Cancer girls like playing mind games?

I met this girl at work. For some reason I'm really attracted to her. She always looks happy, and non stop smiling, and she made everyone around happy too..
She's born on June 26. She is really friendly. She always initiate and talked to me. I mean she does it with everyone. So there is this one time, she started to talk with me, and I felt this chemistry just sparked btw us. I can felt it by staring into her eyes. I got her number.. We text.. I even ask her if it was just me who felt that chemistry or she did too, she said she did and tell me exactly what was I thinking on that day, like she totally knew what was in my mind.
I started to ask her out.. A couple of times, our date went smooth and great.. And we text like usual.. But since the last few days, she's been ignoring my text. Yesterday, we met again at work, she talked to me and apologize she said she's been busy, can't reply my text, and said she will reply right after she off from work, but after she off she never reply me, so I just assume maybe she's busy again, after awhile.. We met again, she showed up at workplace to get some stuff.. And I asked if she will reply my msg, she said yes she definitely will once she reached home, but I didn't get a single reply from her since that night. And today She finally replied me, I asked her if I passed the "being patient" test she gave me, she laugh and said yes. Then we started texting again, but after a few text, she started ignoring me again.. Even after I send additional reply to ask if she wanna hang out tomorrow but she never replied me. I don't know what I'm suppose to do.. But we will see each other again tomorrow at work. What should I do? Did I do something offended her or said something hurt her that's why she's ignoring me? Or she's not that actually that interested with me at all?
Cancer girls, I need your advice and opinion!
Thanks in advance!

My advice to you is, if she keeps ignoring you, stop texting her. She knows you like her. If keeps making the same excuse & not trying to make time to contact you, then I would move on. Or if she hasn't replied in 3days like before, then forget her. I don't care how busy someone is, if they like you, you won't have to worry about begging them to talk to you. Trust me I know how it feels. Its happened to me. If she does text you, try calling her instead. See if she can actually hold a real phone conversation. Fuq that texting crap. But only Call if she responds back to your original text she keeps missing. Don't beg her or anyone to contact you, if they aren't freely doing it themselves ok. Hope she acts right bro

Don't spend anymore money on dates for someone who can't find time to contact you back. It don't seem fair & its not good. I wouldn't blame it on the actual Cancer sign either. Because this lady could be just playing games. Not all Cancers do that to people. So don't force this situation. If she wont put firyh no effort with her actions, you shouldn't do anything either anymore. Show that you got respect for yourself 🙂

Please don't date coworkers, especially ones who are so iffy.
since you don't understand this woman, you don't know what she is capable of. She could be a demon and I don't want you losing your job for falling for a bitch. OK?
Next, she might be a sweet cancer. Assuming she is, we are Moody bunch and like our alone time. It sounds absurd but she may be so deep into her shell the thought of putting energy into a text to a guy could be just too much. I'm guilty of doing this to some girlfriends when I was younger. I grew out of it because I realized how offensive it was to them and damaging to our friendship. If she hasn't grown out of that, its a back sign.
All things considered I think you should drop the whole thing.

Lots of us cancers are intoxicating. avoid the eyes! avoid the gaze! don't be deceived by whatever emotion she triggered in you. People who don't even like me come running to me for comfort!

I'm not a Cancer girl, but I had a situation like this recently. Don't keep reaching out to her. She already knows how you feel, and she can choose to reach out or not if she's interested. The ball is in her court. If she isn't interested and she's immature chances are she won't tell you (it's almost as if Cancers are "too nice" or think they're being nice). Do Cancers like to play games? The IMMATURE ones do and then they play the victim. So if she is playing games, she's not worth your time anyways.

But she could at least say something. I wouldn't put up with no one who can't make time to call at least once. If a person is interested, their actions will reflect that. I've had women do me like this, & its not a good feeling. Turns out they weren't interested. Some are to cowardly to be Honest with you. That's why I learned quick to not always go by what someone tells you. Make sure their actions reciprocate what they are saying. Man don't worry about her. Focus on your job , & not date people from it. Do however, be friendly to keep things professional but no more than that. You'll find someone better because it's not like she's the only woman in the world!

