@Espresso
9 Years
How each sign deals with jealousy?
lol I usually leave because I personally think it's childish but I'll admit I use to get pissed ?
Posted by Capri-sun
Depends on the context
I second ☝️️It all depends on the context.
I would excuse us, take him in the corner and ask him to behave himself and if that's too much, then two can play the same game. I don't abstain. I just need an excuse to flirt harmlessly. I behave myself out of respect for my partner. ?
Seeing as I make it known very early on that if someone flirts with them it is their job to stop it in its tracks (and same with me if it happens to me) and not reciprocate, that would be a betrayal of trust and the boundaries I set. It shouldn't be on either of us to get in the middle of it and stop it.
So there would be some hell to pay but only in private. I don't do public displays.
Posted by aquarius09
I would excuse us, take him in the corner and ask him to behave himself and if that's too much, then two can play the same game. I don't abstain. I just need an excuse to flirt harmlessly. I behave myself out of respect for my partner. ?
Lol if that ass can't behave properly without you telling him/her then maybe it's time to reevaluate the relationship.
Posted by Capri-sun
Depends on the contextI second ☝️️It all depends on the context.
"It depends" is my answer to everything. Libra/Cap problems smh
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lol I know how most caps deal with jealousy the hold it and then blow up ?
Also, I wouldn't leave, but I would walk over to them and give them both a smile while wrapping my arm around my partner. If it continues, then I will leave without notice.
Posted by aquarius09
I would excuse us, take him in the corner and ask him to behave himself and if that's too much, then two can play the same game. I don't abstain. I just need an excuse to flirt harmlessly. I behave myself out of respect for my partner. ?Lol if that ass can't behave properly without you telling him/her then maybe it's time to reevaluate the relationship.
Except if you're a scorpio of course 😛
You don't get a pass lol jk
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Lol I found that out the hard way lol
Disappear
Posted by aquarius09
I would excuse us, take him in the corner and ask him to behave himself and if that's too much, then two can play the same game. I don't abstain. I just need an excuse to flirt harmlessly. I behave myself out of respect for my partner. ?2 wrongs don't make a right
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It's not about that. I just give people their own medicine, especially if I'm going to enjoy it.
Posted by aquarius09
I would excuse us, take him in the corner and ask him to behave himself and if that's too much, then two can play the same game. I don't abstain. I just need an excuse to flirt harmlessly. I behave myself out of respect for my partner. ?Lol if that ass can't behave properly without you telling him/her then maybe it's time to reevaluate the relationship.
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I'm assuming the scenario in the OP means the first time he does it. I don't stick around for inappropriate behaviour. If I have to repeat myself more than twice, he needs to go because I always pick myself aka my sanity.
I just saw the OP is asking for how my sign would deal with it. Aqua moon is big on morals: right and wrong. It's wrong to flirt in front of your significant other no matter how harmless it is. It's just rude and inconsiderate. I don't do it and if my partner is doing it, I'll give him benefit of the doubt and assume he needs to be prompted. I'll do it once and even twice, but if he can't address this issue, then I've come to the conclusion that he's an inconsiderate jackass who doesn't care about me and my feelings. Therefore, he'll be dumped.
Posted by EnochtheWise
Really, a thread like this can't get off the ground without defining terms like "flirting". Some women I've been with have been so jealous, they consider it flirting to make another woman laugh, or to talk excessively to a new woman in a group setting even if you have real things in common. For others, flirting is making comments about a person's appearance, complimenting them, innuendo in jokes, etc. I know married couples though, that don't even consider the latter to be flirting.How do you folks define flirting? That will help people understand your answers....
That's why I said it depends on the context for me because I might do different things in different situations
So what's an example of the context that is inappropriate flirting to you?
I've found that there are all sorts of factors that are even completely independent of the accused person's actions when it comes to jealousy over flirtation. For instance, how hot is the person they are talking to....If its someone that causes no insecurity or jealousy on the part of their partner, the behavior is often a non-issue. How well does this couple even know one another? How valued does the person feeling jealous over flirtation feel, at that moment in time by the partner, and where is the level of trust in the relationship? That really seems to be one of the biggest factors.
