@AuroraBlond
6 Years
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I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
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Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
Seems like solid advice to me 🤣🤣🤣
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I ran out of options, at this point they need something to exhaust them out 🤣
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
I do agree with this though... lately I’ve been talking to a Taurus sun/Scorpio moon with Aries Venus and he is very direct, always probing and asking what’s on my mind, what I’m thinking about. Sometimes it’s refreshing other times it’s intense and makes me clam up more.
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That Aries Venus is going to have a huge appetite, if you don’t feel like answering questions just shove food in his face, or your assets. Works either way 😉😂
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
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🤣🤣
You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅
n! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
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ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
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so in the right place for that! You have no idea. I enjoy the occasional painful experience, when applied properly.
So yeah, do go on. I'm really curious what you've got.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
🤣🤣
You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅
I can’t! 🤦♀️
It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh
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Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
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If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.
Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.
Lordt.
😭😭
ly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.
I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.
Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.
Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.
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few times. A forum virgin. Do excuse my lack of knowledge on how to reply the proper way.
Still, others have no trouble communicating.
But where did the teeth go?
Same here, dude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
Even your replies are fucked up!
All I can see is:
ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )
Only your stuff is placed on top as supposed to on the bottom following previous reply...🤷♀️
Are you using extremely intelligent software or something?
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few times. A forum virgin. Do excuse my lack of knowledge on how to reply the proper way.
Still, others have no trouble communicating.
But where did the teeth go?
Same here, dude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
Even your replies are fucked up!
All I can see is:
ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )
Only your stuff is placed on top as supposed to on the bottom following previous reply...🤷♀️
Are you using extremely intelligent software or something?
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it. Shame on you. Pushiness payback. No more fun for you.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
🤣🤣
You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅
I can’t! 🤦♀️
It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh
I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...
Can you see it well? 🤷♀️
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I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
🤣🤣
You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅
I can’t! 🤦♀️
It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh
I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...
Can you see it well? 🤷♀️
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She’s quoting at the top instead of bottom, I can see the same as you
Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
If he called and asked how your day went it sounds like things are on the mend. Next time he shuts down though, back all the way off because trying to pull him out of his shell will only prolong it and make him hide deeper. With all that sag in your chart you have a lot of energy, so when he does this I can understand why you’re like “well, what now?!”. Just try shifting that energy elsewhere when he is having a mood, like go to the gym or workout to work off some steam and frustration and to distract you from wanting to probe. With cancers, the more you back off the more likely they are to come toward you.
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Thank you so much!
I'm not sure if I want to do that. I'm really allergic to drama at the moment. I do long for balance and levity. But I get he might need something else. Time will tell. Thank you again so much! Has been really helpful. I had never met anyone quite so sensitive.
That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.
I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.
Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.
Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.
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Yeah, he’s being immature and controlling. Not done with the relationship by the looks of it.
Oh and when you’re replying back on posts, go to the bottom of the comments and then write your reply. It’s easier to read that way 😊
That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.
I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.
Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.
Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.
I would be seriously pissed off being punished by someone who doesn’t look as good as I am...even if our intelligence is a match...still! How really big is his dick so he is acting like all that? It’s almost like if he thought you can’t find better man...or any man...asshole! 🥶
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You know, behind all the random banter, you do see the light, occasionally. And you know, it's not about the size. But man, can he rattle me in bed. I'm a Scorpio, I'm not a virgin in that department. Still, he gave me lots to think about. Bedroom wise. No one wants to loose a sure orgasm. Or multiple ones.
I said it a few times. A forum virgin. Do excuse my lack of knowledge on how to reply the proper way.
Still, others have no trouble communicating.
But where did the teeth go?
Same here, dude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
Even your replies are fucked up!
All I can see is:
ude! Hence the new forum experience. Still, loads of fun : )
Only your stuff is placed on top as supposed to on the bottom following previous reply...🤷♀️
Are you using extremely intelligent software or something?
