BlueVirgo
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Question for Roxijam—??
"I mean what to do to get rid of her and get a hold of him........I hope he is sincere about being there for our baby like says"
Hope he is sincere? If you peeled away your FEELINGS, and looked at this with logical reasoning . . would he appear sincere to you?
Feelings blind us from the truth . . what is the truth?
Suppose Roxi, or someone else, did come up with the "answer" to the question of how to capture him once and for all? Do his actions prove that your heart would be secure within his domain of you? For, that is how it sounds . .
I will do anything . . anything . . to get my hold on him . . even comprimise my standards because by his actions, he has proved that "If" we were "meant to be", we would have been together from the beginning. If he has to "Decide" whether we are right for each other . . then the words aren't coming from his heart.
Just looking at it from a different perspective . . is HE worth having?
Hope he is sincere? If you peeled away your FEELINGS, and looked at this with logical reasoning . . would he appear sincere to you?
Feelings blind us from the truth . . what is the truth?
Suppose Roxi, or someone else, did come up with the "answer" to the question of how to capture him once and for all? Do his actions prove that your heart would be secure within his domain of you? For, that is how it sounds . .
I will do anything . . anything . . to get my hold on him . . even comprimise my standards because by his actions, he has proved that "If" we were "meant to be", we would have been together from the beginning. If he has to "Decide" whether we are right for each other . . then the words aren't coming from his heart.
Just looking at it from a different perspective . . is HE worth having?
I know I wouldn't want to be the girl who he runs to just because he's pissed at another and then try to tell myself it's meaningful . . that's how this sounds to me.
P-Angel,
I can appreciate what you said but we were exclusive at some piont, so I felt his feelings and intentions were sincere....but now I can see it appearing to be as you say running to me when he is angry.....I feel we are friends truly.....I dont initiate the contact ....its based on him keeping in touch....I guess love is blind....maybe I dont see him as if he runs to me when they are angry.....I really feel he wants to be together sometime and he may feel intimidated by my independency...meaning I don't ever make him feel needed and have hid my feelings from him up unto this point......I'm not disregarding what you said but it makes logical sense......it just has to be something more between us.....maybe I was the one before and maybe now he does only see me as an outlet when him and his tue love has a fight.....
I can appreciate what you said but we were exclusive at some piont, so I felt his feelings and intentions were sincere....but now I can see it appearing to be as you say running to me when he is angry.....I feel we are friends truly.....I dont initiate the contact ....its based on him keeping in touch....I guess love is blind....maybe I dont see him as if he runs to me when they are angry.....I really feel he wants to be together sometime and he may feel intimidated by my independency...meaning I don't ever make him feel needed and have hid my feelings from him up unto this point......I'm not disregarding what you said but it makes logical sense......it just has to be something more between us.....maybe I was the one before and maybe now he does only see me as an outlet when him and his tue love has a fight.....
BlueVirgo,
Maybe there is more between you and maybe there should be more . . I don't know, for I don't know the full dynamics of the relationship. I was just approaching the delimna, from a different angle.
When our hearts are screaming at us because we believe that we are supposed to be with a certain person, it's hard to see beyond our desires . . a curse of being human and having such deep feelings, I guess.
In your situation, perhaps I would use all my strength to pull back and try to become indifferent. Try to only be "friends" for a while and see how he works through the issue with the "other woman". You have to listen to your heart when it comes to love and unfortunately, our hearts aren't very logical, are they? lol
There are several Aries within my family and group of friends and there's no doubt in my mind that the Rams are incredible people when allowed to fly freely through life and experiencing sensations without constraints, so to want to wait it out, doesn't seem silly in my eyes. But, I do know this about every Aries person I've ever known, male and female . . .
. . . if the tables were turned and YOU had a another person in your life to whom you kept running back to, if HE wasn't number ONE in your life . . he'd ditch you faster than you could even imagine. They CANNOT allow their "partner" to have another besides them. Of course, I'm only speaking from the Rams I know, and with the ones I know, you'd be history if the situation were reversed.
One thing, though, you said you have a baby with this man . . from what I've experienced with Aries, male and female alike . . they are awesome parents. So, even if this doesn't work out between you, at least your heart can be at ease about his fathering to your child. Furthermore, IF you had to make a choice between you and your baby for his attention, wouldn't you want your baby to have a good and loving daddy?
I don't know, that's just me. In either case, good luck and I hope everything works out for you and your child.
Maybe there is more between you and maybe there should be more . . I don't know, for I don't know the full dynamics of the relationship. I was just approaching the delimna, from a different angle.
When our hearts are screaming at us because we believe that we are supposed to be with a certain person, it's hard to see beyond our desires . . a curse of being human and having such deep feelings, I guess.
In your situation, perhaps I would use all my strength to pull back and try to become indifferent. Try to only be "friends" for a while and see how he works through the issue with the "other woman". You have to listen to your heart when it comes to love and unfortunately, our hearts aren't very logical, are they? lol
There are several Aries within my family and group of friends and there's no doubt in my mind that the Rams are incredible people when allowed to fly freely through life and experiencing sensations without constraints, so to want to wait it out, doesn't seem silly in my eyes. But, I do know this about every Aries person I've ever known, male and female . . .
. . . if the tables were turned and YOU had a another person in your life to whom you kept running back to, if HE wasn't number ONE in your life . . he'd ditch you faster than you could even imagine. They CANNOT allow their "partner" to have another besides them. Of course, I'm only speaking from the Rams I know, and with the ones I know, you'd be history if the situation were reversed.
One thing, though, you said you have a baby with this man . . from what I've experienced with Aries, male and female alike . . they are awesome parents. So, even if this doesn't work out between you, at least your heart can be at ease about his fathering to your child. Furthermore, IF you had to make a choice between you and your baby for his attention, wouldn't you want your baby to have a good and loving daddy?
I don't know, that's just me. In either case, good luck and I hope everything works out for you and your child.
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