rudescorpscorp01
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Cancer men...The easiest vs the most rewarding—
To answer your question yes I would choose the easier option over the stronger option. .
Why...my relationship shouldn't be a battlefield...I don't want to deal with power struggles.
No regrets.
The one I had a seriously strong connection with is a Pisces(ex)The thing that repelled me the most was his secretive behaviour and his flakiness.....I am very stable and grounded and to watch someone flip flop like a fish out of water is irritating plus he was draining me emotionally....It was extremely tiring on my part..
Why...my relationship shouldn't be a battlefield...I don't want to deal with power struggles.
No regrets.
The one I had a seriously strong connection with is a Pisces(ex)The thing that repelled me the most was his secretive behaviour and his flakiness.....I am very stable and grounded and to watch someone flip flop like a fish out of water is irritating plus he was draining me emotionally....It was extremely tiring on my part..
Drama repels any Cancer.
If you can't grow up for us then we're not going to grow with you.
I talked to a Cancer guy about this the other day coincidentally enough.
He was with the one woman for over 10+ years (I want to say 20 years) and had kids with her but he knew he never wanted to marry her. They had kids together and he told me all they did was argue and it was drama every time. I asked him was he in love or thought he was? He laughed and said no. I asked what made him stay that long then? He said because we lived together and he got used to drama. He's with this other woman that made herself available to him and he broke up with the first one and is now with the second one. (It didn't overlap though the other girl was an old friend and he grew up with her I just worded it that way to cut to the chase) He doesn't have any kids with the second one though but he wouldn't go back to the first one. He said yeah they have their disagreements but it's not nearly like it was with the first woman.
Anyone that brings us drama isn't nowhere near the category of "rewarding". Now yes, it they may have a stronger connection but that's cancels out with someone that likes to keep up BS.
Most rewarding is who makes us the happiest to be around.
If you can't grow up for us then we're not going to grow with you.
I talked to a Cancer guy about this the other day coincidentally enough.
He was with the one woman for over 10+ years (I want to say 20 years) and had kids with her but he knew he never wanted to marry her. They had kids together and he told me all they did was argue and it was drama every time. I asked him was he in love or thought he was? He laughed and said no. I asked what made him stay that long then? He said because we lived together and he got used to drama. He's with this other woman that made herself available to him and he broke up with the first one and is now with the second one. (It didn't overlap though the other girl was an old friend and he grew up with her I just worded it that way to cut to the chase) He doesn't have any kids with the second one though but he wouldn't go back to the first one. He said yeah they have their disagreements but it's not nearly like it was with the first woman.
Anyone that brings us drama isn't nowhere near the category of "rewarding". Now yes, it they may have a stronger connection but that's cancels out with someone that likes to keep up BS.
Most rewarding is who makes us the happiest to be around.
Crabs don't take the easy route or I don't I'm fussy who I make a connection it takes some observing to make sure the person I'm interested in is worth it for me.
I don't like drama a girl starts causing drama in my life I don't like that.
I don't like drama a girl starts causing drama in my life I don't like that.
Posted by crabRiot
To answer your question yes I would choose the easier option over the stronger option. .
Why...my relationship shouldn't be a battlefield...I don't want to deal with power struggles.
No regrets.
The one I had a seriously strong connection with is a Pisces(ex)The thing that repelled me the most was his secretive behaviour and his flakiness.....I am very stable and grounded and to watch someone flip flop like a fish out of water is irritating plus he was draining me emotionally....It was extremely tiring on my part..
Interesting....I'm baffled how a few of you equate my words "stronger option" with drama, as if I meant someone with a backbone & not afraid to refute. I meant in terms of connection.
Like good friend (easy breezy 8/10 connection) vs soul mate (strong 10/10 connection). Is that how u interpreted my question?
Do u prefer earth signs over your water family?
It sounds like w/ that Pisces man u had to do most of the leg work & u were more into him than he into u? Not a power struggle or he was "drama" ,crazy, or argumentative persay....Is it possible u prefer the easier connection b/c in case of rejection/flaky behavior the hurt of that relationship going down the drain is an easier pill to swallow?
