RiddleMeThis
@RiddleMeThis
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Cancer Ex texting then not responding? Crab Games..
Stop replying.
Why are you responding?
Posted by GuardianAnubecause I want to talk to him and have a normal conversation lol
Why are you responding?
Posted by ImpulsvI do text back always. Its him who stops texting back immediately like wth dont text me just to not respond..
Id text back
Seems we can't get a full conversation in
I prefer u call
Posted by RiddleMeThisWell that is not working out for you, obviously. Plus his driving by your place, unless it is a route he normally takes to work or whatever, that is not coincidence.Posted by GuardianAnubecause I want to talk to him and have a normal conversation lol
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What does he text you? What are your responses? You are just feeding his need to mindfuck you. Stop doing it.
Posted by RiddleMeThisjust tell him that it's annoying you when the convo is going at such a slow speed, joke as if you forgot who he was 😛
So my ex has been doing the crab dance with me and Im so tired of it. He will text me and then when I reply ( coool and casual) he doesnt reply. Then two days later he will text me again and Ill reply and get a response from him and then when I text back again I get no reply and then two days later the cycle repeats. Whats the deal with this why is he doing this?
Not to mention Ive caught him driving by my place three times this week by pure coincidence.
If he does nothing to fix that well, just ignore him I guess, because that would mean he doesnt care that much about you.
Posted by GuardianAnuPosted by RiddleMeThisWell that is not working out for you, obviously. Plus his driving by your place, unless it is a route he normally takes to work or whatever, that is not coincidence.Posted by GuardianAnubecause I want to talk to him and have a normal conversation lol
Why are you responding?
What does he text you? What are your responses? You are just feeding his need to mindfuck you. Stop doing it.click to expand
He always initiates I never do. He always asks me what am I doing and when I reply his response is oh ohay just seeing what you were doing or oh okay just checking on you and then when I do reply he says wyd now? it almost like that " can you hear me now?" commercial honestly...lol and no that is not a normal route because there is another route faster and quicker that leads to his house I honestly think he has been driving by on purpose but it just so happens that ive caught it every single time. One day he texted me and when i texted back I got no reply and I went to get in the car to go get food and bam he was driving by my house.
Posted by sagiluv
He expects you to reply right away!!!
Surprise him & don't text him back at all... He will text you more than once & by then you'll ignore him & tables are turned! Voala —?
Do you think he will think I am purposely ignoring him to get back at him though..?
Stop responding right away. This isn't a Cancer game thing it's a derp thing. No matter the history if I reach out and get a reply I reply right back.
Posted by RiddleMeThisPosted by sagiluv
He expects you to reply right away!!!
Surprise him & don't text him back at all... He will text you more than once & by then you'll ignore him & tables are turned! Voala —?
Do you think he will think I am purposely ignoring him to get back at him though..?click to expand
Don't play games or wonder unless you're bored and enjoy wondering. How old are you ?
If a man texts you and you answer back the same day and he takes a couple of days to reply.
The interest is not high. Especially if this is on repeat.
You are the prize dear. Don't sell yourself short hoping for something from someone when you may just be an option.
Posted by RiddleMeThisPosted by GuardianAnuPosted by RiddleMeThisWell that is not working out for you, obviously. Plus his driving by your place, unless it is a route he normally takes to work or whatever, that is not coincidence.Posted by GuardianAnubecause I want to talk to him and have a normal conversation lol
Why are you responding?
What does he text you? What are your responses? You are just feeding his need to mindfuck you. Stop doing it.
He always initiates I never do. He always asks me what am I doing and when I reply his response is oh ohay just seeing what you were doing or oh okay just checking on you and then when I do reply he says wyd now? it almost like that " can you hear me now?" commercial honestly...lol and no that is not a normal route because there is another route faster and quicker that leads to his house I honestly think he has been driving by on purpose but it just so happens that ive caught it every single time. One day he texted me and when i texted back I got no reply and I went to get in the car to go get food and bam he was driving by my house.
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So unless you enjoy this little game he is playing, just tell him to knock it off and block him. Telling him to knock it off is optional, blocking him is not. When you break up with someone, the only way you can really heal is cutting off all communication, as much as that feels like it sucks, break ups suck. But it's what you do to move on.
Who broke up with who, and why?
Ps....him riding by your house means nothing but he's crazy or a control freak.
Not cute....A man would invite you out or ask to come over and spend time with you.
Not cute....A man would invite you out or ask to come over and spend time with you.
