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Nasty Astrology - Aries
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They think the whole of life is like a gigantic game of chess - they play to win and they play to make you lose. There is no other outcome as far as they are concerned - and your losing is as important, if not more so, than winning. They do like like to gamble - with your affections, with the law, with their very lives. You'd be better off having nothing do with them in case they drag you down with them into the bankruptcy courts, the pits, even into hell itself. They are unbelievably competitive and will turn anything into a bet, a competition, a race, a wager, a gamble, a contest, a fight. Put them under any real pressure, though, and they'll cave in. They'll do anything to win and will resort to trickery, fraud, lying and good old-fashioned cheating. This applies to any situation - relationships, business, love and friendships. They grow into grumpy old men and sour old women. Mind you, they start out pretty grumpy - but it only reaches a climax when they are old and think they can get away with it. They are lazy, self-indulgent, corrupt and avaricious - and that's the good side of them. Aries people will never as for help as they think they can cope just fine on their own. They will, however, always take over anyone elses tasks as they think they can do everything better than anyone else. If they would slow down for a moment that might be true - unlikely but true.
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Aries in Love
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God but the Aries do like to fall in love. It's something they do at the drop of a hat - or a pair of briefs. They keep their heart in their pants, so it is easy to get an Aries to fall in love with you - just sleep with them. They are, however, puppy-like in love, and will follow their intended around with hang-dog expressions, flowers and lust in their eyes. They stay in love long after all traces of love have evaporated. It takes dynamite to shift them. You can try being as nasty as you like, and they'll still follow you around. They can never quite believe that anyone could stop loving them despite their unlovable natures. Tangle with them at your peril. They are like limpets, clinging to your knees as you try to leave them. They'll take you to a Greek island - as long as they can get cheap flights - and spend the whole time trying to have a holiday romance under your very nose.
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Aries in Love
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God but the Aries do like to fall in love. It's something they do at the drop of a hat - or a pair of briefs. They keep their heart in their pants, so it is easy to get an Aries to fall in love with you - just sleep with them. They are, however, puppy-like in love, and will follow their intended around with hang-dog expressions, flowers and lust in their eyes. They stay in love long after all traces of love have evaporated. It takes dynamite to shift them. You can try being as nasty as you like, and they'll still follow you around. They can never quite believe that anyone could stop loving them despite their unlovable natures. Tangle with them at your peril. They are like limpets, clinging to your knees as you try to leave them. They'll take you to a Greek island - as long as they can get cheap flights - and spend the whole time trying to have a holiday romance under your very nose.
LOL Chillax ArianPride, it's a book that bashes all 12 signs and it's for a jolly good laugh, enjoy yourself.
Aries and Sex
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Morals of a mongoose? Ha! The mongoose society would have them thrown out for lax morals. They would sleep with anything that moves, given half a chance. They think fidelity is not thinking of someone else while they're with you. The kinkier it is the more likely you are to find Aries there with their noses in the trough. If it involves leather, whips, pain, humiliation and degradation - it'll be too tame for them. They are always dreaming of three-in-a-bed sessions, but both of their sex partners would have to be in love with them, and not with each other - the Aries couldn't stand that. They also like the idea of sex in public - but only the idea; they are actually quite prudish and wouldn't even let you kiss them in the open. For all their talk of kinky sex, they are very conventional in bed. They like the idea of lots of regular sex but if they get it they get bored, so keep them guessing, keep them wanting more, keep them at arms length if you ask me. They think they've got unbelievably high libidos but they cool quickly if they get too much. They are passionately jealous and make dangerous love rivals - they'll play dirty to get exactly what they want, so watch out. They think they look good in the nude. They don't.
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Aries in Business
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They are bossy and controlling, domineering and egotistical. They think they are right, infallible, untouchable, perfect, fool-proof and terribly cuddly. Tell them they are arrogant and bossy and they won't have a clue what you are talking about. They think they are caring, supportive and kind and thoughtful. That shows you how much out of touch themselves they are. If they work for others they are uppity, unhelpful, lazy, and will cheerfully steal your ideas and claim them for their own. They use the office as a place for seduction, corruption and sleep and will happily claim unfair dismissal if they get caught. They will gossip and cause trouble if you don't keep an eye on them permanently. If they work for themselves they either go bankrupt or make a fortune - nothing in between for them. They think they work hard - and will tell you this constantly - but in reality they skive and shirk their duties. They think they are 'ideas' people but most of their best ideas are stolen from others. If they do get rich they'll hoard the money and still buy you cheap gifts. Their idea of a Christmas bonus for staff is Boxing day off.
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Morals of a mongoose? Ha! The mongoose society would have them thrown out for lax morals. They would sleep with anything that moves, given half a chance. They think fidelity is not thinking of someone else while they're with you. The kinkier it is the more likely you are to find Aries there with their noses in the trough. If it involves leather, whips, pain, humiliation and degradation - it'll be too tame for them. They are always dreaming of three-in-a-bed sessions, but both of their sex partners would have to be in love with them, and not with each other - the Aries couldn't stand that. They also like the idea of sex in public - but only the idea; they are actually quite prudish and wouldn't even let you kiss them in the open. For all their talk of kinky sex, they are very conventional in bed. They like the idea of lots of regular sex but if they get it they get bored, so keep them guessing, keep them wanting more, keep them at arms length if you ask me. They think they've got unbelievably high libidos but they cool quickly if they get too much. They are passionately jealous and make dangerous love rivals - they'll play dirty to get exactly what they want, so watch out. They think they look good in the nude. They don't.