I'm so glad I'm not dating a cancer chick. 😛

After re reading your post, I would have confronted her about it & see if she changes her behavior. Her actions should tell you a lot about her being interested or not. Judging by what I see above, she's not too interested or is playing games. If she don't do what she say she will, then really you can't trust someone like that. See if she changes, if not move on & leave the women on your job alone. Its more important than losing it over someone you barely know. You'll find someone better bro. So don't worry

She replied me early in the morning.. She apologized and explained what happen, she said she went out with her friend for movie, and then went out with sister after that, very busy can't reply my msg. And said she can't go out with lunch with me today, because she got errands to run. I'm stuck in the middle of reply her or not? Haha.
By the way thanks for all the replies and opinion.

Well, I did replied her, but really short, cold, and straight forward. She will talk to me if she sees me at work.

She's full of it. She wasn't busy. Or she's just not that into you.

hmmm, well i think you should just keep things friendly for now. Just watch her actions & see if this behavior happens again. You shouldn't had to confront her in the first place. Just focus on your job & meeting other people. I wouldn't want you to end up hurt. Be careful ok. You seem like a nice person. Try calling, that way you can tell by her voice tone if she's hiding something.

i agree with Kim30, even if she was busy, if she was really into you, she would try to reschedule for another time to hang out. I wouldn't keep asking her to hang out or contacting you if she wont do it freely without you always reminding her. That isn't kool at all

Yeah or at least texted a response to let him know she was tied up but not ignoring him.

Yep Kim, you are right. I was just gonna say this. I think she's worth his time

I meant I don't think she's worth his time. D*mn touch screen phones lol.

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
I meant I don't think she's worth his time. D*mn touch screen phones lol.

lol happens to me all the time!

First of all thanks for all the replies and great advice + opinions.

So today.. Hmm I tried to avoid her at work. But I can't seems to get away from her.. She will just appear in front of me. And try not to be so obvious to avoid her, So we talked again at work. I didn't ask anything about why she ignore my text, but she did brought it up, and explain what happen, and she was really busy and all that. We started talking, and everything went great again. We went to shop for her Mother's Day gift together. She promised me again she's going to text me back once she got home.. And there u go again, I assume she forgot again, or just like she said she's bad at texting. Lol

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
You'll find someone better bro. So don't worry

there's a lot of girls out there I have met, but this one.. She just gave me this special feelings, that I want her to be my girl, I want to date her properly. I want a serious relationship with her..that feeling, u know what I mean? Is so hard to explain in words lol.Maybe I never had much cancer friend in my circle, and never met one I really attract to but her.. None of my ex are water sign.

there's a lot of girls out there I have met, but this one.. She just gave me this special feelings, that I want her to be my girl, I want to date her properly. I want a serious relationship with her..that feeling, u know what I mean? Is so hard to explain in words lol.Maybe I never had much cancer friend in my circle, and never met one I really attract to but her.. None of my ex are water sign.

As you wrote, it's the feeling you felt..You can't think that she also has same feeling..
Just keep things slow..You're already working together..Let her initiate coversation and don't ask her to go out..
If you keep going this way, I'm really sorry to say you can lose her..When she comes to you, you can show your smiling face but you should stop thinking about why she dosen't text back etc..
I really understand you but I also know that it's one of the way to lose someone..

Is there any other cancer girl who will back me up on this?
lots of men claim to have that feeling from us. Its an accident. Out of our control. We are a dreamy group of people!
No one forgets to text that often. Nobody is too busy to text! Hell, victims of kidnapping are busy and even they send text from the trunk of a car!

Posted by Funny


As you wrote, it's the feeling you felt..You can't think that she also has same feeling..
Just keep things slow..You're already working together..Let her initiate coversation and don't ask her to go out..
If you keep going this way, I'm really sorry to say you can lose her..When she comes to you, you can show your smiling face but you should stop thinking about why she dosen't text back etc..
I really understand you but I also know that it's one of the way to lose someone..