Posted by KrissyTheCappy36Posted by GuardianAnuHe broke up with me. Due to frequent arguingPosted by RiddleMeThisPosted by GuardianAnuPosted by RiddleMeThisWell that is not working out for you, obviously. Plus his driving by your place, unless it is a route he normally takes to work or whatever, that is not coincidence.Posted by GuardianAnubecause I want to talk to him and have a normal conversation lol
Why are you responding?
What does he text you? What are your responses? You are just feeding his need to mindfuck you. Stop doing it.
He always initiates I never do. He always asks me what am I doing and when I reply his response is oh ohay just seeing what you were doing or oh okay just checking on you and then when I do reply he says wyd now? it almost like that " can you hear me now?" commercial honestly...lol and no that is not a normal route because there is another route faster and quicker that leads to his house I honestly think he has been driving by on purpose but it just so happens that ive caught it every single time. One day he texted me and when i texted back I got no reply and I went to get in the car to go get food and bam he was driving by my house.
So unless you enjoy this little game he is playing, just tell him to knock it off and block him. Telling him to knock it off is optional, blocking him is not. When you break up with someone, the only way you can really heal is cutting off all communication, as much as that feels like it sucks, break ups suck. But it's what you do to move on.
Who broke up with who, and why?
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Sounds like he has the "did I do the right thing by breaking up" blues. It sucks being the dumper and the dumpee. The dumpee, though, just has to deal with it. The dumper, unless they completely went through the stages to finally stop loving that person entirely, can be haunted by their decision.
In any case he is messing with you and you should not feed that. He sounds messed up. You can do better.
Posted by KrissyTheCappy36So you needed someone else to phrase what I told you about cutting him off, to tell you in words that means he will take that as some revenge tactic? What do you want, for him to take you back or to move on?Posted by sagiluvPosted by RiddleMeThisYup!! Then after several times of not replying he will think he lost you & he will either care & go after you some more or just go find another person to replace you..,Posted by sagiluv
He expects you to reply right away!!!
Surprise him & don't text him back at all... He will text you more than once & by then you'll ignore him & tables are turned! Voala —?
Do you think he will think I am purposely ignoring him to get back at him though..?
Thanks I will try this.
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Posted by GuardianAnuNot quite sure what I want from him which is aiding in the problem..Posted by KrissyTheCappy36So you needed someone else to phrase what I told you about cutting him off, to tell you in words that means he will take that as some revenge tactic? What do you want, for him to take you back or to move on?Posted by sagiluvPosted by RiddleMeThisYup!! Then after several times of not replying he will think he lost you & he will either care & go after you some more or just go find another person to replace you..,Posted by sagiluv
He expects you to reply right away!!!
Surprise him & don't text him back at all... He will text you more than once & by then you'll ignore him & tables are turned! Voala —?
Do you think he will think I am purposely ignoring him to get back at him though..?
Thanks I will try this.
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Posted by KrissyTheCappy36I see 😢Posted by GuardianAnuNot quite sure what I want from him which is aiding in the problem..Posted by KrissyTheCappy36So you needed someone else to phrase what I told you about cutting him off, to tell you in words that means he will take that as some revenge tactic? What do you want, for him to take you back or to move on?Posted by sagiluvPosted by RiddleMeThisYup!! Then after several times of not replying he will think he lost you & he will either care & go after you some more or just go find another person to replace you..,Posted by sagiluv
He expects you to reply right away!!!
Surprise him & don't text him back at all... He will text you more than once & by then you'll ignore him & tables are turned! Voala —?
Do you think he will think I am purposely ignoring him to get back at him though..?
Thanks I will try this.
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Well, then yeah. Take some power back.
He obviously wanted power when he broke up with you, to put you in your place because omg you were arguing too much. That is his power. He feels he is losing it because he hurt you and you can damn well do what you want now.
Just keep in mind, if somebody can dump you for something like that, if you get back with them, it just makes the next break up for them easier, and this is a pattern that you do not want to live with. It will just deteriorate more and more, and while you are focusing on all this pain, you could be doing something like being happy.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
Why do you have expectations from an ex?
Get your life
REALLY ? You say this...how ?
Go to bed girl
Hello! I am new here!
I agree with GuardianAnu. I't all a power game.
It's a proper carrot and donkey dynamic.
You want to open a conversation with him ( carrot) and he decides when he gives it to you or not.
In cases like this, (and for your own sanity) stop wanting the carrot ie stop trying to open/hold a conversation with him.
I agree with GuardianAnu. I't all a power game.
