Why Dont I Claim Men in Public?

Do any of you ask yourself these questions?

Why do I hesitate on bringing any relationship public?

Why wont I allow myself to piss on a tree?

Why do hide my relationships?

I actually hate talking about anyone I'm dating for fear of being disappointed and then having to explain to others why things didnt jump off. Its embarrassing.

Even with the sag, I STILL havent told anyone in the real world about him. Its been 10 years and i still fear disappointment.

With the Gemini, we are taking a class together and I have not given any clues that we've been "seeing" each other. We havent made it to 1st base. I wonder if he is hurt by this?

It always seems cheesy and lame to go public with a relationship. Maybe because I've never had a super good guy that I do want to claim?

Could it be my 5th house stellium?

12th house synastry?

Capricorn and saturn placements?

I remember i had a discussion with a gem about what level of PDA im comfortable with. He was like: all is a secret? 😐

Me: not like that but...

(Note: we were not in rs at the time of discussion)

I thought it was my Venus in Virgo but you dont have that?

Posted by fishcrabscale2

I remember i had a discussion with a gem about what level of PDA im comfortable with. He was like: all is a secret? 😐

Me: not like that but...

(Note: we were not in rs at the time of discussion)

I thought it was my Venus in Virgo but you dont have that?

I'm a venus in capricorn

Maybe it's an earth venus thing

Sometimes I am estatic that I keep relationships with men close to the chest.

I never have to explain their absence.

There's never anyone asking me, what happened.

Like it refreshing.

Omg I’ve always been this way with my family. With friends a lil bit too. I tell friends more but it takes a lil time. I’ve had some pretty shitty experiences that left me traumatized so I’m always expecting the other shoe to drop. So I think that’s why.

Posted by bkbella86

Omg I’ve always been this way with my family. With friends a lil bit too. I tell friends more but it takes a lil time. I’ve had some pretty shitty experiences that left me traumatized so I’m always expecting the other shoe to drop. So I think that’s why.

Yes!

Waiting for the other shoe to drop, cause it always does gurl.

Posted by Superman77

Are you bi?

Serious question

Yes.

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Posted by DMV

Posted by Superman77

Are you bi?

Serious question

Yes.

Maybe it’s an subconscious thing. Maybe deep down you feel like it will hinder your perspective of seeking a female?

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That's 100% true, even with men.

If you piss on a tree, it could mean a

Missed opportunities and those are a no go for me.

I want and need the freedom to say YES.

it's my sag sun. Lol

Posted by Ariqua

I used to be very private but I realized it was a security net for me and you can’t truly be vulnerable and experience love with a security net.

Also, I never wanted to claim anyone I dated before because part of me knew they were shady/untrustworthy. When I finally found someone trustworthy it wasn’t an issue.

So it could be very well that I haven't truly met anyone I DO want to claim.

Because if I had, I would shout it from the rooftops.

My psychic is right. Fawk

Posted by RooSagicorn

All my major relationships have been public. I don’t hide them. Key word major. Minor relationships what’s the point? It drives me insane when people do that “in a relationship” thing on FB after a couple of weeks. Like really? I have not changed mine since I got divorced. You’re going to need to make it a couple of years first..

I’m Cap Venus.

Yes this resonates with me.

I have yet to have a major relationship so maybe I just havent had the "feeling" or urge to be public.

Even then. You're right. This could take years.

Let's say you do change the status or tell someone about a guy, afterwards do you immediately regret it?

I regret immediately even adding a man's name to my contacts. That's way too concrete. Makes him think hes sticking around.

I told my virgo friend about the Gemini and I felt myself in the conversation feeling the following:

1. Regret

2. Shame

3. Apprehension

4. Unsure

5. Boastful

6. Bragging

Ewww it just felt wrong.

Extremely relatable. Freedom from external influences, more intimacy.

Interesting thread.

Posted by Ariqua

Do you think being so private deters men from shooting their shot or entices them?

Do you come off as being hard to get to know or just mysterious and elusive?

Mysterious no

Elusive yes

Nope. I feel you 💯

You start talking about it and it feels like your gonna jinx it. Plus then people feel like they are given carte blanche to ask personal questions I really would rather they not...

I asked the gem not to speak on it for the first year or so. We have mutual friends/aquaintences and I just wanted to avoid awkward convos until I was sure we were gonna be together for the long haul. Obviously the inner core knew what was up, but I wasn’t ready to involve the peanut gallery.

It was never a problem.

Honesty I think it’s better to let the focus be on building something real. Rather then open it up to outside opinions. Hard pass on the couple social media posts too. Not about that life.

Posted by DMV

Sometimes I am estatic that I keep relationships with men close to the chest.

I never have to explain their absence.

There's never anyone asking me, what happened.

Like it refreshing.

You don't talk to girlfriends and friends about this stuff?

I would feel dishonest and also like I didn't tell people, because the guy wouldn't really want to be with me. How do you feel, when the guy wants to keep it a secret? And do the guys ever try to make it public with you?

Posted by starlord

Posted by DMV

Sometimes I am estatic that I keep relationships with men close to the chest.

I never have to explain their absence.

There's never anyone asking me, what happened.

Like it refreshing.

You don't talk to girlfriends and friends about this stuff?

I would feel dishonest and also like I didn't tell people, because the guy wouldn't really want to be with me. How do you feel, when the guy wants to keep it a secret? And do the guys ever try to make it public with you?

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Naw. Not even family. I play things extremely close to the chest.

I remember in college that I guy asked me to not tell anyone. I felt hurt by that.

I feel like that is much different than telling someone that I'd rather keep things private. Dont tell anyone implies that you are already in the wrong.

Yes, men have tried to claim me in public and it always felt fake and not genuine. There was always a pissing contest going on and claiming me in public was there way of winning.

I could tell because behind closed doors, distant, unemotional, no passion.

In other words, they did not keep the same energy in private that they had in public.

I remember the scorpio telling person after person that I was his woman and that I was all his. This my lady. Trying to either make me moist or limit competition.

Behind closed doors, he couldn't be bothered.