Cancer man advice

Okay so, I have this Cancer guy who’s come back into my life.

Here’s some context - we went to high school together and liked each other but never dated. We ended up going to different colleges but each year when we came home at least once we reconnected and would go out for drinks or lunch or something but it never went any further.

Fast forward to about a year ago, we met up and would go out to lunch, dinner and spend quite a bit of time together but he had just lost his mom about a year prior and I had lost mine a few years prior so of course we bonded more over that. Well while we were spending time together last year he was also getting over an ex and I was as well but we never dated or had sex. The chemistry between us was just always a mystery. So one day we went out together and ended up getting so drunk that we went back to his house and had sex. I remember it but he doesn’t and after that we had sex a few times after but he would say I’m not ready for a relationship so I started to distance myself but he would always reach out to spend time together. He even met me out while I was having dinner at a restaurant by myself. He came and paid for my tab and we left and he said he just wanted to see me.

Well I ended up dating someone else because like he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I was still casually dating. I mentioned it to him and it hurt his feelings so much he tried cutting me off.

We stopped talking for like a week and ended up talking again. This time he seemed a bit cold and would say “let’s just have casual sex” I was okay with it because at that point I was still dating other people just not having sex with them. Well then he said he felt like I was just using him for sex and started to be ugly to me so we completely stopped talking.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, he reached out via text one night randomly and said “I’m sorry”

I asked him for what and he said he was reflecting on everything and felt bad about how he treated me he just didn’t know how to say it. He then proceeds to say he really cares about me just at the time he was having a hard time expressing his emotions and wanted me to forgive him for it. He asked to see me so we set up a time when he came to my house and he brought me flowers and some fruit and asked for my forgiveness. What I thought was weird was, he asked me about my goals and I told him. I then asked what his goals were and he started including me in on his plans saying things like, “I want to get this car” I said where would your kids fit? He said “well you’ll have the mom car they’ll be in your car” and like little things like that the entire night. I brushed it off because I figured maybe he was just trying to test to see what I would say.

So Mother’s Day came and he asked to see me and checked up on me. I was out with my friend and her mom so we didn’t end up seeing each other. But we would still text here and there.

Memorial Day then came around and he sent me a “wya” text. I completely ignored it because I felt like he should have greeted me better lol. Last week I texted him because I remembered his moms birthday was around that time and we talked. He started sliding in like “I love you” and “well I guess since I love you and all” and I just never know how to respond to it. So he then asked to see me again. This time he reached out on Sunday and said he’d like to get dinner with me so he came to my house to pick me up. We went to have dinner and came back to my house. We ended up having sex and he left right after lmaoooo. I was slightly confused because he was giving me compliments the entire night, very touchy-feely, asking me to decide on a trip and that he wanted us to go on one. He also kept mentioning (because he knows I love concerts) he’d say “if you ever need someone to go to a concert with you I’m available” but all of a sudden after sex he’s like “I gotta head home” hahahaha. I thought it was hilarious because he kissed me before he left and when he got home he texted me “I made it” and my response was “okay” and he said “can you at least be a little more enthusiastic than that?” 🤣 Monday morning he texted me Goodmorning and we texted all day. Yesterday we also texted all day but I’m like confused🤣 so this morning I responded to his text and just told him to have a good day and he called me a pet name.

Like what’s actually going on here??🤣

Imma Scorpio so I can be a little hot and cold but this cancer man has me cracking up because I can’t figure out what he wants me to do. I like him and we have history but like idk what he’s looking for from me. I feel like if I show too much that I like him he may pull away and if I detach he’ll get upset like the last time.

Someone help please🤣

This dude doesn’t even know what he wants himself

The biggest takeaways here for me are at 2 separate points. 1) He told you he wasn’t ready for a relationship and then at another point, 2) suggested casual sex. While this man isn’t saying or doing a whole lot, he doesn’t have to because these two things speak volumes to me

There might be a small chance that I’m wrong, but I think this guy is a huge waste of your time, personally. He likes the accessible sex and maybe he does care about you on some level, but he absolutely would have already locked it down if he truly wanted to 🤷🏼‍♀️ if he never wanted to be in a relationship all these years, do you think he will want to now suddenly? I doubt it

That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

And see I’m good with just the sex but I just don’t want the extras lol. He’s so emotional and we still have a friendship to where I don’t want to necessarily hurt his feelings again by telling him it’s just sex so I’m stuff between telling him and just going with the flow💀

Cancer men have this whole emotional story going on with themselves like they're in some sort of tragic rom com constantly and they're the protagonist and everyone else gets to be npc's.

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Cancer men have this whole emotional story going on with themselves like they're in some sort of tragic rom com constantly and they're the protagonist and everyone else gets to be npc's.

I’m definitely figuring that out lol

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That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

Friends with benefits! He gets to have access to sex with you and all the emotional support and connection, but he’s off the hook when it comes to relationship duties/expectations. Like @poppyflower said, he’s enjoying having his cake and eating it too.

Men do this all the time until they meet the one they know they want to lock down and be serious about. And know that when he finds that person, he won’t be wishy washy. He will suddenly turn into the man you’ve wanted all along, but unfortunately it will be for and with someone else.

I would rip the bandaid off. Ask him upfront what his intentions are and if he wants a relationship with you now. Then you will have your answer confirmed and can stop wasting time doing this dance with this inconsistent man

He likes sex with an emotional attachment. Your emotional attachment. He Will emotionally manipulate you right into a 10 year situationship.

You seem level headed and he’s crab walking.

He enjoys all the perks and even courting but something has him stalling out.

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He likes you but not enough to wife you.


There's something that you're doing that's throwing him off.

I think you’re absolutely right. When things come up and I mention it, he’ll say “you don’t like that about me” For example, the first time we had sex at his house his bedsheets smelled so bad I was completely turned off. I never said anything because when I tell him about something I don’t like he feels like I don’t like him in general and it used to really hurt his feelings to where he started to say I nag him lmao. I finally ended up telling him and he took it very well but in the back of his mind he probably feels like I don’t accept him and maybe that’s what holds him back?

