aries always ends up alone ... why :(

hey

i have a very weird tendency that whenever i go into some group of people, i mean change the environment, change people after some years of being stuck in a previous group, i always end up being only a friend, being friendzoned. like i have an attraction because i am the fresh one, new one at the beginning ( its obvious) but then some of my girl friends make couple with boys with the new company, new friends and i always remain distant, remain not silent but single, alone.

its been so many groups that i only have been friendzoned, platonic love, had a one fling with a guy or nothing happened and i remain single, alone.

then my friends make friends with others they create new group and i remain alone. sometimes they forget about me and its me who must insist on asking them about inviting me and so one.

then i become frustrated and i just walk away searching for a new group of people depending on my mood( work environment, new project that new people are involved into).

its not my approach that i am desperate that i NEED TO FIND A MAN from ANY GROUP I AM IN. its just so weird, so different that the others...

i am aries, leo rising, moon in cap , mars and venus in aqua.

i know it can be explained by my aqua pacements but still... why do i always end up alone and then i go search for some other people...

i am a life- wanderer, i am very individualistic, i am not like a normal 27 year old woman with a group of friends...

people see me as very confident, smart but i am just alone. i just am used to be alone...that i go alone almost everywhere i want- concerts, museums and etc. i do not need to be in groups...



so please tell me ,what i can change in myself to be more approachable? is it about that?

i know some people see me as very confident and threatening (?). i have very different strong facial features. i do not have a baby face. usually people tell me i have very vintage 19 century face very interesting, traditional. some of them are afraid of me. really.



but i am funny i am smart. i am playful and i always end up alone!!!!!!!!

I have just the person for you. @SuninLibra

so what should i do 😢

what people should i find to be around with?

i realised i attract fire signs ( leos and saggitariuses only) and CAPRICORNS.

my old, long friends are capricorns, they are 'stable ' friends who i must have workedon a friendship to be on that level now...

and fire signs... no problem attracting them..

parents - leo and gemini, sister- aries..

also- second part of some INDIVIDUAL friends- leos, saggitarius people

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Posted by joanne_p

and fire signs... no problem attracting them..

did u get rid of the toxic virgo & obnoxious taurus? did u & leo hook up?

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no because leo doesnt seem to be attracted to me.

yes i got rid of those bad people like taurus and virgo guy, and their friends as well.

leo just maybe is disorganized or he just doesnt realise i like him. he wont make a move.

and i am very proud because he ignored me TWICE or 3 times...

andi told myself that i wont be chasing a guy who didnt even have time to go for a beer with me within 2-3 months. knowing i am here... knowing I WANTED... and i invited him.

it would be a total shame for me to even talk to him now... 😐

Serious questions

Are you over the top?

Do you talk about yourself alot?

Do your friends accuse you of not listenting?

When you go out in public, how do you treat the help?

Do you talk to taken men much longer than you should?

Posted by DMV
Serious questions

Are you over the top?

Do you talk about yourself alot?

Do your friends accuse you of not listenting?

When you go out in public, how do you treat the help?

Do you talk to taken men much longer than you should?

1. nope. when i was younger i think even at 25 i was a bit 'too much' in my reactions and so one. my ( fake old) friends would mother me, tell me i shuld organise, but i FELT it was just the bad timing and i will grow up emotionally and i did.

2.3 no i dont talk, i usually listen and people like me because i listen to people. when i was younger i think primary school, high school i was so shy and because i was not appreciated i needed some other people to tell me i am ok. i was weak. at university i changed.

4. what does it mean how do i treat the help? i treat the help normally when its with GOOD intentions. and when i know that person is trustworthy. because i have become so 'sceptical' of people offering me help because some hears ago i was used by friends, and 1st time in my life i encountered people who were so mercenary ( ?) that they only would help you because of SOMETHING.

and i have been used to treat people equally and it was me who was giving more than reciving.

so now i must think 10 times before i take help. even if it comes with neutral environment. i am not naive and people are very sharp and 'mercenary'

5. when i was younger i used to do that because i felt secure that they would not interrupt me or demage my freedom. when i was younger i didnt want to be approached by men.

The help as in wait staff.

If something doesn't go your way, how do you handle your frustrations?

Posted by ariesno
Where is your saturn? I have saturn in aquarius, and apparently that makes it hard for me to find friends, and stuff like that. I get where you’re coming from. I’ve been wondering this for years; I don’t understand how friend groups gets created, and I’m not always a part of it. I simply don’t get it. I don’t know if I’m just a moron...