I asked her if it was just me that the one that feel this strange chemistry sparked btw us, she said no, and she did feel the same way.. She had that feeling too. Unless what she said is not true..

Posted by kim30
Is there any other cancer girl who will back me up on this?
lots of men claim to have that feeling from us. Its an accident. Out of our control. We are a dreamy group of people!
No one forgets to text that often. Nobody is too busy to text! Hell, victims of kidnapping are busy and even they send text from the trunk of a car!

Thanks for the advice,
Yea, I'm going to just chill.. Ain't going to text her anymore. Or she can text me if she wants to..

@fssbzz man just forget her azz. She just playing with you & she knows you like her. Find you someone who will make time for you. Not all good women behave like her. Your next gf may not be a Cancer Woman, but im sure she'll appreciate all your good qualities. This girl, not woman, isn't worth your time. You can be nice to her just to keep the peace at work, but Don't pursue her no longer. Find someone will do just as much as you would do. You'll find less stress in your life without her thats for sure.

Hopefully she cleans up her act & realize she got a man in her presence. If not, its her loss. Don't waste your time on someone who won't make time for you with all those lane excuses. She could at least tell you why she's busy. So don't worry about her man.

She apologized and explained what happen

Did someone set up us the bomb?

So.. We met again today.. I treat her kinda cold.. Doesn't talk much to her.. Usually she put out her hand for me to hold it when when we talk, but today I just.. Clap her hand real quick do nothing else. She looks kinda shock.. And I just keep quiet and told her I got to go. She said she's going to text me later. I just roll my eyes, shake my head and smile.. I guess she's kinda hurt I don't trust her anymore.. She looks really shock she said whatever then I just said I talk to u next time then I just leave. Feel like a bad ass now.. But feel like an asshole at the same time lol

No you feel like a man who got respect for himself! She knows she can't fuq with your feelings now. I say keep things casual, & don't go any further with her. She wanna play the games, now the game is over. You'll find someone who will treat you like a good woman suppose to treat a good man.Always have respect for yourself & what you won't put up with. Still be you as always. Your jib is more important than some random mean girl

so after that night, she really did started to text me. Everything went pretty great.
After getting know more about her, Her life seems really busy. She's a full time student, a single mom, work full time, and 3 younger siblings to baby sit. And yesterday she texted me after she off from work, apologize for late reply like usual..and in the text she said

.............I suck at getting back to people I get told that all the time even by friends I open their texts and think I replied but realize hours or even days later that I didn't. No guy really do want a woman that doesn't reply back it is busy busy an has no time for them or to even hang out. I hope you are good with sticking with friends for awhile. You are amazing, a great personality, and handsome, but as you have noticed I just don't have time for anything serious and steady going on in my life right now I'm always doing this or soon that and never have a day to myself even when I'm off I'm still babysitting

when she said 'I hope you are good with sticking with friends for awhile' did i just got friendzone?
should i give up? idk, all i know that is i really likes her..
She is really a wonderful person, I always saw that light in her eyes when i talked to her. I don't know why am i so attracted to her, maybe because i'm a scorpio? auto attracted to cancer girl. I never had this feeling before, usually first thing that come in my mind when i saw hot chicks will be like "dayumm, i want to bang her like no tomorrow" but this one, she never gave me that feeling at all, all i wanted to do date her properly and seriously, hoping for long lasting relationship.

Posted by fssbzz
She replied me early in the morning.. She apologized and explained what happen, she said she went out with her friend for movie, and then went out with sister after that, very busy can't reply my msg. And said she can't go out with lunch with me today, because she got errands to run. I'm stuck in the middle of reply her or not? Haha.
By the way thanks for all the replies and opinion.

of course after the date she'd realize that you're not her type, , is that her fault? but instead of saying it to you directly, she decided to continue texting because she value friendship and for you not to get hurt!

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Posted by MoonArtist
I'm so glad I'm not dating a cancer chick. 😛

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lol !