It's a proper carrot and donkey dynamic.
You want to open a conversation with him ( carrot) and he decides when he gives it to you or not.
In cases like this, (and for your own sanity) stop wanting the carrot ie stop trying to open/hold a conversation with him.
He texts you to ask you what you're doing... then he drives by your house?
Creepy.
Creepy.
Posted by GuardianAnuPosted by KrissyTheCappy36I see 😢Posted by GuardianAnuNot quite sure what I want from him which is aiding in the problem..Posted by KrissyTheCappy36So you needed someone else to phrase what I told you about cutting him off, to tell you in words that means he will take that as some revenge tactic? What do you want, for him to take you back or to move on?Posted by sagiluvPosted by RiddleMeThisYup!! Then after several times of not replying he will think he lost you & he will either care & go after you some more or just go find another person to replace you..,Posted by sagiluv
He expects you to reply right away!!!
Surprise him & don't text him back at all... He will text you more than once & by then you'll ignore him & tables are turned! Voala —?
Do you think he will think I am purposely ignoring him to get back at him though..?
Thanks I will try this.
Well, then yeah. Take some power back.
He obviously wanted power when he broke up with you, to put you in your place because omg you were arguing too much. That is his power. He feels he is losing it because he hurt you and you can damn well do what you want now.
Just keep in mind, if somebody can dump you for something like that, if you get back with them, it just makes the next break up for them easier, and this is a pattern that you do not want to live with. It will just deteriorate more and more, and while you are focusing on all this pain, you could be doing something like being happy.
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True. ...well. I guess I have some more thinking to do.
Posted by Aprilia
Hello! I am new here!
I agree with GuardianAnu. I't all a power game.
It's a proper carrot and donkey dynamic.
You want to open a conversation with him ( carrot) and he decides when he gives it to you or not.
In cases like this, (and for your own sanity) stop wanting the carrot ie stop trying to open/hold a conversation with him.
Welcome I am new here as well. The thing is I never open or initiate the convo it's always him. I meant in my head I would like to have a conversation with him but I don't try. I reply cool and casual and when he does reply I reply back and when he doesn't I don't press the issue or text again.
Posted by KrissyTheCappy36since he dumped you, he is checking to see if you're okay! And he's not over you yetPosted by Aprilia
Hello! I am new here!
I agree with GuardianAnu. I't all a power game.
It's a proper carrot and donkey dynamic.
You want to open a conversation with him ( carrot) and he decides when he gives it to you or not.
In cases like this, (and for your own sanity) stop wanting the carrot ie stop trying to open/hold a conversation with him.
Welcome I am new here as well. The thing is I never open or initiate the convo it's always him. I meant in my head I would like to have a conversation with him but I don't try. I reply cool and casual and when he does reply I reply back and when he doesn't I don't press the issue or text again.
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C'mon girl he dumped you...you dont need to reply everytime...Avoid him...if he cares so much, he shouldnt have dumped you in the first place
If you ignore him he'll be wondering what happened and will try harder...i dont think he'll ignore you back
Posted by KrissyTheCappy36Posted by Aprilia
Hello! I am new here!
I agree with GuardianAnu. I't all a power game.
It's a proper carrot and donkey dynamic.
You want to open a conversation with him ( carrot) and he decides when he gives it to you or not.
In cases like this, (and for your own sanity) stop wanting the carrot ie stop trying to open/hold a conversation with him.
Welcome I am new here as well. The thing is I never open or initiate the convo it's always him. I meant in my head I would like to have a conversation with him but I don't try. I reply cool and casual and when he does reply I reply back and when he doesn't I don't press the issue or text again.
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I believe you that you don't initiate anything.
He doesn't read you from the way you talk and what you say. He reads you by your reactions and your intentions. So while you think that you are safe because you reply cool and casual
he understands: she still answers back and I am the one in power. She also sees me so if I would want to sleep with her and get her back I can get her anytime. She is available.
And that's when his behaviour gets worse because he takes you for granted.
Posted by notsosureHe just keeps her as an option. He doesn't check up on her. She is an ex, she has no right to tell him if he can date or do anything with another woman... BUT she is on the side and interested in case he wants to get her back.
No point in wanting someone who playes games. You said he does so yourself. You can never have them anyways, they are busy playing, not busy caring about you and enjoying life.
And one text and then you answer doesn´t really qualify as a conversation. It is like your crab friend said just checking up on you. To make him feel better, when he knows you´re okay.
It's one of the more classic games in the book to make the girl constantly think of you.