I don’t bite defective products...might be made in China...🤷♀️
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So you finally learned how to resist temptation. I'm happy for you. And proud for you. I hope it sticks.
That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.
I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.
Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.
Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.
Yeah, he’s being immature and controlling. Not done with the relationship by the looks of it.
Oh and when you’re replying back on posts, go to the bottom of the comments and then write your reply. It’s easier to read that way 😊
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Thank you! : )
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
🤣🤣
You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅
I can’t! 🤦♀️
It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh
I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...
Can you see it well? 🤷♀️
She’s quoting at the top instead of bottom, I can see the same as you
...and it starts half word cut off?
I am on the phone so I thought that’s the issue.
Hmmm...I guess me and her haven’t meant to be...
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It’s the same for me, the first letters are cut off for some reason. Think she managed to figure it out now, it’s not always easy to use this site as a beginner
And no, you don’t have chemistry with this Scopio 😅
That's exactly what has me wondering. When he left, he only took his work laptop and a pillow, since there were none left in his old place. Nothing else. No razor blade, no other pair of shoes, not the other stuff he uses every day (recreationally). It's like he went to the park or something. I'm pretty sure he didn't get any clothes. Not his favorite ones, for sure. But then again, trying not to read too much into it.
I do get the sense I'm being punished, not dumped. Like he seeks control.
Thanks, again! I was all for a break in tension through some nice time and nice sex! I have no idea what happened. Situation got away from me. I will give it a few more days, probably. But I'm really not liking this. Feels like he's prolonging the silence between us. Which I just don't understand. Unless he's really done and simply doesn't want to say so. Which, given what I read for Cancers, I understand. No judgement.
He did contact me last night, after he left in the morning. He asked how my day went and then told me he would go out with his best friend for the night. But that might be just his caring nature. I'm not reading too much into it right now. I really don't need the pain right now.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
I have mercury in scorp and mars in sag... I can withdraw at times because of my Crabby moon, but I do agree that it’s important for an over thinker to be in a relationship with someone who can communicate effectively. Otherwise we (overthinkers) will draw our own conclusions and that never ends well.
Being around Sag’s and even Aries is great for being blunt and direct, I love it. But it’s not for everyone.
As for sulking for a day or two is fine but anything longer is a tense unhealthy environment.
This is bad advice... either they have a full blown argument or have intense rough sex to get it out of their system.
If he was done then he’d be gone. Crabs don’t hang around for the mess behind.
Means there’s still hope here, have you directly said you don’t like the silent treatments? That you want to have an adult civilised conversation.
Yeah, he’s being immature and controlling. Not done with the relationship by the looks of it.
Oh and when you’re replying back on posts, go to the bottom of the comments and then write your reply. It’s easier to read that way 😊
Thank you! : )
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You’re welcome
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.
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Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.
I really think dating so many Sag’s has conditioned her too much, if this doesn’t work out then the next guy will need to be a direct communicator.
As my Scorpio cousin can deal with any man - I am surprised that Scorpio woman is confused with her man...specially an extremely intelligent woman! 🤷♀️
🤣🤣
You’re not going to let that one go are you 😅
I can’t! 🤦♀️
It’s so juicy and yummy and I am sinking my teeth into it...like if it was a very raw burger that is still squealing a bit while I am biting...🙄aaahhhh
I jinxed it! Now I can see her posts all messed up cut on a middle or something and on TOP as supposed to at the bottom...
Can you see it well? 🤷♀️
She’s quoting at the top instead of bottom, I can see the same as you
...and it starts half word cut off?
I am on the phone so I thought that’s the issue.
Hmmm...I guess me and her haven’t meant to be...
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If it's not in the stars
It's not in our hearts.
Don't dwell on the past,
Move on to the Aries gals.
Sorry for the mediocre rhyme. Bite me again, I might put more effort into it.
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.
Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.
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You know, the thought has crossed my mind. There's something fishy, indeed. Again, we'll see : )
I'll move onto different activities now. The fun of poking in his brain has worn off. You have all been really helpful.
