Cancer man, break up help!

IM AN ARIES WOMAN!! So initially, my cancer man broke up with me. He insisted that I was jealous and crazy. He said we argued too much. Usually about petty things, and that I also hurt him repeatedly, with things that I have said unknowingly. He wanted space to figure stuff out, but I lashed out and sent many heartfelt messages begging for him back. He said he wanted to be friends, and that he stilled loved me and that he will always love me. He also stated that he would not be looking for another female anytime soon and that he is not looking for a relationship. Us being "friends" Was no different that our relationship, he treated me the same. We both attended a party a couple days later and before the party he texted me "Do you. Don't let me get in your way. We are friends." So I did. He saw me with another guy and did not say anything, and acted totally normal. His friend had called him and told him that he should get back with me. MY cancer man agreed, but seemed to have changed his mind. He texted me again, told me he only wanted to be friends. He said that I was making up excuses and that he did not care about what I want. He later then brought up the party and said "You have other guys. I don't care. don't worry about me." Since then we talk everyday, and he usually tries to keep the conversation going for the most part. He throws little jabs at me, and I try to control my temper and not be rude back. Is this a test? He also told his friend that "We are just not close right now." Instead of telling him we broke up. Also, told one of my friends that I was "Special and different from other girls. We'll most likely get back together." Should I cut off all contact with him and move on, or do you think he will come back? THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING THIS PLEASE HELP!!!

Update: he has recently began being really mean. BUT has also asked if I am talking to another boy, what does this mean?

I don't know about cancer men, but I, as a cancer woman, never felt a true love soulmate connection with an aries... I need something more calm, quiet and introverted... But! If he asked you if you are seeing someone else, that is jealousy peeking it's head 🙂 jealousy for a cancer cand only mean feelings. To get a cancer to go mad for you, you need to become a mystery. A little too good for him. Withdrawn. Soft. We love to nurture, so if you use a sad face and no words next time you meet him, he will immediately ask you what is wrong and try to mend it. Just kiss him. Look into his eyes. No words. If he has feelings, he is yours. Good luck, Aries.

Usually if we are mean and we ask if you are talking to other people, we are jealous and hurt, which equals feelings. Reassure him there is no one, kiss him and hold hands. Look into his eyes. He will love it.

We, cancers always come back, but we want to be brought back. Kiss him, tell him there has been no one, hug him, look at him with big sad eyes and he will mellow down and come back. He is lashing out. Probably jealous

Thanks so much for writing back 🙂. My cancer man has now said he is over me mentally. But he still has asked if I was talking to someone else. I asked to see him, and he has declined. We talked about an issue I was having and I felt as if he didn't care. I asked him, and he said that "Caring brings feelings. I can't have feelings." He still wants to be friends. Should I move on, or give him space and leave him alone. Or is he completely done?

It sounds like he is hurt. Afraid to dive back in with you. Not that he doesn't have feelings. He talks in a way that for me, can only mean he has been hurt in this relationship, and he is afraid of being hurt by it again. He is making his mind believe it's over, but maybe the heart is still there... Either give gim time to contact you if he misses you, or talk to him about how special he is in a way that... "Remember when my hair used to stop in my face every time we would kiss... remember that sunny day we had, that movie we saw..." this brings back memories and he will want to re-live them. Maybe in his mind, you've hurt him in some way... Cancers can be paranoid and imagine things when they aren't there sometimes...

Yes I have hurt him. He wants to move on. I still cling to him because I know he still has feelings for me. I'm scared to give him space, as I feel he won't come back.

He doesn't want to continue to talk at this point. His moon is a SAG by the way. Should I cut off all communication at this point?

Give him time, he will come back. We try to be brave, but if there were feelings involved, we are very reminiscent.

Okay! Thank you! We are not talking at all at the moment. He doesn't want to talk about the situation at all because it "brings feelings." I'll wait it out for a month or so.

Last update for a now (I'm sorry) I've asked if we will ever talk again and his respond was, "We'll let life choose that." Do cancer men always give indirect answers? Or is this a clear no?

I'm dating a Cancer man with his moon in Sag. Mine is not good talking to me verbally but when he's hurt, he definitely lashes out. We weren't getting along once and he took it out on an Uber driver. I've found being calm, sweet, gentle, etc with him works best. What's his and your Venus in?