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Aries in Business
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They are bossy and controlling, domineering and egotistical. They think they are right, infallible, untouchable, perfect, fool-proof and terribly cuddly. Tell them they are arrogant and bossy and they won't have a clue what you are talking about. They think they are caring, supportive and kind and thoughtful. That shows you how much out of touch themselves they are. If they work for others they are uppity, unhelpful, lazy, and will cheerfully steal your ideas and claim them for their own. They use the office as a place for seduction, corruption and sleep and will happily claim unfair dismissal if they get caught. They will gossip and cause trouble if you don't keep an eye on them permanently. If they work for themselves they either go bankrupt or make a fortune - nothing in between for them. They think they work hard - and will tell you this constantly - but in reality they skive and shirk their duties. They think they are 'ideas' people but most of their best ideas are stolen from others. If they do get rich they'll hoard the money and still buy you cheap gifts. Their idea of a Christmas bonus for staff is Boxing day off.
Their idea of a bonus for themselves is a racing car. They also like to reuse last year's Christmas cards, and will ask people to sign them in pencil so they can be re-cycled.
Nasty Astrology - Richard MacDonald
Nasty Astrology - Richard MacDonald
Posted by venusianbull
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Aries in Love
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God but the Aries do like to fall in love. It's something they do at the drop of a hat - or a pair of briefs. They keep their heart in their pants, so it is easy to get an Aries to fall in love with you - just sleep with them. They are, however, puppy-like in love, and will follow their intended around with hang-dog expressions, flowers and lust in their eyes. They stay in love long after all traces of love have evaporated. It takes dynamite to shift them. You can try being as nasty as you like, and they'll still follow you around. They can never quite believe that anyone could stop loving them despite their unlovable natures. Tangle with them at your peril. They are like limpets, clinging to your knees as you try to leave them. They'll take you to a Greek island - as long as they can get cheap flights - and spend the whole time trying to have a holiday romance under your very nose.
HAHAHAHA SOOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE!
Posted by venusianbull
Arians are independent and hold most people in contempt. They have a quick fiery temper and are impatient and scornful of advice. They can be exceedingly abrupt and blunt. Their arrogance knows no bounds. They think there are only two ways to do anything - their way and the wrong way. They may be right, but they lack diplomatic skills and will win no friends. When it comes to relationships and commitment they are still looking for the meaningful one-night stand. They're not as tall as they say they are...
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Personality
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They like to think they are brave, that they are great leaders. If they would hold up for long enough to look behind them they would see no one is following. If you catch them unawares in the bathroom they'll be acting out speeches or practicing being interviewed on chat shows. They are vain and big-headed and egotistic and over-confident. Prick their fragile bubbles, though, and they'll cry like babies. They have no staying power, no stamina for a fight, no resistance and no reserves. They are weak and would willingly bribe their way out of any trouble.
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In any real risky situation you'll find them leading from the back. Once the excitement and danger is over they will become very vocal about their achievements and success on the field - how very brave they were, and how the whole battle would have been lost if they hadn't saved the day at the last moment, by the skin of their teeth. This is, of course, complete fiction.
spiteful much very hatefull
Awwww, c'mere AA, you need a big hug.
you know what's funny? aries was the first to respond, the first to respond negatively and the first to not get that it's a semi-truthful joke. i think scorps are the other sign that did/will overreact 😉
Fire Burns and Water Runs Deep 😉
K...I think some of this is quite true of us. But, I think some of it is more than false and waaayyy over blown.
It's pretty nasty, but I can take it.
And of course it would be an Aries to respond first. It is our board and directed to us, after all. I've not checked out the other board's responses, but I'm guessing the sign it's directed too will be the first ones to post back too. It's only natural...
It kind of reminds me of the Bastard by Sun Sign series...now those were good!
It's pretty nasty, but I can take it.
And of course it would be an Aries to respond first. It is our board and directed to us, after all. I've not checked out the other board's responses, but I'm guessing the sign it's directed too will be the first ones to post back too. It's only natural...
It kind of reminds me of the Bastard by Sun Sign series...now those were good!
Actually a Cancer responded first, ME! lol but anywho.......
Posted by Astrological Aftermath1
false. we just said that it's pretty nasty stuff, now if u gon the libra board u will see a completely different story. they reacted like is wall true and didn't even know that it's from a book!
must you be so argumentative? sheesh! 🙂
LOL Austin, Your comment cracked me up,Good for you!
Posted by CancerianGoddess
Actually a Cancer responded first, ME! lol but anywho.......
To the Aries one? I show ArianPride did??
all true!
Yea i am above him.........lol
Oh, my computer shows different...odd!
Damnit! My PC Shows me first, maybe we posted the same time..lol
tiebreaker! i show arianpride, twice, before you as well.
