Cancers and really terrible decisions

Posted by Black-Mamba

I really want to hump this cap. Bad decision. Most likely

Posted by Effortless

You miss the point.

She threw her life away on an accidental pregnancy, and the guy is a total loser. I have absolutely no respect for these guys out there who get a chick pregnant, and don't marry her or at least get engaged. I mean, come on. It's a total lack of respect for these incredible life decisions at hand, and I cannot identify with any of this behavior.

These examples are of life-altering decisions for the worst. The fact that you don't get that is alarming.

Posted by Yodi

Posted by Effortless

You miss the point.

She threw her life away on an accidental pregnancy, and the guy is a total loser. I have absolutely no respect for these guys out there who get a chick pregnant, and don't marry her or at least get engaged. I mean, come on. It's a total lack of respect for these incredible life decisions at hand, and I cannot identify with any of this behavior.

These examples are of life-altering decisions for the worst. The fact that you don't get that is alarming.

How is having a child throwing your life away? He's still with her right? So in what way is he a loser (in your eyes) besides the fact of not marrying her?

Have you ever considered that maybe two college kids with a newborn would like to get married but doesn't have the money to right now or maybe they don't believe in marriage?.. does that make everyone who is living with their SO and popping out babies out of wedlock a loser?

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Posted by Effortless

You miss the point.

She threw her life away on an accidental pregnancy, and the guy is a total loser. I have absolutely no respect for these guys out there who get a chick pregnant, and don't marry her or at least get engaged. I mean, come on. It's a total lack of respect for these incredible life decisions at hand, and I cannot identify with any of this behavior.

These examples are of life-altering decisions for the worst. The fact that you don't get that is alarming.

How is having a child throwing your life away? He's still with her right? So in what way is he a loser (in your eyes) besides the fact of not marrying her?

Have you ever considered that maybe two college kids with a newborn would like to get married but doesn't have the money to right now or maybe they don't believe in marriage?.. does that make everyone who is living with their SO and popping out babies out of wedlock a loser?

Nah, I just don't understand all this baby-mama shit.

There was a time when people respected certain moments in life. Powerful decisions and long-standing ramifications were often connected, and men (real men) understood that their decisions and responses had to have some level of responsibility with them. In the past, people were totally ashamed to have a kid out of wedlock.

These days, it's the standard to be a baby-momma with no husband or marriage.

Like I said, I don't relate to any of this behavior.

Because you refuse to have sex with women, so there’s never any risk of you impregnating anyone?

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Posted by Effortless

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Posted by Effortless

You miss the point.

She threw her life away on an accidental pregnancy, and the guy is a total loser. I have absolutely no respect for these guys out there who get a chick pregnant, and don't marry her or at least get engaged. I mean, come on. It's a total lack of respect for these incredible life decisions at hand, and I cannot identify with any of this behavior.

These examples are of life-altering decisions for the worst. The fact that you don't get that is alarming.

How is having a child throwing your life away? He's still with her right? So in what way is he a loser (in your eyes) besides the fact of not marrying her?

Have you ever considered that maybe two college kids with a newborn would like to get married but doesn't have the money to right now or maybe they don't believe in marriage?.. does that make everyone who is living with their SO and popping out babies out of wedlock a loser?

Nah, I just don't understand all this baby-mama shit.

There was a time when people respected certain moments in life. Powerful decisions and long-standing ramifications were often connected, and men (real men) understood that their decisions and responses had to have some level of responsibility with them. In the past, people were totally ashamed to have a kid out of wedlock.

These days, it's the standard to be a baby-momma with no husband or marriage.

Like I said, I don't relate to any of this behavior.

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Posted by Effortless

And before people demonize me for having some self-respect and standards in life, you need to ask yourself this question:

If you and your boyfriend conceived a child together, would you prefer to be unmarried when the kid is born?