I remember talking to my cap ex about this, and he said that most people are bad at including others, because they’re mostly concerned with themselves (he said he’s one of those people). He said that I’m the far opposite of that, and therefore I notice it when people are left out. Others don’t don’t. I don’t know why. My own theory is that aries are independent, confident people. Others notice this, and they somehow conclude that we don’t need anybody. We can also be a bit intimidating, I’ve been told, so people are afraid to approach us and invite us to stuff. Often it’s not that they don’t want to include you, but they’re afraid to ask. Most people aren’t as tough as we are.

I’ve had the most success with leos, sags and geminis. They usually like us, and they won’t be afraid to show it. I can always count on them to include me. Earth signs too, but they need to trust you and feel secure around you first

hey thank you for that post.. i just checked i have Saturn in Capricorn.

what you said is 100% true with me as well.

and i can sign under that with my two hands lol.

but i dont get that .its my defence system. when someones ignores me i move on very independently. i leave my emotions. when people see that i become strong they want me back.

and i am like - hahahhahahahahaha you morons, now you want me so CATCH ME. because i dont wanna come back like that so easily. make effort.

if they dont come back i am alone again and i dont regret i am just focusing on myself more becoming more self aware and confident 🙂

and its true- people see me as a confident so they think i dont need anything. but its wrong impression. i just dont talk about bad things. i hate passive and negative depressed people.

i usually appear confident and they think ( automatically) that I can make anything by my own and be by my own.

they even wont ask...

Posted by DMV
The help as in wait staff.

If something doesn't go your way, how do you handle your frustrations?

when i was younger i coldnt hangle rejection, i was frustrated , jealous as hell.

it didnt change but i dont show it out on myself.

i need to take some time to myself to accept that situations.

with people i know i can argue so much.

with people i dont know i become very pride. even when something goes wrong i dont show it i just go further.

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Serious questions

Are you over the top?

Do you talk about yourself alot?

Do your friends accuse you of not listenting?

When you go out in public, how do you treat the help?

Do you talk to taken men much longer than you should?

These are all the reasons why I dumped my Aries friend.

1.) I get being over the top. I'm a sag. However saggis tend to be more self aware than Aries.

I know when the stage belongs to someone else and I let them have their moment. My ex friend just couldn't do that for anyone. 1st couple of time, her outbursts were cute and funny but then it reaked of desperation and when she was confronted she became withdrawn and depressed. Lashed out. Childlike temper tantrums

2.) Again. I get this 2 but theres a time and a place. Outbursts that were once cute now were annoying.

3.) Every time we went out to eat, she would order off the menu and totally make the order so complicated that she should have just cooked at home. As expected, the food would never come back how she wanted. So she would lash out and verbally abuse the help.

I stopped going out to eat with her.

I can only talk about my experiences and what went wrong between me and my Aries friend and how she would often feel left out and ostracized.

She was also a cap moon and Venus aqua.

Beautiful smart girl, just lacked self awareness.

I would quiz your friends and genuinely ask them how you are perceived. Take a shot 1st.

Why do you bounce from one group to the next??

Why are you trying to find a man within the inner circle? I'd avoid avoid avoid. I want to be able to extract myself if things go south with minimal awkwardness. But you can't do that if he's always there in the friend circle.

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Serious questions

Are you over the top?

Do you talk about yourself alot?

Do your friends accuse you of not listenting?

When you go out in public, how do you treat the help?

Do you talk to taken men much longer than you should?

These are all the reasons why I dumped my Aries friend.

1.) I get being over the top. I'm a sag. However saggis tend to be more self aware than Aries.

I know when the stage belongs to someone else and I let them have their moment. My ex friend just couldn't do that for anyone. 1st couple of time, her outbursts were cute and funny but then it reaked of desperation and when she was confronted she became withdrawn and depressed. Lashed out. Childlike temper tantrums

2.) Again. I get this 2 but theres a time and a place. Outbursts that were once cute now were annoying.

3.) Every time we went out to eat, she would order off the menu and totally make the order so complicated that she should have just cooked at home. As expected, the food would never come back how she wanted. So she would lash out and verbally abuse the help.

I stopped going out to eat with her.

I can only talk about my experiences and what went wrong between me and my Aries friend and how she would often feel left out and ostracized.

She was also a cap moon and Venus aqua.