Posted by CancerianGoddess
Damnit! My PC Shows me first, maybe we posted the same time..lol
ME ME ME!! LOL 😉
aries hate to be dampened it will cause more harm than you know lol . .
hell we dont want to fight we wont to F**k
but one thing i think is most aries men including me
if we feel there is no problems n out relationship
romance will come easy
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ya they one gurl i will nail is the one im with
hell we dont want to fight we wont to F**k
but one thing i think is most aries men including me
if we feel there is no problems n out relationship
romance will come easy
and
ya they one gurl i will nail is the one im with
a. why would Haitians abuse you? i think you'd be beaten up by staff of nationality.
b. the aries woman is still breathing right? i mean, you didn't go Virgo on her did you? in other words, how does your going to jail relate to this woman? or was that a figurative prison?
c. how does the chick that's been putting up with you for 7 years feel about all of this?
b. the aries woman is still breathing right? i mean, you didn't go Virgo on her did you? in other words, how does your going to jail relate to this woman? or was that a figurative prison?
c. how does the chick that's been putting up with you for 7 years feel about all of this?
Posted by ramfishtwinsPosted by CancerianGoddess
Damnit! My PC Shows me first, maybe we posted the same time..lol
ME ME ME!! LOL 😉click to expand
What can i say my aries man is rubbing off on me.. but notice his first post was "I Agree CG?" LOL
@wga - i'm not an aries. i just happen to be aries-esque. but you've come to the right chicky. as a taurus, i know understand what you're feeling right now. taurus has difficult letting go as well. whenever i have a friend who is beyond "normal" heartbreak, i tell them to liken the loss to death. in death,
you can't hug the person one more time, you can't tell them the "i love you" that you forgot to say...it is what it is. it's a lifetime of pain.
having lost my mom, and having friends who've lost their parents as well, young folks who have yet to experience it don't get the magnitude of the loss. i mean, a young woman who loses her dad, not only is that a devastating loss but imagine her wedding day. imagine the joy mixed with the pain...the pain of not having daddy walk you down the aisle. it's a loss that you will mourn forever but the key is getting to a point where it doesn't define/consume you. just because dad is no longer here, doesn't mean the wedding isn't worthwhile. if anything, you make it big and grand and you celebrate it fully to make him proud. get it?
maybe you should tell the story. maybe you should outline the pain of the last 16 years. maybe you need to say it here. maybe you need to say it to a friend. the point is, say it. say it until it gets old. stop holding it in. write it in a letter. whatever you have to do, get it out.
you're backed up and it's time to get that poo out!
secrets like these are...toxic. it's a like a child who was wounded who wants to vocalize a pain but can't. they might use drugs, become promiscuous or even go so far as committing suicide when all they needed was someone to talk to...someone to listen.
my point is, your pain will NEVER truly go away. this person impacted your life. when i think of my mom i'm both sad and happy. happy to have known her, thankful for the gifts she has given me...sad that she is no longer here. she was your friend, your lover and there are things you wish you could do differently. if that isn't life i don't know what is. stop punishing yourself. find a way to mourn it and make peace with it.
you can't hug the person one more time, you can't tell them the "i love you" that you forgot to say...it is what it is. it's a lifetime of pain.
having lost my mom, and having friends who've lost their parents as well, young folks who have yet to experience it don't get the magnitude of the loss. i mean, a young woman who loses her dad, not only is that a devastating loss but imagine her wedding day. imagine the joy mixed with the pain...the pain of not having daddy walk you down the aisle. it's a loss that you will mourn forever but the key is getting to a point where it doesn't define/consume you. just because dad is no longer here, doesn't mean the wedding isn't worthwhile. if anything, you make it big and grand and you celebrate it fully to make him proud. get it?
maybe you should tell the story. maybe you should outline the pain of the last 16 years. maybe you need to say it here. maybe you need to say it to a friend. the point is, say it. say it until it gets old. stop holding it in. write it in a letter. whatever you have to do, get it out.
you're backed up and it's time to get that poo out!
secrets like these are...toxic. it's a like a child who was wounded who wants to vocalize a pain but can't. they might use drugs, become promiscuous or even go so far as committing suicide when all they needed was someone to talk to...someone to listen.
my point is, your pain will NEVER truly go away. this person impacted your life. when i think of my mom i'm both sad and happy. happy to have known her, thankful for the gifts she has given me...sad that she is no longer here. she was your friend, your lover and there are things you wish you could do differently. if that isn't life i don't know what is. stop punishing yourself. find a way to mourn it and make peace with it.
whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa? don't email that chick at work. there has to be another way to get in contact with her that doesn't involve her job. yes 16 years have passed and she might be open to receiving contact from you HOWEVER, emailing this level of contact at work...no.
she isn't on facebook?
she isn't on facebook?
no! HELL NO!
that is the worst, most pitiful, stalker thing you could say...oh God, hold on...
that is the worst, most pitiful, stalker thing you could say...oh God, hold on...
try...
