Pink Bird
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Cancer man timeout.
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Posted by MaraiPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Marai
Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.click to expand
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
What kind of thread is this?
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Isolde
What kind of thread is this?
I love me...Me love me kind.
The kind that want you yell...@Gobby!!!🤦♀️click to expand
Thought so 😂 self love 🙄
Surprised gobby hasn’t already shared his life wisdom
Posted by MaraiPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Marai
Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
It wouldn't surprise me. Small island 😂click to expand
Now you’re scaring me
😱
😂😂😂😂
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Marai
Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
Wowowow...staaap. Please...
You thought Marais Arieses were same bloks?
You hadn’t walked the same from
https://i.imgur.com/vA7sNqz.gif
I’ll let you work it out lol 😂
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Isolde
What kind of thread is this?
I love me...Me love me kind.
The kind that want you yell...@Gobby!!!🤦♀️
Thought so 😂 self love 🙄
Surprised gobby hasn’t already shared his life wisdom
Time difference. Probably sleeping drunk somewhere in pub...then he wakes up all hanged over going 🧟♀️click to expand
Probably busy entertaining a lady friend on a Saturday night, not a Gemini ofc
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Isolde
What kind of thread is this?
I love me...Me love me kind.
The kind that want you yell...@Gobby!!!🤦♀️
Thought so 😂 self love 🙄
Surprised gobby hasn’t already shared his life wisdom
Time difference. Probably sleeping drunk somewhere in pub...then he wakes up all hanged over going 🧟♀️
Probably busy entertaining a lady friend on a Saturday night, not a Gemini ofc
I have a VERY hard time visualizing your fantasy...
Gobby...entertaining...lady?
Aren’t those words rejecting each other when put close together like rhat? 🤔click to expand
Yes, it’s a disturbing thought and I should stop visualising dxpers sex life.
Too much quarantine time has melted my brain, ask Marai
Posted by MaraiPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Isolde
What kind of thread is this?
I love me...Me love me kind.
The kind that want you yell...@Gobby!!!🤦♀️
Thought so 😂 self love 🙄
Surprised gobby hasn’t already shared his life wisdom
Time difference. Probably sleeping drunk somewhere in pub...then he wakes up all hanged over going 🧟♀️
Probably busy entertaining a lady friend on a Saturday night, not a Gemini ofc
I have a VERY hard time visualizing your fantasy...
Gobby...entertaining...lady?
Aren’t those words rejecting each other when put close together like rhat? 🤔
Yes, it’s a disturbing thought and I should stop visualising dxpers sex life.
Too much quarantine time has melted my brain, ask Marai
Its a good excuse to get out of any convo now!click to expand
Either way it’s no excuse to be thinking about gobby’s love life, I really don’t want to know
Posted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
If she deleted the post, thought the thread would disappear too
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by MaraiPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Isolde
What kind of thread is this?
I love me...Me love me kind.
The kind that want you yell...@Gobby!!!🤦♀️
Thought so 😂 self love 🙄
Surprised gobby hasn’t already shared his life wisdom
Time difference. Probably sleeping drunk somewhere in pub...then he wakes up all hanged over going 🧟♀️
Probably busy entertaining a lady friend on a Saturday night, not a Gemini ofc
I have a VERY hard time visualizing your fantasy...
Gobby...entertaining...lady?
Aren’t those words rejecting each other when put close together like rhat? 🤔
Yes, it’s a disturbing thought and I should stop visualising dxpers sex life.
Too much quarantine time has melted my brain, ask Marai
Its a good excuse to get out of any convo now!
Either way it’s no excuse to be thinking about gobby’s love life, I really don’t want to know
I would watch...but not alone...👭click to expand
Curiosity of a Gemini 😂
Posted by MaraiPosted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
We were a bit hard on her, weren't we?
Oh well... 🤷🏽♀️click to expand
Why were you being a dick, you’re usually the nice one out of us
Posted by MaraiPosted by IsoldePosted by MaraiPosted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
We were a bit hard on her, weren't we?
Oh well... 🤷🏽♀️
Why were you being a dick, you’re usually the nice one out of us
No dick, it's harsh love!
Don't punish me for telling the truth.click to expand
Tough love 😄
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by MaraiPosted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
We were a bit hard on her, weren't we?
Oh well... 🤷🏽♀️
Why were you being a dick, you’re usually the nice one out of us
I just stumbled upon your post where you said...
What kind of post is that?
Like...WTF—
And I found this:
Posted by AuroraBlond
I need to add - he is a bit chubby, not that tall, extremely attractive to me - kindest eyes in the world, biggest heart. I am 163 cm, have been called extremely beautiful and sexy on many occasions. I take care of myself and dress up. Both extremely intelligent people, even if I say so myself.click to expand
That’s a lot of description 😅 shame she deleted her question
Posted by MaraiPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by MaraiPosted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
We were a bit hard on her, weren't we?
Oh well... 🤷🏽♀️
Why were you being a dick, you’re usually the nice one out of us
I just stumbled upon your post where you said...
What kind of post is that?