Posted by Pearls
Drama repels any Cancer.
If you can't grow up for us then we're not going to grow with you.
I talked to a Cancer guy about this the other day coincidentally enough.
He was with the one woman for over 10+ years (I want to say 20 years) and had kids with her but he knew he never wanted to marry her. They had kids together and he told me all they did was argue and it was drama every time. I asked him was he in love or thought he was? He laughed and said no. I asked what made him stay that long then? He said because we lived together and he got used to drama. He's with this other woman that made herself available to him and he broke up with the first one and is now with the second one. (It didn't overlap though the other girl was an old friend and he grew up with her I just worded it that way to cut to the chase) He doesn't have any kids with the second one though but he wouldn't go back to the first one. He said yeah they have their disagreements but it's not nearly like it was with the first woman.
Anyone that brings us drama isn't nowhere near the category of "rewarding". Now yes, it they may have a stronger connection but that's cancels out with someone that likes to keep up BS.
Most rewarding is who makes us the happiest to be around.
Thank u for your reply & anecdote! It's greatly appreciated...
Why did u interpret "stronger option" from my post as drama & why do u in life? The word wasn't mentioned in my original post nor do I feel I alluded to that.
This anecdote relates to how I'm feeling in my situation....Cancer man staying with his partner out of convenience & complacence not b/c of love *fingers crossed waits patiently* lol.....but thats suchhhhhhhhh a long time 10 years?! All this I read about Cancers wanting to have the fairly tale love stories but yet they sit around wasting years doing charity for these people & just settling. So contradictory sooooo confusing so frustrating!
Posted by Pearls
Drama repels any Cancer.
If you can't grow up for us then we're not going to grow with you.
I talked to a Cancer guy about this the other day coincidentally enough.
He was with the one woman for over 10+ years (I want to say 20 years) and had kids with her but he knew he never wanted to marry her. They had kids together and he told me all they did was argue and it was drama every time. I asked him was he in love or thought he was? He laughed and said no. I asked what made him stay that long then? He said because we lived together and he got used to drama. He's with this other woman that made herself available to him and he broke up with the first one and is now with the second one. (It didn't overlap though the other girl was an old friend and he grew up with her I just worded it that way to cut to the chase) He doesn't have any kids with the second one though but he wouldn't go back to the first one. He said yeah they have their disagreements but it's not nearly like it was with the first woman.
Anyone that brings us drama isn't nowhere near the category of "rewarding". Now yes, it they may have a stronger connection but that's cancels out with someone that likes to keep up BS.
Most rewarding is who makes us the happiest to be around.
And why go so far to have babies with someone you don't love? How old is he and the mother of his children if you don't mind me asking....sometimes I feel like Cancer men are so thirsty for the "dream" or caught up in infatuation before really KNOWING the person they don't care who it is, as long as it's a tool that pays them tons of attention they'll knock up/shelter whoever as a means to achieve that dream... love connection happiness or not....
Posted by Stihl46
Crabs don't take the easy route or I don't I'm fussy who I make a connection it takes some observing to make sure the person I'm interested in is worth it for me.
I don't like drama a girl starts causing drama in my life I don't like that.
So soul-mate to you is synonymous with drama?
Posted by Pearls
Drama repels any Cancer.
If you can't grow up for us then we're not going to grow with you.
This statement annoys me. 1) Because it's condescending and 2) It's more often than not projection & deflection when coming from a Cancer man
If being on the same page 99.9999% of the time w/ your partner & them not having a backbone is of up most importance to u then that's fine, but you don't have to turn up your nose while expressing your needs. Especially considering being a "grown up" is knowing how to take constructive criticism, and 9/10 when a Cancer man hears something about himself he doesn't like he either gets loud, violent, throws temper tantrums, hides or all of the above....in a nutshell behaves like a 3 yr old...
Cancers like to put themselves on a pedestal as if your maturity is the creme of the crop & what every other sign should aspire to, when in actuality mentally, emotionally....you're very far from it....
It seems to me the stronger connection gets cancelled when one dares to talk back to your royal highness...