The guy has game. He is not a good guy. Good guys don't play like that.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by Jardsi
He texts you to ask you what you're doing... then he drives by your house?
Creepy.
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Posted by bumboklattYea. Deep down I knows he's playing it's just annoying... And lol yes crab games is hilarious
yes hes playing
P.S. "Crab Games" is such a funny phrase hahahahah
Posted by notsosureWow the way you speak about him is like he is mr valuable and she is ms always making mistakes.Posted by ApriliaI think we agree more than you realize.Posted by notsosureHe just keeps her as an option. He doesn't check up on her. She is an ex, she has no right to tell him if he can date or do anything with another woman... BUT she is on the side and interested in case he wants to get her back.
No point in wanting someone who playes games. You said he does so yourself. You can never have them anyways, they are busy playing, not busy caring about you and enjoying life.
And one text and then you answer doesn´t really qualify as a conversation. It is like your crab friend said just checking up on you. To make him feel better, when he knows you´re okay.
It's one of the more classic games in the book to make the girl constantly think of you.
The guy has game. He is not a good guy. Good guys don't play like that.
He is checking up on her, he is no engaging in communication with her. It´s just one text. And by doing this he is very clearly showing her, that he is not interested in communicating with her. He is not replying! Clear as day!
But this is hard for the other party to accept. Once she does, she will feel much better though 🙂click to expand
He is a prick who is keeping her intentionally hoping about rekindling of the relationship. He doesn't engage in the conversation because if he does then he will not be focused on his disgusting purpose to lead her on for as much as it suits him. It's easier for him not to engage in a conversation and keep her at an arms length.
If he was engaging in a conversation he would be emotionally investing on her. He doesn't want to emotionally invest on her because if he does he won't be in control.
Everyone can be manipulative with someone if they don't have any feelings for. That's why he behaves the way he does. He is aware of this and it is a cold calculated ACT.
It's not like the next girl he is going to meet, he;s going to be more interested in her or more interested in communicating with her. He will only communicate as much as he NEEDS to get what he WANTS. Once he's there he will place her at the same value as he did with OP.
It's a textbook technique to keep women around for sex until he feels the time is right to settle down and then grab the first available girl who is around.
Immature Crabs like to play head games with people.
Mature Crabs don't do stupid shit like that.
Mature Crabs don't do stupid shit like that.
Posted by SensitiveBluesPosted by happyface1why would i say this? how do i have expectations of my ex? i have never contacted him in 8 months and if he was to contact me today, my expectations would be below Zero and freezing. I wouldn't be expecting sheet, not from a piece of sheet anyways, typical Virgo loserPosted by SensitiveBlues
Why do you have expectations from an ex?
Get your life
REALLY ? You say this...how ?
Go to bed girl
why de fuk do you make up stories in your head.
stop talking to me
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You're a funny lady lol 😉
Write this to him:
"Have a decent conversation with me or don't text me at all".
Either of the two things will come out of it:
1. He'll stop being a pest and offer a phone convo...if that is what he wants; or
2. He'll stop texting all together, which just basically means that he was playing games and now that you've put your foot down, he'll behave himself.
"Have a decent conversation with me or don't text me at all".
Either of the two things will come out of it:
1. He'll stop being a pest and offer a phone convo...if that is what he wants; or
2. He'll stop texting all together, which just basically means that he was playing games and now that you've put your foot down, he'll behave himself.
Posted by SensitiveBluesPosted by happyface1and you're annoying.Posted by SensitiveBluesPosted by happyface1why would i say this? how do i have expectations of my ex? i have never contacted him in 8 months and if he was to contact me today, my expectations would be below Zero and freezing. I wouldn't be expecting sheet, not from a piece of sheet anyways, typical Virgo loserPosted by SensitiveBlues
Why do you have expectations from an ex?
Get your life
REALLY ? You say this...how ?
Go to bed girl
why de fuk do you make up stories in your head.
stop talking to me
You're a funny lady lol 😉
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So...shit happens
Maybe he's driving to another woman's place who lives near you and as he's driving near your place it triggers him to think of you. Because if crabs get a response, we will reply. Or he could be stalking you.
I'm not sure why he's doing that bull. Either way, just quit responding. He'll feel stupid once you stop responding and go back into hiding. He'll prob try again after some time pass, still don't respond.
I'm not sure why he's doing that bull. Either way, just quit responding. He'll feel stupid once you stop responding and go back into hiding. He'll prob try again after some time pass, still don't respond.
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