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When cancer man wants you for a relationship they're unendingly annoying about it.


They're also total emotional messes most of the time, all the bad press scorpios get belongs there too but in a way more whiney but what about me way.


If you're enjoying the sex and aren't catching feelings feel free to continue. But dudes a waste of time if you want more.

Thanks for the input! I wasn’t sure how they were if they actually wanted a relationship.

The sex is cool with me, I think what drains me is the process we go through when he feels like his feelings get hurt. He is very emotional for sure!

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When cancer man wants you for a relationship they're unendingly annoying about it.

They're also total emotional messes most of the time, all the bad press scorpios get belongs there too but in a way more whiney but what about me way.

If you're enjoying the sex and aren't catching feelings feel free to continue. But dudes a waste of time if you want more.

Thanks for the input! I wasn’t sure how they were if they actually wanted a relationship.

The sex is cool with me, I think what drains me is the process we go through when he feels like his feelings get hurt. He is very emotional for sure!

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Maybe he's stuck between the modern casual sex delusion and the need for intamcy delusion. Or he might just want casual sex but since you're a Scorpio you fuck with his insides and he can't keep it casual.

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He likes sex with an emotional attachment. Your emotional attachment. He Will emotionally manipulate you right into a 10 year situationship.


You seem level headed and he’s crab walking.


He enjoys all the perks and even courting but something has him stalling out.

Lol not a 10 year situationship😂

It definitely makes sense though!

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When cancer man wants you for a relationship they're unendingly annoying about it.

They're also total emotional messes most of the time, all the bad press scorpios get belongs there too but in a way more whiney but what about me way.

If you're enjoying the sex and aren't catching feelings feel free to continue. But dudes a waste of time if you want more.

Thanks for the input! I wasn’t sure how they were if they actually wanted a relationship.

The sex is cool with me, I think what drains me is the process we go through when he feels like his feelings get hurt. He is very emotional for sure!
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Maybe he's stuck between the modern casual sex delusion and the need for intamcy delusion. Or he might just want casual sex but since you're a Scorpio you fuck with his insides and he can't keep it casual.

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See and like on top of it we’re still friends so I would hate for us to fall out again but I can’t tell what I should do lol. Since we’ve reconnected the only thing he’s said is that he feels like he’s ready to express his emotions to me but he hasn’t said he wants just casual sex or a relationship and if it’s just casual sex I’d rather us not go out on dates and talk all the time it makes things so weird😂 And if he wants a relationship I’m still a little emotionally attached to a guy I dated right before this reconnection but also don’t want to hurt his feelings and don’t mind going with the flow. It’s all ridiculous😂

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Posted by TXCowboy
He likes you but not enough to wife you.

There's something that you're doing that's throwing him off.

I think you’re absolutely right. When things come up and I mention it, he’ll say “you don’t like that about me” For example, the first time we had sex at his house his bedsheets smelled so bad I was completely turned off. I never said anything because when I tell him about something I don’t like he feels like I don’t like him in general and it used to really hurt his feelings to where he started to say I nag him lmao. I finally ended up telling him and he took it very well but in the back of his mind he probably feels like I don’t accept him and maybe that’s what holds him back?
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I'm long term with one. I have family and friends that are cancer. That is a big cancer trait. I still can't figure out how to mention things sometimes without that happening. I don't think it's possible. Literally most dramatic omg you must hate me sign, for the most minor things.

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YES!!! He says ”do you hate me?” Or “if you actually hate me just say that” all the time, and at first I thought it was just a joke so I’d laugh it off but he says it so often now I think in his little mind he must think some truth to it lmao. Like I have to just love any and everything about him to like him, it’s partially draining lol

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When cancer man wants you for a relationship they're unendingly annoying about it.

They're also total emotional messes most of the time, all the bad press scorpios get belongs there too but in a way more whiney but what about me way.

If you're enjoying the sex and aren't catching feelings feel free to continue. But dudes a waste of time if you want more.

Thanks for the input! I wasn’t sure how they were if they actually wanted a relationship.

The sex is cool with me, I think what drains me is the process we go through when he feels like his feelings get hurt. He is very emotional for sure!
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From my experience, like glue.


Get used to it lol.


Honestly I'd say the easiest way to explain cancer is the younger version of scorpio without the revenge seeking. Very self centric, as in, everything is filtered through how it effects them. Very sensitive and in the feels. They are loving don't get me wrong. They're just very...emotional.

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Ahhh makes sense. So walk on eggshells basically😂

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Posted by TXCowboy
He likes you but not enough to wife you.

There's something that you're doing that's throwing him off.

I think you’re absolutely right. When things come up and I mention it, he’ll say “you don’t like that about me” For example, the first time we had sex at his house his bedsheets smelled so bad I was completely turned off. I never said anything because when I tell him about something I don’t like he feels like I don’t like him in general and it used to really hurt his feelings to where he started to say I nag him lmao. I finally ended up telling him and he took it very well but in the back of his mind he probably feels like I don’t accept him and maybe that’s what holds him back?
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I'm long term with one. I have family and friends that are cancer. That is a big cancer trait. I still can't figure out how to mention things sometimes without that happening. I don't think it's possible. Literally most dramatic omg you must hate me sign, for the most minor things.
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YES!!! He says ”do you hate me?” Or “if you actually hate me just say that” all the time, and at first I thought it was just a joke so I’d laugh it off but he says it so often now I think in his little mind he must think some truth to it lmao. Like I have to just love any and everything about him to like him, it’s partially draining lol
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Oh no, they 100% believe it. And the ones I've known the longest, it never stops either. 20 years later, you must hate them or be angry at them. I thought it would eventually stop but no. Plus they all seem to care what people think of them. Like alllllll the people. Idk. It is draining.

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Ughhhh well that’s annoying

What's going on...?