Beautiful smart girl, just lacked self awareness.

I would quiz your friends and genuinely ask them how you are perceived. Take a shot 1st.

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Your aries friend sounds like a complete nightmare.

Sadly I have the same experience with an aries sun cap moon though this one has a pisces venus. She definetely lacks self awareness.

Posted by joanne_p
hey

i have a very weird tendency that whenever i go into some group of people, i mean change the environment, change people after some years of being stuck in a previous group, i always end up being only a friend, being friendzoned. like i have an attraction because i am the fresh one, new one at the beginning ( its obvious) but then some of my girl friends make couple with boys with the new company, new friends and i always remain distant, remain not silent but single, alone.

its been so many groups that i only have been friendzoned, platonic love, had a one fling with a guy or nothing happened and i remain single, alone.

then my friends make friends with others they create new group and i remain alone. sometimes they forget about me and its me who must insist on asking them about inviting me and so one.

then i become frustrated and i just walk away searching for a new group of people depending on my mood( work environment, new project that new people are involved into).

its not my approach that i am desperate that i NEED TO FIND A MAN from ANY GROUP I AM IN. its just so weird, so different that the others...

i am aries, leo rising, moon in cap , mars and venus in aqua.

i know it can be explained by my aqua pacements but still... why do i always end up alone and then i go search for some other people...

i am a life- wanderer, i am very individualistic, i am not like a normal 27 year old woman with a group of friends...

people see me as very confident, smart but i am just alone. i just am used to be alone...that i go alone almost everywhere i want- concerts, museums and etc. i do not need to be in groups...



so please tell me ,what i can change in myself to be more approachable? is it about that?

i know some people see me as very confident and threatening (?). i have very different strong facial features. i do not have a baby face. usually people tell me i have very vintage 19 century face very interesting, traditional. some of them are afraid of me. really.



but i am funny i am smart. i am playful and i always end up alone!!!!!!!!

you have wayyy too much aquarius (stellum)

and aries itself is a very INDEPEDENT sign...soo...yeah...

and then your cappy moon is feeling sad cause you feel you can be a good partner and assistance to any man. and you would be, cause that cappy moon is ambitious in whatever they take on.



plenty of air stellium guys there too, you both will be forgetful (detached) enough that you won't notice much.

and wont get upset much.

people will get upset and pissed too much if you are too detached but another air dominant peep can be your partner in life.

Posted by tiziani
Usually from what I've seen it's just taking things too personally.

Or an Aries toning down their enthusiasm for their interests/hobbies etc for others, which goes back to taking things too personally.

Sometimes I think about my response and how to word it, and then you just say it better than I could.

My non-work here is done. I’m so disappointed in myself, lol.

@OP I love Aries. You’re so passionate and full of life. Some of you overthink things, and relationships are doomed before you even gave it a chance to begin. Which surprises me because you’re a fire sign.

I force myself to get out of my head or I’ll miss out on things from overthinking and worrying.

Try not to think so much about where anything is going, and just let it happen naturally. Also, be more open to people showing interest.

I see that a lot with aries. They freeze up when someone tries to get closer. Don’t push people away. You’ll be alright. Don’t fret. 🙏

I have a ton of friends, never had a problem keeping girlfriends. Been friends with my girls for years over 20 some of them.

I’m never alone in that sense.

With men I never had a shortage but they were all short term for the most part but I know why now. I was dating all wrong. Love yourself first Joanne and everything will get better. Have high standards.

My suggestion to being more relatable is to change your clothing attire. Match what the group wears. Don’t over do anything or be too extreme.

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Posted by bittercupcake
That’s cuz you guys make it hard for the majority of the population to love you.

Explain, please.

Short explanation:

People who are harder to pin down have a sort of hate following. People who speak their minds without a care in the world and rebel against restrictions, will be frowned upon.

Long explanation:

Aries are the babies of the zodiac. Their age association is 0-7 years old. An age of exploration, learning, and adventure. This is reflected in the Aries personality. They’re rambunctious, wild, and they fit into the ‘been there, done that’ mold. Their wisdom is based on life experiences because they’re not afraid to jump in head first when faced with a challenge. They are relentless, energetic, and passionate. They love chasing after objects that catch their attention. This could be anything from love interests, to sports, to hobbies, to life goals, to careers. They’re usually the first to step forward because they truly believe they can handle the challenge, even if it’s way out of their league, they won’t stop. They’re spitting little fireballs that cannot be stopped and will face you on if you stand in their way.

