Cancer Man question again

He disappears - I know they do that, he sends a text, I reply, he does not reply. Why— Please explain this to me. If you don't want to be bothered why text me at all? Was I not supposed to respond—

Thanks

And before you ask my reply was Hey how are you? What up been up to? Calm and casual!!!

It's a way of testing you and he just wants to know you're there and not gonna run away. It's a slow and frustrating process for you females, but it's worth it at the end. Patience is the key here.

Yes this is it.

Have you responded?

Posted by Capriquoise
Have you responded?

I did respond. I said hey how are you? What have u been up to? - and he never responded back to that.

Posted by Maddy

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
I play these games when I'm bored.

Is it fun to play with people's head and feelings?

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Yes and no...

i think it is very easy for a Cancer to sense other's emotional needs. This is a good/bad thing, especially in growing relationships. We know what you want, but if we give it to you, you may come to expect it.. or you may start to take it (getting your needs met) for granted.

Then the Cancer will be wondering.. "does he/she really love me or just how i treat them? if they really love me.. let's see how they react when I DON'T give them what they want... when I DON'T provide for their emotional needs." I don't know if it ever ends?

This testing is crucial and necessary because I can't tell you how many times I've been used/taken advantage of in the past. Projected my own values and been shocked to find most people don't share them, or have non to speak of.

Heart pain is unbearable for Cancers. it really, really hurts us bad... Maybe not more than other signs, but it digs deep like a virus and lingers for so long. For other signs it could be like falling off your bike and breaking your arm. Ouch! But for Cancers it's like falling off your bike, getting your arm wrapped and twisted within your bike frame, then a car comes by and runs over them both...

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Posted by Maddy

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
I play these games when I'm bored.

Is it fun to play with people's head and feelings?

Yes and no...

i think it is very easy for a Cancer to sense other's emotional needs. This is a good/bad thing, especially in growing relationships. We know what you want, but if we give it to you, you may come to expect it.. or you may start to take it (getting your needs met) for granted.

Then the Cancer will be wondering.. "does he/she really love me or just how i treat them? if they really love me.. let's see how they react when I DON'T give them what they want... when I DON'T provide for their emotional needs." I don't know if it ever ends?

This testing is crucial and necessary because I can't tell you how many times I've been used/taken advantage of in the past. Projected my own values and been shocked to find most people don't share them, or have non to speak of.

Heart pain is unbearable for Cancers. it really, really hurts us bad... Maybe not more than other signs, but it digs deep like a virus and lingers for so long. For other signs it could be like falling off your bike and breaking your arm. Ouch! But for Cancers it's like falling off your bike, getting your arm wrapped and twisted within your bike frame, then a car comes by and runs over them both...

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if you knew it was hurting the other person by doing this, would you still continue to do the same thing? if not, why? other signs are sensitive and emotional as well. do you do this only if you are unsure of their mutual feelings?

my cancer ex did that with me all the time, so I did it back, ignoring him or not responding immediately as before, and that drove him nuts. he started to become clingly. When they think they will lose you they become possesive and clingly. So my advise would be do the same to him and see him running back to you.

Oh wow!! This sounds like my cancer man!! So maybe I should see how he reacts to me not texting him for a few days?? That hasnt happened since we started talking.

By not texting to say hi or at all for a bit will this hurt my little crabs feelings or make him think I am not interested?? If he needs space I want him to have it along with the time he needs to figure it all out. Just don't want him to think I jumped ship.—

Cancers take their mates or love interests for granted sometimes and sometimes we just aren't sure if you are right for us. I do this when I'm not feeling secure or sure of someone. I want to communicate with the guy but there is some vibe or action/inaction on his part that makes me realize that he isn't what I want or is incapable of giving me what I want. So I back off.

Classic of a cancer. It's been 8 months with my FWB cancer and this, right this second, is the longest I have gone without calling or acknowledging his call and yes, he is calling, calling, calling. I just have to do this, I have to because I do the opposite every other time. I just hope it turns out right. I want to marry my cancer guy. He is the cutest, best lover, best of friend...OMG Help us get these cancer hearts.

Posted by gottagetthiscancerguy
Classic of a cancer. It's been 8 months with my FWB cancer and this, right this second, is the longest I have gone without calling or acknowledging his call and yes, he is calling, calling, calling. I just have to do this, I have to because I do the opposite every other time. I just hope it turns out right. I want to marry my cancer guy. He is the cutest, best lover, best of friend...OMG Help us get these cancer hearts.

What sign are you?

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by Maddy

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
I play these games when I'm bored.

Is it fun to play with people's head and feelings?

Yes and no...

i think it is very easy for a Cancer to sense other's emotional needs. This is a good/bad thing, especially in growing relationships. We know what you want, but if we give it to you, you may come to expect it.. or you may start to take it (getting your needs met) for granted.

Then the Cancer will be wondering.. "does he/she really love me or just how i treat them? if they really love me.. let's see how they react when I DON'T give them what they want... when I DON'T provide for their emotional needs." I don't know if it ever ends?

This testing is crucial and necessary because I can't tell you how many times I've been used/taken advantage of in the past. Projected my own values and been shocked to find most people don't share them, or have non to speak of.