That you are emotionally unavailable to him. He is far more involved, but senses that this is not going anywhere.

How much patience should he have? Think about it and be honest with him and yourself. Take the sex out of the equation atm, it's just confusing you.

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What's going on...?


That you are emotionally unavailable to him. He is far more involved, but senses that this is not going anywhere.


How much patience should he have? Think about it and be honest with him and yourself. Take the sex out of the equation atm, it's just confusing you.

Good point lol. If that’s the case though wouldn’t he stop trying to spend time with me or communicate with me if he felt like he was more involved and sensed me being emotionally unavailable? We haven’t had the define the relationship talk as I figured this time around would be better to just go with the flow rather than saying anything because the last time I did that it really hurt his feelings. I guess for me I’m just trying to decide what would be going through his mind. The way that I do things would be very different in a sense of if I just wanted sex with someone I wouldn’t want to be communicating with them all the time, going on dates and wanting to see them other than in the bedroom. The mixing of the two is what is catching me off guard to seek some insight.

I’m okay with just the sex as I’m still trying to sort out my own emotional baggage but I also wouldn’t mind actually deciding to date each other and figure it out because we do have a lot of years of history and he is above all still my friend.

I just feel like Cancer men can hold so much in on how they really feel it’s hard to determine what to do or how to move when they’re so emotional.

When someone is interested, they don't give you mixed signals. They communicate and their schedule is open. Things just flow..

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Okay so, I have this Cancer guy who’s come back into my life.

Here’s some context - we went to high school together and liked each other but never dated. We ended up going to different colleges but each year when we came home at least once we reconnected and would go out for drinks or lunch or something but it never went any further.


Fast forward to about a year ago, we met up and would go out to lunch, dinner and spend quite a bit of time together but he had just lost his mom about a year prior and I had lost mine a few years prior so of course we bonded more over that. Well while we were spending time together last year he was also getting over an ex and I was as well but we never dated or had sex. The chemistry between us was just always a mystery. So one day we went out together and ended up getting so drunk that we went back to his house and had sex. I remember it but he doesn’t and after that we had sex a few times after but he would say I’m not ready for a relationship so I started to distance myself but he would always reach out to spend time together. He even met me out while I was having dinner at a restaurant by myself. He came and paid for my tab and we left and he said he just wanted to see me.

Well I ended up dating someone else because like he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I was still casually dating. I mentioned it to him and it hurt his feelings so much he tried cutting me off.

We stopped talking for like a week and ended up talking again. This time he seemed a bit cold and would say “let’s just have casual sex” I was okay with it because at that point I was still dating other people just not having sex with them. Well then he said he felt like I was just using him for sex and started to be ugly to me so we completely stopped talking.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, he reached out via text one night randomly and said “I’m sorry”

I asked him for what and he said he was reflecting on everything and felt bad about how he treated me he just didn’t know how to say it. He then proceeds to say he really cares about me just at the time he was having a hard time expressing his emotions and wanted me to forgive him for it. He asked to see me so we set up a time when he came to my house and he brought me flowers and some fruit and asked for my forgiveness. What I thought was weird was, he asked me about my goals and I told him. I then asked what his goals were and he started including me in on his plans saying things like, “I want to get this car” I said where would your kids fit? He said “well you’ll have the mom car they’ll be in your car” and like little things like that the entire night. I brushed it off because I figured maybe he was just trying to test to see what I would say.

So Mother’s Day came and he asked to see me and checked up on me. I was out with my friend and her mom so we didn’t end up seeing each other. But we would still text here and there.

Memorial Day then came around and he sent me a “wya” text. I completely ignored it because I felt like he should have greeted me better lol. Last week I texted him because I remembered his moms birthday was around that time and we talked. He started sliding in like “I love you” and “well I guess since I love you and all” and I just never know how to respond to it. So he then asked to see me again. This time he reached out on Sunday and said he’d like to get dinner with me so he came to my house to pick me up. We went to have dinner and came back to my house. We ended up having sex and he left right after lmaoooo. I was slightly confused because he was giving me compliments the entire night, very touchy-feely, asking me to decide on a trip and that he wanted us to go on one. He also kept mentioning (because he knows I love concerts) he’d say “if you ever need someone to go to a concert with you I’m available” but all of a sudden after sex he’s like “I gotta head home” hahahaha. I thought it was hilarious because he kissed me before he left and when he got home he texted me “I made it” and my response was “okay” and he said “can you at least be a little more enthusiastic than that?” 🤣 Monday morning he texted me Goodmorning and we texted all day. Yesterday we also texted all day but I’m like confused🤣 so this morning I responded to his text and just told him to have a good day and he called me a pet name.


Like what’s actually going on here??🤣

Imma Scorpio so I can be a little hot and cold but this cancer man has me cracking up because I can’t figure out what he wants me to do. I like him and we have history but like idk what he’s looking for from me. I feel like if I show too much that I like him he may pull away and if I detach he’ll get upset like the last time.


Someone help please🤣

For some people they go slow despite feeling it themselves. Ask him what dating, being boyfriend and girlfriend means to him.

For some people boyfriend means something serious and a form of long term commitment. I suspect thier was a miscommunication here that snowballed.

It's immature emotional stuff and lack of honesty communication.

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Okay so, I have this Cancer guy who’s come back into my life.

Here’s some context - we went to high school together and liked each other but never dated. We ended up going to different colleges but each year when we came home at least once we reconnected and would go out for drinks or lunch or something but it never went any further.

Fast forward to about a year ago, we met up and would go out to lunch, dinner and spend quite a bit of time together but he had just lost his mom about a year prior and I had lost mine a few years prior so of course we bonded more over that. Well while we were spending time together last year he was also getting over an ex and I was as well but we never dated or had sex. The chemistry between us was just always a mystery. So one day we went out together and ended up getting so drunk that we went back to his house and had sex. I remember it but he doesn’t and after that we had sex a few times after but he would say I’m not ready for a relationship so I started to distance myself but he would always reach out to spend time together. He even met me out while I was having dinner at a restaurant by myself. He came and paid for my tab and we left and he said he just wanted to see me.

