@Leoqueen21
9 YearsLeo
When in the DATING phase
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.
lol, I'm not sure if those girls like this type of treatment.
Posted by Capri-sun
Depends.No. Could also depend based on the person.
true, I guess it all depends on how serious the progression of your "dating" status is
Posted by blackmoon
well depends on how serious you are and how serious they areit's hard to decide, so keep your options open
that's true I have only dated one person at a time. I don't see anyone else out there (not that I'm really looking) but I just have random thoughts and questions that pop in my head from time to time lol
I can't date more than one person at a time. Takes up too much energy to do so.
I only have energy for one person at the time.
Before I was married I did wonder how 'playing the field' worked. Like how do you know who you like when each could have equal pros and cons??
Posted by Leoqueen21
When you're in the dating phase, do you date multiple people or stick to that one person you're talking to?Also is it considered bad to be dating multiple people?
I'm talking about dating (not being in a relationship)
Never been in that situation, dating multiple people.
I mean I like to focus on one. More than one is too much work, even for the dating game. Lol
Posted by -Flo-
Another thing I'll add;If he's the type to talk to multiples but I'm only talking to him, as soon as I find out I'll drop him. I won't even argue, I'm just out. I don't like being thrown back and forth. Run to me than runs to her than back to me... yeah no.
yesssss this! I feel like dating is the beginning stages or establishing that trust and if you're already dibbling out and I found out, then I'm gone!
Posted by VampScorp
I only have energy for one person at the time.Before I was married I did wonder how 'playing the field' worked. Like how do you know who you like when each could have equal pros and cons??
Sometimes I feel as though I don't have energy for myself, so I agree with you.
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
It depends.Player please !
If she wants to see other people while on the dating phase why can't I?
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I don't want to see other people, I was asking a general question looking to hear responses. please don't assume.
Yes. When I was single I would date multiple people. Usually after a third/fourth date I know if I want to continue seeing the person.
With how dating is now it pays off to keep your options open. That being said I can only sleep with one person at a time, could never juggle multiple sexual relationships (earth Venus).
Women need to assume that the guys they are dating are also dating multiple people. Unless of course there is a conversation to indicate otherwise.
Posted by nanobyte
When I was single I was dating multiple people, they can too if they want, I don't care. I don't sleep with men during dating phase, because I don't sleep with men who are sleeping with multiple women and I just assume they all are.
Same here. Before sex I need to establish exclusivity. Not bf/gf labels...but I need to know your only fucking me. And we will get tested before as well.
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.
Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Posted by -Flo-
Another thing I'll add;If he's the type to talk to multiples but I'm only talking to him, as soon as I find out I'll drop him. I won't even argue, I'm just out. I don't like being thrown back and forth. Run to me than runs to her than back to me... yeah no.
I logically understand why you would feel this way. And I think everyone can choose or not to date people with the same beliefs, and if someone doesn't follow your belief, then you have every right to not date them.
But I also have a devil's advocate question. Technically, you talking to him, means that a defined relationship status is not there. So why do you feel that you should be allowed to be angry with him for talking to other women during a phase in which you two are not monogamous? Just wondering.
Posted by -Flo-
Another thing I'll add;If he's the type to talk to multiples but I'm only talking to him, as soon as I find out I'll drop him. I won't even argue, I'm just out. I don't like being thrown back and forth. Run to me than runs to her than back to me... yeah no.
It's a pity more women don't follow in your footsteps Flo......some have no standards or boundaries and then wonder why they get treated like dirt by men
One at a time
What is dating?
?
I kid but only partially. I have never really done the "dating" thing. All my relationships have grown organically from friendships.... Sooo ya.
Posted by -Flo-
Another thing I'll add;If he's the type to talk to multiples but I'm only talking to him, as soon as I find out I'll drop him. I won't even argue, I'm just out. I don't like being thrown back and forth. Run to me than runs to her than back to me... yeah no.
I logically understand why you would feel this way. And I think everyone can choose or not to date people with the same beliefs, and if someone doesn't follow your belief, then you have every right to not date them.
