Snelly
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Cancer man?..interested?
Sounds a LOT like the Cancer I've been very slooooowly getting involved with. I'm not used to being the initiator but it seems the norm with these guys. In 2 1/2 months, he's initiated maybe 4 or 5 times at all.
Posted by TauRisserAnd how is it going?
Sounds a LOT like the Cancer I've been very slooooowly getting involved with. I'm not used to being the initiator but it seems the norm with these guys. In 2 1/2 months, he's initiated maybe 4 or 5 times at all.
Posted by GC02So then how do you interpret the situation?
Awww my brothers of the zodiac.....piece of cake, idk how all these confused about my cancer man threads even start. They are simple.
Honestly, I’m sure he’s interested. I like a cancer guy and I have to do a lot of the initiating when it comes to texting but bc we live in different cities and don’t hang out, it’s hard to tell and even harder for me to get something going with him. However, ur situation is more clear regarding his interest bc you guys hang out often, which is a clear indicator! He may take things slow but based on what you’ve said, I’m sure he’s interested in you. They’re not the best communicators, but everything is in their actions, so try not to worry about the texting thing much. I would say just ask him how he feels about phone calls or be straight up with him regarding your feelings. Don’t drive urself crazy trying to figure him out.
Posted by SnellyLol complicated. He always responds to me. We are clearly both attracted to each other. But every time we get a little intimate (not even sex just anything) he pulls back hard. He's clearly been hurt badly by his exwife 3 years ago and I think he wasn't totally over it when we met. I honestly don't think he expected to ever have feelings for anyone again and is freaked out. He said he's not ready to get to know each other better yet and that he needs to get better (depression). He is actually working on himself tho from what he's said. So I'm trying to give him a little extra space. He had wonderful things to say about me this past Saturday and I think it was kind of a way for him to let me know how he feels so that while he pulls back, I might wait. Idk. I have faith that everything is happening in one with the universe right now. If it's meant to be, it will be. He's still very responsive when I reach out to him.Posted by TauRisserAnd how is it going?
Sounds a LOT like the Cancer I've been very slooooowly getting involved with. I'm not used to being the initiator but it seems the norm with these guys. In 2 1/2 months, he's initiated maybe 4 or 5 times at all.click to expand
Another "Cancer man texting habits suck thread" lol
Is he talking to any other ladies?
You should try to let him into your rich inner world, dear Pisces. Show him your intense emotions.
Obviously at first he was scared of attachment because he was scared of getting hurt.
Cancer is kind of like a little kid in the middle of a battlefield, hiding under a ruin, scared and crying. Show him that there's nothing to be scared of, prove to him that he can trust you, and he will take your hand and come out of hiding.
Cancers seek security, faithfulness and commitment. If you prove to him that you're a gentle, sensitive and faithful person who will always have his back and who will always be there for him when he needs you for emotional comfort, he won't let go of you.
He will be a very sweet and romantic boyfriend but quick warning though: If he falls in love with you, he will get very attached to you and he WILL be very clingy and needy, even jealous and possessive. He'll be overprotective of you and he will often be very emotional and even a drama queen at times.
But he'll be loyal, at least as long as you are loyal as well.
Show him that you care about him, be there for him emotionally and he will get attached to you fairly quickly.
Getting too attached too quickly is one of your traits as well, Pisces, and you already know that. So I know you're scared of being hurt, but if you show genuine interest and care for him, It's highly unlikely that you will get hurt, because he's fiercely loyal and will treat you like a queen.
I'm a Pisces too, I know how you feel 🙂
Obviously at first he was scared of attachment because he was scared of getting hurt.
Cancer is kind of like a little kid in the middle of a battlefield, hiding under a ruin, scared and crying. Show him that there's nothing to be scared of, prove to him that he can trust you, and he will take your hand and come out of hiding.
Cancers seek security, faithfulness and commitment. If you prove to him that you're a gentle, sensitive and faithful person who will always have his back and who will always be there for him when he needs you for emotional comfort, he won't let go of you.