Well I ended up dating someone else because like he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I was still casually dating. I mentioned it to him and it hurt his feelings so much he tried cutting me off.

We stopped talking for like a week and ended up talking again. This time he seemed a bit cold and would say “let’s just have casual sex” I was okay with it because at that point I was still dating other people just not having sex with them. Well then he said he felt like I was just using him for sex and started to be ugly to me so we completely stopped talking.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, he reached out via text one night randomly and said “I’m sorry”

I asked him for what and he said he was reflecting on everything and felt bad about how he treated me he just didn’t know how to say it. He then proceeds to say he really cares about me just at the time he was having a hard time expressing his emotions and wanted me to forgive him for it. He asked to see me so we set up a time when he came to my house and he brought me flowers and some fruit and asked for my forgiveness. What I thought was weird was, he asked me about my goals and I told him. I then asked what his goals were and he started including me in on his plans saying things like, “I want to get this car” I said where would your kids fit? He said “well you’ll have the mom car they’ll be in your car” and like little things like that the entire night. I brushed it off because I figured maybe he was just trying to test to see what I would say.

So Mother’s Day came and he asked to see me and checked up on me. I was out with my friend and her mom so we didn’t end up seeing each other. But we would still text here and there.

Memorial Day then came around and he sent me a “wya” text. I completely ignored it because I felt like he should have greeted me better lol. Last week I texted him because I remembered his moms birthday was around that time and we talked. He started sliding in like “I love you” and “well I guess since I love you and all” and I just never know how to respond to it. So he then asked to see me again. This time he reached out on Sunday and said he’d like to get dinner with me so he came to my house to pick me up. We went to have dinner and came back to my house. We ended up having sex and he left right after lmaoooo. I was slightly confused because he was giving me compliments the entire night, very touchy-feely, asking me to decide on a trip and that he wanted us to go on one. He also kept mentioning (because he knows I love concerts) he’d say “if you ever need someone to go to a concert with you I’m available” but all of a sudden after sex he’s like “I gotta head home” hahahaha. I thought it was hilarious because he kissed me before he left and when he got home he texted me “I made it” and my response was “okay” and he said “can you at least be a little more enthusiastic than that?” 🤣 Monday morning he texted me Goodmorning and we texted all day. Yesterday we also texted all day but I’m like confused🤣 so this morning I responded to his text and just told him to have a good day and he called me a pet name.

Like what’s actually going on here??🤣

Imma Scorpio so I can be a little hot and cold but this cancer man has me cracking up because I can’t figure out what he wants me to do. I like him and we have history but like idk what he’s looking for from me. I feel like if I show too much that I like him he may pull away and if I detach he’ll get upset like the last time.

Someone help please🤣

For some people they go slow despite feeling it themselves. Ask him what dating, being boyfriend and girlfriend means to him.


For some people boyfriend means something serious and a form of long term commitment. I suspect thier was a miscommunication here that snowballed.

It's immature emotional stuff and lack of honesty communication.

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I agree. I’ve asked before but I felt like he either wasn’t completely honest about how he felt or felt like I wouldn’t feel the same so I’m not sure if asking would solve it.

When I would be okay with just casual sex and would dodge him a bit from the extra hanging out and stuff it hurt his feelings but then when I was okay with everything it seemed like he was trying not to do too much.

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He likes you but not enough to wife you.

There's something that you're doing that's throwing him off.

I think you’re absolutely right. When things come up and I mention it, he’ll say “you don’t like that about me” For example, the first time we had sex at his house his bedsheets smelled so bad I was completely turned off. I never said anything because when I tell him about something I don’t like he feels like I don’t like him in general and it used to really hurt his feelings to where he started to say I nag him lmao. I finally ended up telling him and he took it very well but in the back of his mind he probably feels like I don’t accept him and maybe that’s what holds him back?
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I'm long term with one. I have family and friends that are cancer. That is a big cancer trait. I still can't figure out how to mention things sometimes without that happening. I don't think it's possible. Literally most dramatic omg you must hate me sign, for the most minor things.
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YES!!! He says ”do you hate me?” Or “if you actually hate me just say that” all the time, and at first I thought it was just a joke so I’d laugh it off but he says it so often now I think in his little mind he must think some truth to it lmao. Like I have to just love any and everything about him to like him, it’s partially draining lol
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You need to look at more than just his sun sign though and be careful because this feels like manipulation to me. He’s getting what he wants from you while keeping his distance and calling the shots, but then tugging at your heart strings with the puppy dog eyes and “do you hate me?” As if to keep you in emotional limbo. He knows what he’s doing. Water sign men are emotionally intelligent and know all the right moves to pull, so keep that in mind.

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Love this! Thank you for this, I haven’t thought about that because I feel like we have so much history and still consider each other friends but I definitely need to keep that in mind too.

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Okay so, I have this Cancer guy who’s come back into my life.

Here’s some context - we went to high school together and liked each other but never dated. We ended up going to different colleges but each year when we came home at least once we reconnected and would go out for drinks or lunch or something but it never went any further.

Fast forward to about a year ago, we met up and would go out to lunch, dinner and spend quite a bit of time together but he had just lost his mom about a year prior and I had lost mine a few years prior so of course we bonded more over that. Well while we were spending time together last year he was also getting over an ex and I was as well but we never dated or had sex. The chemistry between us was just always a mystery. So one day we went out together and ended up getting so drunk that we went back to his house and had sex. I remember it but he doesn’t and after that we had sex a few times after but he would say I’m not ready for a relationship so I started to distance myself but he would always reach out to spend time together. He even met me out while I was having dinner at a restaurant by myself. He came and paid for my tab and we left and he said he just wanted to see me.

Well I ended up dating someone else because like he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I was still casually dating. I mentioned it to him and it hurt his feelings so much he tried cutting me off.