Like the little 🐑 they mark their territory and protect it at all costs. But finding that territory to which they can call Home, may be a painful and long journey for the Aries as they crave stability and freedom. This leads to frustration from outsiders, in particular romantic interests, as many don’t have the patience nor right ‘niche’ for the Aries. It’s really a selling point here, where the Aries might shop around for the perfect bride, but nothing is perfect or balanced enough for them. Too many fall prey to his charms, which bores him. Too many are too controlling, which restricts him. Too many lack the finesse of a fine woman, who is equally both strong and feminine, Loving yet free to let her little Ram roam around in the green pastures. He needs in essence a beautiful and delicate Sheppard, who will guide him but not punish him for being who he is. Someone who is delicate enough to handle the fragile sheep that he truly is. He needs a rock that he can stand upon, but also a rock that won’t be afraid to crush him if he steps out of line.

It’s this very thing that he looks for, a balance to which he can feel safe, loved, and appreciated. But many, do not fit his mold as they tend to dwell into one extreme or the other. It’s this very rejection that people detest. As Aries aren’t afraid to speak their minds when angered, annoyed, or bored. Their tendency to play around in the field, uttering enchanting words to any woman who’ll listen, will only garner a chuckle for the Aries, who hopes to find that one woman in the crowd brave enough to walk away and call BS. It’s this very woman who will catch his eye and heart, as this woman will surely keep him playing his ultimate favorite game, the chasing game.

In friendships, they can be extremely critical and quite the asshole. Not afraid to be upfront about their competition, they need to prove to the whole world that they are the best and to show it off. In part it’s an insecurity but mostly because they need to stroke that huge ego of theirs. They love to ‘ram’ into people, provoking reactions and emotions for a laugh. Other times just be a straight up douche. They are children of the God of War, Aries so this need for battle, arguments, blow ups will be prevalent in their personalities. They need to come out on top and win... and because they’re so relentless...they usually do.

—�— there you go —�—�

I had way too much time on my hands.. so you can disregard 75% of what I said and stick to the short explanation lol

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I believe this is directed to the aries male species no? OP is a woman.

Be nicer and funnier?

I can't guarantee you will find anyone....but maybe ask around the people you do know and say you are looking for friends and mates etc. Ask for a few intros and invites.

Just be nice and natural 🙂

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Posted by tiziani
Usually from what I've seen it's just taking things too personally.

Or an Aries toning down their enthusiasm for their interests/hobbies etc for others, which goes back to taking things too personally.

Sometimes I think about my response and how to word it, and then you just say it better than I could.

My non-work here is done. I’m so disappointed in myself, lol.

@OP I love Aries. You’re so passionate and full of life. Some of you overthink things, and relationships are doomed before you even gave it a chance to begin. Which surprises me because you’re a fire sign.

I force myself to get out of my head or I’ll miss out on things from overthinking and worrying.

Try not to think so much about where anything is going, and just let it happen naturally. Also, be more open to people showing interest.

I see that a lot with aries. They freeze up when someone tries to get closer. Don’t push people away. You’ll be alright. Don’t fret. 🙏

For sure, I remember with Fire signs I knew... ok maybe not always and maybe I'm selective in memory... but eventually it came out they always had this really vivid picture in their head they never felt comfortable to explain at the time.

And it seemed to me like especially with some Aries I knew, they really take it too much to heart when someone else cannot visibly go blow for blow with them on their enthusiasm.

But that's life, you don't always get the immediate reaction you want, you just have to keep going.

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Yes exactly. I see that with them too. And just some like you said. They’re puzzling to me. Yet I understand them.

I always felt like they’re the rubix cubes out of all the signs.

So honest with some people, and so complicated with others.

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Posted by tiziani
Usually from what I've seen it's just taking things too personally.

Or an Aries toning down their enthusiasm for their interests/hobbies etc for others, which goes back to taking things too personally.

Sometimes I think about my response and how to word it, and then you just say it better than I could.

My non-work here is done. I’m so disappointed in myself, lol.

@OP I love Aries. You’re so passionate and full of life. Some of you overthink things, and relationships are doomed before you even gave it a chance to begin. Which surprises me because you’re a fire sign.

I force myself to get out of my head or I’ll miss out on things from overthinking and worrying.

Try not to think so much about where anything is going, and just let it happen naturally. Also, be more open to people showing interest.