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.
Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.
You know, the thought has crossed my mind. There's something fishy, indeed. Again, we'll see : )
I'll move onto different activities now. The fun of poking in his brain has worn off. You have all been really helpful.
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I agree. Especially the bike incident. That seemed very off. As if that was the day he met someone else or cheated on you that day.
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.
Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.
You know, the thought has crossed my mind. There's something fishy, indeed. Again, we'll see : )
I'll move onto different activities now. The fun of poking in his brain has worn off. You have all been really helpful.
I agree. Especially the bike incident. That seemed very off. As if that was the day he met someone else or cheated on you that day.
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I'm thinking someone from his past. I don't know. I kind of know it.
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.
Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.
You know, the thought has crossed my mind. There's something fishy, indeed. Again, we'll see : )
I'll move onto different activities now. The fun of poking in his brain has worn off. You have all been really helpful.
I agree. Especially the bike incident. That seemed very off. As if that was the day he met someone else or cheated on you that day.
I'm thinking someone from his past. I don't know. I kind of know it.
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Well where did he say he spend the night when you were at your sisters? Maybe he was at another girls place. Could explain why he didn’t want to take ur car. So the other girl wouldn’t question it.
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.
Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.
did you do it?
me never. i thought we cancers are pure from that shit. jk, but srsly i've never done it and i have a BIG datas.
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The only guy I ever cheated on was a scorpio... because I was bored with him. I wanted to breakup with him but we were in college with the same friends. That was hard to give my friends up. Eventually I ended it.
But I’ve seen a lot of cancer men cheat.
He needs space to miss you. When you act like you don’t care anymore, he will start to care again. But his issues with you and why he’s considering to break up with you still remain. You’re a partnership. It’s not only his job to come up with solutions. At this point he doesn’t even feel comfortable telling you what his problems are. That indicates he doesn’t feel safe around you. He also isn’t happy if he wants to break up. What do you think you’ve done to make him feel this way? You must know your part in this.
Have you just nicely explain to her that she is full of shit? 🤣🤣🤣
Lol it’s definitely one of those cases where the person thinks they did nothing wrong and blames everything on the guy. I haven’t heard one bad thing about him. Him shutting down is a reaction to something she did. That’s totally understandable.
He is acting like a child. 😑 i can understand a temporary silent treatment to retract and simmer down, but 7 days of silent treatment as a punishment? My 5 year old isn’t even that temperamental.
Yes, I just read that part about 7 days. I think he’s talking to someone else and this is his way of ending things.
did you do it?
me never. i thought we cancers are pure from that shit. jk, but srsly i've never done it and i have a BIG datas.
The only guy I ever cheated on was a scorpio... because I was bored with him. I wanted to breakup with him but we were in college with the same friends. That was hard to give my friends up. Eventually I ended it.
But I’ve seen a lot of cancer men cheat.
you were lucky. so the scorpio did nothing— i left one scorpio, and after 10y he is still on my back. and no, i'm not that hot. he is insane and i had a bad judgment. i think he will follow me until i die. horrible. yes, called the police....
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He did nothing.. literally. No job, always playing video games, had to beg him to do anything and then pay for it because he was broke. Funny how your scorpios stayed hooked on you Same here!! He still has pics of us up on his Facebook... I didn’t call the police like you did, but I always feared he was watching me or would harm me. He became very creepy!! I was at a bar with my new friends and left to dance for a so f. When I got back he was there sitting in my seat at a table with my friends. Ugh. And a few other things. These men sound so similar. But I must admit I’m glad I’m not the only one who experienced this.
Okay, fun is back : )
I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.
For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?
And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.
No one has time to kiss his ass. Leave him alone and focus on you and yours. Once you distance yourself, either he will come for you or he wont. Live your life. Forget the into you one minute, detached the next. Go for consistency.