We stopped talking for like a week and ended up talking again. This time he seemed a bit cold and would say “let’s just have casual sex” I was okay with it because at that point I was still dating other people just not having sex with them. Well then he said he felt like I was just using him for sex and started to be ugly to me so we completely stopped talking.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, he reached out via text one night randomly and said “I’m sorry”

I asked him for what and he said he was reflecting on everything and felt bad about how he treated me he just didn’t know how to say it. He then proceeds to say he really cares about me just at the time he was having a hard time expressing his emotions and wanted me to forgive him for it. He asked to see me so we set up a time when he came to my house and he brought me flowers and some fruit and asked for my forgiveness. What I thought was weird was, he asked me about my goals and I told him. I then asked what his goals were and he started including me in on his plans saying things like, “I want to get this car” I said where would your kids fit? He said “well you’ll have the mom car they’ll be in your car” and like little things like that the entire night. I brushed it off because I figured maybe he was just trying to test to see what I would say.

So Mother’s Day came and he asked to see me and checked up on me. I was out with my friend and her mom so we didn’t end up seeing each other. But we would still text here and there.

Memorial Day then came around and he sent me a “wya” text. I completely ignored it because I felt like he should have greeted me better lol. Last week I texted him because I remembered his moms birthday was around that time and we talked. He started sliding in like “I love you” and “well I guess since I love you and all” and I just never know how to respond to it. So he then asked to see me again. This time he reached out on Sunday and said he’d like to get dinner with me so he came to my house to pick me up. We went to have dinner and came back to my house. We ended up having sex and he left right after lmaoooo. I was slightly confused because he was giving me compliments the entire night, very touchy-feely, asking me to decide on a trip and that he wanted us to go on one. He also kept mentioning (because he knows I love concerts) he’d say “if you ever need someone to go to a concert with you I’m available” but all of a sudden after sex he’s like “I gotta head home” hahahaha. I thought it was hilarious because he kissed me before he left and when he got home he texted me “I made it” and my response was “okay” and he said “can you at least be a little more enthusiastic than that?” 🤣 Monday morning he texted me Goodmorning and we texted all day. Yesterday we also texted all day but I’m like confused🤣 so this morning I responded to his text and just told him to have a good day and he called me a pet name.

Like what’s actually going on here??🤣

Imma Scorpio so I can be a little hot and cold but this cancer man has me cracking up because I can’t figure out what he wants me to do. I like him and we have history but like idk what he’s looking for from me. I feel like if I show too much that I like him he may pull away and if I detach he’ll get upset like the last time.

Someone help please🤣

For some people they go slow despite feeling it themselves. Ask him what dating, being boyfriend and girlfriend means to him.


For some people boyfriend means something serious and a form of long term commitment. I suspect thier was a miscommunication here that snowballed.

It's immature emotional stuff and lack of honesty communication.

I agree. I’ve asked before but I felt like he either wasn’t completely honest about how he felt or felt like I wouldn’t feel the same so I’m not sure if asking would solve it.
When I would be okay with just casual sex and would dodge him a bit from the extra hanging out and stuff it hurt his feelings but then when I was okay with everything it seemed like he was trying not to do too much.

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You have a good understanding of what going on with him.

There is a chance he does not realize how he comes off or is legitimately unsure. It's ok to be unsure. That's why we spend time with each other and date. Why relationships are full of steps and milestones.



I know this frustrates you. That's understandable.

I've been on both ends of this at least once myself. Got hit pretty hard by the hindsight 🚛 after the damage was already done many times. You learn, you grow.

I would recommend talking to him about it. Don't blame or accuse. Rather state your view and ask a question to get his perspective. " It seems to me... is this right?"." "I noticed when...."

Do your best not to take anything personal in the conversation too.

Perception and opinions are subjective by nature. Communication and understanding clears all that up one way or another.

P S. I bet he takes things a lot more serious then he lets on and is trying to play it off to maintain a relationship with you. Which is messing with him emotionally.

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Okay so, I have this Cancer guy who’s come back into my life.

Here’s some context - we went to high school together and liked each other but never dated. We ended up going to different colleges but each year when we came home at least once we reconnected and would go out for drinks or lunch or something but it never went any further.

Fast forward to about a year ago, we met up and would go out to lunch, dinner and spend quite a bit of time together but he had just lost his mom about a year prior and I had lost mine a few years prior so of course we bonded more over that. Well while we were spending time together last year he was also getting over an ex and I was as well but we never dated or had sex. The chemistry between us was just always a mystery. So one day we went out together and ended up getting so drunk that we went back to his house and had sex. I remember it but he doesn’t and after that we had sex a few times after but he would say I’m not ready for a relationship so I started to distance myself but he would always reach out to spend time together. He even met me out while I was having dinner at a restaurant by myself. He came and paid for my tab and we left and he said he just wanted to see me.

Well I ended up dating someone else because like he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I was still casually dating. I mentioned it to him and it hurt his feelings so much he tried cutting me off.

We stopped talking for like a week and ended up talking again. This time he seemed a bit cold and would say “let’s just have casual sex” I was okay with it because at that point I was still dating other people just not having sex with them. Well then he said he felt like I was just using him for sex and started to be ugly to me so we completely stopped talking.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, he reached out via text one night randomly and said “I’m sorry”

I asked him for what and he said he was reflecting on everything and felt bad about how he treated me he just didn’t know how to say it. He then proceeds to say he really cares about me just at the time he was having a hard time expressing his emotions and wanted me to forgive him for it. He asked to see me so we set up a time when he came to my house and he brought me flowers and some fruit and asked for my forgiveness. What I thought was weird was, he asked me about my goals and I told him. I then asked what his goals were and he started including me in on his plans saying things like, “I want to get this car” I said where would your kids fit? He said “well you’ll have the mom car they’ll be in your car” and like little things like that the entire night. I brushed it off because I figured maybe he was just trying to test to see what I would say.