Like you stated so many factors.
Speaking from a previously married standpoint:
-leaving wasn't necessarily the best option in that moment.
My ex use to pastor a church so we were automatically susceptible because "his title, position, authority"
I remember one night we were visiting a different church & one of his friends rode with us. At the end of the night one lady was seriously, blatantly flirting & let him tell it, he was completely oblivious.
She was touching his arm, made a comment to me about making sure I take care of him or something along those lines, wanted to exchange numbers so they could collaborate...it was just her tone, body language, etc.
All 3 of us get in the car to leave & either I or his friend mentioned how the lady was hitting on him. His friend told him to watch out for her & he wouldn't even deal with her because she had bad intentions. I'm glad his friend was there because had it just been me, he would've said it was all in my mind.
He was a sag so naturally fun, outgoing, talkative, etc. Okay, no problem. Coworkers want to buy our kids a Christmas present, okay cool. They want to buy you something for the secret santa exchange, okay great. We all worked at the same place, and to me the respect line was crossed when he accepted a whole outfit (shirt & pants) from a female coworker. *In my mind* "I don't need you to dress my husband"
Those are just a couple examples.
It's difficult for me to say in general for the reasons you already mentioned.
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I was in the exact same situation with my ex fiance, and he was also a Sag. The girl was getting touchy, drunk and no treat but i expected him to put her back in her place.
He didn't, it seemed no big deal to him since he didnt reciprocate really. I coudn't leave that night because it was a corporate event but damn i'm so happy it didnt work out between us.
Thanks for all of the responses guys. I'm glad i'm not the only proud one here, ready to leave silently.
To me if my man disrespects me like that, or doesn't put back a lady in her place in my presence, there is something wrong about the relationship.
Posted by Capri-sun
Early on in the dating process if my date flirts with the waitress regardless of whether she's attractive or not, I won't take him seriously.Any guy who is always in different women's faces trying to talk to them in more than a friendly manner, I won't take them seriously.
There's a cancer guy I work with, he wanted to date me then one day I was talking to my friend who works in a different area & she says "he wants me so bad" so I stopped even considering him as potential anything besides coworker.
Totally agreeing with you!
Posted by EnochtheWise
Really, a thread like this can't get off the ground without defining terms like "flirting". Some women I've been with have been so jealous, they consider it flirting to make another woman laugh, or to talk excessively to a new woman in a group setting even if you have real things in common. For others, flirting is making comments about a person's appearance, complimenting them, innuendo in jokes, etc. I know married couples though, that don't even consider the latter to be flirting.How do you folks define flirting? That will help people understand your answers....
That's why I said it depends on the context for me because I might do different things in different situations
So what's an example of the context that is inappropriate flirting to you?
I've found that there are all sorts of factors that are even completely independent of the accused person's actions when it comes to jealousy over flirtation. For instance, how hot is the person they are talking to....If its someone that causes no insecurity or jealousy on the part of their partner, the behavior is often a non-issue. How well does this couple even know one another? How valued does the person feeling jealous over flirtation feel, at that moment in time by the partner, and where is the level of trust in the relationship? That really seems to be one of the biggest factors.
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This is the defining factor. If, let's say, your dude cheated before your gonna give every chick he flirts with the stink eye.
Posted by Espresso
Imagine you are in a social setting and your partner flirts with someone else, not too obviously but enough that it feels awkward.How do you react? Confront, ignore, leave, consider its no big deal?
Personally i would leave lol
I usually will know my partner well enough to discern whether or not its innocent, they're just expressing themselves, being humorous, etc. (all of which I have no problem with), or if they are actually attracted to this person in a serious way and flirting in a way that's more disrespectful to me....Like, they are smitten and sort of hitting on the person. If it looks like the latter, as my heart turns black and ices over, I will probably pretend I don't realize what's going on, act all happy and cool as I excuse myself, then proceed to distance myself from both of them and just observe the body language from a distance, where neither can see me doing so. I would never make a scene in public, or let on in public how I'm feeling. I really would make it a point not to lose my temper, because more than anything I want to understand what's going on as fully as I can. So even when we're alone later, and I bring it up to discuss, I'll probably try and make them feel as safe as possible to be honest. When I will get pissed off, is if I feel like they're lying about it. Its totally understandable to be attracted to others, and want to seem attractive to others, but there's a line of respect that you shouldn't cross. And sometimes, that has to be negotiated and discussed in a relationship because it really does vary from couple to couple.