I see that a lot with aries. They freeze up when someone tries to get closer. Don’t push people away. You’ll be alright. Don’t fret. 🙏

*raises hands* I am that overthinking Aries lol. I do struggle with letting things flow naturally...something I'm trying to work on and improve. 🙂

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Sakura you lovely Aries, I’ve missed you. And every person feels the same. ❤️

You Aries. You’re so loving. Don’t hold it back xoxo

You're meant to be alone until you find your tribe-this maybe 1 or 5 people. Personally group friendships don't work out for me at all. My personality is too multi faceted. So I have different friends from different groups. The one time we were a group of 5 girls it all went to shit. Bitching, backstabbing, people getting left out, me getting accused of being the shit stirrer because I couldn't be bothered with all the drama. When I heard that part I backed right off, I was out. lol!

Relationships of any kind are like the perfect ingredients coming together. Sometimes all the spices come together, sometimes salt only meets pepper. Sometimes you find parsley trying to creep into the indian recipe coz he's been confused for cilantro, before you know it he's like wtf am I doing here?! hahaha!

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Posted by tiziani
Usually from what I've seen it's just taking things too personally.

Or an Aries toning down their enthusiasm for their interests/hobbies etc for others, which goes back to taking things too personally.

Sometimes I think about my response and how to word it, and then you just say it better than I could.

My non-work here is done. I’m so disappointed in myself, lol.

@OP I love Aries. You’re so passionate and full of life. Some of you overthink things, and relationships are doomed before you even gave it a chance to begin. Which surprises me because you’re a fire sign.

I force myself to get out of my head or I’ll miss out on things from overthinking and worrying.

Try not to think so much about where anything is going, and just let it happen naturally. Also, be more open to people showing interest.

I see that a lot with aries. They freeze up when someone tries to get closer. Don’t push people away. You’ll be alright. Don’t fret. 🙏

*raises hands* I am that overthinking Aries lol. I do struggle with letting things flow naturally...something I'm trying to work on and improve. 🙂

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It's your earth bits making you overthink. Especially Mercury Taurus.

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Relationships of any kind are like the perfect ingredients coming together. Sometimes all the spices come together, sometimes salt only meets pepper. Sometimes you find parsley trying to creep into the indian recipe coz he's been confused for cilantro, before you know it he's like wtf am I doing here?! hahaha!

Hahaha. What a lovely way to explain it ❤️

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Serious questions

Are you over the top?

Do you talk about yourself alot?

Do your friends accuse you of not listenting?

When you go out in public, how do you treat the help?

Do you talk to taken men much longer than you should?

These are all the reasons why I dumped my Aries friend.

1.) I get being over the top. I'm a sag. However saggis tend to be more self aware than Aries.

I know when the stage belongs to someone else and I let them have their moment. My ex friend just couldn't do that for anyone. 1st couple of time, her outbursts were cute and funny but then it reaked of desperation and when she was confronted she became withdrawn and depressed. Lashed out. Childlike temper tantrums

2.) Again. I get this 2 but theres a time and a place. Outbursts that were once cute now were annoying.

3.) Every time we went out to eat, she would order off the menu and totally make the order so complicated that she should have just cooked at home. As expected, the food would never come back how she wanted. So she would lash out and verbally abuse the help.

I stopped going out to eat with her.

I can only talk about my experiences and what went wrong between me and my Aries friend and how she would often feel left out and ostracized.

She was also a cap moon and Venus aqua.

Beautiful smart girl, just lacked self awareness.

I would quiz your friends and genuinely ask them how you are perceived. Take a shot 1st.

Your aries friend sounds like a complete nightmare.

Sadly I have the same experience with an aries sun cap moon though this one has a pisces venus. She definetely lacks self awareness.

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I remember she came with me to car shop and she kept urging me to get this particular car.

A week later, I over heard her saying to someone that she would never buy that car, it's terrible.

I jumped in and asked her why she was trying to get me to buy the car just last week.

She just laughed but I was dead serious.

Life is much better since I topped answering her texts years ago.

Posted by pinkbird03
My suggestion to being more relatable is to change your clothing attire. Match what the group wears. Don’t over do anything or be too extreme.

This right here.

It's kinda like work, Aries has never been the team player. Solo Is where it's at.

So when you get in group settings, you don't know how to chart those waters and the group ends up is leaving you out

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Posted by tiziani
Usually from what I've seen it's just taking things too personally.