Do you not understand that kids born out of wedlock tend to have more psychological problems than kids born into a healthy marriage? There is tons of research out there showing how kids born out of wedlock end up with all kinds of problems during their development as compared to kids who grow up with two parents who are married.

I don't condone this shit because it's only creating large numbers of children with emotional and mental problems.

Posted by SpaceBird

Posted by Effortless

First of all, Cancers, please don't get pissed off at me for making this board. I am not here to make some drama and piss you off. I am here to talk about some of the absolute worst decisions a Cancer has made, and how they basically clung to the awful decisions. I am not kidding around. I have seen some Cancers make some life-altering decisions that ended up causing all kinds of bad energy and ripple effects for many people in the process. From bad marriage decisions to bad decisions about having a kid with a total loser, I need to know what motivates a Cancer to refrain from making great choices, and instead plunge head-first into the worst possible decision ever. What's up, please share your thoughts without getting mad.

Not pissed off at you at all 🙂 We tend to have low self esteem and not value ourselves so our bad decisions are basing our opinions of ourselves on what others have told us. Like your classmates telling you go kill yourself so you do. Or you are worthless etc so you date people who abuse you because you feel you are worthless.

It's not the cancer's fault. It's the world and individuals that told them this.

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Posted by Effortless

First of all, Cancers, please don't get pissed off at me for making this board. I am not here to make some drama and piss you off. I am here to talk about some of the absolute worst decisions a Cancer has made, and how they basically clung to the awful decisions. I am not kidding around. I have seen some Cancers make some life-altering decisions that ended up causing all kinds of bad energy and ripple effects for many people in the process. From bad marriage decisions to bad decisions about having a kid with a total loser, I need to know what motivates a Cancer to refrain from making great choices, and instead plunge head-first into the worst possible decision ever. What's up, please share your thoughts without getting mad.

Not pissed off at you at all 🙂 We tend to have low self esteem and not value ourselves so our bad decisions are basing our opinions of ourselves on what others have told us. Like your classmates telling you go kill yourself so you do. Or you are worthless etc so you date people who abuse you because you feel you are worthless.

It's not the cancer's fault. It's the world and individuals that told them this.

You know I love you gurl but I disagree.. cancer's ..well me.. I don't have low self esteem

I am really glad you have good self esteem 🙂 I wouldn't have it any other way 🙂

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Posted by SpaceBird

Posted by Effortless

First of all, Cancers, please don't get pissed off at me for making this board. I am not here to make some drama and piss you off. I am here to talk about some of the absolute worst decisions a Cancer has made, and how they basically clung to the awful decisions. I am not kidding around. I have seen some Cancers make some life-altering decisions that ended up causing all kinds of bad energy and ripple effects for many people in the process. From bad marriage decisions to bad decisions about having a kid with a total loser, I need to know what motivates a Cancer to refrain from making great choices, and instead plunge head-first into the worst possible decision ever. What's up, please share your thoughts without getting mad.

Not pissed off at you at all 🙂 We tend to have low self esteem and not value ourselves so our bad decisions are basing our opinions of ourselves on what others have told us. Like your classmates telling you go kill yourself so you do. Or you are worthless etc so you date people who abuse you because you feel you are worthless.

It's not the cancer's fault. It's the world and individuals that told them this.

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Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Effortless

And before people demonize me for having some self-respect and standards in life, you need to ask yourself this question:

If you and your boyfriend conceived a child together, would you prefer to be unmarried when the kid is born?

Do you not understand that kids born out of wedlock tend to have more psychological problems than kids born into a healthy marriage? There is tons of research out there showing how kids born out of wedlock end up with all kinds of problems during their development as compared to kids who grow up with two parents who are married.

I don't condone this shit because it's only creating large numbers of children with emotional and mental problems.

Where are the peer reviewed journals you’re talking about?

Marriage doesn’t equal a healthy relationship.

Married people still cheat, yell and beat each other or their kids.

You seem very sheltered.

And scared.