So Mother’s Day came and he asked to see me and checked up on me. I was out with my friend and her mom so we didn’t end up seeing each other. But we would still text here and there.

Memorial Day then came around and he sent me a “wya” text. I completely ignored it because I felt like he should have greeted me better lol. Last week I texted him because I remembered his moms birthday was around that time and we talked. He started sliding in like “I love you” and “well I guess since I love you and all” and I just never know how to respond to it. So he then asked to see me again. This time he reached out on Sunday and said he’d like to get dinner with me so he came to my house to pick me up. We went to have dinner and came back to my house. We ended up having sex and he left right after lmaoooo. I was slightly confused because he was giving me compliments the entire night, very touchy-feely, asking me to decide on a trip and that he wanted us to go on one. He also kept mentioning (because he knows I love concerts) he’d say “if you ever need someone to go to a concert with you I’m available” but all of a sudden after sex he’s like “I gotta head home” hahahaha. I thought it was hilarious because he kissed me before he left and when he got home he texted me “I made it” and my response was “okay” and he said “can you at least be a little more enthusiastic than that?” 🤣 Monday morning he texted me Goodmorning and we texted all day. Yesterday we also texted all day but I’m like confused🤣 so this morning I responded to his text and just told him to have a good day and he called me a pet name.

Like what’s actually going on here??🤣

Imma Scorpio so I can be a little hot and cold but this cancer man has me cracking up because I can’t figure out what he wants me to do. I like him and we have history but like idk what he’s looking for from me. I feel like if I show too much that I like him he may pull away and if I detach he’ll get upset like the last time.

Someone help please🤣

For some people they go slow despite feeling it themselves. Ask him what dating, being boyfriend and girlfriend means to him.

For some people boyfriend means something serious and a form of long term commitment. I suspect thier was a miscommunication here that snowballed.

It's immature emotional stuff and lack of honesty communication.

I agree. I’ve asked before but I felt like he either wasn’t completely honest about how he felt or felt like I wouldn’t feel the same so I’m not sure if asking would solve it.

When I would be okay with just casual sex and would dodge him a bit from the extra hanging out and stuff it hurt his feelings but then when I was okay with everything it seemed like he was trying not to do too much.
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You have a good understanding of what going on with him.

There is a chance he does not realize how he comes off or is legitimately unsure. It's ok to be unsure. That's why we spend time with each other and date. Why relationships are full of steps and milestones.



I know this frustrates you. That's understandable.

I've been on both ends of this at least once myself. Got hit pretty hard by the hindsight 🚛 after the damage was already done many times. You learn, you grow.


I would recommend talking to him about it. Don't blame or accuse. Rather state your view and ask a question to get his perspective. " It seems to me... is this right?"." "I noticed when...."

Do your best not to take anything personal in the conversation too.

Perception and opinions are subjective by nature. Communication and understanding clears all that up one way or another.


P S. I bet he takes things a lot more serious then he lets on and is trying to play it off to maintain a relationship with you. Which is messing with him emotionally.

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Thank you for that! I really needed it.

I’ll try talking to him and try a different approach than usual and see if I get a different outcome lol

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That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

Friends with benefits! He gets to have access to sex with you and all the emotional support and connection, but he’s off the hook when it comes to relationship duties/expectations. Like @poppyflower said, he’s enjoying having his cake and eating it too.


Men do this all the time until they meet the one they know they want to lock down and be serious about. And know that when he finds that person, he won’t be wishy washy. He will suddenly turn into the man you’ve wanted all along, but unfortunately it will be for and with someone else.


I would rip the bandaid off. Ask him upfront what his intentions are and if he wants a relationship with you now. Then you will have your answer confirmed and can stop wasting time doing this dance with this inconsistent man

Usually there's reasons why people fuck, but don't cuff.
* Tolerable only in small doses, but the sex is great
* Has two or more children
* Doesn't fit some preconceived notion of an Ideal type
* Only on holiday
* Too old / too young (but of legal age)
* Boring apart from the sex
* Just don't want more

There's no shame in it, everyone who does the casual sex thing does it.

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•doesn’t want the pressure of laundering bed sheets

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That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

Friends with benefits! He gets to have access to sex with you and all the emotional support and connection, but he’s off the hook when it comes to relationship duties/expectations. Like @poppyflower said, he’s enjoying having his cake and eating it too.


Men do this all the time until they meet the one they know they want to lock down and be serious about. And know that when he finds that person, he won’t be wishy washy. He will suddenly turn into the man you’ve wanted all along, but unfortunately it will be for and with someone else.


I would rip the bandaid off. Ask him upfront what his intentions are and if he wants a relationship with you now. Then you will have your answer confirmed and can stop wasting time doing this dance with this inconsistent man

Usually there's reasons why people fuck, but don't cuff.


* Tolerable only in small doses, but the sex is great


* Has two or more children


* Doesn't fit some preconceived notion of an Ideal type


* Only on holiday


* Too old / too young (but of legal age)


* Boring apart from the sex


* Just don't want more



There's no shame in it, everyone who does the casual sex thing does it.

•doesn’t want the pressure of laundering bed sheets

You can get those waterproof ones, apparently easy to clean.
* Food crumbs in the bed

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What do you think it smelled like 😷😷😷😷😷😷😷

But seriously no one’s gonna talk about this man’s dirty ass bed sheets

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That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

Friends with benefits! He gets to have access to sex with you and all the emotional support and connection, but he’s off the hook when it comes to relationship duties/expectations. Like @poppyflower said, he’s enjoying having his cake and eating it too.

Men do this all the time until they meet the one they know they want to lock down and be serious about. And know that when he finds that person, he won’t be wishy washy. He will suddenly turn into the man you’ve wanted all along, but unfortunately it will be for and with someone else.

I would rip the bandaid off. Ask him upfront what his intentions are and if he wants a relationship with you now. Then you will have your answer confirmed and can stop wasting time doing this dance with this inconsistent man

Usually there's reasons why people fuck, but don't cuff.