But I also have a devil's advocate question. Technically, you talking to him, means that a defined relationship status is not there. So why do you feel that you should be allowed to be angry with him for talking to other women during a phase in which you two are not monogamous? Just wondering.
It doesn't make me angry, It's a way of me setting boundaries on what I'm seeking out of a guy.
I also personally find it's a way of establishing trust in the beginning. When I say talk, I really mean "date".
As a single mom who's busy with school/work, I won't bother getting involved when anyone unless I see some sort of potential future with them.
Just like a man who sees nothing wrong with talking or dating several women, I don't find it wrong that I like to stick to one. I prefer to show him upfront that I'm genuine with no games.
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Ahhh, gotcha. Just playing devil's advocate. I do this with a lot of subjects.
Same with the whole "porn is cheating thing" or even religion. I am inquisitive to say the least about subjects where I have a differing option, or similar option. I like to see if others opinions on something are the same as mine, or not.
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.lol, I'm not sure if those girls like this type of treatment.
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The Leos don't.
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
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Only the Aquas do.
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
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Do you not tell the other girls? or only aquas accept it?
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
Do you not tell the other girls? or only aquas accept it?
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The Aquas always find out and then tell the others.
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
Do you not tell the other girls? or only aquas accept it?
The Aquas always find out and then tell the others.
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Hi Flor!! How are you?? I haven't seen you for ages! 🙂
Posted by -Flo-
Another thing I'll add;If he's the type to talk to multiples but I'm only talking to him, as soon as I find out I'll drop him. I won't even argue, I'm just out. I don't like being thrown back and forth. Run to me than runs to her than back to me... yeah no.
Which makes sense! So what if you decide to make it serious with either person...what happens to the one not picked?? How does that conversation go?
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
Do you not tell the other girls? or only aquas accept it?
The Aquas always find out and then tell the others.
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Lol we aren't blind
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
Do you not tell the other girls? or only aquas accept it?
The Aquas always find out and then tell the others.
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Lol we aren't blind
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
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And how do they respond to this? Most leave dont they?
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
And how do they respond to this? Most leave dont they?
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The Aquas walk away, the Leos send me angry assay text messages, the Scorpios slap me.
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
And how do they respond to this? Most leave dont they?
The Aquas walk away, the Leos send me angry assay text messages, the Scorpios slap me.
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Figured as much .. Such a player you are ?
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
And how do they respond to this? Most leave dont they?
The Aquas walk away, the Leos send me angry assay text messages, the Scorpios slap me.
Figured as much .. Such a player you are ?
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Are you free tonight?
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
And how do they respond to this? Most leave dont they?
The Aquas walk away, the Leos send me angry assay text messages, the Scorpios slap me.
Figured as much .. Such a player you are ?
Are you free tonight?
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Lol! You know what that requires.. ?
Posted by Secret
I do like eBay. I send girls to the basket and then at checkout I pick the one I want.Question is : Do they know they are treated like that?
Only the Aquas do.
And how do they respond to this? Most leave dont they?
The Aquas walk away, the Leos send me angry assay text messages, the Scorpios slap me.
Figured as much .. Such a player you are ?
Are you free tonight?
Lol! You know what that requires.. ?
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if I'm dating multiple then it means i didn't really like them.
When I like one guy I unintentionally let go of the other ( texting them less, paying attention to them less)
When Im in full dating mode it's never my intention to date one. I date multiple, but somehow it singles down two and eventually one.
More than one. Don't want to become too dependent u might end up with the wrong person in the long run.
Posted by Leoqueen21
When you're in the dating phase, do you date multiple people or stick to that one person you're talking to?Also is it considered bad to be dating multiple people?
I'm talking about dating (not being in a relationship)
I just want to hear some of yall's thoughts !
Love this question, I think I asked it also at one point back then. So what I do is stick to honesty. Let them know the situation. I don't close myself off and focus on ONE until it has developed into something.
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When you're in the dating phase, do you date multiple people or stick to that one person you're talking to?
Also is it considered bad to be dating multiple people?
I'm talking about dating (not being in a relationship)
I just want to hear some of yall's thoughts !