Posted by Pearls
Drama repels any Cancer.
If you can't grow up for us then we're not going to grow with you.
This statement annoys me. 1) Because it's condescending and 2) It's more often than not projection & deflection when coming from a Cancer man
If being on the same page 99.9999% of the time w/ your partner & them not having a backbone is of up most importance to u then that's fine, but you don't have to turn up your nose while expressing your needs. Especially considering being a "grown up" is knowing how to take constructive criticism, and 9/10 when a Cancer man hears something about himself he doesn't like he either gets loud, violent, throws temper tantrums, hides or all of the above....in a nutshell behaves like a 3 yr old...
Cancers like to put themselves on a pedestal as if your maturity is the creme of the crop & what every other sign should aspire to, when in actuality mentally, emotionally....you're very far from it....
It seems to me the stronger connection gets cancelled when one dares to talk back to your royal highness...
Posted by Stihl46
Crabs don't take the easy route or I don't I'm fussy who I make a connection it takes some observing to make sure the person I'm interested in is worth it for me.
I don't like drama a girl starts causing drama in my life I don't like that.
What is drama to you?
Posted by rudescorpscorp01Posted by Stihl46
Crabs don't take the easy route or I don't I'm fussy who I make a connection it takes some observing to make sure the person I'm interested in is worth it for me.
I don't like drama a girl starts causing drama in my life I don't like that.
What is drama to you?click to expand
Drama is picking fights when things are going too smoothly a girl has to start something to fight about I hate that it comes out of no where.
Posted by Stihl46Posted by rudescorpscorp01Posted by Stihl46
Crabs don't take the easy route or I don't I'm fussy who I make a connection it takes some observing to make sure the person I'm interested in is worth it for me.
I don't like drama a girl starts causing drama in my life I don't like that.
What is drama to you?
Drama is picking fights when things are going too smoothly a girl has to start something to fight about I hate that it comes out of no where.click to expand
what is she saying to u when starting these fights?
Posted by rudescorpscorp01Posted by crabRiot
To answer your question yes I would choose the easier option over the stronger option. .
Why...my relationship shouldn't be a battlefield...I don't want to deal with power struggles.
No regrets.
The one I had a seriously strong connection with is a Pisces(ex)The thing that repelled me the most was his secretive behaviour and his flakiness.....I am very stable and grounded and to watch someone flip flop like a fish out of water is irritating plus he was draining me emotionally....It was extremely tiring on my part..
Interesting....I'm baffled how a few of you equate my words "stronger option" with drama, as if I meant someone with a backbone & not afraid to refute. I meant in terms of connection.
Like good friend (easy breezy 8/10 connection) vs soul mate (strong 10/10 connection). Is that how u interpreted my question?
Do u prefer earth signs over your water family?
It sounds like w/ that Pisces man u had to do most of the leg work & u were more into him than he into u? Not a power struggle or he was "drama" ,crazy, or argumentative persay....Is it possible u prefer the easier connection b/c in case of rejection/flaky behavior the hurt of that relationship going down the drain is an easier pill to swallow?click to expand
I do like it when my lover is also my friend. It pleases my heart I guess because I will not only see you as my man, I will also see you as my buddy and that somehow calms me..Plus when I see you as my friend, I want to drag you in having all sorts of fun with me because I'm somewhat of a daredevil....If the relationship goes sour, I wouldn't even know what to do to be honest.
I do prefer being with a water sign man over earth especially a Scorp.
With the Pisces he was a total sweetheart in the beginning...I was very closed off when I met him...I became very happy again with him...even he noticed it, then his ex came back into town...he disappeared on me for a good 2 weeks...he came back after and I think that's when hatred on my part started to kick in and that's where it all went downhill...I broke things off...then we did this whole on and off dance some months after but I couldn't get over what he did so it stayed off......we have somewhat of an ackward friendship now but I think he secretly
My message got cut off...I was saying I think he secretly hates me because I wasn't able to forgive him and move past it....I still can't...
Posted by crabRiotPosted by rudescorpscorp01Posted by crabRiot
To answer your question yes I would choose the easier option over the stronger option. .