Like...WTF—
And I found this:
Posted by AuroraBlond
I need to add - he is a bit chubby, not that tall, extremely attractive to me - kindest eyes in the world, biggest heart. I am 163 cm, have been called extremely beautiful and sexy on many occasions. I take care of myself and dress up. Both extremely intelligent people, even if I say so myself.
That’s a lot of description 😅 shame she deleted her question
If I remember correctly the Cancer man said he lost the connection after dating for 4 months. She just got out of a divorce (literally just finished) and needed to move for a job or whatever, and in those 4 months he met her son and moved in together. And she asked if Cancer man would come back or would still feel it... Something in those lines.
Do you understand now why I said what I said 😒click to expand
From all the description alone it doesn’t even sound real, cos no Crab would move in that fast (we’re infamous for being slow).
In 3 months we would still be sizing the person up, no way making commitments unless there’s been a established friendship for a long while.
I dunno, maybe it was clickbait. Cos they’ve deleted the profile altogether
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by MaraiPosted by IsoldePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by IsoldePosted by MaraiPosted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
We were a bit hard on her, weren't we?
Oh well... 🤷🏽♀️
Why were you being a dick, you’re usually the nice one out of us
I just stumbled upon your post where you said...
What kind of post is that?
Like...WTF—
And I found this:
Posted by AuroraBlond
I need to add - he is a bit chubby, not that tall, extremely attractive to me - kindest eyes in the world, biggest heart. I am 163 cm, have been called extremely beautiful and sexy on many occasions. I take care of myself and dress up. Both extremely intelligent people, even if I say so myself.
That’s a lot of description 😅 shame she deleted her question
If I remember correctly the Cancer man said he lost the connection after dating for 4 months. She just got out of a divorce (literally just finished) and needed to move for a job or whatever, and in those 4 months he met her son and moved in together. And she asked if Cancer man would come back or would still feel it... Something in those lines.
Do you understand now why I said what I said 😒
From all the description alone it doesn’t even sound real, cos no Crab would move in that fast (we’re infamous for being slow).
In 3 months we would still be sizing the person up, no way making commitments unless there’s been a established friendship for a long while.
I dunno, maybe it was clickbait. Cos they’ve deleted the profile altogether
She joined today and apparently hated it here so she left. I don’t think it was a clickbait...what was she baiting for?
So we are back to be pretty again...?click to expand
It could be someone’s sock puppet account. People like doing that here
All the description doesn’t sound authentic
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Marai
Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
It wouldn't surprise me. Small island 😂
Now you’re scaring me
😱
😂😂😂😂
You are wild cougars! I am ashamed of you. 🤦♀️click to expand
Living the dream 😄
Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
Someone quotes her. I am sure...
But second part...the amazingly stupid one...I don’t think anyone quoted.
She basically said Cancer man is chubby and short but she loves his smile. And she is been called absolutely gorgeous on several occasions and both of them are EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT people.
That was the End.
I think that shit knocked all of us down and out...
Because how can we...talk to EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT gorgeous woman like...if any of us were ABOVE that level.
It was too much pressure I guess...🤷♀️
I did see that part. She was a little full of herself 🥴 I guess she maybe needed the humbling. Lolclick to expand
Meh, even when Scorpio’s are smug they still wouldn’t say it like that.
But that’s my take on it 😅
Posted by Marai
Oh and he had relationship(s?) before trying to conceive for a child and couldn't and that partially had to do with him meeting the kid so quickly.
I dunnoooooooo
Sounds fishy
Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by IsoldePosted by PhoenixStormPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by PhoenixStorm
Y’all ran her off before I could even read her posts lol I think she deleted it
Someone quotes her. I am sure...
But second part...the amazingly stupid one...I don’t think anyone quoted.
She basically said Cancer man is chubby and short but she loves his smile. And she is been called absolutely gorgeous on several occasions and both of them are EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT people.
That was the End.
I think that shit knocked all of us down and out...
Because how can we...talk to EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT gorgeous woman like...if any of us were ABOVE that level.
It was too much pressure I guess...🤷♀️
I did see that part. She was a little full of herself 🥴 I guess she maybe needed the humbling. Lol
Meh, even when Scorpio’s are smug they still wouldn’t say it like that.
But that’s my take on it 😅
Agreed, I could see if she was using descriptive words to add context but as a Scorpio she should know better than to think superficial shit like appearance holds that much weight. I was just curious to see the rest of the original post to try to understand why she felt that was an important piece of info 🤨click to expand
Can’t imagine if a kid was involved, then a mother would care about those superficial aspects especially coming from a Scorpio.
Guess we’ll never know now 😆
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Marai
Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
It wouldn't surprise me. Small island 😂
Now you’re scaring me
😱
😂😂😂😂
You are wild cougars! I am ashamed of you. 🤦♀️
Living the dream 😄
You...DREAMED of me being ashamed of you? 🤷♀️click to expand
No I didn’t say that....
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by MaraiPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by Marai
Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
It wouldn't surprise me. Small island 😂
Now you’re scaring me
😱
😂😂😂😂
You are wild cougars! I am ashamed of you. 🤦♀️
Living the dream 😄
You...DREAMED of me being ashamed of you? 🤷♀️
No I didn’t say that....