You call it self restraint, looks more like terrified of anything that your parents didn’t expose you to.

You’re sheltered.

Aren’t you the kid that judged another chick for going traveling?



You seem jealous. You’re paying so much attention of what other people do than evolving yourself.

Cancer women tend to have children out of marriage alot

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Posted by Yodi

I just want to know what does any of this have to do with cancers 😂

I enjoy threads like this, i love to see how others think of crabs

i mean this guy thinks we care, but it's kind of fun to entertain him

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Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Posted by Effortless

Posted by SpaceBird

Posted by Effortless

First of all, Cancers, please don't get pissed off at me for making this board. I am not here to make some drama and piss you off. I am here to talk about some of the absolute worst decisions a Cancer has made, and how they basically clung to the awful decisions. I am not kidding around. I have seen some Cancers make some life-altering decisions that ended up causing all kinds of bad energy and ripple effects for many people in the process. From bad marriage decisions to bad decisions about having a kid with a total loser, I need to know what motivates a Cancer to refrain from making great choices, and instead plunge head-first into the worst possible decision ever. What's up, please share your thoughts without getting mad.

Not pissed off at you at all 🙂 We tend to have low self esteem and not value ourselves so our bad decisions are basing our opinions of ourselves on what others have told us. Like your classmates telling you go kill yourself so you do. Or you are worthless etc so you date people who abuse you because you feel you are worthless.

It's not the cancer's fault. It's the world and individuals that told them this.

I really do believe it's a self-esteem issue for some Cancers.

I believe it was CluelessCancer who noted that some Cancers are cowards who refuse to go after what is healthy, and the refusal to go after it is due largely to insecurity and a refusal to take any kind of risk (even if it could lead to rewards).

Some Cancers also have a bold approach to life, and do have healthy levels of self-respect. These are not the types who become baby mommas, but instead would prefer a more traditional approach to courtship, marriage, and THEN children.

Yes, I believe that it has to be a self-esteem concern. If the chick has healthy self-esteem, then she is less likely to find herself causing drama and leaping into awful decisions head-first.

A Cancer with healthy self-esteem would abhor such behavior.

I kind of have low self esteem but I think I deserve the best of what is best FOR me..

I don't do FWB bullshit. I respect others who do it though. I never judge others.

So maybe I'm sex starved lol but if you don't want to have a LTR with me then you don't deserve my body or my love.

It's possible I end up alone but I don't want to settle and make someone else miserable.

I just told this guy who was pursuing me that I couldnt see myself with him.

Yes the attention feels good but that's wrong to lead people on.

I don't like drama.

I think cancers are actually picky.

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Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Effortless

And before people demonize me for having some self-respect and standards in life, you need to ask yourself this question:

If you and your boyfriend conceived a child together, would you prefer to be unmarried when the kid is born?

Do you not understand that kids born out of wedlock tend to have more psychological problems than kids born into a healthy marriage? There is tons of research out there showing how kids born out of wedlock end up with all kinds of problems during their development as compared to kids who grow up with two parents who are married.

I don't condone this shit because it's only creating large numbers of children with emotional and mental problems.

Where are the peer reviewed journals you’re talking about?

Marriage doesn’t equal a healthy relationship.

Married people still cheat, yell and beat each other or their kids.

You seem very sheltered.

And scared.

You call it self restraint, looks more like terrified of anything that your parents didn’t expose you to.

You’re sheltered.

Aren’t you the kid that judged another chick for going traveling?



You seem jealous. You’re paying so much attention of what other people do than evolving yourself.