Hey everyone i just joined this website to tell you my story, Im a Taurus man and meet a girl from tinder recently we hit it off extremly well shes a Cancer and if im honest none of you lot are alone, shes gone from full on to now distant, Emotions are all over the place, so my honest opinion is if any girl not just Cancers make you feel like your wasting your time and your not getting what you want out of it, then just go and find someone eles its that simple... millions of people out there find someone worth your time 🙂

I know this is a very late response but I have to anwser your question. I have experienced several situations similar to this one involving Cancerian. The cancer female especially if young, 20's and even 30's, if they find a guy they really like or are at least very interested in.........will do everything in their power to charm the pants off of and put on their A game in the seduction/flirting arena...............they will then a day or two later once they know you are hooked start the ignoring phase. This is to test the potential mate and see what kinda man he really is. If you like her, show your interest, but don't rely on what she says..........learn how to read her body language and eyes and expressions.

I spent a year subtly chasing a cancer girl and she rejected me 4 or 5 times because she had a boyfriend, but as soon as that ended she played the cutest, sexiest little games with me......and I could tell she liked me a lot by her shyness around me and her eyes would dilate past her iris.......and would literally stumble and figit and it was the most adorable thing I had ever seen................fast forward a few years and that young cancerian lady is now my wife. We drive eachother mad at times but in the best possible way. The cancer girl is the perfect wife material, loyal, quiet until comfortable, and literally has a psychic intuition superpower.

Easy to attract, hard to catch, will fight you till the day you die...........but the most rewarding of any type I have heard of.

Posted by Matt46

I know this is a very late response but I have to anwser your question. I have experienced several situations similar to this one involving Cancerian. The cancer female especially if young, 20's and even 30's, if they find a guy they really like or are at least very interested in.........will do everything in their power to charm the pants off of and put on their A game in the seduction/flirting arena...............they will then a day or two later once they know you are hooked start the ignoring phase. This is to test the potential mate and see what kinda man he really is. If you like her, show your interest, but don't rely on what she says..........learn how to read her body language and eyes and expressions.

I spent a year subtly chasing a cancer girl and she rejected me 4 or 5 times because she had a boyfriend, but as soon as that ended she played the cutest, sexiest little games with me......and I could tell she liked me a lot by her shyness around me and her eyes would dilate past her iris.......and would literally stumble and figit and it was the most adorable thing I had ever seen................fast forward a few years and that young cancerian lady is now my wife. We drive eachother mad at times but in the best possible way. The cancer girl is the perfect wife material, loyal, quiet until comfortable, and literally has a psychic intuition superpower.

Easy to attract, hard to catch, will fight you till the day you die...........but the most rewarding of any type I have heard of.

Awww that's cute or whateva.. lol

Posted by Matt46

I know this is a very late response but I have to anwser your question. I have experienced several situations similar to this one involving Cancerian. The cancer female especially if young, 20's and even 30's, if they find a guy they really like or are at least very interested in.........will do everything in their power to charm the pants off of and put on their A game in the seduction/flirting arena...............they will then a day or two later once they know you are hooked start the ignoring phase. This is to test the potential mate and see what kinda man he really is. If you like her, show your interest, but don't rely on what she says..........learn how to read her body language and eyes and expressions.

I spent a year subtly chasing a cancer girl and she rejected me 4 or 5 times because she had a boyfriend, but as soon as that ended she played the cutest, sexiest little games with me......and I could tell she liked me a lot by her shyness around me and her eyes would dilate past her iris.......and would literally stumble and figit and it was the most adorable thing I had ever seen................fast forward a few years and that young cancerian lady is now my wife. We drive eachother mad at times but in the best possible way. The cancer girl is the perfect wife material, loyal, quiet until comfortable, and literally has a psychic intuition superpower.

Easy to attract, hard to catch, will fight you till the day you die...........but the most rewarding of any type I have heard of.

So true. I joined here because of a Cancer girl situation similar to yours. Glad to hear you were able to make it work out between you two. I'm still secretly crossing my fingers all the time for myself.