Heart pain is unbearable for Cancers. it really, really hurts us bad... Maybe not more than other signs, but it digs deep like a virus and lingers for so long. For other signs it could be like falling off your bike and breaking your arm. Ouch! But for Cancers it's like falling off your bike, getting your arm wrapped and twisted within your bike frame, then a car comes by and runs over them both...

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Excuse my language, but isn't that mentality pretty fucking heartless?

So a Cancerian may hold out emotionally on you, just to see if you love them enough to stick around? Isn't that kind of narcissistic? And i'd think most people would bail, because that kind of behavior would make them think, and understandably so, that the said person doesn't care for them. Well that's how i'd perceive it. When in love, I expect to receive back, as much as I give into the relationship.

I dunno, I think that's game playing to the max, and calls for undue heartache for the person who is being "tested". Just my opinion.

This thread is from 4 freaking years ago.

Posted by kissmygrits
This thread is from 4 freaking years ago.

LMAO, I didn't even notice that! I thought it was recent because it was bumped to the top of the Cancer board. So i'm asking questions to a user who probably doesn't exist anymore. 😄

Me too! I was reading the replies then going "who is that?" Then I saw shellshocker who hasn't posted in ages. Bahaha this is so weird. 😄

Hahaha! How does one even find a post from 4 years ago, that's what i'd like to know?!

I'm laughing at myself right now, i'm so stoopid. 😛

Posted by Jkats
Hahaha! How does one even find a post from 4 years ago, that's what i'd like to know?!

I'm laughing at myself right now, i'm so stoopid. 😛

Omg I'm dying over here lol. I was reading through and didn't realize it either and those last few messages made me lose it!

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Posted by shellshocker

Posted by Maddy

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
I play these games when I'm bored.

Is it fun to play with people's head and feelings?

Yes and no...

i think it is very easy for a Cancer to sense other's emotional needs. This is a good/bad thing, especially in growing relationships. We know what you want, but if we give it to you, you may come to expect it.. or you may start to take it (getting your needs met) for granted.

Then the Cancer will be wondering.. "does he/she really love me or just how i treat them? if they really love me.. let's see how they react when I DON'T give them what they want... when I DON'T provide for their emotional needs." I don't know if it ever ends?

This testing is crucial and necessary because I can't tell you how many times I've been used/taken advantage of in the past. Projected my own values and been shocked to find most people don't share them, or have non to speak of.

Heart pain is unbearable for Cancers. it really, really hurts us bad... Maybe not more than other signs, but it digs deep like a virus and lingers for so long. For other signs it could be like falling off your bike and breaking your arm. Ouch! But for Cancers it's like falling off your bike, getting your arm wrapped and twisted within your bike frame, then a car comes by and runs over them both...

Excuse my language, but isn't that mentality pretty fucking heartless?

So a Cancerian may hold out emotionally on you, just to see if you love them enough to stick around? Isn't that kind of narcissistic? And i'd think most people would bail, because that kind of behavior would make them think, and understandably so, that the said person doesn't care for them. Well that's how i'd perceive it. When in love, I expect to receive back, as much as I give into the relationship.

I dunno, I think that's game playing to the max, and calls for undue heartache for the person who is being "tested". Just my opinion.

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I can't help myself but to answer this now lol.

I can't speak for all cancer men but when I do this I'm not exactly doing it because of the other person. It's simply because I'm afraid of losing them. I text them to say hi, if they respond. Have a small conversation and everything's good and it makes me happy. Makes me happier when the other person talks first. Anyways, I also sometimes feel myself getting bored with the conversation and either choose to end it or not say anything depending on what it is. Like it said above if the person ign

If the person ignores or is real late on the response it makes me wonder if the person is ignoring me or just busy at the time. It depends on how well I know the person and any fears I might have. This becomes a reason why I like knowing what my partner is doing most of the time that way I don't run into cruel assumptions.

Posted by cancertheropy
If the person ignores or is real late on the response it makes me wonder if the person is ignoring me or just busy at the time. It depends on how well I know the person and any fears I might have. This becomes a reason why I like knowing what my partner is doing most of the time that way I don't run into cruel assumptions.

To respond to your comment up above here, didn't want mine to get cut off. So you will send a text, but won't respond back because you're afraid of losing that person? Sorry, but that makes no sense at all to me lol!

And the OP is wondering what is the point of her guy reaching out, but then doesn't get an answer after she replies. My crab's done this plenty of times and it baffles me.

Are crab men just extremely insecure and suspicious, is that the problem that lies deep within you guys?

How long has it been since he last respond? How long have you known each other for? From my own experience mine can go 2 days without texting, then he will get in touch on the day of the date to confirm plan.

They also don't measure text exchange and number of dates in details. He already forgot we are on 6th date. He said I already knew it's something like this, but I already lost track. He made fun of me and said a few months from now you will be telling me it's only 60 times we have been seeing each other.

Not sure if my scenarios apply to yours. Overall cancer men can get busy (mine has a demanding job) and might be going through a lot of stress. Does he treat you well in person? Is he putting in effort to get to know the real you? Is he nurturing and caring towards your emotions? If the answer is yes don't worry about the text, I know it's easier said than done. LOL

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