hi arieschick,
i hope you remember me. it's wga. we were really good friends back in the day. i apologize for contacting you at work but i was going through some old year books OR i was going through some old photos OR i was talking to so-and-so (mutual friend)...somethin
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i was [insert excuse] and thought to look you up.
i hope all is well with you and i'd love to hear how you're doing,
wga
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something to that effect
rule 1 - don't beg
rule 2 - don't sound pitiful
rule 3 - don't sound sad
rule 4 - be optimistic
rule 5 - keep it simple...the best thing you can do is not show your cards and create a scenario that seems more plausible than the reality. seriously, the idea that you're still pining over her is...odd. it just doesn't seem rational and it probably won't seem that way to her either. in fact, if done the WRONG way, you might scare her. is that your intent? if at some point you want to tell her how she has impacted you, fine. but that shouldn't be telegraphed in the email.
hi arieschick,
i hope you remember me. it's wga. we were really good friends back in the day. i apologize for contacting you at work but i was going through some old year books OR i was going through some old photos OR i was talking to so-and-so (mutual friend)...somethin
continued...
i was [insert excuse] and thought to look you up.
i hope all is well with you and i'd love to hear how you're doing,
wga
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something to that effect
rule 1 - don't beg
rule 2 - don't sound pitiful
rule 3 - don't sound sad
rule 4 - be optimistic
rule 5 - keep it simple...the best thing you can do is not show your cards and create a scenario that seems more plausible than the reality. seriously, the idea that you're still pining over her is...odd. it just doesn't seem rational and it probably won't seem that way to her either. in fact, if done the WRONG way, you might scare her. is that your intent? if at some point you want to tell her how she has impacted you, fine. but that shouldn't be telegraphed in the email.
@wgamador:
"As a Vrigo male i envy some of the other signs who can move on and never look back. Me, im cursed with a memory of an elephant, an analytical mind and a nervous system that allows me to forget NOTHING. When will this feeling ever go away? When I die. When im in a nursing home all alone being abused by some Haitains?
So thanks Aries Woman.........thank you for keeping the good guys finish last winning streak."
You may be surprised to hear this, but as an Aries woman and I mean VERY Aries woman (sun, mars, merc & venus), I am NOT one of those other signs. Not all Aries women can never look back. We are not all cold-hearted bitches who forget about people they've loved or affected deeply.
"Me, im cursed with a memory of an elephant, an analytical mind and a nervous system that allows me to forget NOTHING."
I really connected with this.
"As a Vrigo male i envy some of the other signs who can move on and never look back. Me, im cursed with a memory of an elephant, an analytical mind and a nervous system that allows me to forget NOTHING. When will this feeling ever go away? When I die. When im in a nursing home all alone being abused by some Haitains?
So thanks Aries Woman.........thank you for keeping the good guys finish last winning streak."
You may be surprised to hear this, but as an Aries woman and I mean VERY Aries woman (sun, mars, merc & venus), I am NOT one of those other signs. Not all Aries women can never look back. We are not all cold-hearted bitches who forget about people they've loved or affected deeply.
"Me, im cursed with a memory of an elephant, an analytical mind and a nervous system that allows me to forget NOTHING."
I really connected with this.
Posted by wgamador
hi arieschick,
i hope you remember me. it's wga. we were really good friends back in the day. i apologize for contacting you at work but i was going through some old photos with my friend Gary and thought to look you up. This email is all I could find. Sorry.
i hope all is well with you and i'd love to hear how you're doing,
wga
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Hows that? See this is why i need Aries female insight. I dont need her back in my life just want this for me.
Of course as Virgo im analyzing her response if any and if she didnt reply how would i feel? Im okay with it. i really fucking am.
I do recall running into her sister a few years ago and she said that her sister [aries chick] said something like.....
"Walt (ME) will probably never talk to me again."
She couldnt have been any more wrong.
I say that's pretty good, except for the "sorry". It makes you sound sad and we like strong men because we are strong women or like to think we are LOL!
I would also leave out the "I hope you remember me". She, of course, will remember you.
And it sounds like you do need her back in your life or you wouldn't be thinking about contacting her. Once she responds, I would let her know that this has been an open wound for you and you'd like to finally get some closure. We love honesty and a man to tell us exactly how they feel (i.e. no games).
Who knows...it's been years and I'm sure this Aries has grown and matured. She could be feeling the same way as you and she could have been wanting you to contact her all along. You will never know if you don't try.
Please let us know what happens!
i'm a taurus 😛 nothing about aries is sensible. they'd tell you to get the hell over it and then go enter a sand castle contest or something else totally random.
i write emails all the time for friends. in fact, my virgo female friend has me on retainer 😛
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hi arieschick,
i hope you remember me. it's wga. we were really good friends back in the day. i apologize for contacting you at work but i was going through some old photos with my friend Gary and thought to look you up. This email is all I could find. Sorry.
i hope all is well with you and i'd love to hear how you're doing,
wga
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i don't know how to explain it but what you dont want to do is appear weak OR presumptuous. when people are nervous, they tend to talk/type unnaturally and subtle changes here and there can alter the tone of a conversation.
there's no need to apologize twice.
does she know who Gary is? if so, that's like my saying to my child (when i have one), "i was talking to your father, Chris, and he said..."
revised...