Why...my relationship shouldn't be a battlefield...I don't want to deal with power struggles.
No regrets.
The one I had a seriously strong connection with is a Pisces(ex)The thing that repelled me the most was his secretive behaviour and his flakiness.....I am very stable and grounded and to watch someone flip flop like a fish out of water is irritating plus he was draining me emotionally....It was extremely tiring on my part..
Interesting....I'm baffled how a few of you equate my words "stronger option" with drama, as if I meant someone with a backbone & not afraid to refute. I meant in terms of connection.
Like good friend (easy breezy 8/10 connection) vs soul mate (strong 10/10 connection). Is that how u interpreted my question?
Do u prefer earth signs over your water family?
It sounds like w/ that Pisces man u had to do most of the leg work & u were more into him than he into u? Not a power struggle or he was "drama" ,crazy, or argumentative persay....Is it possible u prefer the easier connection b/c in case of rejection/flaky behavior the hurt of that relationship going down the drain is an easier pill to swallow?click to expand
I do like it when my lover is also my friend. It pleases my heart I guess because I will not only see you as my man, I will also see you as my buddy and that somehow calms me..Plus when I see you as my friend, I want to drag you in having all sorts of fun with me because I'm somewhat of a daredevil....If the relationship goes sour, I wouldn't even know what to do to be honest.
I do prefer being with a water sign man over earth especially a Scorp.
With the Pisces he was a total sweetheart in the beginning...I was very closed off when I met him...I became very happy again with him...even he noticed it, then his ex came back into town...he disappeared on me for a good 2 weeks...he came back after and I think that's when hatred on my part started to kick in and that's where it all went downhill...I broke things off...then we did this whole on and off dance some months after but I couldn't get over what h
Posted by crabRiotPosted by rudescorpscorp01Posted by crabRiot
To answer your question yes I would choose the easier option over the stronger option. .
Why...my relationship shouldn't be a battlefield...I don't want to deal with power struggles.
No regrets.
The one I had a seriously strong connection with is a Pisces(ex)The thing that repelled me the most was his secretive behaviour and his flakiness.....I am very stable and grounded and to watch someone flip flop like a fish out of water is irritating plus he was draining me emotionally....It was extremely tiring on my part..
Interesting....I'm baffled how a few of you equate my words "stronger option" with drama, as if I meant someone with a backbone & not afraid to refute. I meant in terms of connection.
Like good friend (easy breezy 8/10 connection) vs soul mate (strong 10/10 connection). Is that how u interpreted my question?
Do u prefer earth signs over your water family?
It sounds like w/ that Pisces man u had to do most of the leg work & u were more into him than he into u? Not a power struggle or he was "drama" ,crazy, or argumentative persay....Is it possible u prefer the easier connection b/c in case of rejection/flaky behavior the hurt of that relationship going down the drain is an easier pill to swallow?click to expand
I do like it when my lover is also my friend. It pleases my heart I guess because I will not only see you as my man, I will also see you as my buddy and that somehow calms me..Plus when I see you as my friend, I want to drag you in having all sorts of fun with me because I'm somewhat of a daredevil....If the relationship goes sour, I wouldn't even know what to do to be honest.
I do prefer being with a water sign man over earth especially a Scorp.
With the Pisces he was a total sweetheart in the beginning...I was very closed off when I met him...I became very happy again with him...even he noticed it, then his ex came back into town...he disappeared on me for a good 2 weeks...he came back after and I think that's when hatred on my part started to kick in and that's where it all went downhill...I broke things off...then we did this whole on and off dance some months after but I couldn't get over what h
No I'm definitely marrying a water sign....just staying away from the ones that is too much trouble to waste my precious time*not worth the pain*
@Rudescorpscorp01
Q: What was the thing that repelled u from the one with whom u had the stronger connection?
A: Drama
That one thing applies to all because I don't know your specific situation. You asked a vague question, although it's clearly about who the Cancer would pick between you and another woman, and that's the one thing that repels us if the connection is oh so strong.
So this isn't about a single Cancer man going back and forth between who he wants to be committed to but really asking if he's going to leave another woman for you?
