words "cannot" and "willnot".

"taking care of a mans
every need,& how I cannot do that!!!
Solitas,what you describe is all completely normal & good. A
woman that loves you will do those things."


A complete contridiction ..

gotch geminifox.
I thought it was weird that you didn't understand me.
It was me that did not understand. sorry.
It was late and didn't read into much when I wrote my comment.

anyways. mahalo.

aloha

Message posted by: geminifox on 2/9/2007 4:17:41 AM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.14
P-angel,do I ever insult you? No,I don't! What solitas described is not in any
way meeting my mans every need!!! That is being loving & caring to the man you
love,it is not degrading,demeaning,or considered slave work!!!


That is what I was talking about, too .. when you insinuate that because I have a desire to do the things described by solitas you called me a doormat .. so, yes, you do insult me.

"To meet "EVERY NEED" is not humanly possible unless you become a slave or a servant
to someone. Being good to your man is one thing,but to do everything is another!!!"

That would be correct .. so common sense should prevail here .. a person can only do what they are capable of doing in providing for their needs.

"There are some men in this world that expect a woman to drop everything for them
and serve them 24/7"

You mis-understand what I say because you think because I'm a Pisces that makes me a doormat (only here this term in reference to Pisces) .. to have a DESIRE to take care of my man is NOT saying that I would drop what I'm doing to go service him, lol, GF.

"What if someone doesn't want to be nurtured that day? What if the person feels they
have been nurtured enough for the week? Nurturing is a great thing when it's needed
but to do it all the time could get very sufficating & smothering!"

That would be correct, also .. however, did you hear me say that my desire is to force myself upon my man? Being a Pisces .. I require a lot of space and in so doing, to accomplish this "space" that would mean being alone a lot.

The problem is that you don't understand me .. what I say bounces off of your surface. Not surprised, though .. my first husband was a Gemini and he took me and what I said and did no deeper than his surface .. because he didn't understand.

I sense that this is a thorn in your side .. this issue .. does your Aries man desire you to be more subserviant to him and because you are independent .. you take the position of claiming that you aren't his slave? I've no clue, just asking because normally people only get upset about something that is nagging at them personally.

GF .. there's a difference between someone expecting something of you & you having the desire to want to do it .. to give everything you (possibly) can to provide for your partner's every need is NOT smothering or overbearing, so long as respect is giving for his privacy and space, nor, is it being a slave .. this only happens in the mind of the person who doesn't WANT to provide this nurturing .. you use aspects about me according to my sun sign and yet NEVER really hear what I say.

"I expect my man can shower & clean himself & use the bath
room without my help. I believe he can dress himself,and be independent.
I don't mind cooking,or taking care of my man when he's sick,& I don't mind doing
things to help him,but "NO MAN" is gonna walk on me,and make me his care-giver!!!"

wtf ——? Shower him, help him at the toilet —? You know, GF, even mothers don't do this to their sons who are MEN.lol

When you called me a doormat (again, a term you plucked out of astrology descriptions) for wanting to care for my man's needs .. copy and paste where I said my desire was to wipe his ass for him, please.

I'm curious to see how you interpreted what I said into allowing a man to walk over me.

Awwwww, now see, solitas .. where is this man for me? Maybe it's not my sun, maybe it's my moon in Cancer .. I dunno .. but, somewhere I'm gonna find a man who wants what you want because I would be complete having my man needing me like that.

All the demons in my head would vanish and the gentle, loving side of me would emmerge if I had a man who needed me to love him like that ..

Damn .. where is he?

But, in reality .. what an Aries really wants is someone who will argue with him and try to push him around .. why is that?

The object of my affection is an Aries .. however, he's untouchable to me .. adoration from afar .. fortunately for me, because my fantasy is sooooooo real, I can live happily with just the "idea" of the love I hold for him.

It's possible to be in love without actually having it from the other .. I didn't think so, but, it's true .. I've been in love for over 4 years now and have never met him. That sounds crazy, I know .. but, it's true .. he's the first thing that pops into my head upon waking, on my mind all day, and in my fantasy as I fall asleep at night.

Whether he's ascended, I've no clue ..

My husband of 24 years doesn't need that kind of attention and affection .. in fact, he's happier being distant and self-reliant. To recieve a kiss goodbye and a loving note tucked away inside his lunch box would make him feel smothered. He's not a "sharer" of moments in his life .. he'd rather spend them alone, in his thoughts.

People are so different ...