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hi arieschick,
i hope you remember me. it's wga. we were really good friends back in the day. i apologize for contacting you at work but i was going through some old photos with Gary and thought to look you up.
i hope all is well with you and i'd love to hear how you're doing,
wga
i write emails all the time for friends. in fact, my virgo female friend has me on retainer 😛
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hi arieschick,
i hope you remember me. it's wga. we were really good friends back in the day. i apologize for contacting you at work but i was going through some old photos with my friend Gary and thought to look you up. This email is all I could find. Sorry.
i hope all is well with you and i'd love to hear how you're doing,
wga
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i don't know how to explain it but what you dont want to do is appear weak OR presumptuous. when people are nervous, they tend to talk/type unnaturally and subtle changes here and there can alter the tone of a conversation.
there's no need to apologize twice.
does she know who Gary is? if so, that's like my saying to my child (when i have one), "i was talking to your father, Chris, and he said..."
revised...
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hi arieschick,
i hope you remember me. it's wga. we were really good friends back in the day. i apologize for contacting you at work but i was going through some old photos with Gary and thought to look you up.
i hope all is well with you and i'd love to hear how you're doing,
wga
sorry i didn't see ramfish post before i sent mine. anyhoo, she's right. that's what i was getting at. you don't want to come across as weak. if so, you will give off stalker vibes even though that's not your intent.
if you're confident and have an upbeat attitude about it rather than telegraphing that you've been tormented for 16 years, the email will be better received by her.
i also would keep in the hope you remember me. again, it's at work. it is out of the blue. yes, she does remember you but it's a disarming opener that will go over a helluva lot better than...
"hey, it's wga!" -- that will read arrogantly and that's sooo not what you're going for.
if you're confident and have an upbeat attitude about it rather than telegraphing that you've been tormented for 16 years, the email will be better received by her.
i also would keep in the hope you remember me. again, it's at work. it is out of the blue. yes, she does remember you but it's a disarming opener that will go over a helluva lot better than...
"hey, it's wga!" -- that will read arrogantly and that's sooo not what you're going for.
@wga - what about your current girlfriend? i mean, what if arieschick still has the hots for you. would you entertain going out with her even though you've been in a relationship with otherchick for seven years?
Posted by wgamador
#3- im not sending the email in hopes to get back with her, not at all. Just dont want that awkwardness if we ever see one another ever again. Thats all.
you haven't run into this chick in 16 years right? and if you have run into her in the past 16 years, it obviously wasn't enough to warrant worry/concern as you would've done this a LONG time ago right? don't insult me or you by downplaying this now. you've been waiting to do this for 16 years, at least be honest with what you hope to get out of it.
what is your purpose of your contacting her? say you meet, you're able to tell her how much it hurt you. then she says, "i was wrong and i apologize." what then? obviously you need "something" from her. and that "something" is...?
i'm not saying you want a relationship but this whole, i don't want to be two awkward ships passing in the night is just BS.
you thought that was fire. you should've read my first draft 😉
say she wasn't married. say she was single. what would happen in your wildest dreams?
say she wasn't married. say she was single. what would happen in your wildest dreams?
i think before you send that email, you need to be honest with yourself about what you want/need. i sense that you secretly desire "something" but the realistic side is speaking up...out of fear, embarrassment, worry...
just say what you want. aries will appreciate honesty and where you will probably never tell her what you really want...nor do i advise it 😛...at least you go into it being honest with yourself. a man who centered is much more attractive than one who is transparently in denial.
just say what you want. aries will appreciate honesty and where you will probably never tell her what you really want...nor do i advise it 😛...at least you go into it being honest with yourself. a man who centered is much more attractive than one who is transparently in denial.
to be honest with you, i have a theory on virgos. i wonder if that's your intent at all?
i think virgos are very giving people and i think they, like all of us, are devastated when someone we genuinely care about doesn't seem to recognize the depth of our affection.
is it about her knowing how much you care for her OR...
is it about you wondering how much she actually cared for you?
there's a big difference. the latter is all about you, but you're making it about her.
i think virgos are very giving people and i think they, like all of us, are devastated when someone we genuinely care about doesn't seem to recognize the depth of our affection.
is it about her knowing how much you care for her OR...
is it about you wondering how much she actually cared for you?
there's a big difference. the latter is all about you, but you're making it about her.
Man, I really hope you didn't actually send that greating to her...I'd be pissed.
"Plus I dont think she would contact me or she would have already, right? "
Wrong...if we feel like someone may hate us or think really bad about us, we will stay away...sometimes forever.
"Plus I dont think she would contact me or she would have already, right? "
Wrong...if we feel like someone may hate us or think really bad about us, we will stay away...sometimes forever.