🍷click to expand
Good mornin', folks!
Man this forum thing is entertaining, I give you all that : )
I noticed the post doesn't go away when you delete it - who knew! I'm 34 and have never posted anything on a forum before and here's this Crab that after 4 months, I'm so hooked - I'm actually doing this : ) No offense, of course. I don't mean to sound judgmental, although, from the way things are unraveling so far, it looks like you guys are prone to a tiny bit of judgment, so maybe offense is coming. I guess we'll see.
If I'm completely honest, I read a TON of Cancer and Cancer/Scorpio post, this forum has proven very useful so far, I really hoped we could be friends. I'm still clinging to that idea, kind of like not wanting to let go of my boyfriend, even though, after the confusion of his disappearing act has cleared, I'm much more inclined to break things off myself. We'll see.
And since I have started to take kind of an interest in astrology, and since I am enjoying immensely the way you have made my thread your own, and I'm also loving the Zodiac related banter, I humbly ask, can we be friends, pretty please?
But before you rule (get it?), let me clarify one more time, for the sake of, I don't know, in case someone is still even remotely curious and also because you totally didn't give me the benefit of the doubt. And that's fine, it seemed like you enjoyed it, so you can have it : )
I PROVIDED INFORMATION ON THE WAY WE LOOK, BECAUSE I REALLY THOUGHT IT WAS IMPORTANT INFORMATION AND THAT YOU WOULD WANT LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE!
I mean it, I read a very big thread on people sharing their personal experiences and Cancer men were saying they do tend to pick women with weight problems, mental issues or intellectually inferior. These men said they avoid better looking and healthier women, because they are too scared they might dump them and for a Cancer, since they are so devoted, is therefore, hell. And yes, I'm a Scorpio, so I spend most of my time inside my own head, worrying, about death, mostly, in one way or another, so I honestly, really, gun to my head - don't care about looks. I'm providing information based on feedback - I have been told I'm very pretty and very sexy. Don't get your panties in a bunch, please, beauty indeed is in the eye of the beholder and my eyes look inside the soul and hope to find the beauty there. And yet, since superficiality is not uncommon, people tend to judge people on their looks... Have you all noticed the trend? I have. Let's not pretend looks don't matter. To an extent. To a lot of people. They don't matter that much to me, so I have zero problem talking about mine. I still look very pretty, I'd give it 5 to 10 more years, motherhood indeed, is an exhausting bitch. And I do have that green-eyed magnetic Scorpio stare and I do like to use it. When in the mood. When it's fun. And my "boyfriend" has expressed his own concerns with me about his chubbiness, about his chill approach to dressing up (t-shirts and slacks) and has mentioned, on more than one occasion, that he feels a bit odd walking next to a woman that pretty. And during our silent fight last week, before going out to dinner, he actually said that women aren't supposed to be prettier than men, in nature that is and when I poked, he added maybe I should put a potato sack over my head, so I don't make him feel bad about his looks. I have never managed to feel so annoyed and still bite my tongue (I'm still under that Cancer spell). I do feel his insecurities, I just don't know how to reassure him yet. I don't know if I ever will be able to. Maybe he doesn't want me to. We'll see.
Loving this so far, on a lazy Sunday morning - I'm from eastern Europe, btw. Looks like you're mostly from the States?
Truce?
Man this forum thing is entertaining, I give you all that : )
I noticed the post doesn't go away when you delete it - who knew! I'm 34 and have never posted anything on a forum before and here's this Crab that after 4 months, I'm so hooked - I'm actually doing this : ) No offense, of course. I don't mean to sound judgmental, although, from the way things are unraveling so far, it looks like you guys are prone to a tiny bit of judgment, so maybe offense is coming. I guess we'll see.
If I'm completely honest, I read a TON of Cancer and Cancer/Scorpio post, this forum has proven very useful so far, I really hoped we could be friends. I'm still clinging to that idea, kind of like not wanting to let go of my boyfriend, even though, after the confusion of his disappearing act has cleared, I'm much more inclined to break things off myself. We'll see.
And since I have started to take kind of an interest in astrology, and since I am enjoying immensely the way you have made my thread your own, and I'm also loving the Zodiac related banter, I humbly ask, can we be friends, pretty please?
But before you rule (get it?), let me clarify one more time, for the sake of, I don't know, in case someone is still even remotely curious and also because you totally didn't give me the benefit of the doubt. And that's fine, it seemed like you enjoyed it, so you can have it : )
I PROVIDED INFORMATION ON THE WAY WE LOOK, BECAUSE I REALLY THOUGHT IT WAS IMPORTANT INFORMATION AND THAT YOU WOULD WANT LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE!