"when I was married to the virgo man,he did expect to have things
done in a very timely manner,ect.... I didn't find this to be a bad thing,but he
could be a bit controlling sometimes."

lol

It's alright, GF, like I said, my Gem husband didn't understand my motives either. He took the same position as you .. however, my Virgo husband is much the same way and is far from controlling .. in fact, he's so damn independent that he's rather walk around with shit on his ass then ask me to fetch him paper.

So much for my inquiry into why Aries picks the people who appear wrong for them, for, it's apparant I do too, lol

"I did not call you a doormat at all"

It was insinuated .. it's alright, I understand. Most Gems get me, but, not all.

One of my best friends is a Gemini and she's really deep, picks up on everything I say and do and takes it to heart for what I mean, rather than how I appear on the surface. But, not all .. my first husband saw nothing beneath my skin .. superficial stuff I don't do gracefully and when you insinuated doormat based off of astrology descriptions, rather than any real experience with the Pisces, I percieved that as superficial. But, no harm done .. my skin is actually pretty damn thick .. has to be living with a Virgo for so many years.lol

"You allowed anger to set in rather than to look at this for what it
is. I think that if you want to be a certain way,that is fine,but I don't have to
be the same way."

Don't even go there .. you've no clue whether or not I was angry .. in fact, I have to be pushed to very extreme limits to become angry. Second, I saw it for exactly what it was, you insinuated that to want to take care of my man's every needs is being a doormat and I know this because once another person questioned you about what you were saying to her, you said you were talking to P-Angel (me). GF, nobody said and certainly not me, that YOU had to be this way .. for what reason do people takes things personally like this? I said "I" have a desire to take care of my man's every needs. I did NOT say I have a desire for "GeminiFox" to take care of her man's every needs.

I know this is going to sound arrogant and I have to take the guilt because it's true: I'm way ahead of you in discerning situations and having a precise handle on intentions (most of the time). That's exactly what you meant. Something you need to know about Pisces from the get-go .. we absorb EVERYTHING, we therefore, know your next move before you even make it, by having the ability to ascertain motives based off of behaviour, tone and verbal expressions.

However, like I said .. it's alright .. and yes, everyone has thier own view. You have yours .. you don't desire to give the same kind of nurturing as me and I never robbed you of that position .. that is, until you suggested I was a doormat. You know .. this is something that comes from a person who knows not about the Pisces and uses this term from reading astrology descriptions and ANY time a Pisces hears a person use this term, we comprehend IMMEDIATELY that the user has no life-experience with us and is therefore being superficial.

But, hell .. I certainly can't take this high stance for very long, for several times in other posts, I slapped you, whether you picked up on it, or not. Probably not and in so saying, another slap.

I don't dislike you either, nor, the Gemini's. In fact, I don't really dislike ANY person, rather, stupidity .. now THAT, I don't do very well. Another thing I don't do gracefully is a person who doesn't hold theirselves accountable (obviously, the Aries can ONLY be in fantasy for this reason). If you meant something, or did something, or insinuated something .. you have to own it.

I know my husband can't stand the constant talking of the Gemini .. I don't mind a bit, but, the Virgo likes solitude and well, Gems just like to talk. My Virgo is completely different from your ex .. he's critical and fussy .. but, in no way controlling or demanding .. I Rule !! Always !! He knows this, he knows there is NO taming me and he doesn't even try .. he's extremely submissive.

I'm thinking that the reason why we as humans don't usually pick the right people is because subconsciously .. if we find the "perfect" person, then it means we have to settle and if we settle-down, then there is nothing left to explore.

There's never another first kiss .. and nothing is better than that, except maybe ice-cream with caramel on top.

Virgo's don't like physical affection .. I hear ya on that. Sex, they like. Affection and cuddling .. they don't.

"My moon is in pisces P-Angel,so I am interested in pisces people and what they
are like,& what the traits are like in pisces"

Go to the Pisces board and listen for a while .. for the most part, they want someone to grasp their thought(s) process .. this is the biggest obstacle, for it's the most difficult to understand. I see a lot of Pisces in you .. the desire to always be pleasing, even when it isn't deserving .. that comes from your moon. If you really think about it .. it's not much different from my desires .. it's just my Pisces is in the sun, so I'm more prone to being cynical because I already know the answer before I ask the question .. so, this leaves the person to have to live up to the pre-determined conclusion.

GF, he IS independent and submissive, lol .. two different areas of our life. Dont' worry, it's impossible to hurt my feelings in here. I HAVE to rule over him, for he won't do it .. how I would love to be with someone who had the courage to step-up to the plate .. but, my Virgo isn't that person .. he would sit back and let life pass him by without putting forth any effort. And yes, he knows I'm not in love with him, because he's not in love with me either.