Cancer women tend to have children outside of marriage alot

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Posted by Yodi

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Yodi

I just want to know what does any of this have to do with cancers 😂

I enjoy threads like this, i love to see how others think of crabs

i mean this guy thinks we care, but it's kind of fun to entertain him

Lol I usually ignore cancer and aries moon hate threads but after reading his explanation it was so obvious that he's mad at his mommy or that one chick that tried to fux his friend it's ridiculous.. I want to help him see the light 😅😂

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Posted by Effortless

Posted by Yodi

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Yodi

I just want to know what does any of this have to do with cancers 😂

I enjoy threads like this, i love to see how others think of crabs

i mean this guy thinks we care, but it's kind of fun to entertain him

Lol I usually ignore cancer and aries moon hate threads but after reading his explanation it was so obvious that he's mad at his mommy or that one chick that tried to fux his friend it's ridiculous.. I want to help him see the light 😅😂

First of all, there is no need to be a jerk to me about some of the absurd things I have observed. Just because you are insecure about the experiences I have witnessed does not give you the right to make fun of me over it.

Second of all, this is not a "hate" thread. I observed some really bad decisions, and asked other Cancers to provide feedback to explain the behavior. My answer came when another Cancer approached the question with a detailed response and decent explanation.

The wacko cancer is with a guy who is a divorced old fart who makes half what I do (in terms of annual salary), plus he has substantial debts to pay each month (alimony and child support). Given the fact that I make fantastic money and don't owe anyone anything, I don't understand why there is an inclination toward a total loser over someone who has his life together. However, it's really just a self-esteem issue, as was explained earlier.

It seems that a Cancer who has a healthy self-esteem would never mess with a loser, and would prefer to find someone who commands both respect and success in career. A Cancer with bad self-esteem would simply cling to someone they can control, and end up miserable in the process since controlling situations hardly make for good relationships (say nothing of the bad finances involved).

As far as my mother is concerned, it was a mistake to expect someone like you to understand that poisonous family members tend to harm everyone around them. Thanks for showing your cards on that one, asshole.

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Posted by Effortless

And before people demonize me for having some self-respect and standards in life, you need to ask yourself this question:

If you and your boyfriend conceived a child together, would you prefer to be unmarried when the kid is born?

Do you not understand that kids born out of wedlock tend to have more psychological problems than kids born into a healthy marriage? There is tons of research out there showing how kids born out of wedlock end up with all kinds of problems during their development as compared to kids who grow up with two parents who are married.

I don't condone this shit because it's only creating large numbers of children with emotional and mental problems.

Posted by Effortless

You miss the point.

She threw her life away on an accidental pregnancy, and the guy is a total loser. I have absolutely no respect for these guys out there who get a chick pregnant, and don't marry her or at least get engaged. I mean, come on. It's a total lack of respect for these incredible life decisions at hand, and I cannot identify with any of this behavior.

These examples are of life-altering decisions for the worst. The fact that you don't get that is alarming.

Posted by Arielle83

I think she made the right decision.

You have some scary shit going on.

You sound like a domestic violence case ready to happen if you don’t get your way.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Effortless

And before people demonize me for having some self-respect and standards in life, you need to ask yourself this question:

If you and your boyfriend conceived a child together, would you prefer to be unmarried when the kid is born?

Do you not understand that kids born out of wedlock tend to have more psychological problems than kids born into a healthy marriage? There is tons of research out there showing how kids born out of wedlock end up with all kinds of problems during their development as compared to kids who grow up with two parents who are married.

I don't condone this shit because it's only creating large numbers of children with emotional and mental problems.

Divorce rate is more than 50% now. Where does this leave us? Do the math.

Better that the kid has issues and fits in with the rest of his peers. Than have the Brady bunch life and be an outcast. Lol

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Posted by Arielle83

I think she made the right decision.

You have some scary shit going on.

You sound like a domestic violence case ready to happen if you don’t get your way.

Posted by Effortless

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Effortless

And before people demonize me for having some self-respect and standards in life, you need to ask yourself this question:

If you and your boyfriend conceived a child together, would you prefer to be unmarried when the kid is born?

Do you not understand that kids born out of wedlock tend to have more psychological problems than kids born into a healthy marriage? There is tons of research out there showing how kids born out of wedlock end up with all kinds of problems during their development as compared to kids who grow up with two parents who are married.