I mean it, I read a very big thread on people sharing their personal experiences and Cancer men were saying they do tend to pick women with weight problems, mental issues or intellectually inferior. These men said they avoid better looking and healthier women, because they are too scared they might dump them and for a Cancer, since they are so devoted, is therefore, hell. And yes, I'm a Scorpio, so I spend most of my time inside my own head, worrying, about death, mostly, in one way or another, so I honestly, really, gun to my head - don't care about looks. I'm providing information based on feedback - I have been told I'm very pretty and very sexy. Don't get your panties in a bunch, please, beauty indeed is in the eye of the beholder and my eyes look inside the soul and hope to find the beauty there. And yet, since superficiality is not uncommon, people tend to judge people on their looks... Have you all noticed the trend? I have. Let's not pretend looks don't matter. To an extent. To a lot of people. They don't matter that much to me, so I have zero problem talking about mine. I still look very pretty, I'd give it 5 to 10 more years, motherhood indeed, is an exhausting bitch. And I do have that green-eyed magnetic Scorpio stare and I do like to use it. When in the mood. When it's fun. And my "boyfriend" has expressed his own concerns with me about his chubbiness, about his chill approach to dressing up (t-shirts and slacks) and has mentioned, on more than one occasion, that he feels a bit odd walking next to a woman that pretty. And during our silent fight last week, before going out to dinner, he actually said that women aren't supposed to be prettier than men, in nature that is and when I poked, he added maybe I should put a potato sack over my head, so I don't make him feel bad about his looks. I have never managed to feel so annoyed and still bite my tongue (I'm still under that Cancer spell). I do feel his insecurities, I just don't know how to reassure him yet. I don't know if I ever will be able to. Maybe he doesn't want me to. We'll see.
Loving this so far, on a lazy Sunday morning - I'm from eastern Europe, btw. Looks like you're mostly from the States?
Truce?
Posted by AuroraBlond
Good mornin', folks!
Man this forum thing is entertaining, I give you all that : )
I noticed the post doesn't go away when you delete it - who knew! I'm 34 and have never posted anything on a forum before and here's this Crab that after 4 months, I'm so hooked - I'm actually doing this : ) No offense, of course. I don't mean to sound judgmental, although, from the way things are unraveling so far, it looks like you guys are prone to a tiny bit of judgment, so maybe offense is coming. I guess we'll see.
If I'm completely honest, I read a TON of Cancer and Cancer/Scorpio post, this forum has proven very useful so far, I really hoped we could be friends. I'm still clinging to that idea, kind of like not wanting to let go of my boyfriend, even though, after the confusion of his disappearing act has cleared, I'm much more inclined to break things off myself. We'll see.
And since I have started to take kind of an interest in astrology, and since I am enjoying immensely the way you have made my thread your own, and I'm also loving the Zodiac related banter, I humbly ask, can we be friends, pretty please?
But before you rule (get it?), let me clarify one more time, for the sake of, I don't know, in case someone is still even remotely curious and also because you totally didn't give me the benefit of the doubt. And that's fine, it seemed like you enjoyed it, so you can have it : )
I PROVIDED INFORMATION ON THE WAY WE LOOK, BECAUSE I REALLY THOUGHT IT WAS IMPORTANT INFORMATION AND THAT YOU WOULD WANT LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE!
I mean it, I read a very big thread on people sharing their personal experiences and Cancer men were saying they do tend to pick women with weight problems, mental issues or intellectually inferior. These men said they avoid better looking and healthier women, because they are too scared they might dump them and for a Cancer, since they are so devoted, is therefore, hell. And yes, I'm a Scorpio, so I spend most of my time inside my own head, worrying, about death, mostly, in one way or another, so I honestly, really, gun to my head - don't care about looks. I'm providing information based on feedback - I have been told I'm very pretty and very sexy. Don't get your panties in a bunch, please, beauty indeed is in the eye of the beholder and my eyes look inside the soul and hope to find the beauty there. And yet, since superficiality is not uncommon, people tend to judge people on their looks... Have you all noticed the trend? I have. Let's not pretend looks don't matter. To an extent. To a lot of people. They don't matter that much to me, so I have zero problem talking about mine. I still look very pretty, I'd give it 5 to 10 more years, motherhood indeed, is an exhausting bitch. And I do have that green-eyed magnetic Scorpio stare and I do like to use it. When in the mood. When it's fun. And my "boyfriend" has expressed his own concerns with me about his chubbiness, about his chill approach to dressing up (t-shirts and slacks) and has mentioned, on more than one occasion, that he feels a bit odd walking next to a woman that pretty. And during our silent fight last week, before going out to dinner, he actually said that women aren't supposed to be prettier than men, in nature that is and when I poked, he added maybe I should put a potato sack over my head, so I don't make him feel bad about his looks. I have never managed to feel so annoyed and still bite my tongue (I'm still under that Cancer spell). I do feel his insecurities, I just don't know how to reassure him yet. I don't know if I ever will be able to. Maybe he doesn't want me to. We'll see.
Loving this so far, on a lazy Sunday morning - I'm from eastern Europe, btw. Looks like you're mostly from the States?
Truce?
Yes, this place is nuts but you might get some genuine answers if you hang around long enough. Don’t delete again.