People don't have to be "in love" to share wonderful moments .. that is a mis-conception that people fall for .. there are many people in my life and I love them all, but, I don't have to be in love to be happy being with them.

It may appear as a contridiction to you, but, it's not ..

"Did you not say that your sex life with your virgo man wasn't good or very often?
If you rule,ALWAYS like you say,and your virgo man knows this,then you'd have the
sex you wanted with him right?"

How can I have the sex I want with him, if he ain't any good at it? Just because I am more forceful than him in the relationship, doesn't make him better sexually, lol

"You say he is extremely submissive. If this is so,then there should be no problems,especially if you meet his needs,right?"

His needs? If I meet his needs? Are you now saying that it's a woman's position to meet the mans needs .. yet, he shouldn't be held accountable for the same thing? Him being submissive has absolutely nothing to do with meeting MY needs because I like more powerful men .. ones who are dominant .. so, how is that meeting my needs by him being submissive?

GF, life is easy when you're single .. you can just walk away when something isn't going right. It's a bit harder when a lot of time and money is invested into a marriage .. there are assets, fixed and liquid .. one just can't "walk away". We're working on it .. we are both aware that some changes have to be made and that we both need to find ourselves in a better place. People (most) are very self-centered and ONLY think about how they feel, what they want .. and will just abandon another without much regard for the other .. neither of us will do that because we respect each other.

He knows I'm in love with a fantasy, GF .. for some reason, people in here think that I'm not communicative with my husband and take advantage of him .. but, really, he's a Virgo for christ sake .. he's not stupid and for people to suggest that he's not aware of what's going

I'm just babbling away and don't even realize it until I've reached the character limit and can't type any more, lol

"If you prefer to live in your fantasy life,and love another man while married to another,this is your freedom to do so but you will be longing for a love you cannot have,and how healthy can that be? Why not talk with your virgo and try to make things better between the two of you? It seems that you like to vent alot,rather than changing things in your personal life."

It is assumed a lot by people that I dont' talk to my husband .. we talk all the time, GF, lol. Furthermore, how would anyone in here know whether changes are being made in my personal life? A lot is assumed and that's ok, because that's all one can do. Actually, having a fantasy love is very healthy for the Pisces .. perhaps, not for other signs because they don't live in the same existence and CANNOT comprehend that in the "dream" world is our natural environment .. so, in "there" is where decisions and changes have to be made. To find strength in a love in fantasy, gives the Pisces the courage and strength to push forward .. so, though, it may seem to others that I'm standing still - stagnant - in a relationship that has failed .. in my reality, by having a love to work towards, I'm building strength.

The Pisces is very difficult to comprehend, for we don't "process" life the same way as others. Where we find ourselves isn't in this plane.

"if the virgo man you are with thinks that you love him,but you don't
I cannot help but feel sorry for him. Virgo people do have feelings too!"

You know, you have no idea who I love and who I don't .. I'm not sure why someone should feel sorry for him .. do you honestly believe that a man - any man - would stay 24 years in a marriage where he didn't feel loved and wanted? lol

Again, two people don't have to be "in love" to be happy together. This is something that I think most women fail to grasp ..

"do you honestly believe that a man - any man - would stay 24 years in a marriage where he didn't feel loved and wanted? lol"

Hey P-Angel.....yeppers I happen to know for a fact that this is true...a man will stay in a marriage where he does not feel loved and wanted. He finds it easier to stay then to leave because of the money - he does NOT want to loose his money - so, he will stay in the so called "marriage" and have affairs that stimulate him and keep him alive. Happens all the time. How do I know you ask? well....my being a single woman, I have quite a few male pals that I happen to know and have known for many years. They are in "marriages" for convience, for THEIR convience. They are not happy men. I have NOT been with any of these men for I being the Aries that I am and having the integrity that I do will not cross that line - me be second in a man's life? HELLLLO NO WAY!

I have had the honour to talk with these men and I have asked them if they are so unhappy why in the world do they stay in a situation that is no longer working for them?

First one - EGO....to be the man and say, "I want out" he will be perceived as the "bad" guy, he ruined the marriage, he left the woman....oh my goodness!" For some men, this is not something that they want to be associated with.

Secondly - MONEY

Thirdly - the whole process....most men do not like dealing with conflict or change - they would rather just keep it like it is.