His Venus is Leo, my Venus is in Aries.

Blessings. And good luck.

Now, he is sending rude messages FOR NO REASON. I have cut off all contact with him. I do not message him first. He has been talking very poorly of me, and accesses me of talking about him. I feel like since I have stopped talking to him, he's trying to get my attention back? Can someone help me out.

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Now, he is sending rude messages FOR NO REASON. I have cut off all contact with him. I do not message him first. He has been talking very poorly of me, and accesses me of talking about him. I feel like since I have stopped talking to him, he's trying to get my attention back? Can someone help me out.

Sounds like my experience with my cancer ex. It was traumatic for me. I had to constantly censor myself so I wouldn't upset him or cause any problems. I hurt him too but I really did try to accommodate his needs but I think he sulked in all the hurt. I don't know if you guys break up a lot or if this is the first time but my ex and I were so on and off. He would come back, but it always took a lot to convince him. We would always argue about silly things and that was the demise of us.

It was a very painful relationship. It took awhile for me to move on. I think it's funny because I was going to Taco Bell a few days ago so I didn't put shoes or a bra on to go thru the drive thru. I ended up having to go to Walmart and I had to find some shoes in my car which was a partly broken sandal, no bra, and a raincoat. And my luck he literally walked right past me. His new girlfriend randomly liked stuff on my facebook that night. So.



I hope there's some light at the end of he tunnel.

Thank you! I am trying my best to move on, but it just seems like he is everywhere lol. He does things on purpose on social media so that I can see. I have also confronted him about the things he has said, and he explained to me why he had said those things and apologized. He is making it seem like I did something very very bad to him. When I did not, at all. But everytime he talks to me it seems like he tries his best to be extra on guard and quite cold. But then other times it will feel like normal.

Aries guy here with a lot of cancer friends here. This dudes are realy sensitive so by pissing them off you just make them retreat. Just cutt all the comunication for a week or two and make sure that you tell your common friends that you are busy with an important job.

Use this weeks to clear your mind and chill out. Once you are chill and you found balance start making contact with him, a little bit each day and always use yourinfectiously happy aries vibe (you know what Im talking about).

Be positive and optimistic around him and the most important be consistent and have patience. He will start to attach again. Just stop hanging out with other dudes around him, be friendly and persistent and help him open up again. Voila, problem solved for sure ?

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Thank you! I am trying my best to move on, but it just seems like he is everywhere lol. He does things on purpose on social media so that I can see. I have also confronted him about the things he has said, and he explained to me why he had said those things and apologized. He is making it seem like I did something very very bad to him. When I did not, at all. But everytime he talks to me it seems like he tries his best to be extra on guard and quite cold. But then other times it will feel like normal.

It seems he is quite emotional.Take a break and clear your mind, then if you like him take the lead and rebuild some frienship here. But first take care of yourself because you look really confused (and a little bit angry)

Chill and take a nap, my aries solution for everithing ??

Haha, it seems like when I do move on he comes back, or does something to provoke me. He also insists on being my friend, but he will flirt with me and say a bunch of weird things. Cancer men make no sense!

He is repeatedly talking about me to his friends. It's like he is obsessed! He also continues to say that relationships just lead to heartbreak. I did not even initiate the break up and i have not done anything to him. SO CONFUSED!

Cancers don't let go immediately. sometimes our heart and brain fight each other until eventually the brain wins. Might be Years though, depending on the cancer and perhaps their venus/moon sign. Not a fun roller coaster to be on...

Very heated argument. He insisted that we need to move on, and that he does not want to be with me. He also stated he hated me, but took it back right away. But then, he told his friend that he still has feelings for me, and won't confirm or deny if we will ever be getting back together. Should I be off this roller coaster?

If the roller coaster makes you sick to your stomach, get off of it.

And I mean that in a nice way.

Cancers are very confusing. My cancer just told me yesterday that he loves me but because (in his mind) I'm too clingy and I overthink, it's slowly disappearing.

Then he called me before work to say he loves me. And apologized. But I think there's a grain of truth to what he said. So time for me to self assess.