You said you wanted an Aries female opinion and I gave it...no response?
hmm...what the? just like a virgo to ignore advice and then send something the EXACT OPPOSITE of what you're supposed to send 😛
either way, good luck
either way, good luck
yea yea yea...
it's march 2010 everywhere in the world. did it give a day?
for me, i think she will respond but i do worry what you're gonna lay on her after she says hello. i think you obviously need to say what's on your chest but given your level of pain and given that you're a virgo, i can guarantee that it's gonna be heavy and awkward unless you work through what's on your mind.
also, i dont think you answered my other question...at least not to my satisfaction 😛
it's march 2010 everywhere in the world. did it give a day?
for me, i think she will respond but i do worry what you're gonna lay on her after she says hello. i think you obviously need to say what's on your chest but given your level of pain and given that you're a virgo, i can guarantee that it's gonna be heavy and awkward unless you work through what's on your mind.
also, i dont think you answered my other question...at least not to my satisfaction 😛
Posted by wgamadorPosted by tubbyscubby
to be honest with you, i have a theory on virgos. i wonder if that's your intent at all?
i think virgos are very giving people and i think they, like all of us, are devastated when someone we genuinely care about doesn't seem to recognize the depth of our affection.
is it about her knowing how much you care for her OR...
is it about you wondering how much she actually cared for you?
there's a big difference. the latter is all about you, but you're making it about her.
Tubby,
I really appreciate your time with this. Honestly. means the world to me.
Its about how much i cared for her. Thats what it is all about.
How 16 years later my heart never forgot her. Honesty....thats all.click to expand
you answered. i just missed it.
will say that i'm still confused about what you want though. so you never got over her. that's wonderful and all but what do you expect/want her to gain from this knowledge? do you want to be friiends wit her? do you have some unanswered questions?
"Im not keeping my hopes up, this is after all the woman who chose others over me. All i want in this world is to heal once and for all. I dont want the next "Slumdog Millionaire" film to remind me of her and make me cry about what i lost. I want to be the cold-emotionless, never look back Virgo i deserve to be, because now I know that is somuch better than to walk for 16 years with an emptiness that breaks me down to the very core of my being."
Ah Slumdog Millionaire...I know what you are saying about that...damn that movie!
So, you want to be cold and emotionless? Yeah, that's really attractive! You are what you are and cannot change how you feel in your heart. I myself, wouldn't hope to become more like a standard virgo in that way.
I hope this woman can bring you some sense of closure so you can attempt to finally start to move on. I think it's sad you've been holding this hurt inside of you for so long. You deserve to be set free and I really feel like she's the only one that can help you do this. Like I said before...be honest with her. Let her know how you feel. See, I think you do need to lay the heavy stuff on her...that will be the only way you will feel better (like getting it off your chest). Just don't do this right off the bat...ease into it. I mean, what more do you have to lose?
I'm glad you are feeling better and I do have an idea of where your soul is at. Just be honest with her and yourself and attempt some closure. I think you are doing the right thing. As an Aries woman, I thrive on honesty and I would feel touched at your reaching out because I might be too pussy to do that when I know I've hurt someone.
Ah Slumdog Millionaire...I know what you are saying about that...damn that movie!
So, you want to be cold and emotionless? Yeah, that's really attractive! You are what you are and cannot change how you feel in your heart. I myself, wouldn't hope to become more like a standard virgo in that way.
I hope this woman can bring you some sense of closure so you can attempt to finally start to move on. I think it's sad you've been holding this hurt inside of you for so long. You deserve to be set free and I really feel like she's the only one that can help you do this. Like I said before...be honest with her. Let her know how you feel. See, I think you do need to lay the heavy stuff on her...that will be the only way you will feel better (like getting it off your chest). Just don't do this right off the bat...ease into it. I mean, what more do you have to lose?
I'm glad you are feeling better and I do have an idea of where your soul is at. Just be honest with her and yourself and attempt some closure. I think you are doing the right thing. As an Aries woman, I thrive on honesty and I would feel touched at your reaching out because I might be too pussy to do that when I know I've hurt someone.
Posted by wgamador
continued.........
So if she never gets back to my email....i always have that to fall back on and everyone can read about it.
Here is my Virgo plan:
Get her to reply to my email.
I really have to work on posting the meat to my story. I know shit is all fragmented for you all.
Tomorrow hopefully i will get a chance to post my Eternal Love for Aries story. So you Aries girls can really put all my whining together.
I want to add that finding these forums is the best thing to happen to my heart. So thanks everyone.
Aw...you are a very sweet man!
Sounds good and can't wait 🙂
Posted by wgamadorPosted by ramfishtwins
"Im not keeping my hopes up, this is after all the woman who chose others over me. All i want in this world is to heal once and for all. I dont want the next "Slumdog Millionaire" film to remind me of her and make me cry about what i lost. I want to be the cold-emotionless, never look back Virgo i deserve to be, because now I know that is somuch better than to walk for 16 years with an emptiness that breaks me down to the very core of my being."
Ah Slumdog Millionaire...I know what you are saying about that...damn that movie!
So, you want to be cold and emotionless? Yeah, that's really attractive! You are what you are and cannot change how you feel in your heart. I myself, wouldn't hope to become more like a standard virgo in that way.
I hope this woman can bring you some sense of closure so you can attempt to finally start to move on. I think it's sad you've been holding this hurt inside of you for so long. You deserve to be set free and I really feel like she's the only one that can help you do this. Like I said before...be honest with her. Let her know how you feel. See, I think you do need to lay the heavy stuff on her...that will be the only way you will feel better (like getting it off your chest). Just don't do this right off the bat...ease into it. I mean, what more do you have to lose?
