Cancer Man & Taurus Woman

I said “I miss you”

He said “I miss your mouth”

I replied “You miss me too ☺️”

He hasn’t replied yet, but if he does decide to respond to that, I’m positive it’ll most likely be a snub.

This is as good as it gets 😐

I have been reading this board a lot lately & empathising with the other women who are involved with Cancer men who give mixed messages. I admit I fear the worst too, that I will end up with nought & deeply hurt.

He wants me only for sex (only me & only sex) & he sort of expects me to be exclusive with him. He doesn’t have issue to not sleep & fool around or see & date others when I demanded that from him vocally. I can’t prove it but I have very positively determined that after many years of observation I am very much his obsession, that there are certain things he knew about me even when I never told him & he mirrors/reflects/leads in his life style because of me. & because of this, I know I’m pretty special to him but...

He holds back, & I have to hold back in order to protect myself too. He doesn’t want attachment or commitment, I let him be clear there isn’t & I’ll be gone as soon as I found someone else.

I know I shouldn’t settle for this, & I’m not.

He said he just wants sex with me, he doesn’t need anything more.

It’s not said as a way to push me away or to hurt me, but rather to inform me that his only needs is as simple as that. We are pretty assured of our trust & respect towards each other.

Of course, I’m still here because I wish there are more, reassurances & intimate & loving gestures from him which he would not give to me. I quietly allow myself to be strung along by him secretly wishing that 1 day I will receive all that I wish for.

Which leads me to wonder: how could he not need/want/desire anything more? Is he not human, like a typical 1, no matter time/place, which eventually & subsequently require love & attention?

He has Aquarius moon, which I always feel the need to understand this aspect of his more in order to understand his emotional needs.

Perhaps, he is satisfied enough, with the attention I give him from time to time.

Which leads me to question: what about me? Does he not care what I desire?

He has Scorpio Mars, Leo Venus, Leo Mercury... which I could relate how he shows through secretive ways & sometimes dramatic & rock solid grandeur of his confidence with his behaviours. He assumes & maintains control by withholding & not showing me all that he has, but yet skilfully making me reveal myself to him.

Lol, it sounds like a whole bullshit of justification for bad behaviours. I know someone is bound to say I’m overthinking & being delusional.

Thank you for reading anyway. I just need to share.

You are indeed overthinking but you have correctly assessed what's going on.

You give, he takes.

What about you? This is a fwb situation. It's possible to.be obsessed with your sex partner. Doesn't mean you want to commit.

You're going to either leave this dude alone and get into a more equitable actual relationship or accept the reality.

Own your choices.

He has been obsessed even before we were sex partners.

Although it seems like I’m giving & he’s taking a lot more than the other way around, the truth is I’m not giving/he’s not taking a lot... he hasn’t been difficult or extremely demanding, quite diplomatic & reasonable actually. I also own up to sex with him.

I accept the reality, I don’t really have a choice do I?

While I also keep myself open for someone else that may come along.

He is obsessed with your body, with the sex you give to him... “I miss your mouth”

This say it all, I’m really sorry.



How can anyone just say something like this? God

I’m not surprised with his obsessive tendency, with a Mars in Scorpio & all the fixed modality in his personal planets. Perhaps you are right that he is obsessed with sex, but I wonder why choose exclusively me, when he could have so many others. We only had sex 2 times, in almost 3 years, partly because we are currently living long distance (he’s away in another country pursuing further studies). Yet he is willing to wait out until he comes back for me.

You don’t have to be sorry for me, & no I don’t see the way he speaks as rude. I have learnt & appreciate his directness & bluntness, & I understand he doesn’t mean to hurt me.

I was on reddit, reading another post with similar circumstance as me. I guess what I’m looking for, as that OP on reddit, is what purpose is he doing this for?

& I found some enlightenment from the term “placeholder”. As in, my role as a holder in place to fulfill his needs until someone better, someone he actually sees as his ideal romantic partner, comes along.

Which leads me to question: does this mean he doesn’t see me as his ideal romantic partner? Are there some criteria I don’t fulfill?

I don’t really know the answer, as I haven’t been able to hear genuinely about this from him.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/54qq8f/33f_with_33m_is_there_such_thing_as_exclusive_fwb/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=comment_list

For every other females in the same shoes

Seems to me...no matter the advice given you are going to justify his behavior as seen in the post above...

I wish I could run out of justification

I just told him to find someone else to have sex with, that it’s actually very scary for me to continue like this with him & how he’s very capable of destroying me. I told him I never know where I stand with him & I never know what he wants from me.

Well, guess what he said... “then just stop everything”

I think the full moon recently must be making me extra emotional lately 🙁

Posted by taupixie
I just told him to find someone else to have sex with, that it’s actually very scary for me to continue like this with him & how he’s very capable of destroying me. I told him I never know where I stand with him & I never know what he wants from me.

Well, guess what he said... “then just stop everything”

I think the full moon recently must be making me extra emotional lately 🙁

Hopefully you'll follow through. Sounds like a very unhealthy situation.

Hopefully I could... thank you