Cancer came back now he wants to be friends. Now what?

Posted by Onimusha01

So if you didn't see my previous post about my cancer here's a link, please read it before commenting on this one.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/can-cancer-and-aqua-give-me-their-thoughts--14482760/?p=2

So, following on the previous post.

Cancer man sent me a huuuuuge Apology for his last text msg. ( as I assumed he was going to) telling me he is sorry he talked to me that way and for the things he said and also for not responding my msgs. He said he appreciates my " friendship" that he knows he was wrong at putting the blame of his previous relationships on me and he did not wanted me to think he ghosted me or did not wanted to talk to me anymore. That he hopes we can talk back again and keep being "Friends"

However, he still continues to be as open as usual, he went over details of what went wrong while he was distant, he explained to me that the reason why he does not want to get into a relationship right now is bc he knows he still hurt from his previous relationship and he does not wants to bring any baggage to a new relationship and he wants to take his time to heal.

He says now he knows he can take me out and go out with me and take me places and spend time with me as we are "friends " now. (I think now that he don't feel the pressure, i'm assuming, as things were going too fast at the beginning, he kinda wants to slow down and actually get to know each other better )

Mind you he still admits he likes me and still talk about us having kids or like " oh I had a dream I almost creampied inside you and we hade babies and we were stuck into each others life forever in a positive way hopefully " HOPEFULLY —!!!!!

Im like whaaaaaatttttthhhheeeeeeheeeeelllllllll........ lol.

Posted by applecherrypie

Lol at that creampie comment. He's a bit of a mess, isn't he? 🥴

I hope it works out this time. Do you still feel the same way about him?

Posted by Arinoaqua

I had a dream I cream pied in you....but as friends of course. 🙄

The ball is def in your court now. I would tell him exactly what you want and do not sway from it. Don’t go along with this “just friends” bs. Unless that’s what you want.

He is very confused and confusing.

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by Onimusha01

Posted by Arinoaqua

I had a dream I cream pied in you....but as friends of course. 🙄

The ball is def in your court now. I would tell him exactly what you want and do not sway from it. Don’t go along with this “just friends” bs. Unless that’s what you want.

He is very confused and confusing.

Well, I really like talking to him too... but as I said and told him too... if he wants to be friends... friends it it.... and I don't f w friends.

he keeps talking to me the same way as when we were dating... before he got distant. So, Im not sure if he is just looking for some reassurance that im not going to hurt him or something. ( like usual cancer's think/do)

like I told him. ohh you just like my butt... and he said "I like everything "

we just meet like 2 months ago.. So I'm giving him a little bit of time.

the onus is on you to set boundaries. and to stick to them.

and imo: all this friendship talk ....is nonsense. it´s testing the waters/having a foot in the door.

ambivalence is never a good foundation. just invites unwanted happenings. such as a creampie on your face.

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