I'm glad you are feeling better and I do have an idea of where your soul is at. Just be honest with her and yourself and attempt some closure. I think you are doing the right thing. As an Aries woman, I thrive on honesty and I would feel touched at your reaching out because I might be too pussy to do that when I know I've hurt someone.click to expand
Thanks Ramfish....
Slumdog Millionaire , the scene at the end when he kisses the scar....it really impacted me right in the theatre. I went by myself my girlfriend didnt want to see it because she judged it and in actuality, i didnt know too much about it, i didnt know it was a 'love story'....i went cause I could relate to the "slumdog" aspect of it....had NO IDEA it was a love story.
So imagine me alone in the packed theatre with all that emotion at the end of the film. Im also an aspiring screenwriter so i said, maybe i should write a novel about my love for this Aries woman and perhaps that will heal me. So if she
Ah!! It cut me off!
Anyway I said something like this:
OMG...I know exactly what you mean...it was so powerful for me. I still have the banner on my phone reading "The answer is D....It is Written". I guess it's a comfort to me to believe that what happens in our lives is writen, but who knows??!!
Anything that will help you heal, I say go for it.
Anyway I said something like this:
OMG...I know exactly what you mean...it was so powerful for me. I still have the banner on my phone reading "The answer is D....It is Written". I guess it's a comfort to me to believe that what happens in our lives is writen, but who knows??!!
Anything that will help you heal, I say go for it.
sorry to interrupt your self-pity fest...
you were together for four years? did you ever think that something occurred/was occurring during the four years that caused her to break-up with you in the harshest way possible?
if things were so wonderful, why were you so oblivious? maybe it was only wonderful for you? maybe the fact that even now, you refuse to acknowledge what it was like for her...that you obviously dismiss her feelings/motivations and blame her for EVERY thing is exactly why she left?
for me, i know that the truth will never be uncovered because you're so THICK, you're so in virgo mode that even now, you can't recognize your own faults. you weren't a saint. what did you do wrong? how did you contribute to the break-up...not at the end of it, but during the course of time you were together.
you were together for four years? did you ever think that something occurred/was occurring during the four years that caused her to break-up with you in the harshest way possible?
if things were so wonderful, why were you so oblivious? maybe it was only wonderful for you? maybe the fact that even now, you refuse to acknowledge what it was like for her...that you obviously dismiss her feelings/motivations and blame her for EVERY thing is exactly why she left?
for me, i know that the truth will never be uncovered because you're so THICK, you're so in virgo mode that even now, you can't recognize your own faults. you weren't a saint. what did you do wrong? how did you contribute to the break-up...not at the end of it, but during the course of time you were together.
you are sooooooooooooo missing the point!
what i've learned from virgos, especially when they're immature and/or young, is this block you guys have to admitting fault/seeing where you went wrong. maybe the aries won't respond but that doesn't mean that the answers aren't within you. you seem so focused on what happened at the end of the relationship. WHAT HAPPENED DURING— you can relay in great detail everything else, so what went on during those 4 years...i think the answer you see lies in the 4 years...not in the last few weeks. get it?
one thing i can see for sure that may have been a problem is your anger. it landed you in jail. you obviously didn't develop an anger problem because she cheated. it had to exist before. did you have anger issues during the course of the relationship?
what i've learned from virgos, especially when they're immature and/or young, is this block you guys have to admitting fault/seeing where you went wrong. maybe the aries won't respond but that doesn't mean that the answers aren't within you. you seem so focused on what happened at the end of the relationship. WHAT HAPPENED DURING— you can relay in great detail everything else, so what went on during those 4 years...i think the answer you see lies in the 4 years...not in the last few weeks. get it?
one thing i can see for sure that may have been a problem is your anger. it landed you in jail. you obviously didn't develop an anger problem because she cheated. it had to exist before. did you have anger issues during the course of the relationship?
wga - you will need some time on a couch because although i KNOW you believe what you believe, although i know i can't know each and every facet of your relationship with this woman, what i will say is this...and i REALLY need you to hear it...
young virgos have difficulty admitting when/how they're wrong. a virgo can carry the belief that they are right, they can believe that they are the one who did this/that...completely ignoring the other person's contributions. i have a VF friend that does this. if you ask her about her ex-best friend, she will spend the entire conversation talking about what she did for him, how she did it, the sacrifices she made, etc... and when i point out to her things he did, her response is to add further evidence of what she did. virgos play the martyr role so well and that's not to say that they don't make sacrifices. it's the inability to recognize the sacrifice of others.
i am NOT saying you did this. i AM saying that it's 16 years later. you had a period where you went in jail and that could only have furthered your confusion/anger. yes, you may have let much of that go but the way you're remembering things, based on some of the things you've said...it's hazy. i'm not saying you're lying...please don't read what i'm saying that way. your personal truth is true to you and i don't discount that. what i am saying is, change the dialogue that's been going on in your head. not, "why did she...?" try "what did i do/say...?" if you come up with nothing, that's a problem...that's a sign that you are, without a doubt, a virgo.
