Cancer man timeout. (Page 2)

's an excellent talker and communicator. He is intuitive, he can speak his mind, but only when he has something good to say. And there's more - he prefers communication via chat. It was loads of fun in the beginning, but now, when we live together, I need face to face open communication. When needed. He seems really, really shy with me.

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by bmoon8

Posted by AuroraBlond

I got his year wrong. He was born in 1977. 20 of July, Frankfurt, Germany, 6 pm. We talked about it in our chats, I double checked now.

Posted by bmoon8

Posted by AuroraBlond

Thank you so much.

He has Moon in Virgo, Mercury in Leo, Venus, Mars and Jupiter in Gemini, Saturn in Leo, Uranus in Scorpio, Neptune in Sag, Pluto in Libra.

I have Moon in Sag, Mercury in Scorpio, Venus in Sag, Mars and Jupiter in Capricorn, Saturn in Scorpio, Uranus and Neptune in Sag, Pluto in Scorpio.

Is that too much info, I don't know what is needed, actually.

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by AuroraBlond

I suppose you are all right. I'm just not used to conflict in relationships being addressed in such a manner. Sagittarius men have always talked openly about stuff and have been able to let them go pretty easily. It's really new to me, this Crab stuff. And since a quitter I am not, I decided to find out more this way. Seemed to me, this sign does a lot of internal reflection on stuff.

And yes, my pride has been hurt. But we've been together for 4 months, I'll manage the fact that he dumped me. I just didn't want to pout and give into my pride. I actually wanted to understand better. I thought people here relied on zodiac traits, rather bashing people they dislike.

What are your placements? Though Scorpio and cancer can be compatible, there can also be differences elsewhere in the chart that cause conflict and impairs communication. It seems you’re more forward and want to address things head on.. he is more guarded and closed off. I would be curious to see if you have more fire/air in your chart that makes you more assertive and maybe he has more water and earth in his chart that makes him withdraw.

You posted that his birth information as July 20, 1975 in Frankfurt, Germany at 2 PM or something.

This is the birth chart for that date of birth, time, and location:

Sun Cancer 27°12'

Moon Sagittarius 25°51'

Mercury Cancer 14°02'

Venus Virgo 7°01'

Mars Taurus 13°30'

Jupiter Aries 23°40'

Saturn Cancer 23°09'

Uranus Libra 28°26'

Neptune Sagittarius 9°17' R

Pluto Libra 6°49'

Lilith Pisces 18°25'

N Node Scorpio 29°18'

Zodiac : Tropical

Sun Cancer 27°51'

Moon Virgo 18°55'

Mercury Leo 18°19'

Venus Gemini 15°18'

Mars Gemini 2°09'

Jupiter Gemini 24°04'

Saturn Leo 17°25'

Uranus Scorpio 7°41'

Neptune Sagittarius 13°42' R

Pluto Libra 11°40'

Lilith Gemini 9°52'

N Node Libra 18°47'

All that damn Gemini in his chart you would think he could hold an adult conversation 🥴

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Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

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Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

Seems like solid advice to me 🤣🤣🤣

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Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

I do agree with this though... lately I’ve been talking to a Taurus sun/Scorpio moon with Aries Venus and he is very direct, always probing and asking what’s on my mind, what I’m thinking about. Sometimes it’s refreshing other times it’s intense and makes me clam up more.

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Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

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n! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

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ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

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so in the right place for that! You have no idea. I enjoy the occasional painful experience, when applied properly.

So yeah, do go on. I'm really curious what you've got.

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

🤣🤣

You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅

I can’t! 🤦‍♀️

It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh

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Posted by AuroraBlond

Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

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Lordt.

ly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.

I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by AuroraBlond

Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.

Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.

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few times. A forum virgin. Do excuse my lack of knowledge on how to reply the proper way.

Still, others have no trouble communicating.

But where did the teeth go?

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by AuroraBlond

Same here, dude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

Even your replies are fucked up!

All I can see is:

ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )

Only your stuff is placed on top as supposed to on the bottom following previous reply...🤷‍♀️

Are you using extremely intelligent software or something?

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few times. A forum virgin. Do excuse my lack of knowledge on how to reply the proper way.

Still, others have no trouble communicating.

But where did the teeth go?

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by AuroraBlond

Same here, dude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

Even your replies are fucked up!

All I can see is:

ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )

Only your stuff is placed on top as supposed to on the bottom following previous reply...🤷‍♀️

Are you using extremely intelligent software or something?

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it. Shame on you. Pushiness payback. No more fun for you.

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

🤣🤣

You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅

I can’t! 🤦‍♀️

It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh

I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...

Can you see it well? 🤷‍♀️

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Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

🤣🤣

You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅

I can’t! 🤦‍♀️

It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh

I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...