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Thanks for a very intelligent answer. I would also try to analyse to make sure i'm assessing the situation right.
The bull in me can get possessive but the idealistic aries stallium would jump to conclusions quickly.
I would leave because it would be a clear proof that i'm being disrespected and unloved in a way i want to. Like cuting the problem at it's core.
I would not talk to them about it because i would expect them to have the same core values as me. If i have to tell them how to act, it's a temporary fix and not worth it.
I'm intense, i know 🙂
fuck that ...I"m out ...
thanks pisces mars lol
Posted by andstill
grab them by the pussy
😆 this never gets old
Facetiming my frenz like- dis bish
Posted by EnochtheWise
Really, a thread like this can't get off the ground without defining terms like "flirting". Some women I've been with have been so jealous, they consider it flirting to make another woman laugh, or to talk excessively to a new woman in a group setting even if you have real things in common. For others, flirting is making comments about a person's appearance, complimenting them, innuendo in jokes, etc. I know married couples though, that don't even consider the latter to be flirting.How do you folks define flirting? That will help people understand your answers....
That's why I said it depends on the context for me because I might do different things in different situations
So what's an example of the context that is inappropriate flirting to you?
I've found that there are all sorts of factors that are even completely independent of the accused person's actions when it comes to jealousy over flirtation. For instance, how hot is the person they are talking to....If its someone that causes no insecurity or jealousy on the part of their partner, the behavior is often a non-issue. How well does this couple even know one another? How valued does the person feeling jealous over flirtation feel, at that moment in time by the partner, and where is the level of trust in the relationship? That really seems to be one of the biggest factors.
This is the defining factor. If, let's say, your dude cheated before your gonna give every chick he flirts with the stink eye.
Yep, and conversely....If I know that my woman understands me to the very core of my being, that we have connected on that level to where we truly know and understand one another, have had those deep convos where we've both been painfully honest and chosen to accept one another for all of our faults, which is always my goal in a relationship...then I will most likely already understand why she's acting how she is and be fine with it. For me, though it sounds arrogant, I'm secure enough that, if my woman knows me that deeply, and has already decided to overlook the bad, she knows I cannot be easily replaced, least of all by a shallow and very temporary connection she feels with someone else. If I'm not fine with it, I'll probably still at least understand it, express why I'm not fine with it, and we'll most likely work through it very easily and both see it as a learning process.
All that I guess does assume that we've known each other for significant time and the trust has been built - usually through trial and error. If the relationship is new, the foundation has not yet been laid, and the chemistry is *very* strong, it can obviously be a lot more difficult.
In my younger years, it was very different though. I was way more jealous all throughout the relationship, and it is one of the worst emotions to feel IMO.
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Yeah and I'd imagine as you age in your relationship you become more secure in yourself and the other person.
I'd imagine some light flirtation and you lock eyes across the room...could be invigoration for you both as a couple. We fall into routine so easily, sometimes it takes another person recognizing your mate as sexy and crush worthy to remind yourself of the same.
seriously tho- can't reeeeally get jealous...
coz I enjoy a little casual flirting myself, as a general rule @_@
Posted by wagtail
seriously tho- can't reeeeally get jealous...coz I enjoy a little casual flirting myself, as a general rule @_@
Posted by palehooves
espresso what does the rest of your chart look like?we have very similar placements.
my chart:
aqua asc
taurus sun
aries moon
aries mercury
aries venus
scorpio mars
Wow it's crazy, up to mars we're the same! ?
Aqua rising
Taurus sun
Aries moon
Aries mercury
Aries venus
Gemini mars
Aries jupiter
North node in Aries
Where is your north node?
Posted by palehooves
espresso what does the rest of your chart look like?we have very similar placements.
my chart:
aqua asc
taurus sun
aries moon
aries mercury
aries venus
scorpio mars
Wow it's crazy, up to mars we're the same! ?