All the description you’ve given seems unnecessarily to the query, it does make sense now that you’ve said your from Eastern Europe. By default the Eastern European women are extremely pretty compared to the unattractive men out there.
Water signs care more about depth and mental/emotional connection, with trust and loyalty. It’s hard to believe this has all happened in the space of 4 months, moving too fast for a crab.
Newbies always undergo a test here, if you pass by not letting people walk over you... well you become one of the locals. In saying that, if you sound like you’re full of yourself you’ll get smashed, we are all human and have strengths and weaknesses and also remember we all have moods. Some days you get smashed just because of others moods. Just bite back. And sometimes, it’s just fun to sit eat your popcorn and enjoy the shitfights 🙂
Welcome back
Welcome back
I believe it was my energy that led the situation evolve so quickly. I have had two long term relationships before - 5 years with a Sagittarius, we moved in after 2 months. Followed by an 8 year relationship with another Sag - again, in 2 months, we were married for 8 years. So yeah, kind of the way my energy seems to flow in the beginning. And we did have a connection that was out of this world. With this Crab. And I had to move because of a job opportunity, which caused the sudden pressure of deciding - do we move in or try long distance? Which I don't do. I felt it was too quick for him, but this move was right for me and I knew it. So we decided to give us a chance, see how it goes. And he spoke of us living together even before my job offer, he was eager to lock me down, in a good way. He wanted to help me, be there for me, anything I need. His words. I was really reluctant to believe and act on it, given my recent divorce and the fact I have a 5 year old (I was really afraid of letting a new person in his life so soon). But again, it all felt too real and special to give up on it because of distance.
I have no idea how to unhide my original post, I feel so ashamed : )
I have no idea how to unhide my original post, I feel so ashamed : )
Posted by AuroraBlond
I believe it was my energy that led the situation evolve so quickly. I have had two long term relationships before - 5 years with a Sagittarius, we moved in after 2 months. Followed by an 8 year relationship with another Sag - again, in 2 months, we were married for 8 years. So yeah, kind of the way my energy seems to flow in the beginning. And we did have a connection that was out of this world. With this Crab. And I had to move because of a job opportunity, which caused the sudden pressure of deciding - do we move in or try long distance? Which I don't do. I felt it was too quick for him, but this move was right for me and I knew it. So we decided to give us a chance, see how it goes. And he spoke of us living together even before my job offer, he was eager to lock me down, in a good way. He wanted to help me, be there for me, anything I need. His words. I was really reluctant to believe and act on it, given my recent divorce and the fact I have a 5 year old (I was really afraid of letting a new person in his life so soon). But again, it all felt too real and special to give up on it because of distance.
I have no idea how to unhide my original post, I feel so ashamed : )
This was the vital info that was needed about job and relocation, and I agree Scorpion’s don’t do long distance.
You shouldn’t question to take a job because of a guy you’re recently dating, obviously it’s different if you’re in a committed relationship. You have to think about your own financial security especially if there’s a child involved and you would resent him later if you let the opportunity pass.
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Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
It wouldn't surprise me. Small island 😂
Now you’re scaring me
😱
😂😂😂😂
You are wild cougars! I am ashamed of you. 🤦♀️
Living the dream 😄
You...DREAMED of me being ashamed of you? 🤷♀️
No I didn’t say that....
🍷
Urghhhh...
I REALLY REALLY need a drink!
I haven’t one for a...month!
And you just teasing me like a stripper an impotent! 🤦♀️click to expand
You gave it up?
Don’t need it, better without it
👿Demon👿 drink
The Crab is currently thinking, working on himself, I feel. Day to of being separate. I don't think it's about me or our relationship, I think he has deep stuff in his past. I get that Cancers spend a huge time in their past. I hope he gets to heal. I don want him to be happy.
On the other hand, I am not the most patient person in the world. I'm having trouble loosing control, maybe that's my lesson here - I have shown incredible patience, just so that I don't wrong him or cause hurt. I am just not used to a man this emotional. Three Sags in my past, they let things go, man! they don't hold on to resentment or pain. That's usually me : )
I don't see how I can do long distance right now, I am really busy with my job and son, already too tired at times. He sensed my needs and wanted to jump and save me, I guess. But yes, all got too material in a way - work, cleaning, cooking, daycare, everyday stuff. We lost sight of our relationship, in a way. And I believe we are both scared.
I have no idea about placements, though. He was born on 20 July, 1975, Frankfurt, Germany, 2 pm or something like that.
On the other hand, I am not the most patient person in the world. I'm having trouble loosing control, maybe that's my lesson here - I have shown incredible patience, just so that I don't wrong him or cause hurt. I am just not used to a man this emotional. Three Sags in my past, they let things go, man! they don't hold on to resentment or pain. That's usually me : )
I don't see how I can do long distance right now, I am really busy with my job and son, already too tired at times. He sensed my needs and wanted to jump and save me, I guess. But yes, all got too material in a way - work, cleaning, cooking, daycare, everyday stuff. We lost sight of our relationship, in a way. And I believe we are both scared.
I have no idea about placements, though. He was born on 20 July, 1975, Frankfurt, Germany, 2 pm or something like that.