NO ONE is perfect. if all you can remember is good things...especially all good things about your own behavior, then you're not remembering correctly. no one is perfect...you believe that right? if no one is perfect, then you made mistakes. some of the mistakes might not matter. but there could be some that you're totally oblivious to and imagine if you could figure out what they are. it would give you closure.
continued...
young virgos have difficulty admitting when/how they're wrong. a virgo can carry the belief that they are right, they can believe that they are the one who did this/that...completely ignoring the other person's contributions. i have a VF friend that does this. if you ask her about her ex-best friend, she will spend the entire conversation talking about what she did for him, how she did it, the sacrifices she made, etc... and when i point out to her things he did, her response is to add further evidence of what she did. virgos play the martyr role so well and that's not to say that they don't make sacrifices. it's the inability to recognize the sacrifice of others.
i am NOT saying you did this. i AM saying that it's 16 years later. you had a period where you went in jail and that could only have furthered your confusion/anger. yes, you may have let much of that go but the way you're remembering things, based on some of the things you've said...it's hazy. i'm not saying you're lying...please don't read what i'm saying that way. your personal truth is true to you and i don't discount that. what i am saying is, change the dialogue that's been going on in your head. not, "why did she...?" try "what did i do/say...?" if you come up with nothing, that's a problem...that's a sign that you are, without a doubt, a virgo.
NO ONE is perfect. if all you can remember is good things...especially all good things about your own behavior, then you're not remembering correctly. no one is perfect...you believe that right? if no one is perfect, then you made mistakes. some of the mistakes might not matter. but there could be some that you're totally oblivious to and imagine if you could figure out what they are. it would give you closure.
continued...
that's not to say that you made aries miserable or that you were the worst bf in history. she may have truly been a messed up but like you said, why would she pretend for 4 years? you remember her so fondly up until she cheated. so it can't be that she was a horrible person right? it sounds as if she only became horrible as a result of how she chose to end it. is that right?
if so, you're missing something. you missed it then. and chances are, that's in part why she left. that does not mean you can't get it now. even if she doesn't respond, i believe that there are folks who can help you work through it. i'm one of them but you need to check your ego at the door. you don't have to die with this weight on your mind and heart. i and others are willing to listen but we need more depth. i need you to not do what is typical of virgos...deflect.
look, when my aqua broke up with me, all i could focus on was how messed up the break-up/he was. i felt like things were great until that moment. hell, a month before the break-up HE was talking about moving in together and making things more permanent. what the hell happened?
it took a couple years but i realized, i was stubborn, i was manipulative, i was controlling. the behaviors weren't over the top. it was more subtle than that. i had flaws, why didn't he just tell me? he did wga. i just didn't listen.
where the WAY he went about the break-up was callous and wrong, i now understand WHY. understanding WHY has made me a better person. yes, i'm still all of the above things but i know how to pick/choose these behaviors. i know how to recognize them when they're in full swing. i know how to STOP IT but it required one of the most tragic events of my life to recognize it.
as i said to my aqua friend, for fixed signs, we need a sledgehammer. shit can crumble all around us and we won't lose it. sure, we will be sad but will propel ourselves forward, we will do what it takes, we won't give in. we will weather the storm. we need a CATASTROPHE to change course. based on this understanding, when someone hurts you, when it's above and beyond normal, i gotta believe it's because they believe, they have to use a sledgehammer...
subtleties didn't work. kind words didn't work. compromise didn't work. ok you shit, here's the hammer. get it now?
if so, you're missing something. you missed it then. and chances are, that's in part why she left. that does not mean you can't get it now. even if she doesn't respond, i believe that there are folks who can help you work through it. i'm one of them but you need to check your ego at the door. you don't have to die with this weight on your mind and heart. i and others are willing to listen but we need more depth. i need you to not do what is typical of virgos...deflect.
look, when my aqua broke up with me, all i could focus on was how messed up the break-up/he was. i felt like things were great until that moment. hell, a month before the break-up HE was talking about moving in together and making things more permanent. what the hell happened?
it took a couple years but i realized, i was stubborn, i was manipulative, i was controlling. the behaviors weren't over the top. it was more subtle than that. i had flaws, why didn't he just tell me? he did wga. i just didn't listen.
where the WAY he went about the break-up was callous and wrong, i now understand WHY. understanding WHY has made me a better person. yes, i'm still all of the above things but i know how to pick/choose these behaviors. i know how to recognize them when they're in full swing. i know how to STOP IT but it required one of the most tragic events of my life to recognize it.
as i said to my aqua friend, for fixed signs, we need a sledgehammer. shit can crumble all around us and we won't lose it. sure, we will be sad but will propel ourselves forward, we will do what it takes, we won't give in. we will weather the storm. we need a CATASTROPHE to change course. based on this understanding, when someone hurts you, when it's above and beyond normal, i gotta believe it's because they believe, they have to use a sledgehammer...
subtleties didn't work. kind words didn't work. compromise didn't work. ok you shit, here's the hammer. get it now?
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