My Aries girlfriend says that its immoral to not believe in life after death...Surely not right?

Met her the first day of varsity. Day 1 she was extremely quiet and just shrugged me off when I asked her name. Day 2 we started talking and we've been inseparable ever since. The way she actively pursued me usually without caution made me fall for her. Like me, she had no prior relationships, but still so openly was brave enough to take a shot at love without hesitating. She's unapologetically beautiful, relentless intelligence and work ethic, and sound morals with a near perfect moral compass.

One aspect of which her's varies from mine tremendously is family life. She was adopted by a strong theist family, thus her family have a strong bond which is strengthened through faith in Christ. I on the other hand (Gemini btw) was born into a Hindu family but quite quickly found other pursuits which interested me much more than any religion. I always tell her that I love her exactly how she is, and that includes her faith which is very much part of her. She reciprocates this feeling and does not care whether or not I'm involved in any sort of religion, so we've really got a good dynamic going.However lately I've been beginning to feel that she might not fully understand the general stance of most atheists. I think we may have some kind of an intellectual connection so we love to engage in deep conversation, but the deeper and deeper we go, the more shocked she seems at some of my views. She had presumed that I simply have no faith in a supreme God, which yes is true, but I feel this lack of faith implies the denial of certain other fallacies. The Ones that seemed to shake her the most was my nonacceptance of non observable and non measurable phenomena...specifically, fate,soul, and the afterlife. Although it seems it doesn't bother her too much, I can clearly see she was slightly put off when I admitted my beliefs, or lack there of. I simply just asked her how she felt about everything because things did feel a little tense during that time. She assured me that it was not that big of an issue to her. She did however admit that if she had known these things in the beginning, she wouldn't have been as forward in courtship as she was in the beginning. Thats a super weird thing to admit to right? its put a little doubt in my mind to be honest. Have any of you dealt with similar issues? I have no clue what to do here. I can stage a lie and in the future say I came to accept spiritual life more. I know its deceitful, but I honestly have no problem acting it out for the rest of my life if it means more security for our relationship. She motivates me to keep striving for bigger goals and that is the best thing about my life at the moment, so losing her over one of my countless controversial opinions would be a major screw up. IDK I'm super stoned and probably a little paranoid about what she said, but its something I cant get over. Any input would be much appreciated XX

Posted by NemDeux

Thank you?

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by GoingNowhereSlowly

Posted by NemDeux

Thank you?

it's so early/fresh and already THIS complicated?
i have no time for people with too rigid and dogmatic mindsets; people who tend to preach ....have a lot to hide.

and yw! it's a great song!

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Well 7 months feels longish for me. lol who's preaching?

Posted by Lalalo
First of all: Never lie to an aries. That will get you nowhere.

And aries women tend to be very picky. We want someone who matches our values and interests and stuff - someone who gets us. This sounds like a very small issue, though; she might have just been disappointed to figure out you don’t share this exact view, but she might come around when she realizes it doesn’t matter that much in the big picture of it all.

Also, I know gems tend to get a little ‘frightened’ when us aries gets all opinionated, but it’s just because we’re excited, and we tend to sound more extreme in our views than we actually are. We just enjoy a good discussion about something we’re passionate about - and gems tend to be able to bring that out in me. Try not to take it so personally

Thank you! will definitely put your advice to good use. You're right I'm definitely over reacting, I just didnt have a response to what she said and i think that took me off guard.

"The ones that seemed to shake her the most was my non-acceptance of non-observable and non-measurable phenomena...specifically, fate, soul and the afterlife."

You do realize you're posting on an Astrology forum, right?

Anyways, what's your sun sign? My partner is an Aquarius, and I'm an Aries. His beliefs and morale mostly center around the bible, even though he doesn't always practice what he preaches. I'm more of a pantheist. Sometimes we fight tooth and nail when we debate over divinity and what God means to us. Often things get heated in our debates and it can really bug me that we don't see eye to eye. Do not try to change her view, because you will likely not succeed. Should you try, you might risk the integrity of your relationship. My advice is to find common-ground. If you're on an Astrology forum then you must be spiritual in some sense(?). Try to keep an open-mind, or maybe take an agnostic approach should the conversation come up again.