He’s in his crab shell hiding. He’s not comfortable living with you. He needs more time to date you rather than play house. You want to fix this? Ask him if he wants to get his own place near by.
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Posted by AuroraBlond
The Crab is currently thinking, working on himself, I feel. Day to of being separate. I don't think it's about me or our relationship, I think he has deep stuff in his past. I get that Cancers spend a huge time in their past. I hope he gets to heal. I don want him to be happy.
On the other hand, I am not the most patient person in the world. I'm having trouble loosing control, maybe that's my lesson here - I have shown incredible patience, just so that I don't wrong him or cause hurt. I am just not used to a man this emotional. Three Sags in my past, they let things go, man! they don't hold on to resentment or pain. That's usually me : )
I don't see how I can do long distance right now, I am really busy with my job and son, already too tired at times. He sensed my needs and wanted to jump and save me, I guess. But yes, all got too material in a way - work, cleaning, cooking, daycare, everyday stuff. We lost sight of our relationship, in a way. And I believe we are both scared.
I have no idea about placements, though. He was born on 20 July, 1975, Frankfurt, Germany, 2 pm or something like that.
You’re right about Sag’s, they’re so good with bouncing back. Water signs aren’t like that, although Pisces are more forgiving and flexible.
Seems difficult to find a solution here. You both need to have more conversations and not silent treatments. Communication is key here
That's the thing. I'm finding it really hard to propose solutions. I'm big on commitments, I don't make them lightly and I feel really committed to this relationship. Meaning, I'm ready to be there for him, always. But the fact he told me 3 days ago he is sorry that he can't express how much he loves me and the next day he packed a bag and wanted a break, saying he's not gone, but might be if he decided so - I mean, that's pain for me. Shouldn't he figure out what he wants and propose a solution? For me, it would be hard to even let him come back, the longer he's away. How do I know if the next time he feels hurt, he won't run away again and let me wonder...
And again, he was the one to propose living together, after 2 months, before my job offer even got in the mix. He was so eager to live together - kid and all. I really sense he wanted to keep me as close as possible, at that time, at least. How do you help a Crab shake off at least some of his insecurities. I feel like he doesn't believe that I love him. He claims he doesn't get jealous and at the same time I see him bursting with jealousy sometimes. One evening I went out by myself, I have had it with the silence and ignoring - when I got back, he had the most intense angry look. Still, claimed he was totally fine.
Maybe take a break, some people come to their senses once they realise they’ll lose you completely.
Also it’s not your job to fix him he’s an adult. You can be honest and say he needs to deal with his issues. Whether you wait or not is up to you to decide.
Also it’s not your job to fix him he’s an adult. You can be honest and say he needs to deal with his issues. Whether you wait or not is up to you to decide.
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Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
It wouldn't surprise me. Small island 😂
Now you’re scaring me
😱
😂😂😂😂
You are wild cougars! I am ashamed of you. 🤦♀️
Living the dream 😄
You...DREAMED of me being ashamed of you? 🤷♀️
No I didn’t say that....
🍷
Urghhhh...
I REALLY REALLY need a drink!
I haven’t one for a...month!
And you just teasing me like a stripper an impotent! 🤦♀️
You gave it up?
Don’t need it, better without it
👿Demon👿 drink
No. I haven’t given up but he doesn’t drink - so I am feeling stupid drinking in non drinking environment. So I don’t.
So you don’t touch booze at all? Not even fine wine?click to expand
He's good for you! ❤️
No booze, no drugs, no nothing lol. I did enough when I was younger to last me a lifetime 😬
I really need expert opinion on something - how do Crabs return after a break? Do they come back victorious and proud that they're back and you should be thankful for their grace or do they have a more humble approach?
Basically, yeah. Only, there was no actual issue, no actual drama, no real fight - I think he kept testing me, started creating stories in his head, somehow got disillusioned with me. We had a tense week - he was distant, cold, I tried to talk, he said it would pass. Only, it didn't. We tried talking, but no real issue came up, just a tiny disagreement that got resolved in a 5 minute phone conversation a week ago. But I guess he thought I wasn't as perfect as he hoped I was. After 5 days of distance, though we tried doing stuff together, I got pissed. And when I'm annoyed, it shows. We talked a bit, didn't get anywhere, only he did - for a few days to think things over, he said.
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Why after 4 months you were living together and he met your son?
I can see how he lost the connection. How about finding out first how you are as a couple instead of a family. Jesus
What's up with all the explanation for looks, so redundant in this matter.
Marai...I didn’t know you had Aries to Scorpio rship ...as supposed to mine...opposite...I’ve missed what happened to your Aries. 🤷♀️
I had relationship with two Arieses, one Aries/Leo Moon and we wanted different things. And one Aries/Scorp Moon which was a rollercoaster of drama that is too much to explain. @MyStarsshine can vouche 😅
Scorp was a summer love once, before both Arieses, and feelings are still here.