* Tolerable only in small doses, but the sex is great



* Has two or more children



* Doesn't fit some preconceived notion of an Ideal type



* Only on holiday



* Too old / too young (but of legal age)



* Boring apart from the sex



* Just don't want more



There's no shame in it, everyone who does the casual sex thing does it.

•doesn’t want the pressure of laundering bed sheets

You can get those waterproof ones, apparently easy to clean.

* Food crumbs in the bed

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What do you think it smelled like 😷😷😷😷😷😷😷


But seriously no one’s gonna talk about this man’s dirty ass bed sheets

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🤣🤣🤣 no joke it literally was a cross between bad BO like onion armpit/deodorant that doesn’t cover the smell and 🍑

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That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

Friends with benefits! He gets to have access to sex with you and all the emotional support and connection, but he’s off the hook when it comes to relationship duties/expectations. Like @poppyflower said, he’s enjoying having his cake and eating it too.

Men do this all the time until they meet the one they know they want to lock down and be serious about. And know that when he finds that person, he won’t be wishy washy. He will suddenly turn into the man you’ve wanted all along, but unfortunately it will be for and with someone else.

I would rip the bandaid off. Ask him upfront what his intentions are and if he wants a relationship with you now. Then you will have your answer confirmed and can stop wasting time doing this dance with this inconsistent man

Usually there's reasons why people fuck, but don't cuff.


* Tolerable only in small doses, but the sex is great


* Has two or more children


* Doesn't fit some preconceived notion of an Ideal type


* Only on holiday


* Too old / too young (but of legal age)


* Boring apart from the sex


* Just don't want more


There's no shame in it, everyone who does the casual sex thing does it.

•doesn’t want the pressure of laundering bed sheets

You can get those waterproof ones, apparently easy to clean.

* Food crumbs in the bed

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What do you think it smelled like 😷😷😷😷😷😷😷

But seriously no one’s gonna talk about this man’s dirty ass bed sheets
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🤣🤣🤣 no joke it literally was a cross between bad BO like onion armpit/deodorant that doesn’t cover the smell and 🍑

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Ain’t no way you laid your naked body on those 😩

I could NOT!

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He likes you but not enough to wife you.

There's something that you're doing that's throwing him off.

I think you’re absolutely right. When things come up and I mention it, he’ll say “you don’t like that about me” For example, the first time we had sex at his house his bedsheets smelled so bad I was completely turned off. I never said anything because when I tell him about something I don’t like he feels like I don’t like him in general and it used to really hurt his feelings to where he started to say I nag him lmao. I finally ended up telling him and he took it very well but in the back of his mind he probably feels like I don’t accept him and maybe that’s what holds him back?
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I'm long term with one. I have family and friends that are cancer. That is a big cancer trait. I still can't figure out how to mention things sometimes without that happening. I don't think it's possible. Literally most dramatic omg you must hate me sign, for the most minor things.

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Hm now I wonder if the cancer took offense of what I said yesterday. He's abroad on vacation and told me he got a sunburn and I asked if he looks red as a tomato now.🍅 He left me on read. 🤣

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That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

Friends with benefits! He gets to have access to sex with you and all the emotional support and connection, but he’s off the hook when it comes to relationship duties/expectations. Like @poppyflower said, he’s enjoying having his cake and eating it too.

Men do this all the time until they meet the one they know they want to lock down and be serious about. And know that when he finds that person, he won’t be wishy washy. He will suddenly turn into the man you’ve wanted all along, but unfortunately it will be for and with someone else.

I would rip the bandaid off. Ask him upfront what his intentions are and if he wants a relationship with you now. Then you will have your answer confirmed and can stop wasting time doing this dance with this inconsistent man

Usually there's reasons why people fuck, but don't cuff.

* Tolerable only in small doses, but the sex is great

* Has two or more children

* Doesn't fit some preconceived notion of an Ideal type

* Only on holiday

* Too old / too young (but of legal age)

* Boring apart from the sex

* Just don't want more

There's no shame in it, everyone who does the casual sex thing does it.

•doesn’t want the pressure of laundering bed sheets

You can get those waterproof ones, apparently easy to clean.

* Food crumbs in the bed

click to expand

What do you think it smelled like 😷😷😷😷😷😷😷

But seriously no one’s gonna talk about this man’s dirty ass bed sheets
click to expand

🤣🤣🤣 no joke it literally was a cross between bad BO like onion armpit/deodorant that doesn’t cover the smell and 🍑
click to expand

Ain’t no way you laid your naked body on those 😩

I could NOT!

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🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was drunk so I didn’t notice until the next morning and got up immediately lmaoooo

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He likes you but not enough to wife you.

There's something that you're doing that's throwing him off.

I think you’re absolutely right. When things come up and I mention it, he’ll say “you don’t like that about me” For example, the first time we had sex at his house his bedsheets smelled so bad I was completely turned off. I never said anything because when I tell him about something I don’t like he feels like I don’t like him in general and it used to really hurt his feelings to where he started to say I nag him lmao. I finally ended up telling him and he took it very well but in the back of his mind he probably feels like I don’t accept him and maybe that’s what holds him back?
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I'm long term with one. I have family and friends that are cancer. That is a big cancer trait. I still can't figure out how to mention things sometimes without that happening. I don't think it's possible. Literally most dramatic omg you must hate me sign, for the most minor things.
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Hm now I wonder if the cancer took offense of what I said yesterday. He's abroad on vacation and told me he got a sunburn and I asked if he looks red as a tomato now.🍅 He left me on read. 🤣

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He probably did take offense🤣🤣

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Okay so, I have this Cancer guy who’s come back into my life.

Here’s some context - we went to high school together and liked each other but never dated. We ended up going to different colleges but each year when we came home at least once we reconnected and would go out for drinks or lunch or something but it never went any further.