I don't condone this shit because it's only creating large numbers of children with emotional and mental problems.

Divorce rate is more than 50% now. Where does this leave us? Do the math.

Better that the kid has issues and fits in with the rest of his peers. Than have the Brady bunch life and be an outcast. Lol

It's a well-documented fact that out-of-wedlock children and children who are otherwise from broken homes tend to lean very heavily toward learning disorders in school and serious mood/conduct disorders with their interactions toward others.

The fact that you are suggesting that this is the "norm" these days is precisely why we have a generation of messed up kids.

The fact that people are blatantly irresponsible is what contributes to the systematic destruction of society.

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Posted by Effortless

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Effortless

And before people demonize me for having some self-respect and standards in life, you need to ask yourself this question:

If you and your boyfriend conceived a child together, would you prefer to be unmarried when the kid is born?

Do you not understand that kids born out of wedlock tend to have more psychological problems than kids born into a healthy marriage? There is tons of research out there showing how kids born out of wedlock end up with all kinds of problems during their development as compared to kids who grow up with two parents who are married.

I don't condone this shit because it's only creating large numbers of children with emotional and mental problems.

Divorce rate is more than 50% now. Where does this leave us? Do the math.

Better that the kid has issues and fits in with the rest of his peers. Than have the Brady bunch life and be an outcast. Lol

It's a well-documented fact that out-of-wedlock children and children who are otherwise from broken homes tend to lean very heavily toward learning disorders in school and serious mood/conduct disorders with their interactions toward others.

The fact that you are suggesting that this is the "norm" these days is precisely why we have a generation of messed up kids.

The fact that people are blatantly irresponsible is what contributes to the systematic destruction of society.

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Posted by Effortless

Posted by Yodi

Posted by Black-Mamba

Posted by Yodi

I just want to know what does any of this have to do with cancers 😂

I enjoy threads like this, i love to see how others think of crabs

i mean this guy thinks we care, but it's kind of fun to entertain him

Lol I usually ignore cancer and aries moon hate threads but after reading his explanation it was so obvious that he's mad at his mommy or that one chick that tried to fux his friend it's ridiculous.. I want to help him see the light 😅😂

First of all, there is no need to be a jerk to me about some of the absurd things I have observed. Just because you are insecure about the experiences I have witnessed does not give you the right to make fun of me over it.

Second of all, this is not a "hate" thread. I observed some really bad decisions, and asked other Cancers to provide feedback to explain the behavior. My answer came when another Cancer approached the question with a detailed response and decent explanation.

The wacko cancer is with a guy who is a divorced old fart who makes half what I do (in terms of annual salary), plus he has substantial debts to pay each month (alimony and child support). Given the fact that I make fantastic money and don't owe anyone anything, I don't understand why there is an inclination toward a total loser over someone who has his life together<_b>. However, it's really just a self-esteem issue, as was explained earlier.

It seems that a Cancer who has a healthy self-esteem would never mess with a loser, and would prefer to find someone who commands both respect and success in career. A Cancer with bad self-esteem would simply cling to someone they can control, and end up miserable in the process since controlling situations hardly make for good relationships (say nothing of the bad finances involved).

As far as my mother is concerned, it was a mistake to expect someone like you to understand that poisonous family members tend to harm everyone around them. Thanks for showing your cards on that one, asshole.

The bold part. Only replying to the bold part. My Aries sister is just like that too. She goes totally after losers. I would have never thought cancers would go after losers like that.

I know you want answers from cancers but I was kind of led on from a previous thread to check this one out and so far it's not disappointing. I'm still reading haven't finish yet.

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Posted by Arielle83

I heard you used to stalk your cancer ex after she dumped you.

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Posted by Effortless

Posted by Arielle83

I heard you used to stalk your cancer ex after she dumped you.

Hence your thread.





Where’s moonartist at to help verify?

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