I still think it was the same bloke lol
I’ve never walked the same since 😂🤣😂
It wouldn't surprise me. Small island 😂
Now you’re scaring me
😱
😂😂😂😂
You are wild cougars! I am ashamed of you. 🤦♀️
Living the dream 😄
You...DREAMED of me being ashamed of you? 🤷♀️
No I didn’t say that....
🍷
Urghhhh...
I REALLY REALLY need a drink!
I haven’t one for a...month!
And you just teasing me like a stripper an impotent! 🤦♀️
You gave it up?
Don’t need it, better without it
👿Demon👿 drink
No. I haven’t given up but he doesn’t drink - so I am feeling stupid drinking in non drinking environment. So I don’t.
So you don’t touch booze at all? Not even fine wine?
He's good for you! ❤️
No booze, no drugs, no nothing lol. I did enough when I was younger to last me a lifetime 😬
Yeah...he had done his share at his wild youth.
He was so bad - I am surprised he had survived!
Lol
Now I am calling his place my rehab.
I’ve heard from another friend who was married to an Aries that he was totally unable to have an argument and because Aries dint listen - she went on telling him her displeasure but he would shut down when facing drama. It’s like she is not allowed to have a good old fashion fight!! Lol
I’ve notice that myself.
And I was like wait - man rips aluminum can in half while having casual conversation BUT he can’t stand me raising my voice because I am emotional talker...—?
NOBODY describing Aries correctly! Why? 🤷♀️click to expand
They can be very sensitive
Nice : )
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Okay, fun is back : )
I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.
For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?
And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.
I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.
For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?
And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by pinkbird03
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣click to expand
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
I suppose you are all right. I'm just not used to conflict in relationships being addressed in such a manner. Sagittarius men have always talked openly about stuff and have been able to let them go pretty easily. It's really new to me, this Crab stuff. And since a quitter I am not, I decided to find out more this way. Seemed to me, this sign does a lot of internal reflection on stuff.
And yes, my pride has been hurt. But we've been together for 4 months, I'll manage the fact that he dumped me. I just didn't want to pout and give into my pride. I actually wanted to understand better. I thought people here relied on zodiac traits, rather bashing people they dislike.
And yes, my pride has been hurt. But we've been together for 4 months, I'll manage the fact that he dumped me. I just didn't want to pout and give into my pride. I actually wanted to understand better. I thought people here relied on zodiac traits, rather bashing people they dislike.
That's exactly the opinion I needed. Is it really that obvious when someone did something you felt was unjust, to react this way? Is that a Cancer trait, is that the common reaction from men of any sign and have I spent too much time with Sag men to think people can talk openly, not shutting the other one out?
much.
He has Moon in Virgo, Mercury in Leo, Venus, Mars and Jupiter in Gemini, Saturn in Leo, Uranus in Scorpio, Neptune in Sag, Pluto in Libra.
I have Moon in Sag, Mercury in Scorpio, Venus in Sag, Mars and Jupiter in Capricorn, Saturn in Scorpio, Uranus and Neptune in Sag, Pluto in Scorpio.
Is that too much info, I don't know what is needed, actually.Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by AuroraBlond
I suppose you are all right. I'm just not used to conflict in relationships being addressed in such a manner. Sagittarius men have always talked openly about stuff and have been able to let them go pretty easily. It's really new to me, this Crab stuff. And since a quitter I am not, I decided to find out more this way. Seemed to me, this sign does a lot of internal reflection on stuff.
And yes, my pride has been hurt. But we've been together for 4 months, I'll manage the fact that he dumped me. I just didn't want to pout and give into my pride. I actually wanted to understand better. I thought people here relied on zodiac traits, rather bashing people they dislike.
What are your placements? Though Scorpio and cancer can be compatible, there can also be differences elsewhere in the chart that cause conflict and impairs communication. It seems you’re more forward and want to address things head on.. he is more guarded and closed off. I would be curious to see if you have more fire/air in your chart that makes you more assertive and maybe he has more water and earth in his chart that makes him withdraw.click to expand
hing. It was our first time communicating differencies. We had incredible communication, sometimes read our minds, it was freaky. We had amazing time, every time. Bliss.
I apologized, yes, I read that was a thing Cancers appreciate. I am always there to offer an apology. And honestly, I wasn't probing that much. At least what I thought. I was sincerely concerned something was up, I only wanted to offer to talk about it. Seems like he didn't want to. Yet his attitude showed annoyance on his part.
And that's what I'm trying to figure out - do you really need to walk on eggshells all the time? I'm just not sure I can keep doing that for long. It's emotionally exhausting. I'm a sensitive person too. Maybe we're too similar.Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by AuroraBlond
Okay, fun is back : )
I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.
For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?
And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.
Is this the only time you guys have had issues with communication?
You were probing and digging for answers which made him retreat into his shell, that was your bad on that part. Cancers are moody as hell and sometimes you just gotta detach and let them be moody and realize it has little to do with you.
But the ongoing silent treatment on his end was equally unnecessary. It sounds like he’s trying to punish you, which is childish and toxic. You guys are going to have to find a happy medium. You will have to learn to back off when he’s retreating into his shell, and he is going to have to learn to stop holding grudges like a temperamental child.