Fast forward to about a year ago, we met up and would go out to lunch, dinner and spend quite a bit of time together but he had just lost his mom about a year prior and I had lost mine a few years prior so of course we bonded more over that. Well while we were spending time together last year he was also getting over an ex and I was as well but we never dated or had sex. The chemistry between us was just always a mystery. So one day we went out together and ended up getting so drunk that we went back to his house and had sex. I remember it but he doesn’t and after that we had sex a few times after but he would say I’m not ready for a relationship so I started to distance myself but he would always reach out to spend time together. He even met me out while I was having dinner at a restaurant by myself. He came and paid for my tab and we left and he said he just wanted to see me.

Well I ended up dating someone else because like he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and I was still casually dating. I mentioned it to him and it hurt his feelings so much he tried cutting me off.

We stopped talking for like a week and ended up talking again. This time he seemed a bit cold and would say “let’s just have casual sex” I was okay with it because at that point I was still dating other people just not having sex with them. Well then he said he felt like I was just using him for sex and started to be ugly to me so we completely stopped talking.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, he reached out via text one night randomly and said “I’m sorry”

I asked him for what and he said he was reflecting on everything and felt bad about how he treated me he just didn’t know how to say it. He then proceeds to say he really cares about me just at the time he was having a hard time expressing his emotions and wanted me to forgive him for it. He asked to see me so we set up a time when he came to my house and he brought me flowers and some fruit and asked for my forgiveness. What I thought was weird was, he asked me about my goals and I told him. I then asked what his goals were and he started including me in on his plans saying things like, “I want to get this car” I said where would your kids fit? He said “well you’ll have the mom car they’ll be in your car” and like little things like that the entire night. I brushed it off because I figured maybe he was just trying to test to see what I would say.

So Mother’s Day came and he asked to see me and checked up on me. I was out with my friend and her mom so we didn’t end up seeing each other. But we would still text here and there.

Memorial Day then came around and he sent me a “wya” text. I completely ignored it because I felt like he should have greeted me better lol. Last week I texted him because I remembered his moms birthday was around that time and we talked. He started sliding in like “I love you” and “well I guess since I love you and all” and I just never know how to respond to it. So he then asked to see me again. This time he reached out on Sunday and said he’d like to get dinner with me so he came to my house to pick me up. We went to have dinner and came back to my house. We ended up having sex and he left right after lmaoooo. I was slightly confused because he was giving me compliments the entire night, very touchy-feely, asking me to decide on a trip and that he wanted us to go on one. He also kept mentioning (because he knows I love concerts) he’d say “if you ever need someone to go to a concert with you I’m available” but all of a sudden after sex he’s like “I gotta head home” hahahaha. I thought it was hilarious because he kissed me before he left and when he got home he texted me “I made it” and my response was “okay” and he said “can you at least be a little more enthusiastic than that?” 🤣 Monday morning he texted me Goodmorning and we texted all day. Yesterday we also texted all day but I’m like confused🤣 so this morning I responded to his text and just told him to have a good day and he called me a pet name.


Like what’s actually going on here??🤣

Imma Scorpio so I can be a little hot and cold but this cancer man has me cracking up because I can’t figure out what he wants me to do. I like him and we have history but like idk what he’s looking for from me. I feel like if I show too much that I like him he may pull away and if I detach he’ll get upset like the last time.


Someone help please🤣

Typical Cancer man story. Please check our archives. i'm surprised women haven't created a website, several websites on them.

I would not be in a relationship with a man that I know can resist me sexually, period. LOL, like what the fuck? LOL, hahahahahhahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahha.... Do you know what you are in for? You have NO power, powerless. I'm too fraid of a sexless relationship or fading or bending to whims or being withheld from. Like I'm a woman. Like that's not my jam. I would have an identity crisis.

He's not that attracted to you. Cancer men are known to marry a woman and not love them, girl. Nobody knows why this is. I think the crab likes the creature comforts and security of a relationship.

Everybody knows men can fuck women they are not that attracted to. And, when they hang with you and occassionally fuck you, um... when you got stronger feelings, can see yourself with them, can see a future... it's kinda gross.

But, if you just as chill and can careless... it's all good.

The back and forth he plays is game. Some people like game for game sake. If you play this game all bewildered n' shit, he knows he's got one.

I would just ask what he wants.

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That definitely makes sense. I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t just stick with that. And like he’s mentioned that before and I’ve been okay with that for the time being until I decide to get serious with someone else but with causal sex I don’t understand why he keeps wanting to hang out and be touchy and constantly text and be in the phone. It makes things more weird for me lmao.

Friends with benefits! He gets to have access to sex with you and all the emotional support and connection, but he’s off the hook when it comes to relationship duties/expectations. Like @poppyflower said, he’s enjoying having his cake and eating it too.

Men do this all the time until they meet the one they know they want to lock down and be serious about. And know that when he finds that person, he won’t be wishy washy. He will suddenly turn into the man you’ve wanted all along, but unfortunately it will be for and with someone else.

I would rip the bandaid off. Ask him upfront what his intentions are and if he wants a relationship with you now. Then you will have your answer confirmed and can stop wasting time doing this dance with this inconsistent man

Usually there's reasons why people fuck, but don't cuff.

* Tolerable only in small doses, but the sex is great

* Has two or more children

* Doesn't fit some preconceived notion of an Ideal type

* Only on holiday

* Too old / too young (but of legal age)

* Boring apart from the sex

* Just don't want more

There's no shame in it, everyone who does the casual sex thing does it.

•doesn’t want the pressure of laundering bed sheets

You can get those waterproof ones, apparently easy to clean.

* Food crumbs in the bed

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What do you think it smelled like 😷😷😷😷😷😷😷

But seriously no one’s gonna talk about this man’s dirty ass bed sheets
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🤣🤣🤣 no joke it literally was a cross between bad BO like onion armpit/deodorant that doesn’t cover the smell and 🍑
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Ain’t no way you laid your naked body on those 😩

I could NOT!

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You'll have sex with a man but not lay in 6 months of his filth, appalling double standards.