Aqua rising
Taurus sun
Aries moon
Aries mercury
Aries venus
Gemini mars
Aries jupiter
North node in Aries
Where is your north node?
lol that's cool!
my NN is in gemini in the 4th house.
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Haha very cool indeed. My aries stellium is in my 3rd house, including the North node.
Nice to meet you, my astro twin 😉
I think at the time I'd keep the temper under control.
But once we were alone I'd tell him I felt it was inappropriate and it made me feel weird.
lol may I add you could see it in my eyes once I give you that stare.
Posted by palehooves
nice to meet you as well. 😉my sun moon mercury and venus are in the 2nd but my 2nd house is in aries. so it's a fiery taurus thing. lol
Sorry i'm confused, how can your sun and moon be in the same house, if they are in different signs? (Taurus sun - Aries moon)
Posted by Stinger408scorp
lol may I add you could see it in my eyes once I give you that stare.
Lol i beleive so, but she should know better in my opinion...
I never react in public. But I doubt I would leave honestly. I would just power thru and then kill you in the car.... yep I'm crazy.
Posted by palehooves
nice to meet you as well. 😉my sun moon mercury and venus are in the 2nd but my 2nd house is in aries. so it's a fiery taurus thing. lol
Sorry i'm confused, how can your sun and moon be in the same house, if they are in different signs? (Taurus sun - Aries moon)
my sun is at the end of the 2nd house cusping the 3rd. some people count that as 3rd house influence but that mofo is still in the 2nd house!!!!
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Ah ok, i understand now! Those stelliums are heavy influences! Some transit can knock us out sometimes, but we're courageous 🙂
Capricorn lady here... I can be confrontational so I might go that route. I would feel disrespected and embarrassed and might address the flirting right there on the spot in front of them.
Posted by jasmineblue
Capricorn lady here... I can be confrontational so I might go that route. I would feel disrespected and embarrassed and might address the flirting right there on the spot in front of them.
Thanks for your honesty. My dad is a Cap and he was doing the same...
Cap and Gemini seem to take that approach so far 🙂
Posted by GC01
I'm just kidding I'm not that bad. I might let a girl flirt a little with my man but I will be sure to make note of that and take jabs at her later to make her feel uncomfortable and he always ends up having my back so the girl gets left just looking like a silly stupid little goose.We are such jerks!
Assuming your man has your back, that sounds fun hehe
Posted by GC01
I'm just kidding I'm not that bad. I might let a girl flirt a little with my man but I will be sure to make note of that and take jabs at her later to make her feel uncomfortable and he always ends up having my back so the girl gets left just looking like a silly stupid little goose.We are such jerks!
Assuming your man has your back, that sounds fun hehe
Always lol even when we were just good friends(he was my bestie for about a year) he has always had my back I remember being 17 and getting into arguments with one of my crazy friends in the car while he was driving and he kicked her out of the car for getting into it with me and we left her at a gas station.
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That's awesome, he feels one with you and he is able to stand his ground! Lucky girl!!!
Posted by aquarius09
I would excuse us, take him in the corner and ask him to behave himself and if that's too much, then two can play the same game. I don't abstain. I just need an excuse to flirt harmlessly. I behave myself out of respect for my partner. ?Lol if that ass can't behave properly without you telling him/her then maybe it's time to reevaluate the relationship.
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i agree
Posted by Espresso
Imagine you are in a social setting and your partner flirts with someone else, not too obviously but enough that it feels awkward.How do you react? Confront, ignore, leave, consider its no big deal?
Personally i would leave lol
I would go over, introduce myself and make it clear who I was ?
"You never let another bitch steal your man, you go there and show her who's the boss" (My mother, 2009)
Medieval times.
Friendliness is one thing. Actual interested flirting is another.
First time it happened, he'd find his own way home that night.
Second time, he'd find his own home altogether.
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Imagine you are in a social setting and your partner flirts with someone else, not too obviously but enough that it feels awkward.
How do you react? Confront, ignore, leave, consider its no big deal?
Personally i would leave lol