Why are you even worried about getting him when you don't even sound too happy writing about him.
Frustrated or not you're being disrespectful when he doesn't even owe you anything.
(*might be a double post)
Q: What was the thing that repelled u from the one with whom u had the stronger connection?
A: Drama
That one thing applies to all because I don't know your specific situation. You asked a vague question, although it's clearly about who the Cancer would pick between you and another woman, and that's the one thing that repels us if the connection is oh so strong.
So this isn't about a single Cancer man going back and forth between who he wants to be committed to but really asking if he's going to leave another woman for you?
Why are you even worried about getting him when you don't even sound too happy writing about him.
Frustrated or not you're being disrespectful when he doesn't even owe you anything.
(*might be a double post)
@pearls
Q:Why are you even worried about getting him when you don't even sound too happy writing about him.
A:I don't sound too enthusiastic writing about him b/c I'm not worried about getting him. "Let go & let god".When the timing is right what is meant to be will be. Not concerned w/ a relationship w/ him or anybody now. I do love him so so dearly though...
Q:So this isn't about a single Cancer man going back and forth between who he wants to be committed to but really asking if he's going to leave another woman for you?
A: No...it's just as what your anecdote describes. Him coming to me about how unhappy he is about this & that & me questioning why even be in a "relationship" then if there is no real benefit other than someone keeping his bed warm? (Taurus girl)...
We've been friends before this relationship, fell out prior to it & now he's coming back...It's not about him leaving another woman "for me" but understanding how he could have such crazy feelings for me (he verbally admitted this to me) but sit up and do charity in a "relationship" with some girl that doesn't even compare to me....
Q:Why are you even worried about getting him when you don't even sound too happy writing about him.
A:I don't sound too enthusiastic writing about him b/c I'm not worried about getting him. "Let go & let god".When the timing is right what is meant to be will be. Not concerned w/ a relationship w/ him or anybody now. I do love him so so dearly though...
Q:So this isn't about a single Cancer man going back and forth between who he wants to be committed to but really asking if he's going to leave another woman for you?
A: No...it's just as what your anecdote describes. Him coming to me about how unhappy he is about this & that & me questioning why even be in a "relationship" then if there is no real benefit other than someone keeping his bed warm? (Taurus girl)...
We've been friends before this relationship, fell out prior to it & now he's coming back...It's not about him leaving another woman "for me" but understanding how he could have such crazy feelings for me (he verbally admitted this to me) but sit up and do charity in a "relationship" with some girl that doesn't even compare to me....
@Rudescorpscorp01
Well since you're not concerned I won't get into the details.
Anyways, I asked the guy was he "in love" with the previous woman he said no but he still loved her. Being "in love" makes us marry someone but just "loving" them is what makes us stay, to clarify. Staying for us isn't what's easy.
Well since you're not concerned I won't get into the details.
Anyways, I asked the guy was he "in love" with the previous woman he said no but he still loved her. Being "in love" makes us marry someone but just "loving" them is what makes us stay, to clarify. Staying for us isn't what's easy.
Posted by Pearls
@Rudescorpscorp01
Well since you're not concerned I won't get into the details.
Anyways, I asked the guy was he "in love" with the previous woman he said no but he still loved her. Being "in love" makes us marry someone but just "loving" them is what makes us stay, to clarify. Staying for us isn't what's easy.
So what was the straw that broke the Cancer's shell to end that 10 yr relationship? And how'd he do it?
I'm no tryyyying to steal him, but if you have tips & pointers on how to make him sway my way I'm not mad at that though lol
@pearls
and what were the signs of the two women?
DO u have a preference between TAURUS/Aries cusper & SCORPIO/Sag cusper?
and what were the signs of the two women?
DO u have a preference between TAURUS/Aries cusper & SCORPIO/Sag cusper?
We just get tired of it one and say we're done to them. It's not a big event.
I didn't ask for the first woman's info but the woman he's with now is an Aqua.
No, I don't care for either of those two.
I didn't ask for the first woman's info but the woman he's with now is an Aqua.
No, I don't care for either of those two.
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