Cancer man here; cheating takes too much emotional toll for me. But, just based off the was you described the situation, "there was a promise for more kinky sex," as opposed to a promise for a safe commitment. If i was him, your language alone would tell me we're on different wavelengths. You're purpose for the relationship might sound like nothing more than a fling, which i can find anywhere.
What makes anyone more special?
Okay, fun is back : )
I honestly thought the argument was a pretext. But here's what happened: We went for the weekend to our old town, I stayed with my sister, I wanted to spend the night at her place, so that we could catch up and see my niece. Since the lease wasn't up on his place yet, he spend the night there. But in the evening he came to see me at the nearby park, on his bike. I have a car. It occurred to me, since he was there, I could ask him to please take the car with him - we were leaving the next day. I honestly despise driving in the city, gives me anxiety, I only do highways. He knows this, but I said so nonetheless. He bluntly said: No. I was taken aback, it was extremely atypical of him so far. He has offered on many occasions to assist with car stuff, he loves to drive, etc. I dared to ask why. He said he didn't feel like trying to see if his bike would fit in the car. And it would, car is big enough. That situation gave me pause. Later, at my sister's place, I gave him a call and told him I was curious about what happened, that him refusing off the bat seemed unusual and that I wanted to check if everything is alright. Earlier, I had told him I was exhausted, I had spent the day with both kids and he said that he can see that. So I asked again what was the reason for not helping - he said he just didn't feel like it and asked what I was so exhausted from. I explained. He said that since the car was mine, I was supposed to go pick him up and that I could use Google Maps (which, I am very aware of) and that traffic isn't all that bad. It's a 10 minute drive, I admit. But I really get all sweaty behind the wheel in the city. And that gave me pause too. Usually, he's not condescending, he's quick to help with stuff. He has asked me many times to please let him do stuff. Usually, I am reluctant to ask for anything. I feel slightly uncomfortable. I feel like a burden sometimes. But this time, I ventured. It backfired. I had no idea why - he sounded pissed off on the phone. Explained it was my wish against his. I said that I understand where he's coming from and that I only brought it up, because I sensed something was up with him and wanted to clear the air. He wished me good night, told me he loved me and to call him later if I have trouble falling asleep. Next day I go pick him up: BOOM. Silent treatment. 2 hour drive. Almost no words exchanged. I jokingly told him it seems like he's angry with me. He didn't respond. At the apartment, more silence. So it unraveled for 7 days. I tried talking to him, he brought up the car argument again. I told him everything all over again. He said it wasn't fair that I asked him to do this in the way I did. I told him it was no issue for me, that I understood where he was coming from. He said it was just his way, building a wall, that he needed time. Time passed, I started getting annoyed. I proposed we do something fun to pick up our moon. Have a glass of wine and have sex. That's usually loads of fun for us. He said he couldn't have sex with me like that. And so we didn't find a way to bypass his mood and afterwards, mine.
For me, it was blown out of proportion. I think he read too much into it, thought I was insensitive to his wishes. And so, since I've read Cancer men are very sensitive, I came here to check. Does that sound like something Cancers can find insulting and insensitive, really? Or was it just a pretext for something else going on in his head?
And yes, he doesn't feel secure enough to talk about this with me. I've reassured him, on many occasion, that I am not a judgmental person when it comes to feelings. Feelings help up figure out our deeper needs. I don't blame people for their feelings, nor do I shy away from mine. I have a therapist which I talk to about everyday stuff, I've done this for more than a decade. It's a good mental health exercise for me.
No one has time to kiss his ass. Leave him alone and focus on you and yours. Once you distance yourself, either he will come for you or he wont. Live your life. Forget the into you one minute, detached the next. Go for consistency.
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Cancer male here. He's being a pussy. He should take the lead to quell your anxiety over city driving if he has free time.
He's giving you the silent treatment for days over a problem going on internally within him, and he's enabling the problem and allowing it to have a permanent place in his personality. It's the equivalent to traumatizing himself. Replaying it over for days and days, rather than just act logically, man up and help out.
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