If he acts like this, do you really want him to come back? Have you tried apologizing yet for doing the digging/probing and asked if you can put it behind you? As far as him refusing to drive that day, maybe he was just having a mood. You’ll have to choose your battles wisely. I have anxiety too when driving in unknown areas so I get it. But That is not something worth arguing over.click to expand
ar wrong. He was born in 1977. 20 of July, Frankfurt, Germany, 6 pm. We talked about it in our chats, I double checked now.Posted by bmoon8Posted by AuroraBlond
Thank you so much.
He has Moon in Virgo, Mercury in Leo, Venus, Mars and Jupiter in Gemini, Saturn in Leo, Uranus in Scorpio, Neptune in Sag, Pluto in Libra.
I have Moon in Sag, Mercury in Scorpio, Venus in Sag, Mars and Jupiter in Capricorn, Saturn in Scorpio, Uranus and Neptune in Sag, Pluto in Scorpio.
Is that too much info, I don't know what is needed, actually.Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by AuroraBlond
I suppose you are all right. I'm just not used to conflict in relationships being addressed in such a manner. Sagittarius men have always talked openly about stuff and have been able to let them go pretty easily. It's really new to me, this Crab stuff. And since a quitter I am not, I decided to find out more this way. Seemed to me, this sign does a lot of internal reflection on stuff.
And yes, my pride has been hurt. But we've been together for 4 months, I'll manage the fact that he dumped me. I just didn't want to pout and give into my pride. I actually wanted to understand better. I thought people here relied on zodiac traits, rather bashing people they dislike.
What are your placements? Though Scorpio and cancer can be compatible, there can also be differences elsewhere in the chart that cause conflict and impairs communication. It seems you’re more forward and want to address things head on.. he is more guarded and closed off. I would be curious to see if you have more fire/air in your chart that makes you more assertive and maybe he has more water and earth in his chart that makes him withdraw.
You posted that his birth information as July 20, 1975 in Frankfurt, Germany at 2 PM or something.
This is the birth chart for that date of birth, time, and location:
Sun Cancer 27°12'
Moon Sagittarius 25°51'
Mercury Cancer 14°02'
Venus Virgo 7°01'
Mars Taurus 13°30'
Jupiter Aries 23°40'
Saturn Cancer 23°09'
Uranus Libra 28°26'
Neptune Sagittarius 9°17' R
Pluto Libra 6°49'
Lilith Pisces 18°25'
N Node Scorpio 29°18'click to expand
ine! And my 5 year old is a Scorpio too!Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by pinkbird03Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by pinkbird03
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.click to expand
ght it was all in my head. The silent treatment does feel like abuse! Thank you. For giving me your perspective.
It's just that, when it's good, it's pure bliss. I can't even explain it. But I'm glad we're getting to know each other better. Coming out of a divorce, even though when I love, I love profoundly, it's hard for me to show the patience. But I'm trying. I'm still curious about him. We'll see. Thank you again.Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by AuroraBlond
That's the thing. It was our first time communicating differencies. We had incredible communication, sometimes read our minds, it was freaky. We had amazing time, every time. Bliss.
I apologized, yes, I read that was a thing Cancers appreciate. I am always there to offer an apology. And honestly, I wasn't probing that much. At least what I thought. I was sincerely concerned something was up, I only wanted to offer to talk about it. Seems like he didn't want to. Yet his attitude showed annoyance on his part.
And that's what I'm trying to figure out - do you really need to walk on eggshells all the time? I'm just not sure I can keep doing that for long. It's emotionally exhausting. I'm a sensitive person too. Maybe we're too similar.Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by AuroraBlond
Okay, fun is back : )
I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.
For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?
And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.
Is this the only time you guys have had issues with communication?
You were probing and digging for answers which made him retreat into his shell, that was your bad on that part. Cancers are moody as hell and sometimes you just gotta detach and let them be moody and realize it has little to do with you.
But the ongoing silent treatment on his end was equally unnecessary. It sounds like he’s trying to punish you, which is childish and toxic. You guys are going to have to find a happy medium. You will have to learn to back off when he’s retreating into his shell, and he is going to have to learn to stop holding grudges like a temperamental child.
If he acts like this, do you really want him to come back? Have you tried apologizing yet for doing the digging/probing and asked if you can put it behind you? As far as him refusing to drive that day, maybe he was just having a mood. You’ll have to choose your battles wisely. I have anxiety too when driving in unknown areas so I get it. But That is not something worth arguing over.
This is why I said I would ask yourself if this is really what you want? If this is how he is going to handle conflict in the future, that’s good to know before you go any further.
Bmoon pulled his chart and it looks like he has cancer sun AND cancer mercury (communication) which maybe that’s why he’s withdrawn and pulls back into his shell. His venus is in Virgo though (mine is too) venus in Virgo is usually willing to work at relationships.. so that’s a good thing IF you really want him back. But that silent treatment would wear on anyone over time. I’m a Scorpio sun with cancer moon and even I think silent treatment is a form of abuse and I will only tolerate so much of it.click to expand
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