He will be a very sweet and romantic boyfriend but quick warning though: If he falls in love with you, he will get very attached to you and he WILL be very clingy and needy, even jealous and possessive. He'll be overprotective of you and he will often be very emotional and even a drama queen at times.
But he'll be loyal, at least as long as you are loyal as well.
Show him that you care about him, be there for him emotionally and he will get attached to you fairly quickly.
Getting too attached too quickly is one of your traits as well, Pisces, and you already know that. So I know you're scared of being hurt, but if you show genuine interest and care for him, It's highly unlikely that you will get hurt, because he's fiercely loyal and will treat you like a queen.
I'm a Pisces too, I know how you feel 🙂
It’s a long read and my brain in fried from exams. What exactly do you want to know?
He doesn't initiate texting ever and is always working, but when we hang out it's good and he buys me dinner and teases me and we enjoy each other's company. But as soon as we're apart I start to doubt things since I don't hear from him unless I text him first. So I want to know if I should stop texting him, if it's weird they he doesn't initiate, basically I just want to know if he's interested.
He doesn't initiate texting ever and is always working, but when we hang out it's good and he buys me dinner and teases me and we enjoy each other's company. But as soon as we're apart I start to doubt things since I don't hear from him unless I text him first. So I want to know if I should stop texting him, if it's weird they he doesn't initiate, basically I just want to know if he's interested.
Posted by SnellyI keep saying this, and I will continue saying it. Most Cancer men are just terrible at almost all forms of communication that is not in person. They can talk your ear off if you are sitting next to them, but the phone? Nope. That has no bearing on how they feel about you, unless you are someone they view as smash and dash. In your case, you aren't one. Two years I have been with my cancer bf (with a 3-4 month break but continued communication), and he just started initiating contact first in the last 3-4 months.
It’s a long read and my brain in fried from exams. What exactly do you want to know?
He doesn't initiate texting ever and is always working, but when we hang out it's good and he buys me dinner and teases me and we enjoy each other's company. But as soon as we're apart I start to doubt things since I don't hear from him unless I text him first. So I want to know if I should stop texting him, if it's weird they he doesn't initiate, basically I just want to know if he's interested.
Stop keeping score on who texts who first. It doesn't do anything other than create unfounded doubt.
If you want his attention come up with something you need. I dont mean money or for him to buy something but like "i cant reach this light to change the bulb" or "i need to buy ___ but need advice in researching it"
Cancer men are all about doing things to be there for you. They like to save the day. They like to be helpful. They are incredibly sensative and take it personally if youre independant. His line about taking good care of you is because thats the position he longs to be in.
I have a Cancer ex who is now downgraded to friend status. We didnt work out because he has issues (drinking/anger) But when I am in need he is the first to be at my side. And in the last year that I've known him any time I have thanked him for something - good advice, dinner, sex - he says "thats my job". At first it threw me like hey im not a job to be done! But then I read up on those Cancer men and learned thats their love language - to care for. So the more opportunities you give him to help the more time youll get with him.
And what everyone says about texting and cancers is true. Unless they know you are in need. then they are checking in every half an hour to make sure youre okay.
I'm a pisces and my cancer ex is my 99% astrological match. When we are together we just instantly relax to the point it makes us freak out a little. But when we are apart communication is always challenging.
Cancer men are all about doing things to be there for you. They like to save the day. They like to be helpful. They are incredibly sensative and take it personally if youre independant. His line about taking good care of you is because thats the position he longs to be in.
I have a Cancer ex who is now downgraded to friend status. We didnt work out because he has issues (drinking/anger) But when I am in need he is the first to be at my side. And in the last year that I've known him any time I have thanked him for something - good advice, dinner, sex - he says "thats my job". At first it threw me like hey im not a job to be done! But then I read up on those Cancer men and learned thats their love language - to care for. So the more opportunities you give him to help the more time youll get with him.
And what everyone says about texting and cancers is true. Unless they know you are in need. then they are checking in every half an hour to make sure youre okay.
I'm a pisces and my cancer ex is my 99% astrological match. When we are together we just instantly relax to the point it makes us freak out a little. But when we are apart communication is always challenging.
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