There are some of us out here who feel that life truly is a gift and we have this one time shot in this body at this moment in time and we are gonna enjoy every moment of it. For me, my marriage was good at the time, the marriage served the purpose, our lessons were learned - to look at our situation honestly, we knew we were no longer to be together, it was time to move on and learn more (he has now married his soulmate - and I am soooooo thrilled for him to be able to have this awesome experience) I am grateful for my experiences with my ex for I have learned a lot in the marriage and after.....life is about growth, not stagnation or existing and that is what we were doing.

"Again, two people don't have to be "in love" to be happy together. This is something that I think most women fail to grasp.."

Most of my male friends and I have this type of relationship that you mention above. I personally, will not settle for this with a partner though....I want more and I need more in an intimate relationship with

a man.

Well, there ya go .. a man will do this. And seeing that he's Virgo, he'd probably be more likely than others to tolerate something where he isn't happy.

However, I know he is and so am I for what we have shared in the past and whatever lies in our future .. together, or seperate. Certainly, there are areas that aren't so wonderful, or we wouldn't be discussing seperation .. but, we don't process things that way. Instead of being resentful, or angry .. we try to memorialize what made the union beautiful, instead of ugly. Do I bitch in here? Hell, ya .. all the time, and that's because I don't want to bitch at him .. so, you guys get it? Don't you feel special?lol

With us .. it's NOT money, for, though, he makes a decent salary and I don't work at all except being a housewife and domestic duties .. his family was nearly destitude when we met and I come from a very wealthy family .. so, most everything we've gained came from my father's fortune .. his money simply carries us along in daily living. Perhaps money IS an issue then, now that I look at it this way .. he doesn't want to lose something I might continue to inheret .. however, he knows me well enough to know that I wouldn't treat him like that ..

With us, FB .. it's intimacy, sexuality .. that is where the issue lies that can't be worked out. Or, should I say "will not" be worked out .. for if a desire IS present to work something out .. then the means to do so is available. It's just run it's course, the spark is gone .. that's life !!!!

Solitas .. you are the exception to the rule (one of them). Most of your kind struggle with accepting fault for their actions .. and I understand where that's coming from (I think) .. it's because to the Ram, experiencing new sensations is the driving-force, beit bad, or good .. the aim is to feel the pleasures of it, or distate of it and everything inbetween .. so there is no right or wrong in this aspect .. only embracing. Is that close to getting it?

"She is the eptiomy of feminity, grace, elegance, and power. She is loving and nurturing and dreams my dreams and lives to love me. We connect on an emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual plane."

That's really beautiful .. you're life is one filled with moments that will leave you with memories of satisfaction, value and success .. what a legacy .. you've been bestowed with a blessing to have these feelings for another.

"Yes, the catch is I've never met her! LOL.... Ahh to worship and adore a fictional dream woman.... I guess as a Pisces you can relate!"

lol .. every waking moment .. in both places. And sometimes, even in slumber .. I've acutally woken up in the ecstasy of his love .. first time in my life I've ever had .. um .. you know .. WD

Everyones perspective is different, and I have to use a bit more effort at trying to understand the Ram's logic .. however, I'm getting there. Certainly, mine isn't any easier to grasp.

Currently, the most present Aries in my life (real) is my daughter-in-law and though she has grown leaps and bounds with her life in the past several years .. she's still just spending a tremendous amount of energy ramming into EVERYTHING that crosses her path, using the justification that she's wonderful, great, sexy .. and so deserving of everything. I now understand this logic (thanks to FB), but, since she hasn't matured into her true Aries self .. she runs ramshod over people with no concern about their feelings or well-being (sorry .. that was taken from astrology descriptions, which I bitch about people doing, lol, damn hypocrites).

"Aries peoples actions that you percieve as wrong but they do not and as a result they won't admit their mistakes because they do not believe they made a mistake."

Yes, I'm understanding this .. however, she does err because nobody is perfect and as of yet, she isn't capable of admitting that she isn't always right, simply because she chooses to ignore people other than her own wants.

I know, some day, she will find her path and comprehend that the beauty in life that she seeks will be bestowed upon her without forceing people into giving it to her. She's young still and has a long way to go .. however, I fully recognize that on her inside .. her soul is very compassionate and loving. I'm patient .. I can wait for her to find herself and when she does .. I'm gonna be blessed with the most incrediable daughter I never had in her .. one who is confident, rather than concieted. I can't wait !!!!!!!

Didn't think this post would spring up this much discussion, I appreciate the feedback.