Cancer girl push and pull away

Hi, I have posted already about this same girl. We broke up in May (together 6months and she left).....it was decided initially as we were going back to work in a different country. She will be free in September. Throughout these two months she was looking for me all the time and get jealous of any photos I put to instagram.

She has removed me from Facebook and re-added me and removed me again....I know she is still hurt about some things I did out of my control, in the sense that I did not mean to do and I have been going to therapy to work on myself.

In the last 2-3 weeks she went pretty silent but would text me back if I do. She said she is meeting someone found on Tinder and asked me if I am too...I am not interested as I am deeply in love with her and cannot imagine myself to sleep with anyone else yet.

What is confusing is, why she told me she is dating someone? Also not sure if it is true as she has lied before about seeing someone when we had broken up already.

Also this Sunday we spoke last and she brought up on her initiative things that I hurt her with and asked me to tell her why she would go back to me if I hurt her even if not intentionally. I answered it the best I could without having it biased as me and instead replied to the message as what I would recommend her as a friend.

The hardest thing here is that we are away from each other until September and I do not know what will happen with this person she has, if there is 😢

She got annoyed a bit that I am not jealous that she has someone (if it is true), but really my focus here is to get her back, not this new person which is just someone who did not capture her heart!

We ended the conversation on Sunday with her saying, that she is not just sleeping with someone and she cannot be dealing as well with our situation. Which I do not know what she meant there, as I did not start talking about us, she did. Is she confused? Over me? What do I do?

She is the first girl I really think I want her to be my last 😢

Sounds toxic 😒 Lies, jealousy, confusion, manipulation, un-forgiveness, lack of trust? Good luck fixing all that 😬

right, I know its a lot to fix or find ways if any to work it out. You told me what I know 😢

I want to understand though first if this person still has feelings for me, if it is why she is acting like this out of confusion?

and what if she is dating someone to fill in the void??

Well she never said I should move on and until 2 weeks ago she invited me to go meet her. Its confusing, I am just trying to understand if I should move on or wait.

I don’t want to lose her but then not lose myself more if she doesn’t want me.

The story is as explained in the first comment.

Or maybe it is a rebound to try forget me?

6months, but what are my odds before I decide on that? I don’t believe she is over me

Why do I even need to know she is dating someone? We are already broken up. That to me is mean if you know the other person still has feelings.

I am a leo (18th Aug). I do show feelings and I am clear with her that I know what wrong I did and that I went to therapy to work on some issues that might have hurt her. But really we never had a toxic relationship and even the breakup was not bad...she was texting me 5days later and getting crazy if I dont reply back until these last 2-3 weeks. I know too she is super busy in her job, with high season.

I really would like to know if she is making me jealous or not or if it is true she is dating someone. However I know that with her job especially in these next 2 months it will be super hard to have a life outside of this camp. So is it jealousy? pushing me away?

"You can fix it both of you if you learn how to deal with your emotions and if she can get over her heartbreak and forgive you." - I am ready to do that and I am ready to wait more if there is a chance. What is killing me right now is if it is the case?

She will be free again in September....and I might go close to her (3hrs away) in August, but not sure if I should tell I am ther and ask her to meet? She might tell me no

Posted by Generous_Libra

It seems to me like she still has feelings for you but she's also deeply hurt, she's trying to make you jealous and get you to react or trying to hurt you as well, you seem like someone who does not show any feelings is that true? It also seems to me like you need to work on yourself as well. What are your placements?

You can fix it both of you if you learn how to deal with your emotions and if she can get over her heartbreak and forgive you.

To add to my last message, the only thing I am not doing is not showing any jealousy. I do not want to go down that road, and my aim is to have her back in my arms and show her that I am a better person to her and we can start from scratch cause we had something good.

I already told her that I still want her but I am not pushing more than that. She did point out that she doesn't want to have all of our issues on her head. But will remind you that she brought it up not me.

I am ready to communicate here and I learned from our mistakes.

Just one last question: Now that I made it clear to her in our last conversation that I want to earn back her trust and work it out. Should I just not text at all until she does? Lately I was keeping it to once a week of chat.

This was the conversation I had with her on Sunday which she brought up. I guess time will tell but for sure I will not be chasing her. Just wanted to understand if her acts are because she still feels something for me. We cannot meet with her job until September anyway...