Or an Aries toning down their enthusiasm for their interests/hobbies etc for others, which goes back to taking things too personally.

Sometimes I think about my response and how to word it, and then you just say it better than I could.

My non-work here is done. I’m so disappointed in myself, lol.

@OP I love Aries. You’re so passionate and full of life. Some of you overthink things, and relationships are doomed before you even gave it a chance to begin. Which surprises me because you’re a fire sign.

I force myself to get out of my head or I’ll miss out on things from overthinking and worrying.

Try not to think so much about where anything is going, and just let it happen naturally. Also, be more open to people showing interest.

I see that a lot with aries. They freeze up when someone tries to get closer. Don’t push people away. You’ll be alright. Don’t fret. 🙏

*raises hands* I am that overthinking Aries lol. I do struggle with letting things flow naturally...something I'm trying to work on and improve. 🙂

Sakura you lovely Aries, I’ve missed you. And every person feels the same. ❤️

You Aries. You’re so loving. Don’t hold it back xoxo

Muah, likewise. xoxo

I don't think I'm holding back necessarily. I have a tendency to go for the most efficient method in all areas, sometimes to the detriment of what I'm trying to achieve due to the results deviating from expectations.

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❤️ That’s not necessarily a bad thing to always want to improve. Sometimes it doesn’t work out, but when it does. Bliss.

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Serious questions

Are you over the top?

Do you talk about yourself alot?

Do your friends accuse you of not listenting?

When you go out in public, how do you treat the help?

Do you talk to taken men much longer than you should?

These are all the reasons why I dumped my Aries friend.

1.) I get being over the top. I'm a sag. However saggis tend to be more self aware than Aries.

I know when the stage belongs to someone else and I let them have their moment. My ex friend just couldn't do that for anyone. 1st couple of time, her outbursts were cute and funny but then it reaked of desperation and when she was confronted she became withdrawn and depressed. Lashed out. Childlike temper tantrums

2.) Again. I get this 2 but theres a time and a place. Outbursts that were once cute now were annoying.

3.) Every time we went out to eat, she would order off the menu and totally make the order so complicated that she should have just cooked at home. As expected, the food would never come back how she wanted. So she would lash out and verbally abuse the help.

I stopped going out to eat with her.

I can only talk about my experiences and what went wrong between me and my Aries friend and how she would often feel left out and ostracized.

She was also a cap moon and Venus aqua.

Beautiful smart girl, just lacked self awareness.

I would quiz your friends and genuinely ask them how you are perceived. Take a shot 1st.

Your aries friend sounds like a complete nightmare.

Sadly I have the same experience with an aries sun cap moon though this one has a pisces venus. She definetely lacks self awareness.

I remember she came with me to car shop and she kept urging me to get this particular car.

A week later, I over heard her saying to someone that she would never buy that car, it's terrible.

I jumped in and asked her why she was trying to get me to buy the car just last week.

She just laughed but I was dead serious.

Life is much better since I topped answering her texts years ago.

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Ouch. It sounds like she was jealous of you. Or maybe envious could be more fitting. Or maybe both.

When conversing with an Aquarius venus and mars, I'd say the confusion kicks in when people start noticing your defensive body language doesn't match your bubbly and outgoing personality. So what really happens is that most guys (that are initially drawn to you) are thrown off balance, hence start second guessing (both your actual interest and themselves), as soon as they realize you aren't physically receptive to their avances.

Sure some may lack courage, there's no denying; yet for those who don't, that you ultimately project warmth is what matters the most. To put it more bluntly: friendliness at words won't work as long as you come across as an igloo.

how ocan i change it ? to be more open and receptive to people i like and i am attracted to?

Posted by joanne_p
how ocan i change it ? to be more open and receptive to people i like and i am attracted to?

Don't be afraid to touch people you're drawn to.

ok so i am just asking a question here.

why it didnt work out between me and this guy?

Too much self-absorption on both ends: the push and pull was likely toxic.

i dont know how i can change it

Posted by joanne_p
i dont know how i can change it

I don't think anyone can guide you on how to change this. And I believe your Cap Moon has much more to do with this than your Aries Sun.

The older I get the wiser I get and the fewer friends I have but they are good friends. Just be yourself and open and curious - it may be that it's taking longer to actually find/accumulate a friend because your ability to sort through the rubble is more acute and more upfront - as you are wiser now and see the crap immediately and know that is not what you want.

Be happy and beautiful with what you got and you will attract a butterfly.