Can you see it well? 🤷‍♀️

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Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by AuroraBlond

Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

If he called and asked how your day went it sounds like things are on the mend. Next time he shuts down though, back all the way off because trying to pull him out of his shell will only prolong it and make him hide deeper. With all that sag in your chart you have a lot of energy, so when he does this I can understand why you’re like “well, what now?!”. Just try shifting that energy elsewhere when he is having a mood, like go to the gym or workout to work off some steam and frustration and to distract you from wanting to probe. With cancers, the more you back off the more likely they are to come toward you.

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Posted by AuroraBlond

That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.

I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by AuroraBlond

Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.

Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.

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Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by AuroraBlond

That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.

I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by AuroraBlond

Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.

Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.

I would be seriously pissed off being punished by someone who doesn’t look as good as I am...even if our intelligence is a match...still! How really big is his dick so he is acting like all that? It’s almost like if he thought you can’t find better man...or any man...asshole! 🥶

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Posted by AuroraBlond

I said it a few times. A forum virgin. Do excuse my lack of knowledge on how to reply the proper way.

Still, others have no trouble communicating.

But where did the teeth go?

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by AuroraBlond

Same here, dude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

Even your replies are fucked up!

All I can see is:

ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )

Only your stuff is placed on top as supposed to on the bottom following previous reply...🤷‍♀️

Are you using extremely intelligent software or something?

I don’t bite defective products...might be made in China...🤷‍♀️

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Posted by Isolde

Posted by AuroraBlond

That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.

I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by AuroraBlond

Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.

Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.

Yeah, he’s being immature and controlling. Not done with the relationship by the looks of it.

Oh and when you’re replying back on posts, go to the bottom of the comments and then write your reply. It’s easier to read that way 😊

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Posted by Isolde

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

Posted by GemiAwesomeAss

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

🤣🤣

You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅

I can’t! 🤦‍♀️

It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh

I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...

Can you see it well? 🤷‍♀️

She’s quoting at the top instead of bottom, I can see the same as you

...and it starts half word cut off?

I am on the phone so I thought that’s the issue.

Hmmm...I guess me and her haven’t meant to be...

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Posted by AuroraBlond

Posted by Isolde

Posted by AuroraBlond

That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.

I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by AuroraBlond

Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.

He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.

Posted by Isolde

Posted by PhoenixStorm

Posted by Isolde

I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.

Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.

As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.

This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.

If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.

Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.

Yeah, he’s being immature and controlling. Not done with the relationship by the looks of it.

Oh and when you’re replying back on posts, go to the bottom of the comments and then write your reply. It’s easier to read that way 😊

Thank you! : )

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He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.

Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣

Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.

He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.

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I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.

As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷‍♀️

🤣🤣

You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅

I can’t! 🤦‍♀️

It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh

I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...

Can you see it well? 🤷‍♀️

She’s quoting at the top instead of bottom, I can see the same as you

...and it starts half word cut off?

I am on the phone so I thought that’s the issue.

Hmmm...I guess me and her haven’t meant to be...

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He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.

Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣

Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.

He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.

Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.

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He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.

Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣

Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.

He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.

Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.

You know, the thought has crossed my mind. There's something fishy, indeed. Again, we'll see : )

I'll move onto different activities now. The fun of poking in his brain has worn off. You have all been really helpful.

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Posted by pinkbird03

He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.

Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣

Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.

He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.

Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.

You know, the thought has crossed my mind. There's something fishy, indeed. Again, we'll see : )

I'll move onto different activities now. The fun of poking in his brain has worn off. You have all been really helpful.

I agree. Especially the bike incident. That seemed very off. As if that was the day he met someone else or cheated on you that day.

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He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.

Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣

Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.

He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.

Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.

You know, the thought has crossed my mind. There's something fishy, indeed. Again, we'll see : )

I'll move onto different activities now. The fun of poking in his brain has worn off. You have all been really helpful.

I agree. Especially the bike incident. That seemed very off. As if that was the day he met someone else or cheated on you that day.

I'm thinking someone from his past. I don't know. I kind of know it.

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He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.

Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣

Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.

He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.

Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.

did you do it?

me never. i thought we cancers are pure from that shit. jk, but srsly i've never done it and i have a BIG datas.

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Posted by pinkbird03

He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.

Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣

Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.

He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.

Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.

did you do it?

me never. i thought we cancers are pure from that shit. jk, but srsly i've never done it and i have a BIG datas.

The only guy I ever cheated on was a scorpio... because I was bored with him. I wanted to breakup with him but we were in college with the same friends. That was hard to give my friends up. Eventually I ended it.

But I’ve seen a lot of cancer men cheat.

you were lucky. so the scorpio did nothing— i left one scorpio, and after 10y he is still on my back. and no, i'm not that hot. he is insane and i had a bad judgment. i think he will follow me until i die. horrible. yes, called the police....

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Okay, fun is back : )

I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.

For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?

And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.

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Okay, fun is back : )

I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.

For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?

And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.

No one has time to kiss his ass. Leave him alone and focus on you and yours. Once you distance yourself, either he will come for you or he wont. Live your life. Forget the into you one minute, detached the next. Go for consistency.

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